@bibliobebe Being GBS positive is definitely not a big deal. I was positive, and only had one round of antibiotics with my first. No side effects or issues. The only thing I can think being GBS positive could interfere with is a homebirth, but I'm not even totally sure on that. I don't know what options there are for getting the antibiotics if you birth from home.
Just a word of encouragement to the FTMs (not sure if other STMs will agree) - I know the insomnia sucks now and you're probably worried about the sleepless nights once you have a newborn. But for me, the sleepless nights once my daughter was here weren't so horrible. I somehow found some deep pocket of energy that kept me going. Don't get me wrong, there were many zombie days but it wasn't as horrible as I was expecting.
It sounds like you had a good sleeper. I wish I could speak as encouragingly, but I gave birth to a child who is allergic to sleep. It was every two hours until we sleep trained at 4 months. She stopped napping almost completely around 18 months. I think I was on an extreme end of the spectrum, but I slept a lot worse with a newborn. I mean, it was bad enough that I had to really be sold on the idea of raising another potential non-sleeper.
I have a checklist now with not nearly enough stuff on it.. I'm so close to ready, and the time is coming, but YIKES
My checklist is too long! Today I'm tackling hanging up Layla's clothes in her closet and hoping I can convince DH to put the crib together tonight. But we don't even have a dresser, crib mattress, and pretty much anything else for the nursery yet.
Just a word of encouragement to the FTMs (not sure if other STMs will agree) - I know the insomnia sucks now and you're probably worried about the sleepless nights once you have a newborn. But for me, the sleepless nights once my daughter was here weren't so horrible. I somehow found some deep pocket of energy that kept me going. Don't get me wrong, there were many zombie days but it wasn't as horrible as I was expecting.
It sounds like you had a good sleeper. I wish I could speak as encouragingly, but I gave birth to a child who is allergic to sleep. It was every two hours until we sleep trained at 4 months. She stopped napping almost completely around 18 months. I think I was on an extreme end of the spectrum, but I slept a lot worse with a newborn. I mean, it was bad enough that I had to really be sold on the idea of raising another potential non-sleeper.
sorry, ladies.
Oh, no, not good at all. She's still not good. I guess my body just adapted.
@camichael84 - I ordered a 2nd camera for our monitor last night. Retail options don't sell an additional camera for our Levana monitor anymore so had to order through the company. They say to allow up to 8 weeks for delivery! AHHHHHHHHHHH! So I checked ordering that off of my checklist, but it's arrival could be here early, just in time, or perhaps after baby. WTF?! Who need 8 weeks to ship me an additional camera, it's only coming from Canada! I LIVE IN MAINE! We practically ARE in Canada. Ugh.
@AnnaS930 Wow! You are still way ahead of me! I'm hoping to be more of less done by the end of July. Still have a lot to do...must wash, sort and put away what I have already and assess what else I need.
@AnnaS930 Maybe they're just being cautious, and it'll be here in a couple weeks?
Despite how much is still left to do, I'm riding high on the fact that we've got her nursery trasformed back to a bedroom from the office set up the previous owner had. It somehow makes it feel more real she's coming now.
I feel like @geminigirl16 - ya'll are way ahead of me! I finally made DH set a date to get the bedrooms moved around so two weeks from Saturday, he and his friends will be moving Elleanore into Robert's room, setting up their new beds and then setting up the nursery. I'm anxious to get it done and have everything ready, just in case!
You would think I know the difference between contractions and painful baby movement. I can't tell today!
Im feeling for all you insomnia ladies. Fortunately, besides being uncomfortable and having to pee, not much can wake me up. It's a rude awakening when baby gets here. I never get used to the night feedings.
@seitzy3 I, too, have been having a hard time differentiating between Braxton Hicks and "baby stretching" lately! At this point, the "baby stretching" seems to be more painful so I usually go off of that but, in reality, I have no clue anymore...
@seitzy3@JennM205 Me three! I was laying in bed last night trying to decide what exactly was going on. I'm glad I'm not the only BTDT mom that is confused!
