@erinmarie86 picking someone's name is a big deal!! I was freaked out that we picked it so soon.
little story my parents decided that if I was a boy my name was Caleb and a girl my name would be Emily. My dad held me for the first time and said "Hi Emily" My mom goes " what are you talking about her name is Megan" LOL
moral of the story is- you could have the name all picked out and it still could change so don't worry because we still have time
@erinmarie86 We haven't picked a name yet either but we do have a few options of the list. At this point, our little guy will not be named until after we meet him and see which one from the list fits best!
@erinmarie86 - We are having a major disagreement about names. DH and I both have a favourite and neither of us wants to budge. We decided to wait to make a final decision until we meet our baby. Our tradition waits to formally announce the name for at least 8 days so we will have some time after the baby's born anyway.
Me: 30 | DH: 32 Together since 2008 | Married 2012 TTC #1 October 2014 BFP #1 October 2014 | CP #1 October 2014 BFP #2 November 2014 | CP #2 December 2014 BFP #3 June 2015 | MMC at 16 weeks September 2015 BFP #4 January 2016 | EDD September 12, 2016 | Baby Ducks born September 5, 2016
@erinmarie86 we haven't got a name picked out yet either. Our plan is to each come up with a list of about ten names and then swap the lists and cross out ones we don't like / discuss why etc. We plan to narrow it down to a few and then decide when we meet her. Seems crazy and I'm going a bit batty that DH hasn't even started his list. It does seem like an overwhelming thing : coming up with a name for someone. But I'm sure we will make the right choice when the time comes!
It's like period cramps almost just a little bit more intense and they come in spurts. Last night I thought it was gas but then it went away every other 2 minutes
It's like period cramps almost just a little bit more intense and they come in spurts. Last night I thought it was gas but then it went away every other 2 minutes
That's what contractions felt like for me. BH to me feels like my entire uterus is tightening, and it's a consistent feeling until I rest/change position/drink water. And my ute is rock hard through it all.
@Redmar Sorry to hear you had a scary night; I'm glad the BH stopped. Hopefully you don't have to go through that again until it's the real deal (and only after baby is fully baked)!
My BH come and go throughout the day; I never go more than a few hours without at least one. But they're never repetitive to the point of concern, thank goodness.
@frogdog06 I didn't, but DH did. We were lying in bed last night, and his phone buzzed while he was playing on it. I asked him what he was was doing and he told (and showed) me he was catching a Pokémon. Haha.
Eta: Also, when he got home from work and I asked him how his day went, he told me it was good then grinned really big and informed me Pokémon Go came out. I believe, other than having a meeting, that was what he did at work all day.
@erinmarie86 we have a top 2 but definitely haven't chosen yet! And I'm not even convinced we'll choose before she is born -- it may be one of those things where we don't know for sure until we see her. Ah!
@Thscary@AmMcc12 Yup. No idea here. Guess not! Does everyone get them at some point?
@TheTamedShrew - are you living my life over there? I gained about 40 with my first (I was up 40 at 40 weeks, I didn't weigh in during the 10 days past due date before he came). I started this pregnancy about 5 pounds higher than I did my last, and am currently up about 28 pounds at 31 weeks. I try desperately to keep the pounds under the number of weeks then WHAM! I wake up one day 3 pounds heavier than I was the day before.
We're in the home stretch and maybe just have bodies that want to gain 40 +/- pounds with each pregnancy. You've done this all before, it will be worth whatever amount you gained to get a sweet baby out of it (though I totally understand the struggle right now). Hang in there mama! I'm trying to as well!!
Random for today: Yesterday I spent an awesome day with my mom (we live a couple hours apart and met at about the halfway point for coffee, lunch, shopping date). I was really nervous to bring up post-delivery with her and my reservations about her coming to stay with us right away for an extended period of time. To my delight, she actually brought it up, and she brought up the fact that since DH will be able to have a few weeks leave, she thinks it would be better for us to have time to bond as a family before she comes to stay.
It was SUCH a weight off my shoulders, because I really didn't want to hurt her feelings by suggesting this, but I love that she was so aware and open about it. So now the plan is for her to come visit right when baby is born, and probably once or twice in the first few weeks, but not come and stay with us until DH goes back to work. That way she'll ease my transition to being home alone with baby but won't be overstepping the initial bonding time for the 3 of us as a new family.
Not only did we have a great day together, which we never get to do just the two of us, but I feel so much better about all of this, I hadn't realized how much it was weighing on me until now!
@SLou24 - That's awesome!! Glad you two are on the same page and no feelings were hurt in the process. Sounds like a really good plan for when the baby arrives!!
I am having weight gain concerns too. My OB didn't lecture, but noted that I had a bigger jump than they like to see at my appointment this week. Between that, a very unflattering pic my mom put on FB, and a crappy haircut, I'm at embarrassing levels of anxiety about my appearance. I stewed for hours in the middle of the night. The struggle is real!
