Anybody dealing with bladder issues post-birth? I'm having leakage issues and feeling like I'm peeing all the time. My doc referred me for physical therapy but I'm up for additional suggestions too!
LO is 5 weeks - i fully planned on keeping him in a bassinet in our room til 3 months. I actually didn't even know about the SIDS risk - I just liked having him next to me, wanted him to not feel lonely and wanted to make BF easier. DH is back to work and had a really hard time sleeping with how noisy a sleeper he is. Honestly i didn't want to put DH in a situation where he's so tired he falls asleep at the wheel on his commute. I've been in a car with him before where he dozed off at the wheel for a split second and started to drift, and that has scarred me for life. (I yelled, he woke up, everything was fine..) So I moved LO to his crib in his room a few days ago, with a video monitor right next to me and the volume turned allllll the way up. DH has been sleeping better.
People are starting to make me feel really self conscious about my baby's size. She was born 6 pounds 5 ounces and is now 9 pounds 5 ounces at 6 weeks which I thought was good but people keep commenting on how small she is. It's annoying.
@Heathereaddy I think people easily forget how small newborns are. My DD is almost 2 and it's hard to believe she was ever so little. Sounds like your LO has gained really well.
Also, I'm pretty certain I was just peed on. Nice.
@Heathereaddy I feel the same way! M was born 7 pounds, 0.5 ounces which I felt like was a normal weight and even though my pediatrician is very happy with his weight gain (he was up to 8 pounds, 12 ounces by his 1 month appt) I have been feeling extremely self-conscious about his size. People keep commenting how little he is and I always feel like they are saying he is too small.
@Heathereaddy and @stellaluna14 I have heard that my baby is tiny a lot too. But I've also heard "wow ONLY 6 weeks? He looks 3 months!" So I think as pp have said, people forget how little newborns are. Just like when we were pregnant and people would comment on the size of our belly, they have no clue what they are talking about and make us worry over nothing. If your doc isn't concerned I wouldn't be either!!
@Heathereaddy I get it all the time. LO was born at 5 lbs 13 oz. At 3 weeks she's at 7 lbs 2 oz which is around the average of normal birth weight. I get how small she is from everyone. It's annoying when my MIL points how I made her so small like its my fault she was skinny. She was full term and I ate so well my entire pregnancy. I think people just get so hung up on how little it sounds instead of just seeinh a happy thriving baby.
I have had both types of babies. My DD1 was born 8lbs 4oz and weighed about 10lbs 5oz at 2 months and her pediatrician never worried. DD2 was born 9lbs 5oz and at 2 weeks was 10lbs 5oz. So I have had both types of comments and really it doesn't matter as long as they are gaining...every baby is different. Both my girls were breast fed but I think DD2 eats a lot more.
It probably depends on the tone and the person saying it but I don't get offended when people comment on DD being little. She is little I saw my nephew yesterday who is 5 months old and I commented on him being such a chunky cutie because he actually has leg rolls and is a smiley typical looking baby. DD is still a teensy newborn with skinny legs even though she's well over birth weight now.
Thanks everyone. It just makes me second guess if she's gaining well. I was happy that she's put on 3 pounds since birth but at a get together yesterday the moms kept comparing her to their kids when they were babies. One mom said "only 6 pounds at birth?! My twins were almost that weight and they were 3 weeks early" like I didn't eat well during pregnancy and my baby isn't eating well now which clearly isn't true. Maybe I'm just being too sensitive but I don't like it. It just something else to encourage mommy guilt in my opinion.
@Heathereaddy Well that's annoying! From what I've heard anything over 5.5 lbs is considered normal for a newborn. I do have to confess though, at a mom group I attended last year, whenever I would see women with newborns I kept saying "Oh! He/She is so tiny!!!" and then I would immediately apologize and say something like... "I just can't believe I'm going to have a baby that size again". I think when your older kids get so big you just forget how small a newborn is. But I did always feel bad because I knew that I would interpret it as they are saying my kid is too small.
@Heathereaddy People constantly tell me how small my son is and he was born at 10lb 7oz. He's definitely not small. People really have no idea how big newborns are
Has anyone had success discretely nursing in public without a cover? I have always used a cover because I feel more comfortable that way but this kid has just decided he hates the cover! He won't nurse at all under it. I have had to go to the car when we are out because I am just not comfortable whipping my boob out in public. I started researching the 2 shirt method so that the top shirt covers the top and the tank underneath covers the belly. Just wondering if this works for any of you, or if you have another way of going about it. Also, has anyone said anything to you while you're nursing?