@UnwritteN12 Me too! I'm anxious to have it done. I wish I had one room dedicated to the baby but unfortunately he's going to have to share his space with our guest bed and miscellaneous spare room stuff.
Is it bad that I am a little frightened by the number of early babies in the poll thread? Everyone keeps telling me that first babies come late (and I want to believe them) but that poll is definitely stating otherwise!
@seitzy3@JennM205 Me three! I was laying in bed last night trying to decide what exactly was going on. I'm glad I'm not the only BTDT mom that is confused!
I'm a BTDT mom who in the last few days has been pretty constantly wondering if my lower abdominal cramps are baby or my GI tract and going to have an upset stomach. I actually have been putting my hands on my stomach to feel how hardened my uterus seems from the outside - it's usually pretty hard, but other times I still cant' tell what kind of cramps I'm dealing with - weird baby position, BH contractions, or gas/loose bowels on the way. Fun fun!
@seitzy3 first off, I'm so sorry to hear of your cousin's loss. That is seriously one of my worst fears . You're doing a great job just being there for them.
@JennM205 and @seitzy3 omg I had Braxton hicks in regular intervals last night (around 2am) and they were continuous for an hour plus. They scared the shit out of me. I really was contemplating going to the ER by myself. I had BH w DS but I would chug water and lay down and they'd go away. Last night was NOT the case.
@camichael84 - I ordered a 2nd camera for our monitor last night. Retail options don't sell an additional camera for our Levana monitor anymore so had to order through the company. They say to allow up to 8 weeks for delivery! AHHHHHHHHHHH! So I checked ordering that off of my checklist, but it's arrival could be here early, just in time, or perhaps after baby. WTF?! Who need 8 weeks to ship me an additional camera, it's only coming from Canada! I LIVE IN MAINE! We practically ARE in Canada. Ugh.
Just an FYI, our postal service may be striking. Probably not related, but something to be mindful of
Wife to A; Mama to C (2009), N (2011), H (2014) & baby F due 09/16/16
@Themaritimemama - haha, nooooo!!! I spoke to the company today, they're "expecting a delivery of cameras from overseas and have been told the 8 weeks would be an accurate guess"
I told my husband last night that if the monitor isn't here withing 6-7 weeks, I'd be buying a cheap one from walmart and returning it when the real one arrives. He just rolled his eyes.
Is it bad that I am a little frightened by the number of early babies in the poll thread? Everyone keeps telling me that first babies come late (and I want to believe them) but that poll is definitely stating otherwise!
Come 37-38 weeks, you might not be so frightened and might be begging for baby to come early.
haha I'm so torn on baby's arrival! Selfishly, I want to be DONE with pregnancy - I really really hate it lately, but I'm also like "bake baby bake! Take your time!!!"
I have a question that I have never really come across any sort of answer to in real life or parenting blogs: What if your child is not especially social?
I feel sorry for children when they are called "shy" because I strongly believe this is a self-fulfilling prophecy. I often come across parents that answer questions for their children when their children don't want to or don't know how to answer. I find this incredibly frustrating because I feel like the child is being taught that he/she can't do it himself/herself. I truly believe in the importance of instilling manners early on and don't think a child should ignore someone when someone talks to the child, but how do you handle this when the child just doesn't want to or feels uncomfortable?
@Sbrown721 I think it's just personality. I don't know why we shame introverts and shy people, everyone isn't outgoing and extroverted. (I'm not saying you're shaming her, it's just the natural tendency, everyone does it.) I don't feel like it's a big deal if someone asks my young daughter a question and she doesn't answer, I think she will come around eventually. Maybe putting her in more social situations like play groups and daycare or MDO may help her be more comfortable with new people?
