@yogahh so I have that book and I understand the five S's... But how did it result in 6hour sleep sessions at night?! Are you calming her instead of feeding her? BC I'm thinking of trying that instead of letting him nurse every time he wakes up (every 2 hours or so).
@yogahh so I have that book and I understand the five S's... But how did it result in 6hour sleep sessions at night?! Are you calming her instead of feeding her? BC I'm thinking of trying that instead of letting him nurse every time he wakes up (every 2 hours or so).
So I just skim read the book tonight...I skipped to the parts about actually implementing the tools. We're already doing most of it. Adeline isn't a big crier I'm just trying to get longer stretches of sleep overnight. I've just fed, changed and swaddled with his method, put back down and white noise machine on (she wouldn't take the pacifier). Normally she soothes straight back to sleep after her feed but I can hear her fussing a bit but she should doze off on her own. She didn't object to her arms being swaddled in which I was surprised about. Anyhow, I still plan to feed every 2 hours if that's what she's waking for. Addy definitely has obvious hunger cues when she's waking so if your LO does too, then feed, don't try and calm.
but I second the question about the 6 hours of sleep...this book is definitely not going to give me that at all, unless his swaddling method is the holy grail, because I was essentially already doing everything he suggested.
We let Harper eat on demand.. No schedule eating. So she lets us know when she wants to eat. During the day it's about every 2 hours. But that first stretch after bring put down, she seems to be ok without a feeding for 5-6 hrs. She gets up once at night for a bottle, then in the morning does have two in an hour or so. As for the swaddling-the other s techniques don't seem to with for us without swaddling first.
Does anyone find it difficult to sleep when baby sleeps? My LO is such a loud sleeper and every time I start to drift off, he gets loud again.
I wear ear plugs at night (DH and dog both snore). Helps drown out her little baby noises too but I'm still able to hear her (she's right next to my bed) when she starts to wake up.
Does anyone find it difficult to sleep when baby sleeps? My LO is such a loud sleeper and every time I start to drift off, he gets loud again.
Do you run white noise or a tower fan? It helps baby sleep better and it will drown out the little noises so you can sleep better. You'll still be able to hear the important stuff.
You know what I hate? The anxiety I feel when baby is sleeping and I'm not. Baby went to bed real early tonight and I'm afraid as soon as I fall asleep she will wake up. But I'm sitting her wondering what I am doing up!! Argh it's maddening! Can't wait for a better schedule!
Baby - fast asleep Toddler - sleeping soundly Husband - snoozing hard Dog - snoring and dreaming Me - ...WIDE awake
this happens a lot and I have no one to blame since I have a family of super sound sleepers . The pregnant me would have gone downstairs for a snack but I'm not supposed to be doing that now, right? Maybe just a small snack...
For some reason my MIL decided to stay over so I could get some extra rest...? This has been the worst night we've had.
Also- when I told my husband to buy 2 or 3 swaddlers and he buys one...& then baby pees on that one motn---i almost want to scream into the monitor (he sleeps downstairs due to train-like snoring) just to wake his ass up too.
Em hasn't been sleeping in the PNP too well overnight (though she naps in it just fine during the day), so tonight we are trying the crib out. Hence me camped out on the floor, because I'm still ridiculously not ready to have her in a different room and this one isn't big enough for an extra bed and I really should have bought a recliner instead of a glider...
ETA: it's been two whole hours since I first posted this, three since she finally calmed down enough to put in the crib to begin with. Em is still sleeping. Holy stuff.
ETA2: My tailbone hurts.
ETA3: We've skipped past our usual late-night comfort feeding. I reeeeeeally need to pump. But what if she wakes up?!
ETA4: I gave in and pumped, because my child has forsaken my boobs in exchange for an actual mattress to sleep on. Also, she's still asleep! Not for much longer if I don't quit getting up to check on her though...
ETA5: I spoke too soon! But holy heck, that's five whole hours of sleep. I will take it.
So.tired. DS2 has been eating frequently enough that I couldn't sleep between feeds/poops since 2am (and ate every 2hrs before that). DS has been awake for the day for over an hour. I hope last night was the one month growth spurt cluster...
LO is being super annoying tonight and stretching herself to the point of unlatching and then getting pissed and whining... I'm also trying to make our feedings quicker and making sure she's eating and not pacifying because I can't keep up with these 60-80 minute feedings. Diva needs to get it together.
