Guys I just want to have a guilty confession and it can't wait for Friday. I'm a HUGE and I mean HUGE lover of wine and festivals and wine festivals in particular. It's that time of year here in VA and I'm a tad depressed I can't TASTE any of the things!! Lol my FI is taking me to the Farmers Market Subday just so I can go walk around and taste things and be outdoors. We are going to all the wine festivals but I have to watch everyone drink. Ok I will call the waaahmbulance now ugh!
Ok so I bit and am working my way through the catfish. It wouldn't be so painful if it didn't take so long to get to the next page. We had one on my last BMB too. It was effing weird, and a lot of the reason why I (and a lot of others on that BMB) made a new SN.
Also I have to agree that TB is a lot more boring now that the snark has been locked down upon. It was entertaining.
ETA: well that took an hour. Bitches be crazy. Off to bed.
I don't post much on FB and didn't post anything myself about being pregnant or the birth of my son. We sent an email announcement to close family and friends (some we told on the phone). My SIL was allowed to post about me being pregnant to her own timeline, but not until after we'd sent the email and I keep my wall locked so people can't randomly post stuff. To most people on FB, they didn't know I'd had a kid until I changed my profile pic on my first mother's day to one where I was wearing my son. Since I'm not big into sharing it didn't seem weird to me at all. I never post pics up there either, just ones that family or friends put up occasionally after visits. ::shrugs:: I have no intention of posting anything to FB this time either. It's just not my style. (I'm old).
I couldn't sleep last night so I read the Catfish thread and WOW, just speechless. I'm not entirely surprise that there was a catfish on the board or that it was so elaborate. What I found shocking was how freaking rude the people were about the "newbs", it was so completely Mean Girls I couldn't even stand it!
I couldn't sleep last night so I read the Catfish thread and WOW, just speechless. I'm not entirely surprise that there was a catfish on the board or that it was so elaborate. What I found shocking was how freaking rude the people were about the "newbs", it was so completely Mean Girls I couldn't even stand it!
That's the thing though, outing the catfish happened AFTER the births of their babies -- so most of them had been contributing to that community for over a year and had grown really close to each other (including close to the catfish). I would be annoyed if some random poster who hardly contributed jumped in on that, too. I don't think they were rude at all.
I miss the old TB days where people could actually say what they felt without being warned by the bump gods.
@kmalls I had no issue with how they were to the catfish, that part made total sense I would be the same way. I was speaking just to how they were talking so rudely to and about "newbies", it was downright mean girls.
@ladyshark311 - I know, I followed what you were saying. My point is that NONE of them were newbs, even the posters that were supposedly on the receiving end of the "mean girls." I don't think anyone was being rude or mean to anyone else -- their point was that if you weren't a regular poster, stay out of it.
@ladyshark311 I know how you feel, I have had no problems whatsoever with not drinking, it just hasn't bothered me at all.... until we went on vacation to Las Vegas, where everyone drinks all of the time. Especially the day we had a cabana by the pool where all the drinks were paid by his company. I was so jealous of everyone! I ended up just getting a virgin pina colada or two. One night we were at a restaurant and the manager came over to give us free champagne for our anniversary, what a bummer I couldn't have any! I had a small sip and it was so good! The rest of the trip, I would just smell and take a teeny sip of whatever wine DH ordered. I doubt it could cause any problems to take a tiny sip of something, just to taste it (not a chug, just barely swallowing any). Although it could make you more sad!
@Blonde1817 Thankfully my FI is kind enough that he will never drink any of my favorites and when we go out to dinner or anything he purposely orders drinks he knows I would never want lol! You are right though, even just a sip wouldn't be good and I would be riddled with guilt anyway because frankly I'm just neurotic! Plus we all know one sip/glass of wine is just not enough. I'm just looking forward to how great that first sip will be someday.
Oh @ladyshark311 I feel your pain. I'm also in VA and My and DH's day off routine is a hike and then a trip to at least one vineyard to split a bottle. Especially in the warmer months! Boo. Hiss.
Totally right there with you @ladyshark311!! I just got not one, but two emails to buy tickets to our fave wine festivals and it made me so sad. I guess I could go just to go...but it just wouldn't be the same. And this weekend is our first anniversary and just knowing I can't partake in any wine or champagne makes me feel like, why bother celebrating?
