@lovelylauren86 - I second @mom2adoodle. As a therapist I find it's best to just ask those tough questions instead of beating around the bush. Things like "are you thinking about suicide?" and let her know that you want to keep her safe. Besides a welfare check and going to the ER there are also 24 hour crisis lines in most counties so you could have that number ready to offer her as well.
Like others have mentioned.... I'm just now getting caught up on 100+ on this thread and can't remember all of the comments that came to my mind along the way!!
@lovelylauren86 That is such a tough situation. I would definetly reach out to her but maybe her parents too.
@lovelylauren86 I second what @mom2adoodle said. I'd also add, does she have the ability of seeing a therapist so you can recommend doing that to her? If she is depressive, getting some outside help might be the best thing right now. When you talk to her, you can reiterate how much you care for her (and maybe ask to see her and just hang out as friends?) and recommend that she see someone.
@lovelylauren86 yep, Im pretty sure it is she's had it before but was so lucky to never get mouth sores. Hopefully she won't get a ton. Poor baby. How long did it last for you guys? Any advice?
It lasted about 6 days. We gave him Motrin at night and he mostly ate mashed potatoes and Mac and cheese all week. No juice or tomato products. I did notice it got worse if we were in the heat.
@diagonalley@MrsVoorhees is right! I was comparing the cotton and Target's wasn't nearly as soft as the ones carried at BBB (which I think is why they're a tad cheaper). I just found the "silky soft bamboo" version on sale at Nordstrom and BBB (with coupon) so purchased two boxes of those. Now if only I could figure out how to master the swaddle...(looking up "super swaddling" now, thx to @KimmySchmidt).
Playing a rousing game of gas or contraction tonight... 90% sure gas...
Haha! I've been there lately too, at least once a week. I get BH a lot and they've been getting more intense but it's hard to say sometimes if it's a contraction or gas. Or painful constipation, even.
@AlwaysAuntNeverMom@AmMcc12 ugh, so uncomfortable!!! That is, until a few here mentioned taking Collace/stool softener daily. It has helped tremendously and I feel so great after, even though I spend like forever in the restroom at work. LOL.
Playing a rousing game of gas or contraction tonight... 90% sure gas...
Try timing if you're not sure! Get a contraction timer app, and log each time you notice one start. It might ease your mind if you see there's no pattern.
@lovelylauren86 This truly is a situation where we can't be sure of the right course of action without being more familiar with the situation.
Trust your gut. It's clear she needs help from outside resources. Try not to put (or let her put) too much responsibility on your shoulders for her well-being.
Does that sound cold? What I mean is that only she can ultimately be responsible for her life and happiness. Help her however you feel comfortable, but don't blame yourself for her poor decisions going forward, if she makes some.
@lovelylauren86 This truly is a situation where we can't be sure of the right course of action without being more familiar with the situation.
Trust your gut. It's clear she needs help from outside resources. Try not to put (or let her put) too much responsibility on your shoulders for her well-being.
Does that sound cold? What I mean is that only she can ultimately be responsible for her life and happiness. Help her however you feel comfortable, but don't blame yourself for her poor decisions going forward, if she makes some.
This!!! I wanted to say the same thing and couldn't get it to sound right!
Ack. I had a dream last night that the baby was born early. He was a perfectly normal looking size but had to be in the NICU and in my dream I couldn't make myself go visit him because I didn't want to do it again. And then I woke up feeling awful that I felt that way in my dream because obviously that is not the case. And now I'm freaking out all over again that I'm going to have another preemie.
@diagonalley - dreams can be so cruel. Just know that you would have the strength to be in the NICU again, even if it's one of the last places on earth you'd want to be. But, hopefully, you won't have to experience that again!!
Question: Today my coworkers are throwing me a baby shower during lunch (so excited!). My question is: does/should DH stop by and make a visit? We weren't planning on it as he has meetings and such at his work, but one of my coworkers asked if he was stopping by. Is it ok if he doesn't, or one of those things where he should definitely be there?
Question: Today my coworkers are throwing me a baby shower during lunch (so excited!). My question is: does/should DH stop by and make a visit? We weren't planning on it as he has meetings and such at his work, but one of my coworkers asked if he was stopping by. Is it ok if he doesn't, or one of those things where he should definitely be there?
I think it's different with the dads. If he's busy, I wouldn't think that all of work would be expecting him to stop by. If his work was throwing him a shower and wanted you there, I'd find it more pressing to try to get there, since ya know - we bring the babies with us wherever we go at this point
@LakeR2014 I agree it doesn't seem too important that the dad stop by a work shower, unless he works in the same place as you! I don't think it's an expectation when it's during the work day. I found out my coworkers will be throwing me a mini "shower" at our next staff meeting (holy awkward) and I know there is no expectation for DH to show up!
