My husband and I went out on a 'date' for lunch today because he has the day off and DD has preschool. I ate all the fried things and I don't feel guilty.
MC Sept 2010 BFP Oct 2011 - DD born July 2012 TTC again since July 2014 First IUI 9/26/16: BFP! EDD 6/19/2017 It's a girl!
Born 6/26/17, 9lb 5oz
DS is currently loosing his mind in his crib right now. He's never difficult to put to sleep...ever. He sounds possessed and I'm loosing my mind because of it too.
F-you 12 day vacation away from home and routine. Uggggggghhhhh.
@FSUNole31 I have a Prius too and used the Chicco Keyfit 30 for DD1. BRU let us try lots of models to see if they would fit well. I remember the Britax being too big.
@ashaw512 my middle row is 2 captains seats, so there is an easy walk through to get to the 3rd row. We don't have to fold down/slide the middle row or anything. My brother used to have a different style SUV (I forget which make and model), and used to have my nephew climb in and out of the car through the rear tailgate, which is less than ideal.
I will be sending DH to Target tomorrow. There is one somewhat near us that says they have *1 in stock. I'm assuming it is that "legend" color, which looks wonderfully neutral. $99 is a great steal!
Edit: I just called the closest Target listed as having one in stock on that website, and made someone hunt down the last one they had. It's now on hold for DH to pick up tomorrow morning. In case people can't get there quickly or their local Target has very low stock. They will hold for 24 hours for you, and then it's up at customer service and you don't have to hunt it down in the store yourself. Score all around!
@GlitterFish Thanks for the tag! I looked up my area and there is one Target about 30 minutes away with 1 in stock. I think I'm going to do what @awillis13 did and call tomorrow and have them hold it for us. Unfortunately I was hoping to have someone in my family buy us the car seat but that probably wouldn't be until closer to my baby shower in March. Oh well, I think this is a good enough deal that I am okay buying it myself and my family can get us other stuff!!
***BFP & Child Warning***
Me: 34, DH: 38 ~ TTC since 2014 IUI #1-3 (Nov 2015, Feb 2016, May 2016) = BFNs IVF ER (July 2016) = 7 PGS normal embryos FET #1 (Sept 2016) = BFP! DD born 5/30/17 FET #2 (April 2019) = BFN FET #3 (July 2019) = BFP! DS born 3/27/20
i checked out that deal as well...someone in that july thread did say it could be that they are about to expire so def check the dates before buying....unfortunately i would have to drive too far to make it worth the trip
I'm bleeding again... Boo. Same as last time. A big gush then just light spotting. I did clean/organize most of the day so I'm assuming that's why. (I have a possible sch). They couldn't get me in for an ultrasound until the 13th. Blah.
Mom to Madison- 5 and Lillian 2....and now surprise baby #3!
I am telling my team tomorrow (right now only my manager knows), and we've been off the last two weeks. Wish me luck! - Not that they haven't already noticed me putting on the pounds, ha!
@Elyse1384 I haven't watched tonight's episode yet. I'm sure I'll end up watching. It's like a train wreck that you can't help but watch. Jenelle makes me so mad. I can barely tolerate it anymore.
@Elyse1384 I haven't watched tonight's episode yet. I'm sure I'll end up watching. It's like a train wreck that you can't help but watch. Jenelle makes me so mad. I can barely tolerate it anymore.
Then you - like me - will find yourself incredibly irritated with this episode. I just don't get it...
Ugh, I just called the Target that had 1 of the carseats in stock, which is about a 30 minute drive from me, and they said they didn't have it. Oh well.
***BFP & Child Warning***
Me: 34, DH: 38 ~ TTC since 2014 IUI #1-3 (Nov 2015, Feb 2016, May 2016) = BFNs IVF ER (July 2016) = 7 PGS normal embryos FET #1 (Sept 2016) = BFP! DD born 5/30/17 FET #2 (April 2019) = BFN FET #3 (July 2019) = BFP! DS born 3/27/20
Cannot wrap my mind around going back to work tomorrow. These two weeks off have been amazing. Bring on maternity leave!