Pretty sure this will be me in October, mere minutes after bringing baby home....
Absolutely agree @ladyshark311 ! Every year, I go to this big Portuguese street festival in June where they sell sangria in those quart plastic containers you get take-out soup in, and they just stab the top and stick a straw in. I'm going to really miss my sangria quarts =(
All this talk about wine is making me cry a little. SO said the other night "I miss drinking wine with you while we cook dinner." and it made me feel so sad for him.
But mostly I'm sad for me. @LMNOBaby, that picture is accurate. I'll make sure to stock up on my fave reds before the due date!
@annabenanna SO is forever telling me she misses her drinking partner. Wine is always my drink of choice and was our go-to cooking dinner together and watching movies, etc together, too. Beer on the weekends in the sunshine was also a big favorite. Silly memories to be so nostalgic over (I feel silly about it since its alcohol) but we know it's not forever. To keep some of the sadness at bay, I'll have a small glass of red on a full stomach every now and then if she's having some. I know it's a personal choice, but *i* feel like it's not hurting anything on the few occasions I have had one. Especially after I read a few articles and books about it.
My husband is the opposite haha. He's much more of an introvert and doesn't drink at all. I am very extroverted, moreso when drinking. Randomly, one night he happily told me "its so much quieter at home when you don't have wine with dinner." I tell him all the time life would be so much easier if he was the one to get pregnant (he doesn't drink, eats very healthy, runs marathons, had no fertility issues, is very go with the flow, etc.)
I don't understand the baby wearing thing. Not that I have anything against it, I actually don't understand the concept. Do you have your baby on you all the time? Are strollers not allowed? What are the rules?!
Me: 32 & DH: 37
Married: November 2014
TTC #1 Since: October 2015
BFP #1: 11/18/15 - CP BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16 IT'S A BOY!!!! DS Born 10/16/16
@ladyshark311 I will be anxiously waiting for this thread you mention in October/November, because I'll be pulling out my favorite crate and barrel wine glass and my favorite pinot, and doing all the selfies!
@sjo&thetwins ; sigh. Our poor partners.... but I do get what you mean about having a glass of wine. Honestly, i am planning to have a 4oz pour in Greece when we go. Like you, I will have it with a full belly. I read "Expecting Better" and it has me convinced. You should hear my Russian friend (no kids)... she was like "oh but Anna, for a healthy pregnancy you can do 6oz of red a day. That's how we do in Russia." And I'm like "no wonder nobody can drink a Russian under the table!"
I don't understand the baby wearing thing. Not that I have anything against it, I actually don't understand the concept. Do you have your baby on you all the time? Are strollers not allowed? What are the rules?!
Haha I still have no idea, @MRSCORKER! Attachment parenting advocates baby wearing virtually all the time. For me, I just used the Ergo or the mei tai (look it up, seriously the best purchase I ever made) during grocery shopping or anytime DS was freaking out and I couldn't figure out why. I still considered myself a baby wearer!
I don't understand the baby wearing thing. Not that I have anything against it, I actually don't understand the concept. Do you have your baby on you all the time? Are strollers not allowed? What are the rules?!
It seems to be getting a lil crazy in America with the zillion dollar carriers and everything but...
Here in Tanzania babywearing is totally out of nessacity. Strollers are impossibly expensive for local people and not to mention most of the roads are so terrible you wouldn't get anywhere. Plus to baby wear here you just need a piece of local fabric which every woman has plenty of. Day care pretty much doesn't exist either so mothers are always carrying their babies every where
like so or for siblings to carry their youngers (clearly not my photos)
I thought I would have a super hard time with the diet coke and not care about the alcohol. Nope! The diet coke I can take or leave at this point (I let myself have one on the weekends and half the time I forget I can have one until the weekend is over). But damn, I miss a good cocktail. I've had a few faux ones but they're not the same. And I've really had a craving for tapas but without sangria I just don't see the point . . .
I may have a few sips of wine while I'm in Paris. Probably not a full glass because I don't think I'll need or want a full glass, but I have no issue with taking a sip or two of whatever DH is drinking.