@Sbrown721 my daughter isn't shy at all and will talk to someone if she wants to, but I was an extremely shy child and am still very much an introvert. My dad used to try to force me to talk to people and be more outgoing and it was just awful! He gave me such bad social anxiety that I would refuse to go places with him by myself and I'm still uncomfortable doing that because he loves to put me on the spot with his friends. My mom on the other hand always let me choose what to say or do in those kinds of situations and I always did better around her. I think it's important to let the kid be themselves whether they are naturally introverted or the next captain of the debate team. Not everyone is born to be a social butterfly.
@Sbrown721 - DD was very shy from about 1 to 4.5-5. We tried very hard to let her lead the way. For a long time, she didn't want to hug certain people and was just in general very quiet. We didn't push her to give hugs or talk to people if she didn't want to though. It really wasn't her necessarily being rude. It was her being apprehensive and careful. I thought of it from this point of view.....God forbade someone were to take advantage of her at some point in her life, like push her into something that she didn't want to do, I didn't want her to feel like she had to feel guilty. I thought if we started her out in life by forcing her to do certain things, even things most people would consider small like giving hugs, that she would be easily pushed into things later. Maybe I put too much thought into it but I do know that I'm not the only one that has had those thoughts.
However, she has come out of her shell so much. And I really attribute so much of that to starting daycare. She's very friendly, outgoing and not necessary as apprehensive anymore.
I'll regretfully join the terrible sleep club. My hip pain woke me up last night and, of course, I had to pee. When I tilted backwards in bed, my hip clicked very painfully and I got RLP on the other side. I then started to sit up and got a calf cramp. Not a great night
@sbrown721 My youngest daughter isn't very social and often acts like she can't hear adults at all. However, all the kids and adults at school just love her quirkiness and we've embraced it. When she started school I would give her "social homework" such as, "Today, I want you to find out one of your classmate's names." She acted like it was really difficult at first but would come bouncing out of school that afternoon with a name It all works out in the end!
@seitzy3 first off, I'm so sorry to hear of your cousin's loss. That is seriously one of my worst fears . You're doing a great job just being there for them.
@JennM205 and @seitzy3 omg I had Braxton hicks in regular intervals last night (around 2am) and they were continuous for an hour plus. They scared the shit out of me. I really was contemplating going to the ER by myself. I had BH w DS but I would chug water and lay down and they'd go away. Last night was NOT the case.
Thank you! It's also my worst fear.
This afternoon I swear it was every 2 minutes, if even that, that I was having what felt like contractions. I felt my tummy it was rock hard so I figured they were Braxton hicks. But also not sure because some of the time baby girl was moving. I wish there was a more specific sign haha! Like, red alert THAT was a contraction, green alert go about your day that's just baby stretching your insides.
@camichael84 - regarding GBS and home births, I think it likely depends on what the midwives in your area are able to do. Mine are able to administer antibiotics at via IV at home so if I have a home birth, that’s likely what will happen with me. I was tested already because *** TMI *** I had horrible horrible vaginal swelling at around 11 weeks and they weren’t sure why. It turned out it was an allergic reaction to some new underwear. *** End warning *** However, I live in Ontario where midwives are part of our government healthcare system. It might be different in elsewhere.
@AnnaS930 - Not to scare you but do you know how your monitor is being shipped? Canada Post (our USPS) is likely locking out it’s workers tomorrow. If it’s being shipped by anyone else it’s fine but if it’s coming in the mail you may want to see if there is another shipping option. They will likely get the shipment in 8 weeks because they're likely not shipping Canada Post from overseas (my step-father is in the shipping business so I know how these things work) but if they try to ship it to you and they only use Canada Post to ship to customers and the lockout is still on, that will cause problems.
Me: 30 | DH: 32 Together since 2008 | Married 2012 TTC #1 October 2014 BFP #1 October 2014 | CP #1 October 2014 BFP #2 November 2014 | CP #2 December 2014 BFP #3 June 2015 | MMC at 16 weeks September 2015 BFP #4 January 2016 | EDD September 12, 2016 | Baby Ducks born September 5, 2016
@annas930 I would hope your camera would be coming by fedex or ups and not by Canada Post? I mean maybe considering the delay time they gave you, but that seems odd for an electronic to be shipped that way. Just my two cents.