@LakeR2014 I just had one at work yesterday and I wondered too... They didn't mention anything about my husband coming by so I didn't ask and he didn't come. I did feel guilty opening gifts for OUR baby by myself but I'm weird like that. I want him to feel super included because he's found through this experience he feels a bit neglected by books, doctors, etc
Thanks ladies! I'll leave it as we planned then. DH is excited for the baby but when it comes to showers he's all 'this is your thing, your moment.' AKA 'I can't wait for the baby but the oogling and ogling over baby stuff is not for me', lol.
In regards to dreams...this: I have nightmares almost every night. I can't wait to get back to just mindless sleeping...even if there is a lot less of it bc of baby
I found out two days ago that I can get disability up to four weeks before my due date. Today I'm having a conversation with my boss that he can move me to the front desk (I work in a coffee shop inside a museum) or he can stop scheduling me as of August 11. I'm so excited for this because I'm exhausted and can no longer do 6 hours on my feet. The rational part of me wants them to move me to the front desk so I can keep working up until the baby comes, the emotional part of me wants to just be done altogether.
We put up our PnP yesterday and I had the opposite of an oh sh*t moment. I thought, baby girl will be here at home in two months, there's no way. She's too little for that PnP since she fits so well in my belly (although half the time I wonder where she will grow more). Two months is nothing, we're not ready, can we just go back to the beginning of the third tri? Realistically, I can't wait until she comes but every time I see the PnP I think, "lol no".
I just found out a friend of mine is pregnant and due in January! That means she'll be just over 3 months after me... I'm so excited to have a friend with a baby so close in age! The one that I mentioned who had her baby a few days ago lives pretty far away so our children might not know each other at all besides visits once or twice per year. This one is so close and part of our core friend group... yay for play dates!
@AlwaysAuntNeverMom - NOOOOO!!! We are most certainly NOT going back now, full steam ahead!!!
My 1.5 year old keeps going into the nursery and tapping on the crib and saying "Baby?? baby??" and I tell him that his little brother will be there soon.. but I honestly just can't picture that part yet. I can picture having him, holding him, everything.. just not a tiny baby in a big old crib
Gah! I'm so excited! Just found out there is a new Frozen ride at Epcot! We're going to Disney World next spring, and McKenna loves Frozen. It's a slow ride with no height or age requirements. Can't wait for both of my girls to go on this ride!
@camichael84 I have heard really good things about the ride and the meet and greet with anna and elsa is supposed to be great too! I am a Disney World fanatic!! I am sad becuase I am going to miss the new ride, my annual pass has summer blackout dates that don't come back until august 12th and I don't think 8.5 months pregnant and august florida heat will work for me
Me: 32 DH: 31
TTC #2 since January 2018
Baby #1 DD Born 8/25/2016 BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
Do you guys know where I can get some pepper jack cheese that's actually hot? Not super hot. But I want some heat. Kraft isn't cutting it and mama needs her cheese. We have Target, Walmart, Whole Foods, Sprouts, Natural Grocers, a couple Homelands....any of these? I neeeeeeeed it.
@CindyLouWho427 yay for play dates!! My DS has quite a few "friends" his age that live around here, but this little girl won't have many kids around that are her age. I was hoping our friends would have started working on their second babe, but no announcements thus far!
I just got my invitation for my friends bachelorette party! Thankfully it's brunch and mani pedis before dinner and the club so I can still participate
@MrsVoorhees Cabot does a habanero cheddar that is pretty hot. Not unbearable, but definitely an upgrade on pepper jack! That should be available at any of your stores
Re: July Randoms Thread
@lovelylauren86 That is such a tough situation. I would definetly reach out to her but maybe her parents too.
DS1 -- 9/30/2016
Trust your gut. It's clear she needs help from outside resources. Try not to put (or let her put) too much responsibility on your shoulders for her well-being.
Does that sound cold? What I mean is that only she can ultimately be responsible for her life and happiness. Help her however you feel comfortable, but don't blame yourself for her poor decisions going forward, if she makes some.
My coworkers threw me a work shower and H didn't come and he was even off that day.
But now i'm having flashbacks to that day when they bought the best cupcakes in world. Now I need a cupcake
DD #1 3/26/13
Mo/Mo twins MMC 3/31/14
DD #2 3/31/15
DD #3 8/25/16
DS1 -- 9/30/2016
BFP: 12/29/15 EDD: 9/15/16!! Please be our miracle baby!
My DH is the same @lakeR2014 he makes me open every card and gift we get since I'm "doing all the work" lol. So silly!
My 1.5 year old keeps going into the nursery and tapping on the crib and saying "Baby?? baby??" and I tell him that his little brother will be there soon.. but I honestly just can't picture that part yet. I can picture having him, holding him, everything.. just not a tiny baby in a big old crib
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
Thankfully it's brunch and mani pedis before dinner and the club so I can still participate
DS1 -- 9/30/2016