DH and I: Early/mid 30s Married 7/15
TTC #1 as of 8/15
BFP 11/21/15 -- MC confirmed 12/1/15 BFP #2 2/18/16
Additionally I think the hardest part about sticking to not drinking is that most Tanzanians who drink don't believe there is any correlation in drinking during pregnancy and ailments of the child (or FAS for that matter). Even DH says his mom drank beer a couple times a week through all her pregnancies (though now sober) and there were never problems.
I don't understand the baby wearing thing. Not that I have anything against it, I actually don't understand the concept. Do you have your baby on you all the time? Are strollers not allowed? What are the rules?!
I'm a FTM so these are just my plans, but I want to baby wear for convenience, mostly when out of the house or doing stuff. My husband's cousin was very strictly baby wearing (never saw the baby in a stroller, rarely in a seat, was always kind of attached) which worked for them, but I don't think will work for me. What I do love about the folks I have seen babywear is the convenience of having hands free, while the baby is still content and feeling held. I don't plan on getting an expensive carrier, just some wraps and learning how to tie them, mostly for when we are going out of the house. But that's just my two cents, I'm sure some BTDT moms will have more insight.
Okay, since I shared my babywearing mean girl story, I'll share why I'm looking into babywearing. It's not a full time thing for me. I want it to be another option for me to use when I don't want to use a stroller somewhere. For example, stroller drive me NUTS at craft shows. I rather have my hands free to look at things instead of worrying about nipping someone in the heel with my stroller. I've registered for a stroller on my registry, and already have a caddy for the car seat, but I wanted another option. I like options. I also like it because it does encourage more skin to skin or closer contact. I don't know much about the whole attachment parenting concept, so I can't speak about that, but that isn't the reasoning for us to do it. It's like sports... I'm not a season ticketholder to a team, but i'd like see what it's about and go to a couple of games.
@scostel2 and @Piperella ---- that's my view on babywearing too. I wanna do it for convenience! Like for hikes, or shopping, or traveling.... but I want to be able to push baby in a stroller too.
I just found out that one of the barre studios I go to, has a "babywearing" barre class where you wear your baby as you workout. Curious to try it and wonder how that works?
I don't understand the baby wearing thing. Not that I have anything against it, I actually don't understand the concept. Do you have your baby on you all the time? Are strollers not allowed? What are the rules?!
It seems to be getting a lil crazy in America with the zillion dollar carriers and everything but...
Here in Tanzania babywearing is totally out of nessacity. Strollers are impossibly expensive for local people and not to mention most of the roads are so terrible you wouldn't get anywhere. Plus to baby wear here you just need a piece of local fabric which every woman has plenty of. Day care pretty much doesn't exist either so mothers are always carrying their babies every where
like so or for siblings to carry their youngers (clearly not my photos)
When I was in TZ, my host mom taught me how to carry her baby using a kanga. I really need to find some pictures, loved that kid! I get the necessity of it in places like TZ, I guess I don't understand the movement here in the US. I mean, I plan to use an ergo or another type of carrier in certain situations but I didn't realize it was a whole big thing. I just figured, you do it when convenient/necessary.
Me: 32 & DH: 37
Married: November 2014
TTC #1 Since: October 2015
BFP #1: 11/18/15 - CP BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16 IT'S A BOY!!!! DS Born 10/16/16
@kmolleltz , those pictures remind me of when we lived in Nigeria briefly.... My mom and I went to the seafood market to get some prawns... We were looking at one of the seller's prawns (she had a baby on her back), but another seller called us over and stated her prawns were fresher and bigger (they were). She too had a baby on her back... so my mom bought from the 2nd seller.... While my mom was pulling out some money to pay, the two sellers started getting ready to fist fight---with the babies on their back!!!! My mom was like "stop stop! I'll buy from you both!!!!" Ha.