@arhodes6 I'll just use a blanket or a cover while I get him latched and then I'll uncover his head but leave the blanket bunched up close, almost like a wall blocking my boob from view. I had so many people seeing my boobs between the hospital when he was born, LCs, his Dr, my dr, the children's hospital, etc etc that I'm not shy around strangers anymore. People I know...that's another story. I find the hardest part is putting myself back together discreetly while trying to burp him at the same time.
I had a middle aged woman in the food court at the mall give me disgusted looks for the 20 mins it took to feed him the other day. I was waiting to see if she would comment but nope.
@arhodes6 I have always only felt comfortable with a cover and so far neither baby has had a problem with it. However, if I wanted to not use one and someone did say something, I wouldn't give it a second thought. You are taking care of your baby. If someone has a problem with it, that's their problem, not yours. With a cover I once had a mom tell her toddler the baby was sleeping under there and it kind of bothered me for a while until I later realized that she was probably hoping it would discourage her daughter from trying to disturb the baby/my cover when she was obviously curious and inching closer. I have also had another mom thank me for nursing my baby in public. Second time around I am much more comfortable nursing wherever now though. Even with a cover before, I often went to the car to nurse last time. Experience has helped me be able to do it much less clumsily and with more confidence so now I don't care if I'm sitting right next to the elderly man or teenage boy at the coffee shop. ;-)
Yet again today people would not stop with the weight comments! Friends of my MIL asked how much he weighs and I said I wasn't sure but at least 10 lbs since he was nearly 9 at his last appt 3 weeks ago. They LAUGHED and told me there is no way he's 10 lbs because he's way smaller than that blah blah blah. I just about died. Then one of them said he's probably so small because since I'm breastfeeding I don't really know how much food he's getting.
Thanks bitch, for implying that I'm starving my baby!
@arhodes6 Two shirt method works great and for extra security in case he pulls away real quick I use a burp cloth and lay it over the top of my chest, against his cheek but not over his head. I also use the burp cloth to hide while latching on, especially since I use a shield and it's awkward to adjust. It's so much more comfortable and less frustrating than using a cover for me, though sometimes I still use it if my clothes aren't easy to maneuver around!
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All week LO has been sleeping in 3-5 hour stretches. Last night was our first night home from vacation and he wouldn't sleep out of my arms for more than 5 seconds. In my arms he would only sleep for 2 hour periods. I'm exhausted. He's also super colicky. Help.
Thanks ladies! I am going to practice at home first but I'm going to try it this week!! While I was nursing under a cover I actually had a girl tell me she thinks it's ridiculous that I feel like I have to use a cover in public and she wishes I felt comfortable to feed my baby without judgement. It was awesome and I almost ripped the cover off right then and there! But it is good to know that there are awesome people out there who won't judge I know it's natural (and completely legal and not indecent) but it is nerve wracking thinking that I might be chastised by randos in public. But I'll do it for the sake of my kid!
I think everyone has something to say about a baby's size...everyone says how big my baby is and he was born 8 lbs 7 oz. that's still considered normal so who cares!? I love my chunk. Everybody has stupid comments to say about everything.
Also, DH and I tried to have sex a few nights ago and it was so uncomfortable we had to stop! I'm 5 weeks pp so I was hoping things would be mostly better by now. Basically I just have this pinching feeling where my stitches are. Going to bring this up with my doc but this sucks.
So we jumped on the bandwagon of The Wonder Weeks to try and gage E's development (mostly for fun!) and it's surprisingly accurate! However he follows leaps based on his actual birthday, not his due date and 3 week difference makes it substantial. Just throwing that out there for anyone who may not see things lining up.
So we jumped on the bandwagon of The Wonder Weeks to try and gage E's development (mostly for fun!) and it's surprisingly accurate! However he follows leaps based on his actual birthday, not his due date and 3 week difference makes it substantial. Just throwing that out there for anyone who may not see things lining up.
I changed LO to her birthday and it says her first leap starts tomorrow! We shall see!