My husband told me last night that his store had a Code Adam (missing child) at it yesterday. Luckily the little guy was found (just wandered away from mama). The mother was crying holding her 2.5 year old son when she found him, and he said that he was tearing up and had to walk away. I gave him a hard time about it - then started tearing up thinking about how I'd feel and what a hot mess I would be in that situation.
Why am I so heartless towards my husband right now? Every time he says something sweet I roll my eyes, or outwardly laugh at him. I'm a real peach to be around...
@AnnaS930 We took McKenna trick or treating at the zoo last year, and we saw a little boy that got lost get reunited with his mom. He was crying, she was crying, and I cried (and I wasn't even pregnant).
That said, I get irritated at my husband for literally nothing right now. Not always, but just out of the blue I feel like I don't much care for him. Obviously, I do care for him a lot, so I feel bad later for my feelings and actions. Hormones are a bitch.
Sold my first item on Craig's list! Got about half of the original value, soo happy. Now if people would just buy the patio set that is in my car space (very long spot and small car so not that bad).
@SLou24 Yay for an understanding mom! I chickened out on talking about it with my mom when she was in town last week. I thought I was ok with the parents staying a few night right away but nope I want them in a hotel (they can afford it easily). At least on her own she said she wanted to come for the birth then stay a few days and when H goes back to work come back for a week. I think when she comes back I'll be cool about her staying with us, I think....
Re BH I think I'm in the club of I don't think I've had them.
Re Names We have one picked but could change it very easily at any time, not sure what that says about it.
I lurked the some other boards this morning. First, the July birth announcements have me more terrified of September than excited now. I know I've given birth before and it went well, but what if it doesn't this time!? I bing-read the whole thread, and that was clearly a terrible idea.
Second, on the March board a lady introed on their sticky thread not because she got a BFP, but because she had a "positive feeling" that she was pregnant. I can't be the only one that finds that odd, right?
And speaking of March, I found out on Tuesday one of my SILs (DH's sister) is pregnant and expecting her second this March. I wish this was exciting news, but I'm honestly worried for her. Her marriage is rocky and her husband is no help with the 13 month old they already have. She's only 24 and is also raising his two children from a previous marriage (who are 9 and 11). To top it off, he doesn't want any more kids since this will be his 4th, but refuses a vasectomy and insists she has to go get her tubes tied after this baby is born.
Regarding names.... We are 90% on the name Jensen for our boy. there's nothing else filling the 10%, and the 90% gets a little higher each week. It's probably what we will go with since we don't have any other names we both like!
@AnnaS930 Yep! I've been keeping up with your posts because I noticed we were gaining about the same rate. I tell myself all the time that my body just wants to gain more, but then I do pretty much eat what I want to. I really thought I was eating better this time around, but I guess this body has a mind of it's own. If I have to hear about how my MIL only gained 17 lbs with DH's sister one more time I'm going to throw up. "Because the doctor didn't want me to gain more than 20". REALLY?? Well that doctor would be sh*t outta luck with me. I would've been lectured by every doctor back in the day.
@TheTamedShrew - I'm totally with you! I was at 20 at 20 weeks, my OB told me it was "significant" which still rings in my head. I was able to slow the gain for a while after that, but it still seems to even back out to a pound per week pregnant whether I eat really healthy (which I do some days) or whether I eat pizza, doritos and ice cream (which I also do some days). Trying to just enjoy the pregnancy and remind myself "a healthy and successful pregnancy is not measured by the increase (or lack of increase) on the scale"
I'm happy, I have energy, I'm going to have a new squishy baby who won't care if I'm a little extra cushioned when he shows up.
No Braxton hicks for me either to date but lots of baby movements which are now often quite visible at times which is nice to be able to share with my fiancé.
@SLou24 I am really happy that the discussion with your mom went well about post partum visiting. I had a similar conversation with my parents and felt like I'd lost a significant weight afterwards.
To all the discussions and comments about weight gain and pregnancy in general, I really like the September group of women. It's really appreciated how straightforward and honest and supportive everyone has been, I know it's made my pregnancy easier at times knowing that I'm not alone.
@camichael84 I lurk on the other boards to check out the birth announcements too. Haha. Though, I'm more excited than worried at this point. But that could change at any time.
Sorry to hear about your SIL. That doesn't sound good. Hopefully everything will work out in the end and things will even themselves out with their relationship. Sounds tough. I don't think anyone should be "forced" into something like that either. There are other methods if they don't want to have surgery. Kinda not fair of him to tell her that when he's not willing to do it himself.
RE pregnancy weight gain: you mommas are doing great, no matter if the scale shows 1lb/week or 1lb/month. Baby really won't care and it's not like you're gaining 100lbs! Some women really do gain differently and their bodies just hold onto everything they can while pregnant and some don't and it is all absolutely fine.