Just had a coworker as how far along I am so I told her that I just renters the third trimester. She then asks me if I'm having twins because I'm big for having three month left! I'm not one to think fast on my feet so I just commented that he might just be a big boy...
In other news a group of coworkers had a potluck today at lunch and it was amazing!!!
@UnwritteN12 we don't force hugs either and we started that mentality from a very early age. Children have legitimate feelings and emotions and I will not make my daughter do anything that she is not comfortable doing, even if it's just hugging her grandmother.
I'm glad you're all with me on my viewpoint on this! A creepy TSA guy at the airport was smiling at a little girl and kept calling her "princess" and asked her to smile back at him. Her parents patted her shoulder and said, "Smile back at the man!" I was soo uncomfortable watching it!
Being told to smile is THE WORST! I don't understand how ANYONE thinks it's okay to tell someone else to smile and yet so many people (let's get real, it's always a man) do it!
Being told to smile is THE WORST! I don't understand how ANYONE thinks it's okay to tell someone else to smile and yet so many people (let's get real, it's always a man) do it!
Being told to provide any sort of expected emotion is the worst. And it's even worse to say it to children. It's like, eff you, dude, I had a bad day, I don't want to smile. And I don't have to.
@LakeR2014, Yeah, I kept saying things like that. "Do you want to spend your time in prison being able to feed yourself or do you want to be paralyzed because you fell out of bed?? LAY DOWN!!!!!" I'm usually not so straightforward or blunt but I was so irritated. It's the police officers job to help them I stay in bed too, I wasn't allowed to sedate him because of his injury. Now I'm getting up to go back in bed and all I'm hoping is that he went to surgery so he's sedated or intubated Darwinism failed me.
So it's official. I am going to gain more than the recommended 35 lb weight limit. Just had a 3rd tri growth spurt (I knew something was up because of how unbelievably exhausted and hungry I was last week) and gained 4-5 lbs the last two weeks. This happened around the same time with my first pregnancy. I am up 31-32 lbs at 32 weeks. Frustrated because I started this pregnancy 8 lbs heavier than my last, and it looks like I'm on track to gain 40+ lbs again. If I wasn't on mobile I would post and appropriate pouting gif...*sigh*
@TheTamedShrew hang in there friend! You're doing a great job growing that little girl !
@seitzy3 yes she was moving around like CRAZY in the middle of the BHs. It must've been around 4am that I finally got back to sleep and had the weirdest dreams.
I'm also have the weirdest dreams @RedMar one of which was about me being kidnapped for 13 years by this man and giving birth to triplet boys and when I finally escaped, it was Caitlin Jenner who helped me. WHAT?!
Speaking of weird, my toddler follows me around the house when i vacuum screaming "mom! Let me smell it!!" What makes you want to smell a vacuum kid?
woah it's only July 7th and this thread is already 16+ pages!! (edit with correct page number)
Not too sure if this goes here or the "oh shit moment" thread...or a new thread..
but am I the only one that does not have a name picked out for my LO (girl) we have a list of top 4 for now, but that list is still changing. I'm 30 weeks now and with my first we had a name finalized already...even with our top 4 i just don't think any of them are right...we like unique short possibly gender neutral names...why is it so hard to pick a name!?!
Re: July Randoms Thread
sorry, ladies.
Oh, no, not good at all. She's still not good. I guess my body just adapted.
Despite how much is still left to do, I'm riding high on the fact that we've got her nursery trasformed back to a bedroom from the office set up the previous owner had. It somehow makes it feel more real she's coming now.
Im feeling for all you insomnia ladies. Fortunately, besides being uncomfortable and having to pee, not much can wake me up. It's a rude awakening when baby gets here. I never get used to the night feedings.
DD #1 3/26/13
Mo/Mo twins MMC 3/31/14
DD #2 3/31/15
DD #3 8/25/16
@JennM205 and @seitzy3 omg I had Braxton hicks in regular intervals last night (around 2am) and they were continuous for an hour plus. They scared the shit out of me. I really was contemplating going to the ER by myself. I had BH w DS but I would chug water and lay down and they'd go away. Last night was NOT the case.