Me: 28 | Husband: 39 Married March 2016 DD: born 7.22.16 DS EDD: 6.23.18
Question for anyone using the babywise method. What do you do when your LO totally skips a nap? We are on a 7, 10, 1, and 4 schedule and she seems to never nap after her 1 pm feed thus creating an overtired and crabby baby until bedtime. We have tried swaddling, not swaddling, rock n play, the crib, the swing, rocked, not rocked, paci, no paci, side lying, back lying, even tummy lying etc.. if anyone has any suggestions that would help us get over this hump that would be great. TIA.
6 week ob appointment tomorrow. Hoping i get cleared for activity and for sexy time. Am I doomed to have leaky boobs in bed for the foreseeable future?
Any tips on getting your baby to let them clean their neck?? She freaks out and tucks her chin in. The stronger she gets the harder it is!
I am 7 weeks postpartum and we tried to have sex. We also had to stop after awhile because of the pinching feeling where my stitches are. I was told just to wait a bit longer and try again.
I hold my son in a cradle position with one hand and go to a room with a high window for light or a ceiling fan. That makes him tip his head back so I can clean the gross neck with my other hand. He still squirms but it's easier @shaylalr
My LO lately falls asleep and wakes herself back up within 15 minutes. She'll do this for 4-5 hour stretches until she becomes overtired/fussy or she passes out. Any one have any tricks to get her to stay asleep so this doesn't happen.
@babycakesday is she really in a deep sleep when you put her down? I had a stretch with E where he needed to be totally milk drunk and deeply asleep on me before making the transfer to his bed. Does she like being swaddled? That could be a piece of the puzzle too.
@theshannondee She wakes herself before I even transfer. She hates being swaddled during the day but loves it night. I might try swaddling her to see if it makes a difference.
@babycakesday try swaddling with an aden and anais blanket if you have one. They are so big that I can get a nice wrap on him that's harder to bust out of but still isn't too hot. M loves his and it always works to get him to sleep longer stretches.
@babycakesday I would also try swaddling. Sounds like she might startle easily and that's why she doesn't stay asleep. A lot of babies don't seem to like swaddling, but if they're tired some need help to get a good stretch of sleep and should calm down after a few minutes.
Anyone else have a kid that barely poohs? By barely I mean once a week!!! I had read online that with breastfed babies, it isn't totally abnormal but after talking to a couple other moms with babies in the same range I started to get concerned! She doesn't seem to meet any of the constipated symptoms but it was still worrisome. She doesn't vomit/spit up largely after meals. After today's "emergency" appointment with her pediatrician he assured me there isn't anything to worry about and she's just fine. He said I can try the prune juice/water combo to see if we can get anything out but kinda acted like I'd be wasting my time and efforts. I'm just to confused! I understand every baby is different but 5-7 days with no pooh seems a little extreme!!
@TiffRox81 not my LO, but my best friend's baby is like that. She says its perfectly normal and he's five months old now. I babysat him once for the entire day and was freaking out when she got home and he hadnt pooped.
@TiffRox81 I noticed LO was not pooping either for a bit. Every pediatrician is different but when I started introducing FF with BF, Doc suggested I apply a thermometer rectally with a bit of petroleum and sure enough it worked! I'd ask your doc if the juice doesn't work.
@TiffRox81 My DS was like that. He would literally poo every Wed. It was like clockwork. It's completely normal for a BF baby to do this. He was totally healthy. I wouldn't worry about it at all. Breast milk is obviously very different than formula though. If you do introduce formula into babies diet and they are still not pooping than I would worry about it and try the thermometer trick. Otherwise, I would count yourself lucky that you only have to change a poopy diaper once a week
Re: Newborn/Postpartum Thread
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DS#1 July 2016
Baby #2 July 2018
Also, I'm pretty certain I was just peed on. Nice.
I had a middle aged woman in the food court at the mall give me disgusted looks for the 20 mins it took to feed him the other day. I was waiting to see if she would comment but nope.
Thanks bitch, for implying that I'm starving my baby!
Also, DH and I tried to have sex a few nights ago and it was so uncomfortable we had to stop! I'm 5 weeks pp so I was hoping things would be mostly better by now. Basically I just have this pinching feeling where my stitches are. Going to bring this up with my doc but this sucks.
Married March 2016
DD: born 7.22.16
DS EDD: 6.23.18
I am 7 weeks postpartum and we tried to have sex. We also had to stop after awhile because of the pinching feeling where my stitches are. I was told just to wait a bit longer and try again.