I'm on the opposite boat, kinda. My doctor is absolutely fine with my weight gain so far but my dad is unhappy I gained anything and has been pressuring me to lose weight all pregnancy (he mentions it whenever he visits) because I am the heaviest I've ever been. It's like we're programmed as women to have our worth measured by our size and number on the scale instead of our abilities and what we do. We're more than that.
It only took me a week to catch up!! Still in Memphis and SIL's wedding is tomorrow. This week has been insane with the wedding stress and I actually ended up at triage yesterday. Since I was about 16 or so, I've had a weird heart thing where it randomly and for no reason my heart will speed up and it will feel like I'm exercising super intensely. I have a hard time breathing and sometimes get lightheaded. It usually happens once every 3-6 months but yesterday it happened 3 times in an hour so husband took me to the hospital to get checked out. They did an ekg and monitored Elliot and found nothing. They gave me a bag and change of fluids and was allowed to go home after about 4 hours. I have to call my ob and pcp and get a referral to a cardiologist and I'll probably have to wear a heart monitor for a week or so.
on a different note, we picked a name and have officially shared it with the families and facebook. It's finally hitting me that by the time I get home, I'll have less than 9 weeks until he's here!
I just put a call into the nurse since these painful BH aren't letting up. I was fine once I laid down last night and had a pretty good sleep. Once I woke up and started to move again they came back. I honestly can not tell for the life of me if it's just baby moving or what. When it happens she seems to stop then when the tightness stops she moves again. Body, stop being confusing!
I usually start my NSTs at 32 weeks (which I am now) but midwife and I decided I would start at 35 this time since my thyroid has been pretty good this time around and I will be out of town from 33-35 weeks. I am not worried just confused and I think I'll feel better if they figure out what it is.
I was home alone last night and went into this deep meditative mode where I put on relaxation music on Pandora and taped inspirational quotes around the house about how strong women are during labor and how wonderful of an experience it is. I then cleaned the entire house. Kinda crazy, but productive nonetheless!
On a quick random not here, none of our ladies our in the Dallas area, right? All the Texas gals are further south? I'm really hoping so in light of recent events....
@Sbrown721 my yoga teacher would love you! She is constantly telling us to do just that. She calls us warrior mamas and she encourages us to put that music, or whatever music you find comforting, on in the delivery room. My second birth was much more fulfilling because I got into that "meditative" state.
RE pregnancy weight gain: you mommas are doing great, no matter if the scale shows 1lb/week or 1lb/month. Baby really won't care and it's not like you're gaining 100lbs! Some women really do gain differently and their bodies just hold onto everything they can while pregnant and some don't and it is all absolutely fine.
I'm on the opposite boat, kinda. My doctor is absolutely fine with my weight gain so far but my dad is unhappy I gained anything and has been pressuring me to lose weight all pregnancy (he mentions it whenever he visits) because I am the heaviest I've ever been. It's like we're programmed as women to have our worth measured by our size and number on the scale instead of our abilities and what we do. We're more than that.
Seriously!? WTF! F-off dad. You carry a child for 9 months and not gain anything. Grrr, I really want to smack your dad right now! <walking away now so I don't throw my computer>
@seitzy3 nope. I've only been on thyroid meds for about 4 years but dealing with this for 15. I've been told that unless it's happening while I'm hooked up to the ekg machine, they can't see anything. I'm pretty sure yesterday's event was mostly due to mild dehydration.
@Sbrown721 my yoga teacher would love you! She is constantly telling us to do just that. She calls us warrior mamas and she encourages us to put that music, or whatever music you find comforting, on in the delivery room. My second birth was much more fulfilling because I got into that "meditative" state.
Haha! It was actually the "Yoga" Pandora station. I hear "warrior mamas" a lot in my yoga classes too. Love it! I'm trying to get baby and I used to the music and usually I have to kinda force myself to put the music on and relax, but last night I just kinda dove straight into it! Maybe it's working
@AlwaysAuntNeverMom please don't let your dad get to you!! Your dad needs a reality check! Hello!!! you are growing a human. grrr....Misogyny at it's finest
Me: 32 DH: 31
TTC #2 since January 2018
Baby #1 DD Born 8/25/2016 BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
Re: July Randoms Thread
little story my parents decided that if I was a boy my name was Caleb and a girl my name would be Emily.
My dad held me for the first time and said "Hi Emily"
My mom goes " what are you talking about her name is Megan"
LOL
moral of the story is- you could have the name all picked out and it still could change so don't worry because we still have time
Me: 30 | DH: 32
Together since 2008 | Married 2012
TTC #1 October 2014
BFP #1 October 2014 | CP #1 October 2014
BFP #2 November 2014 | CP #2 December 2014
BFP #3 June 2015 | MMC at 16 weeks September 2015
BFP #4 January 2016 | EDD September 12, 2016 | Baby Ducks born September 5, 2016
DS1 -- 9/30/2016
happen once just so I know what it's like.