Super annoyed...DD had a TERRIBLE night last night...she was up until 2 am screaming and wanted to eat eat eat and wasn't happy unless she had boob or bottle in her mouth. DH took her when she woke up this morning at 6 so I could get a little extra rest so I told him I'd stay up with her tonight so he could go to bed at 8:30. DD ate at 7:30 so I was expecting her to be up at 10/10:30 to eat and figured I'd be able to get to sleep after that until her next wake to feed in 3 hours. She's been asleep in the swing for 4 hours now...this never happens. I want to go to sleep but now that it's been 4 hours and we are in the living room I know that it's just a matter of time before she wakes up ready to eat again. Gah, I could've been sleeping a long time ago! I wish babies sent us memos letting us know when a nice long stretch of sleep was about to happen.
I feel like I've been playing sleep whack-a-mole with the boys today. No overlapping naps, and overnight so far just as I get one to sleep, the other wakes and wants me. DS never has more than one wakeup without being sick lately (and he's not showing any symptoms ).Wtf is going on? Mama needs some sleep!
I feel like I've been playing sleep whack-a-mole with the boys today. No overlapping naps, and overnight so far just as I get one to sleep, the other wakes and wants me. DS never has more than one wakeup without being sick lately (and he's not showing any symptoms ).Wtf is going on? Mama needs some sleep!
I don't know how you're doing it... All I can say is you're a super mom/woman! I thought one was hard and then I remembered people have toddlers with newborns... I wish I had some sort of advice, but just wanted you to know you're amazing!
Big dilemma. I've had to pee for 2 hours but Holly is asleep on my chest and I don't want to wake the beast! If she wakes up she'll just want to eat and my boobies need a break after last nights cluster feeding marathon. I'm tired but I have to pee so bad I can't fall asleep.
I feel like I've been playing sleep whack-a-mole with the boys today. No overlapping naps, and overnight so far just as I get one to sleep, the other wakes and wants me. DS never has more than one wakeup without being sick lately (and he's not showing any symptoms ).Wtf is going on? Mama needs some sleep!
This has been me tonight too. DD1 never wakes up at night but she's been really difficult tonight. Twice tonight I had just gotten DD2 back down after eating and DD1 walks in our room crying and woke her up. She ended up in our bed cuddling with daddy so I think I can get a couple hours before she's up for the day. I hope you get some rest!
Hope you can get a couple hours too. My toddler gets up pretty soon. My baby just went to sleep. I am hoping for anything I can get. Even 10 solid minutes, at this point in life I will take whatever the kids graciously allow me.
Warning: Long, late night, life, soul searching thoughts.
I was just thinking about a girl I met briefly last summer. She owns a yoga studio that my best friend goes to. She was pregnant and due late August. I went to one of her classes when I was visiting my friend.
She was 7 months pregnant at the time. She did all the right things: ate healthy, worked out, and had a hippie organic approach to pregnancy. She was the example of a "perfect pregnant woman".
In early September, I got a text from my friend. She told me the girl had lost her baby, at full term. It was around the same time I found out I was pregnant. I was devastated for her.
I don't know the circumstances of her loss but I do know she was fighting for her life as well. To this day, almost a year later, I find myself lurking her Facebook to see how she is doing. One post that really stuck with me was, she wrote that her heart and soul once lived in her belly and she regrets all the times she complained about the baby kicking, head butting her uterus, or wanting him out of her body in those last few days. She would do anything to feel those things again.
Now that I've given birth, I often think about how lucky I am to bring a healthy little baby home with me. I can't even think or begin to relate to how she must feel each and every day.
So, when my son is crying and needing me or when I'm at my wits end with him or when I'm sleep deprived and exhausted. I just think about how if I lost him, all those memories would be fond memories and what I would give to have them back.
I just feel so lucky to be at home with him right now, spending our time together. Sure, I'll complain about him not letting me do things around the house. But it really keeps me grounded to know that there's a girl I know out there, who would do anything to experience what I am experiencing right now. The good and the bad.
I was happy to hear that she is taking a year off and try to start a family again. I really wish her the best of luck for her rainbow baby.
@tgortney I have a similar story to this. A woman I work with, her daughter lost her baby the day after he was born due to an infection. Like you, I cannot imagine the pain the poor woman must've gone through and still feels for that loss. It makes me so incredibly grateful for what I have. I was really thrilled to hear that she's pregnant again currently.
@ayeshaohara I think I can read all the stories I want on here and feel sad but when it's someone I've met personally, it becomes reality. Truly humbling to know we have healthy kicking, screaming, and crying babies.
My SIL is a paramedic. She came over to visit our son, she was changing his diaper and he was screaming and crying (he hates getting wiped). She said something we thought was really weird at the time, "I love crying babies". Then she explained, she's been on too many calls that had to do with infants and a crying baby is a breathing baby.