Ummmmm... serious question. Is this your first? Maternity leave is exhausting and the farthest thing from relaxing as humanly possible. I'm excited to meet my little one, but I know what is ahead of me and am cringing a bit. The 4th trimester is no joke!
Aww man @Elyse1384 I have to disagree! Although yes, new baby is a whole new ball game, I actually enjoyed my maternity leave with DS. I did find it pretty wonderful. He was an awful sleeper, didn't nap and we had a rocky rocky start to nursing but I still enjoyed it! @tjvan I'm looking forward to my leave too!
@devow27 I enjoyed my maternity leave too! My daughter (THANK GOODNESS!) has slept like a champ since Day 2, and actually really loves to sleep (just like her mommy!) So I really really really loved my maternity leave and getting to spend so much time with her!
@awoodruff27, ugh, I'm sorry. FX it's nothing serious.
@Elyse1384, I pretty much fast forward through Jenelle like I do Farrah. Leah is a disaster. I dig Chelsea. I have a crush on her dad. I like Kailyn, but something is off there too.
I'm going to disagree with everyone about maternity leave. I found it boring. I love my son but hate the newborn phase. All you can do is feed them and watch them sleep. I would have loved more time off around 4-6months when he started getting a personality and I could do more things with him. I was glad to go back to work to have a chance to interact with other adults and that made my non working time seem much more precious and valuable on the weekends. I'm sure this time will be different with a 19 month old and newborn though.
I almost cut my first maternity leave short at least a dozen times. To be fair, DD had colic and bad reflux that required medication, and she would ONLY sleep on top of me in a darkened room for about 6 weeks before we realized the reflux issue and put her on medication, so I basically spent 18 hours a day in a dark nursery either rocking her to sleep, willing her to go to sleep, or with her actually asleep on top of me. And when she was awake she did nothing but scream, so I felt like I couldn't leave the house at all. it was actual torture. I love her so much, and I was so worried about bringing her to daycare, but of course by my last week of leave she was becoming reasonable, and she was fine once I went back to work. But god. Maternity Leave is not always the Baby Vacation you are dreaming of.
I figure that God wouldn't give me another horrible newborn so maybe this time around will be different? DD has been an awesome and easy kid since she grew out of the newborn phase thankfully. But I was literally dying to go back to work during my first leave, and I don't even particularly enjoy my job. I just wanted to get out of the house while someone else let my baby scream at them all day.
It also helps that DH "gets it" more this time around...he was very much of the mentality "I have to go to WORK all day so I don't see why you need help when I get home" the first time, and I almost killed him. After the first day he was alone with DD he realized the error of his ways and apologized profusely and I expect him to be a lot more helpful this time around.
A lot of my maternity leave will be unpaid, and I am wondering if I should take the full 12 weeks or go back at 10 because I'll be going crazy, as others have mentioned above. I ak definitely not picturing a relaxing time off. I work from home, but will still have to bring LO to daycare since I have plenty of phone calls and meetings throughout the day. I guess I'm really just debating if another 2 weeks unpaid is worth it, or if I will feel the same way going back whether it is at 10 or 12 weeks...
@delujm0 Yeah I've been in the same boat. Both my kids had horrible reflux (had to go on meds), allergies and colic. Wouldn't sleep except on me! That said, my friend's little one didn't have reflux, but still struggled through the fourth trimester. Poor sleep and nursing made her leave exhausting as well.
@devow27 and @EmeraldNC - I think there is a huge difference between enjoying time with LO and it being comparable to a vacation. I enjoyed being with my kids, but it wasn't a vacation which is what I was responding to. I certainly wouldn't compare postpartum life to anything I do with my kids today while on vacation. I got next to no sleep, had a rough recovery with DS and couldn't get much done outside the house (I breastfed and a newborn with reflux who eats constantly isn't exactly the greatest co-shopper). Recovering from birth and life with a newborn is not a walk in the park IMO nor is it like going on a vacation with older babies/toddlers/kids, which is incredibly fun.
I'm a FTM who struggled with infertility and it pains me to think that I might not enjoy my maternity leave. I've been in the work force for 13 years now and all I want to do right now is take a break so I can be a mom. I am SO looking forward to my maternity leave and I cannot wait for my little one to get here, no matter how hard it might be!!
