Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Symptoms Thread
I'm 35 weeks and haven't had a single BH (yes, I'm sure.) When I asked about it at my 32 week appointment, the OB thought it was odd that I was expecting to have any at this point. He said I may never get any and that doesn't reflect on how labor will go at all.
I'm going to ask my doctor about this next week. She always ask me have I had any and when I say no, her left eyebrow goes up. Very confusing reaction.
Yes! I have this too, any time I am going to go #2, pretty upset stomach but no diarrhea. This is my first so I thought it may be something I am eating or not enough water, but I have been slowly eliminating things and haven't been able to pin down the source. Guess it's just another wonderful symptom!
Got my school nurse to check my blood pressure yesterday, as my feet were very swollen. Slightly high bottom number 120/90. Doc's office says it could be due to tiredness or stress and just to keep an eye out for any more symptoms.
I was induced when I had DD and only had back labor so I don't really know what contractions feel like. The past few days I've had moments of my entire stomach will hurt, cramp almost like gas pain and then stop. The only reason I ask is because it mainly hurts the top part of my stomach and it radiates into my mid back.
Not a pretty subject so I apologize but . . . . My poor arsehole! So about a year ago I went in to my doctor because I had had what I thought were hemorrhoids for over a year. They didn't itch or hurt most of the time but sometimes hurt to wipe and I would get little spots of blood on the tp. Doctor explained those weren't hemorrhoids, but "anal papillae" I believe he said. Basically just like little flaps of extra skin. And the only way to get rid of them is to see a surgeon who specializes in anal/rectal surgery. (No idea there were people out there who specialized in that!) And that it most likely would not be covered by insurance. Welll over the past couple weeks those little suckers have gotten so swollen and irritated! I feel like my asshole has bloomed! (Sorry for that visual) I dread pooping because it hurts even if I use wipes and am super gentle. Also I'm getting my strep b swab at my next appointment and it's with one if of the OBs I haven't met before and I'm embarrassed.
I know that's not the best description, but it's the best I can think of lol
This girl!
I think I'll just change my mindset instead of fighting the insomnia. I'm gonna be the best damn insomniac I can be! #winning #ormaybejustdelirious
I dont know what's worse, the nights where I get no sleep or the nights where I will fall asleep for 30 minutes at a time and toss and turn and get up to pee. I should find my Fitbit so I can see just how my sleep is. Thank goodness DD still takes pretty good naps because I nap when she does pretty much everyday.
i wonder if carpal tunnel is more common when you are pregnant for any reason?
one or two.
There is pressure on my pelvic bone and every time I walk, it hurts. Also, my swollen feet are now painful as if I'm walking on rocks. 36 weeks tomorrow but I'm afraid of the next 4 weeks...
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
Well I still have 7 weeks to go, so I hope I continue to be lucky
I've been scratching like a caveman and may have caused some scaring. My husband said the scaring isn't noticeable because of the acne everywhere.
Also I upped my yogurt and kiwi fruit intake this week in hopes that it keeps thing happier in the digestive tract.
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18