LO has been awake since 2:30, I had her almost asleep so put her in their basinette five minutes ago. Now to wait and keep my fingers crossed that she falls asleep
We had a good stretch from 10-230 and now she's weaseled her arms out of her swaddle and wailing after I already fed her from 245-315. Also, why must babies scream bloody murder at you when hangry as if you aren't trying to feed them stat but it obviously takes more than 1 second??
We had a good stretch from 10-230 and now she's weaseled her arms out of her swaddle and wailing after I already fed her from 245-315. Also, why must babies scream bloody murder at you when hangry as if you aren't trying to feed them stat but it obviously takes more than 1 second??
Haha yes! Holly gets so pissed "waiting" for the boob.
3 something am. 4 hours of clustering. And counting. But think we are approaching the end of this round of clustering. Baby just popped off and started laughing a lot in sleep. Pretty cute. But baby could wake back up easily. This round might not be over. Hopefully I can get an hour or two as we have a family outing planned for in 3 hours (to allow driving time to get to the activity). We should be back home by 10:30 am.
I haven't had any sleep since last night. But this weekend DH is home so I know I am certain to get a nap during the day! If baby gets fussy DH pops baby into the ergo and off they go around the house. I swear the ergo has sleepy dust in it.
I'm up with you too @camillaandcarson! He wailed and cluster fed from 8-12 and then slept for 4 hours when MH took over and is awake again since MH left for work. Of course.
The universe seems to have decided that I don't need sleep. I tried going to bed at 10 once DS2 was asleep and have managed to only sleep from 2am to almost 3am. Repeat toddler wakeups and extended newborn wakeups. 6:30 and nursing and I can hear DS1 rustling around in his room. Gah!
The universe seems to have decided that I don't need sleep. I tried going to bed at 10 once DS2 was asleep and have managed to only sleep from 2am to almost 3am. Repeat toddler wakeups and extended newborn wakeups. 6:30 and nursing and I can hear DS1 rustling around in his room. Gah!
The universe seems to have decided that I don't need sleep. I tried going to bed at 10 once DS2 was asleep and have managed to only sleep from 2am to almost 3am. Repeat toddler wakeups and extended newborn wakeups. 6:30 and nursing and I can hear DS1 rustling around in his room. Gah!
I hope you were/are able to get a nap in today!!
Thank you, but nope! Just got both boys to stop screaming at me because one woke the other up at naptime, so they were both really pissed. (Serious props to twin mamas...is this every naptime for you guys?) Now DH and I have a quick weekend project to try to do.
I'm about to lose my shit. I held it in (no pun intended) for four days. My mom and my sister came over to help hang pictures in the nursery. My mom is like ocd clean and my sister is just like her. I'm not. I'm the black sheep of clean. I am super cluttered and I function well that way. I know where my stuff is. Well they also took it upon themselves to declutter the nursery as in reorganize the drawers and rearrange the décor on the dresser and shelves and rearrange the bookshelf. They did this in such a condescending manner. Basically talking down to me bc of my methods of organization don't match theirs. They folded every freaking onesie. Then to top it off I was going to stay at their house for a few days so I could sleep some and they could spend time with the baby since they live out of town. Basically I spent four days hearing how everything I'm doing is wrong. We aren't strict with our feeding schedule. We feed her regularly but we try to let her cue us as to when she is hungry as long as it's not more than four hours between feedings. My mom got bent out of shape bc she thinks it should be three hours on the dot and I got yelled at several times.
So after DH brought me and DD home I immediately had to release some steam and pull everything out of the drawers and unfold them, jumble them up and cram them back in bc that works better for me and bc I was told in a condescending tone not to let it get back the way it was. Im about to lose my shit bc I'm also tempted to just sweep everything off the dresser tops into the floor and I want to dump the bookshelf (and redo it back my way) into the floor and then I want to yell and scream F you at the top of my lungs bc that is how they have made me feel. I want to kick the doors and punch the walls. I need the release but I can't bc DH would get mad bc he likes what they did. Most people won't understand. But I had to live with that BS from them for 26 years.
Nerdymama15 - Enjoy reading this board linked below for late night feedings and tips on dealing with family being "helpful" (yet only on their own terms and/or served with a side or sides of condescending, mean, passive aggressive, rude, entitled, etc.)
@nerdymama15 I'm sorry. I'm also the not-a-clean-freak member of my family, and I've had to deal with commentary about it too (though in my case it's usually from my dad, and in the form of a backhanded joke here and there - nothing on the level of what you're dealing with).