***BFP & Child Warning***
Me: 34, DH: 38 ~ TTC since 2014 IUI #1-3 (Nov 2015, Feb 2016, May 2016) = BFNs IVF ER (July 2016) = 7 PGS normal embryos FET #1 (Sept 2016) = BFP! DD born 5/30/17 FET #2 (April 2019) = BFN FET #3 (July 2019) = BFP! DS born 3/27/20
I'm a FTM who struggled with infertility and it pains me to think that I might not enjoy my maternity leave. I've been in the work force for 13 years now and all I want to do right now is take a break so I can be a mom. I am SO looking forward to my maternity leave and I cannot wait for my little one to get here, no matter how hard it might be!!
You can certainly enjoy it! Trust me - as an IFer myself it was difficult to separate the emotions in that postpartum period. I was so happy to have my baby and be able to bond, but I didn't expect just how hard it would be. Particularly if a baby has difficulties like my LOs, it is so incredibly hard to watch them in pain knowing there is little you can do to comfort that precious bundle. I enjoyed all the time with my kids, but I'm being brutally honest with a poster here that it isn't a vacation. So long as you go in with that mindset, I think you'll get so much out of it! I liken it to being an IFer and not enjoying being pregnant. When you're sick all the time in the first tri, it is difficult to not feel guilty about disliking the sick part given how badly you wanted to be pregnant to being with. That doesn't diminish the desire for that baby and the love for that baby. It just means that sometimes a situation can be tough no matter how happy you are to be in it. Maternity leave is beautiful, but NOT a vacation.
My first maternity leave I was fully paid for 6 weeks and then took 6 weeks unpaid. When I was miserable and not even getting paid I very seriously almost went back to work. However, this time my employer offers 16 weeks fully paid so...I'd be lying if I didn't say I'm considering sending the baby to daycare at 14 weeks part-time so that I can have two weeks with a little time to myself before heading back. I mean I'm getting paid, so I should be able to afford it, right? ;-)
If she's actually a good baby though she can stay home. DD will 100% be going to daycare the whole time I'm home.
@Elyse1384 I would never refer to it as a vacation. But I think of it fondly as a time coming up in my life where I get to just be a mom and not deal with my career for a few months. My job is very stressful, and while I know having an infant is also stressful, I am so beyond ready for that different kind of stress. I just want my baby to get here so badly, already getting impatient!
***BFP & Child Warning***
Me: 34, DH: 38 ~ TTC since 2014 IUI #1-3 (Nov 2015, Feb 2016, May 2016) = BFNs IVF ER (July 2016) = 7 PGS normal embryos FET #1 (Sept 2016) = BFP! DD born 5/30/17 FET #2 (April 2019) = BFN FET #3 (July 2019) = BFP! DS born 3/27/20
Is anyone planning on co-sleeping the first few months? I keep going back and forth on whether I want to co-sleep, or just have the bassinet right next to my side of the bed for night time feedings.
***BFP & Child Warning***
Me: 34, DH: 38 ~ TTC since 2014 IUI #1-3 (Nov 2015, Feb 2016, May 2016) = BFNs IVF ER (July 2016) = 7 PGS normal embryos FET #1 (Sept 2016) = BFP! DD born 5/30/17 FET #2 (April 2019) = BFN FET #3 (July 2019) = BFP! DS born 3/27/20
@Elyse1384 I would never refer to it as a vacation. But I think of it fondly as a time coming up in my life where I get to just be a mom and not deal with my career for a few months. My job is very stressful, and while I know having an infant is also stressful, I am so beyond ready for that different kind of stress. I just want my baby to get here so badly, already getting impatient!
Took the words out of my mouth! I didn't mean to suggest that maternity leave was comparable to a vacation - just meant that I look forward to not putting on my heels, commuting to the other side of Houston in traffic, and working in a stressful job with stressed out people!
@Elyse1384 I totally get what you are saying! And I definitely feel like I am in the minority... My first has just been a walk in the park. She was the best baby, and so far as been a great toddler. I HIGHLY doubt I will get that lucky the second time around!