I told my husband last night that if the monitor isn't here withing 6-7 weeks, I'd be buying a cheap one from walmart and returning it when the real one arrives. He just rolled his eyes.
Come 37-38 weeks, you might not be so frightened and might be begging for baby to come early.
I have a question that I have never really come across any sort of answer to in real life or parenting blogs: What if your child is not especially social?
I feel sorry for children when they are called "shy" because I strongly believe this is a self-fulfilling prophecy. I often come across parents that answer questions for their children when their children don't want to or don't know how to answer. I find this incredibly frustrating because I feel like the child is being taught that he/she can't do it himself/herself. I truly believe in the importance of instilling manners early on and don't think a child should ignore someone when someone talks to the child, but how do you handle this when the child just doesn't want to or feels uncomfortable?
However, she has come out of her shell so much. And I really attribute so much of that to starting daycare. She's very friendly, outgoing and not necessary as apprehensive anymore.
This afternoon I swear it was every 2 minutes, if even that, that I was having what felt like contractions. I felt my tummy it was rock hard so I figured they were Braxton hicks. But also not sure because some of the time baby girl was moving. I wish there was a more specific sign haha! Like, red alert THAT was a contraction, green alert go about your day that's just baby stretching your insides.
I'm assuming yours stopped by this morning?
DD #1 3/26/13
Mo/Mo twins MMC 3/31/14
DD #2 3/31/15
DD #3 8/25/16
@camichael84 - regarding GBS and home births, I think it likely depends on what the midwives in your area are able to do. Mine are able to administer antibiotics at via IV at home so if I have a home birth, that’s likely what will happen with me. I was tested already because *** TMI *** I had horrible horrible vaginal swelling at around 11 weeks and they weren’t sure why. It turned out it was an allergic reaction to some new underwear. *** End warning *** However, I live in Ontario where midwives are part of our government healthcare system. It might be different in elsewhere.
@AnnaS930 - Not to scare you but do you know how your monitor is being shipped? Canada Post (our USPS) is likely locking out it’s workers tomorrow. If it’s being shipped by anyone else it’s fine but if it’s coming in the mail you may want to see if there is another shipping option. They will likely get the shipment in 8 weeks because they're likely not shipping Canada Post from overseas (my step-father is in the shipping business so I know how these things work) but if they try to ship it to you and they only use Canada Post to ship to customers and the lockout is still on, that will cause problems.
Me: 30 | DH: 32
Together since 2008 | Married 2012
TTC #1 October 2014
BFP #1 October 2014 | CP #1 October 2014
BFP #2 November 2014 | CP #2 December 2014
BFP #3 June 2015 | MMC at 16 weeks September 2015
BFP #4 January 2016 | EDD September 12, 2016 | Baby Ducks born September 5, 2016
In other news a group of coworkers had a potluck today at lunch and it was amazing!!!
DS1 -- 9/30/2016
Being told to provide any sort of expected emotion is the worst. And it's even worse to say it to children. It's like, eff you, dude, I had a bad day, I don't want to smile. And I don't have to.
@seitzy3 yes she was moving around like CRAZY in the middle of the BHs. It must've been around 4am that I finally got back to sleep and had the weirdest dreams.
Speaking of weird, my toddler follows me around the house when i vacuum screaming "mom! Let me smell it!!" What makes you want to smell a vacuum kid?
DD #1 3/26/13
Mo/Mo twins MMC 3/31/14
DD #2 3/31/15
DD #3 8/25/16
Not too sure if this goes here or the "oh shit moment" thread...or a new thread..
but am I the only one that does not have a name picked out for my LO (girl) we have a list of top 4 for now, but that list is still changing. I'm 30 weeks now and with my first we had a name finalized already...even with our top 4 i just don't think any of them are right...we like unique short possibly gender neutral names...why is it so hard to pick a name!?!