I've tried to do the "responsible" thing and keep my home neat and clean, but then I start feeling irrationally angry and anxious while I'm in the process and I end up feeling drained and depressed by the time I'm done. So not a lot of cleaning actually happens around here that isn't done by DH. Not sure how it's going to work out now that I'm doing the SAHM thing.
I don't have any advice for you, just a nod in solidarity. Hope you're feeling a little bit better by the time you see this.
Re: Night owl thread- baby edition
Toddler - sleeping soundly
Husband - snoozing hard
Dog - snoring and dreaming
Me - ...WIDE awake
this happens a lot and I have no one to blame since I have a family of super sound sleepers
ETA: it's been two whole hours since I first posted this, three since she finally calmed down enough to put in the crib to begin with. Em is still sleeping. Holy stuff.
ETA2: My tailbone hurts.
ETA3: We've skipped past our usual late-night comfort feeding. I reeeeeeally need to pump. But what if she wakes up?!
ETA4: I gave in and pumped, because my child has forsaken my boobs in exchange for an actual mattress to sleep on. Also, she's still asleep! Not for much longer if I don't quit getting up to check on her though...
ETA5: I spoke too soon! But holy heck, that's five whole hours of sleep. I will take it.
My toddler gets up pretty soon. My baby just went to sleep. I am hoping for anything I can get. Even 10 solid minutes, at this point in life I will take whatever the kids graciously allow me.
I was just thinking about a girl I met briefly last summer. She owns a yoga studio that my best friend goes to. She was pregnant and due late August. I went to one of her classes when I was visiting my friend.
She was 7 months pregnant at the time. She did all the right things: ate healthy, worked out, and had a hippie organic approach to pregnancy. She was the example of a "perfect pregnant woman".
In early September, I got a text from my friend. She told me the girl had lost her baby, at full term. It was around the same time I found out I was pregnant. I was devastated for her.
I don't know the circumstances of her loss but I do know she was fighting for her life as well. To this day, almost a year later, I find myself lurking her Facebook to see how she is doing. One post that really stuck with me was, she wrote that her heart and soul once lived in her belly and she regrets all the times she complained about the baby kicking, head butting her uterus, or wanting him out of her body in those last few days. She would do anything to feel those things again.
Now that I've given birth, I often think about how lucky I am to bring a healthy little baby home with me. I can't even think or begin to relate to how she must feel each and every day.
So, when my son is crying and needing me or when I'm at my wits end with him or when I'm sleep deprived and exhausted. I just think about how if I lost him, all those memories would be fond memories and what I would give to have them back.
I just feel so lucky to be at home with him right now, spending our time together. Sure, I'll complain about him not letting me do things around the house. But it really keeps me grounded to know that there's a girl I know out there, who would do anything to experience what I am experiencing right now. The good and the bad.
I was happy to hear that she is taking a year off and try to start a family again. I really wish her the best of luck for her rainbow baby.
My SIL is a paramedic. She came over to visit our son, she was changing his diaper and he was screaming and crying (he hates getting wiped). She said something we thought was really weird at the time, "I love crying babies". Then she explained, she's been on too many calls that had to do with infants and a crying baby is a breathing baby.
4 hours of clustering. And counting. But think we are approaching the end of this round of clustering. Baby just popped off and started laughing a lot in sleep. Pretty cute.
But baby could wake back up easily. This round might not be over.
Hopefully I can get an hour or two as we have a family outing planned for in 3 hours (to allow driving time to get to the activity). We should be back home by 10:30 am.
I haven't had any sleep since last night. But this weekend DH is home so I know I am certain to get a nap during the day!
So after DH brought me and DD home I immediately had to release some steam and pull everything out of the drawers and unfold them, jumble them up and cram them back in bc that works better for me and bc I was told in a condescending tone not to let it get back the way it was. Im about to lose my shit bc I'm also tempted to just sweep everything off the dresser tops into the floor and I want to dump the bookshelf (and redo it back my way) into the floor and then I want to yell and scream F you at the top of my lungs bc that is how they have made me feel. I want to kick the doors and punch the walls. I need the release but I can't bc DH would get mad bc he likes what they did. Most people won't understand. But I had to live with that BS from them for 26 years.
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I've tried to do the "responsible" thing and keep my home neat and clean, but then I start feeling irrationally angry and anxious while I'm in the process and I end up feeling drained and depressed by the time I'm done. So not a lot of cleaning actually happens around here that isn't done by DH. Not sure how it's going to work out now that I'm doing the SAHM thing.
I don't have any advice for you, just a nod in solidarity. Hope you're feeling a little bit better by the time you see this.