My BH come and go throughout the day; I never go more than a few hours without at least one. But they're never repetitive to the point of concern, thank goodness.
Random: anyone download the Pokemon Go game?
Eta: Also, when he got home from work and I asked him how his day went, he told me it was good then grinned really big and informed me Pokémon Go came out. I believe, other than having a meeting, that was what he did at work all day.
@Thscary @AmMcc12 Yup. No idea here. Guess not! Does everyone get them at some point?
We're in the home stretch and maybe just have bodies that want to gain 40 +/- pounds with each pregnancy. You've done this all before, it will be worth whatever amount you gained to get a sweet baby out of it (though I totally understand the struggle right now). Hang in there mama! I'm trying to as well!!
It was SUCH a weight off my shoulders, because I really didn't want to hurt her feelings by suggesting this, but I love that she was so aware and open about it. So now the plan is for her to come visit right when baby is born, and probably once or twice in the first few weeks, but not come and stay with us until DH goes back to work. That way she'll ease my transition to being home alone with baby but won't be overstepping the initial bonding time for the 3 of us as a new family.
Not only did we have a great day together, which we never get to do just the two of us, but I feel so much better about all of this, I hadn't realized how much it was weighing on me until now!
Why am I so heartless towards my husband right now? Every time he says something sweet I roll my eyes, or outwardly laugh at him. I'm a real peach to be around...
That said, I get irritated at my husband for literally nothing right now. Not always, but just out of the blue I feel like I don't much care for him. Obviously, I do care for him a lot, so I feel bad later for my feelings and actions. Hormones are a bitch.
@SLou24 Yay for an understanding mom! I chickened out on talking about it with my mom when she was in town last week. I thought I was ok with the parents staying a few night right away but nope I want them in a hotel (they can afford it easily). At least on her own she said she wanted to come for the birth then stay a few days and when H goes back to work come back for a week. I think when she comes back I'll be cool about her staying with us, I think....
Re BH I think I'm in the club of I don't think I've had them.
Re Names We have one picked but could change it very easily at any time, not sure what that says about it.
Second, on the March board a lady introed on their sticky thread not because she got a BFP, but because she had a "positive feeling" that she was pregnant. I can't be the only one that finds that odd, right?
And speaking of March, I found out on Tuesday one of my SILs (DH's sister) is pregnant and expecting her second this March. I wish this was exciting news, but I'm honestly worried for her. Her marriage is rocky and her husband is no help with the 13 month old they already have. She's only 24 and is also raising his two children from a previous marriage (who are 9 and 11). To top it off, he doesn't want any more kids since this will be his 4th, but refuses a vasectomy and insists she has to go get her tubes tied after this baby is born.
I'm happy, I have energy, I'm going to have a new squishy baby who won't care if I'm a little extra cushioned when he shows up.
@SLou24 I am really happy that the discussion with your mom went well about post partum visiting. I had a similar conversation with my parents and felt like I'd lost a significant weight afterwards.
To all the discussions and comments about weight gain and pregnancy in general, I really like the September group of women. It's really appreciated how straightforward and honest and supportive everyone has been, I know it's made my pregnancy easier at times knowing that I'm not alone.
Sorry to hear about your SIL. That doesn't sound good. Hopefully everything will work out in the end and things will even themselves out with their relationship. Sounds tough. I don't think anyone should be "forced" into something like that either. There are other methods if they don't want to have surgery. Kinda not fair of him to tell her that when he's not willing to do it himself.
I'm on the opposite boat, kinda. My doctor is absolutely fine with my weight gain so far but my dad is unhappy I gained anything and has been pressuring me to lose weight all pregnancy (he mentions it whenever he visits) because I am the heaviest I've ever been. It's like we're programmed as women to have our worth measured by our size and number on the scale instead of our abilities and what we do. We're more than that.
on a different note, we picked a name and have officially shared it with the families and facebook. It's finally hitting me that by the time I get home, I'll have less than 9 weeks until he's here!
I usually start my NSTs at 32 weeks (which I am now) but midwife and I decided I would start at 35 this time since my thyroid has been pretty good this time around and I will be out of town from 33-35 weeks. I am not worried just confused and I think I'll feel better if they figure out what it is.
DD #1 3/26/13
Mo/Mo twins MMC 3/31/14
DD #2 3/31/15
DD #3 8/25/16
DD #1 3/26/13
Mo/Mo twins MMC 3/31/14
DD #2 3/31/15
DD #3 8/25/16
DD #1 3/26/13
Mo/Mo twins MMC 3/31/14
DD #2 3/31/15
DD #3 8/25/16
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18