@AllytheKid, you're not alone. I like my red wine, but I also love to smoke with S.O. There's nothing... absolutely nothing better than stoned sex. Amiright? We went to Colorado last October, and was amazed at how awesome it was to walk in to a store and just buy. We did the same in Seattle last July.
yeah baby wearing for me is solely for supermarket, Boardwalk, places I don't wanna wrangle the stroller
You're Jersey too right? The boardwalk is exactly what I think of as perfect for baby wearing haha! Also, my SIL taught me that baby wearing is perfect for any parties/events where weird extended family members aggressively try to hold the baby all the time or pass them around to strangers. If you're wearing the kid, people are less inclined to "take them off your hands".
yeah baby wearing for me is solely for supermarket, Boardwalk, places I don't wanna wrangle the stroller
You're Jersey too right? The boardwalk is exactly what I think of as perfect for baby wearing haha! Also, my SIL taught me that baby wearing is perfect for any parties/events where weird extended family members aggressively try to hold the baby all the time or pass them around to strangers. If you're wearing the kid, people are less inclined to "take them off your hands".
This is a really good point! I will be wearing my baby to all extended family get togethers now. Lol
Me: 32 & DH: 37
Married: November 2014
TTC #1 Since: October 2015
BFP #1: 11/18/15 - CP BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16 IT'S A BOY!!!! DS Born 10/16/16
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Also I have to agree that TB is a lot more boring now that the snark has been locked down upon. It was entertaining.
ETA: well that took an hour. Bitches be crazy. Off to bed.
So far no one here gives me catfish vibes.... I don't think..... But hey catfish, if you're out there, we're all watching for you now!
I miss the old TB days where people could actually say what they felt without being warned by the bump gods.
It's a boy!
Pretty sure this will be me in October, mere minutes after bringing baby home....
I've already got an idea for an October/November thread "Reunited and it feels so good", we can just post selfies with our first glasses of wine!
But mostly I'm sad for me. @LMNOBaby, that picture is accurate. I'll make sure to stock up on my fave reds before the due date!
I just saw this and felt the need to share
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
@sjo&thetwins ; sigh. Our poor partners.... but I do get what you mean about having a glass of wine. Honestly, i am planning to have a 4oz pour in Greece when we go. Like you, I will have it with a full belly. I read "Expecting Better" and it has me convinced. You should hear my Russian friend (no kids)... she was like "oh but Anna, for a healthy pregnancy you can do 6oz of red a day. That's how we do in Russia." And I'm like "no wonder nobody can drink a Russian under the table!"
Here in Tanzania babywearing is totally out of nessacity. Strollers are impossibly expensive for local people and not to mention most of the roads are so terrible you wouldn't get anywhere. Plus to baby wear here you just need a piece of local fabric which every woman has plenty of. Day care pretty much doesn't exist either so mothers are always carrying their babies every where
like so
or for siblings to carry their youngers
(clearly not my photos)
I may have a few sips of wine while I'm in Paris. Probably not a full glass because I don't think I'll need or want a full glass, but I have no issue with taking a sip or two of whatever DH is drinking.
Married 7/15
BFP #2 2/18/16
Even DH says his mom drank beer a couple times a week through all her pregnancies (though now sober) and there were never problems.
OH cultural differences.
I'm a FTM so these are just my plans, but I want to baby wear for convenience, mostly when out of the house or doing stuff. My husband's cousin was very strictly baby wearing (never saw the baby in a stroller, rarely in a seat, was always kind of attached) which worked for them, but I don't think will work for me. What I do love about the folks I have seen babywear is the convenience of having hands free, while the baby is still content and feeling held. I don't plan on getting an expensive carrier, just some wraps and learning how to tie them, mostly for when we are going out of the house. But that's just my two cents, I'm sure some BTDT moms will have more insight.
I just found out that one of the barre studios I go to, has a "babywearing" barre class where you wear your baby as you workout. Curious to try it and wonder how that works?
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
I can NOT be the only person here waiting to smoke pot again...
I baby wore for convenience, but he's too big now and kicks me and pulls my hair so we are back to steollers.
@AllytheKid, you're not alone. I like my red wine, but I also love to smoke with S.O. There's nothing... absolutely nothing better than stoned sex. Amiright? We went to Colorado last October, and was amazed at how awesome it was to walk in to a store and just buy. We did the same in Seattle last July.
You're Jersey too right? The boardwalk is exactly what I think of as perfect for baby wearing haha! Also, my SIL taught me that baby wearing is perfect for any parties/events where weird extended family members aggressively try to hold the baby all the time or pass them around to strangers. If you're wearing the kid, people are less inclined to "take them off your hands".
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16