Is anyone planning on co-sleeping the first few months? I keep going back and forth on whether I want to co-sleep, or just have the bassinet right next to my side of the bed for night time feedings.
I did the bassinet next to the bed (before the reflux acted up and after it was controlled - that middle time period we slept together in the glider)...I actually found it uncomfortable to nurse in bed and would walk to her nursery with her so I could use the changing table and nurse her in the glider anyway when she woke up (full disclosure: the "nursery" is actually a separate sunroom within our master suite, so it's like 20 feet away from my bed).
Any time I've tried to have DD sleep in bed with us it has been a failure...she likes having her own space. I can't blame her, I also like having my own space when I sleep. But again...the nursery is super close to my bed, so she's basically in the same room. It's going to be hard when I have to move her to her Big Girl Bedroom, which is on the second floor, in a few months.
Is anyone planning on co-sleeping the first few months? I keep going back and forth on whether I want to co-sleep, or just have the bassinet right next to my side of the bed for night time feedings.
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I will co-sleep. I'm kind of paranoid, two out of three of my children developed seizures at two and four months, so I co-sleep to keep them near. I have a Arms Reach co-sleeper and a bed bassinet (not the technical name, but I can't remember it now).
I enjoy maternity leave. Fortunately, my H is a SAHD, so I get help when out on maternity leave. Unfortunately, with DD2, I worked for a small law firm with zero leave, so I ended up going back at four weeks and I developed PPD, not sure if it's a coincidence or not. With DD3, I was out for about 8 weeks and didn't have any issues with PPD and after 8 weeks out, I was ready to work again.
Maternity leave if different for everyone, some enjoy it, some are ready to get back to work, some loathe it and it's all okay.
@delujm0 the people I babysit for have 2 horrible reflux/colic babies! It's stressful being there twice a week! I can't imagine full time! I feel like at least maybe I'm prepared and my baby can't be as bad as they are...right?!
Re: Randoms 1/2-1/9
BFP Oct 2011 - DD born July 2012
TTC again since July 2014
First IUI 9/26/16: BFP!
EDD 6/19/2017
It's a girl!
Born 6/26/17, 9lb 5oz
F-you 12 day vacation away from home and routine. Uggggggghhhhh.
DH: 29
DS: 18 months 4/2/2015
Baby #2 EDD: 6/1/2017
Edit: I just called the closest Target listed as having one in stock on that website, and made someone hunt down the last one they had. It's now on hold for DH to pick up tomorrow morning. In case people can't get there quickly or their local Target has very low stock. They will hold for 24 hours for you, and then it's up at customer service and you don't have to hunt it down in the store yourself. Score all around!
Me: 34, DH: 38 ~ TTC since 2014
IUI #1-3 (Nov 2015, Feb 2016, May 2016) = BFNs
IVF ER (July 2016) = 7 PGS normal embryos
FET #1 (Sept 2016) = BFP! DD born 5/30/17
FET #2 (April 2019) = BFN
FET #3 (July 2019) = BFP! DS born 3/27/20
Mom to Madison- 5 and Lillian 2....and now surprise baby #3!
K born 8/31/12
C born 1/11/14
BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015
BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
Mom to Madison- 5 and Lillian 2....and now surprise baby #3!
Me: 34, DH: 38 ~ TTC since 2014
IUI #1-3 (Nov 2015, Feb 2016, May 2016) = BFNs
IVF ER (July 2016) = 7 PGS normal embryos
FET #1 (Sept 2016) = BFP! DD born 5/30/17
FET #2 (April 2019) = BFN
FET #3 (July 2019) = BFP! DS born 3/27/20
DH: 29
DS: 18 months 4/2/2015
Baby #2 EDD: 6/1/2017
@Elyse1384, I pretty much fast forward through Jenelle like I do Farrah. Leah is a disaster. I dig Chelsea. I have a crush on her dad. I like Kailyn, but something is off there too.
I almost cut my first maternity leave short at least a dozen times. To be fair, DD had colic and bad reflux that required medication, and she would ONLY sleep on top of me in a darkened room for about 6 weeks before we realized the reflux issue and put her on medication, so I basically spent 18 hours a day in a dark nursery either rocking her to sleep, willing her to go to sleep, or with her actually asleep on top of me. And when she was awake she did nothing but scream, so I felt like I couldn't leave the house at all. it was actual torture. I love her so much, and I was so worried about bringing her to daycare, but of course by my last week of leave she was becoming reasonable, and she was fine once I went back to work. But god. Maternity Leave is not always the Baby Vacation you are dreaming of.
I figure that God wouldn't give me another horrible newborn so maybe this time around will be different? DD has been an awesome and easy kid since she grew out of the newborn phase thankfully. But I was literally dying to go back to work during my first leave, and I don't even particularly enjoy my job. I just wanted to get out of the house while someone else let my baby scream at them all day.
It also helps that DH "gets it" more this time around...he was very much of the mentality "I have to go to WORK all day so I don't see why you need help when I get home" the first time, and I almost killed him. After the first day he was alone with DD he realized the error of his ways and apologized profusely and I expect him to be a lot more helpful this time around.
@devow27 and @EmeraldNC - I think there is a huge difference between enjoying time with LO and it being comparable to a vacation. I enjoyed being with my kids, but it wasn't a vacation which is what I was responding to. I certainly wouldn't compare postpartum life to anything I do with my kids today while on vacation. I got next to no sleep, had a rough recovery with DS and couldn't get much done outside the house (I breastfed and a newborn with reflux who eats constantly isn't exactly the greatest co-shopper). Recovering from birth and life with a newborn is not a walk in the park IMO nor is it like going on a vacation with older babies/toddlers/kids, which is incredibly fun.
Me: 34, DH: 38 ~ TTC since 2014
IUI #1-3 (Nov 2015, Feb 2016, May 2016) = BFNs
IVF ER (July 2016) = 7 PGS normal embryos
FET #1 (Sept 2016) = BFP! DD born 5/30/17
FET #2 (April 2019) = BFN
FET #3 (July 2019) = BFP! DS born 3/27/20
My first maternity leave I was fully paid for 6 weeks and then took 6 weeks unpaid. When I was miserable and not even getting paid I very seriously almost went back to work. However, this time my employer offers 16 weeks fully paid so...I'd be lying if I didn't say I'm considering sending the baby to daycare at 14 weeks part-time so that I can have two weeks with a little time to myself before heading back. I mean I'm getting paid, so I should be able to afford it, right? ;-)
If she's actually a good baby though she can stay home. DD will 100% be going to daycare the whole time I'm home.
Me: 34, DH: 38 ~ TTC since 2014
IUI #1-3 (Nov 2015, Feb 2016, May 2016) = BFNs
IVF ER (July 2016) = 7 PGS normal embryos
FET #1 (Sept 2016) = BFP! DD born 5/30/17
FET #2 (April 2019) = BFN
FET #3 (July 2019) = BFP! DS born 3/27/20
Me: 34, DH: 38 ~ TTC since 2014
IUI #1-3 (Nov 2015, Feb 2016, May 2016) = BFNs
IVF ER (July 2016) = 7 PGS normal embryos
FET #1 (Sept 2016) = BFP! DD born 5/30/17
FET #2 (April 2019) = BFN
FET #3 (July 2019) = BFP! DS born 3/27/20
I did the bassinet next to the bed (before the reflux acted up and after it was controlled - that middle time period we slept together in the glider)...I actually found it uncomfortable to nurse in bed and would walk to her nursery with her so I could use the changing table and nurse her in the glider anyway when she woke up (full disclosure: the "nursery" is actually a separate sunroom within our master suite, so it's like 20 feet away from my bed).
Any time I've tried to have DD sleep in bed with us it has been a failure...she likes having her own space. I can't blame her, I also like having my own space when I sleep. But again...the nursery is super close to my bed, so she's basically in the same room. It's going to be hard when I have to move her to her Big Girl Bedroom, which is on the second floor, in a few months.
Maternity leave if different for everyone, some enjoy it, some are ready to get back to work, some loathe it and it's all okay.
I'm sorry you have to wait so long for an u/s. I'll be thinking of you!
DD2 8.22.13
MMC 1.4.17 at 16w
Expecting #3, EDD 1.29.18