Dead husband, waking me up for sex when you come to bed and then promptly falling asleep and snoring as loud as appears humanly possible is a dick move. You're getting up at 6 with Reese. Love, your annoyed, pregnant wife.
It's a girl!!! Apologies in advance for huge pics as I'm mobile bumping. We had to make our own pink frosting (story is in "sex reveal" thread). What a whirlwind this has been, but I'm soooo excited and happy to experience the next adventure of raising a baby girl!
Congrats @RedMar! Very frustrating to hear what you went through with the bakery but those pics are awesome! And your son looks so excited about his little sister.
Fx @ Soon2bemissG!
I've been craving tomato soup in a bread bowl from Boudin for weeks. And DH and I may have driven 20 minutes to our closest Boudin on the chance they had soup ready to serve at 9:30 am (they did!) and I may have gotten an extra serving and soup bowl to go for later...so freaking good.
Oh mannn so I went to target today after my fabulous pedicure adventure so I could look for some bathing suits. When I asked the fitting room attendant (who was in her 50s) if I could try them on, she responded "yes but you have to leave the basket out here. I know, it's retarded". I looked at her with a very confused look on my face (because that word makes me CRINGE) and proceeded into the dressing room.
Afterwards, I went over to Carter's to check out their sale (which is amazing by the way) and stocked up on some girls' clothes to boost my mood. As I was perusing the racks, I overhead a grandmother (again in her 50s) say to the associate "well I can't buy her a winter coat bc I know she won't wear it. Her parents don't let her put it on under the car seat, so they have one of those cover things. It's stupid if you ask me." The salesperson pretended she just didn't hear it to appease the other shoppers in the store (as they were looking over in disgust). I understand grandma comes from a different generation of car seat safety, but holy shit, trust your kids' instincts that they're doing what's best for their babies.
@RedMar Ignorance about car seat safety bugs me so much. Especially when somebody is trying to tell me it doesn't matter. My mother in law told me once that she thinks it's stupid, because she didn't have one when she was a baby and she turned out fine. I asked "What about the ones that didn't turn out fine?" She stopped talking about it then. Which is all that matters, because my kids won't be going anywhere with her.
I could use some support. I have been a blubbering mess all day and last night. I can't remember the last time I cried this much.
The super short version is I have had a dog (mumu) for 5 years, he is a 7yo Jack Russel. 95% of the time he is a great dog. the other 5% he is a crazy horrible dog who will bite. His bites are pretty superficial but I still have to live in fear that he will snap. It really sometimes feels like I am in a domestic abuse situation. He loves to steal things that he isn't supposed to have. We have been working for years on his issue but it still isn't good enough.
Last night was kind of the last straw. Over a stupid toilet bowl brush that he stole for no reason and I got bit again. I finally told my husband that I couldn't live like this anymore. We are currently trying to find a rescue that will take him despite his aggressive behavior. I have no idea what I will be able if we can't find one because my only other option is to euthanize him. Even the thought of that brings on immediate hysteria, but I know there is no way I will be able to keep him with the new baby coming. It makes me feel so guilty.
@RedMar that's ridiculous. My MIL thinks children are fine in car seats with jackets too. I did it 7 years ago with my daughter, but once I knew better, I stopped. She goes as far as to say how it's unsafe for children to be without jackets in the winter. Um, have you not heard of warming up a car?!
Wife to A; Mama to C (2009), N (2011), H (2014) & baby F due 09/16/16
@kosmo86 I'm so sorry. I would absolutely see if a local rescue has advice or options for you. I'm not sure where you live but in my area (northern CA) there are many options for pups. I've seen certain groups rehab doggies, have them live with a pack that rectifies the behavior, offer specialized training for particular behavior, etc. This sounds like such a hard situation, I would call around and see what your options are. I don't necessarily think euthanizing is the only way, having worked in shelters before I've seen a lot of options, but again idk where you live nor what options there are around you. It's definitely worth spending time calling, asking around, posting on Facebook for help and input, etc!
@kosmo86 He is adorable btw I would almost offer to work with him if I didn't have my spoiled brat doodle over here. I'm sure someone or a solution will come up! We also have the tagg/whistle gps tracker btw
@mom2adoodle we are starting to email around to different rescue groups for help. It would still be hard to give him up to someone else but much better than euthanasia. The tagg tracker is awesome! We have a lot of woods near us and ever since he was gone for 24 hours he always has it on!
Me: 32 DH: 31
TTC #2 since January 2018
Baby #1 DD Born 8/25/2016 BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
@kosmo86 -- that is so hard. We had a similar situation--our dog hadn't actually broken skin, but had snapped and made contact a few times. We tried for a year to have him home with our baby and it was sooooo stressful. We had a ton of gates and a crazy in and out system to keep everyone away from everyone else. In the end, we were all miserable, including the dog. We were able to find an agency to work with us and he had a new home in about a week's time (being cute helps!) I know the situations are different, but I hope you have success and find peace too. We shed so many tears-- we didnt want to "give up" on him--but we also had to put our kiddo's safety first. Best of luck to you. I really do hope you can find a great agency to help you out.
I'm bringing my pup to his first pro baseball game tomorrow! I'm excited to get some sunshine with my friends but it's always a little nerve wracking bringing him new places - I never know how he'll do. Though he always does awesome and my worries are always unnecessary. I mean he's flown on a plane without problems - he can handle a baseball game, right?!
@kosmo86 I'm so sorry you're going through this. Id be an emotional wreck as well. My friend recently had to put her cat down bc it scratched and but her son. It sounds like you're doing the best thing for your family and good luck with the search!
@kosmo86 I'm sorry to hear that, but at the end of the day you have to do what is best for you and for the safety of your baby. Just a suggestion if you haven't looked into it yet, is to get in touch with an animal behaviorist (not a trainer). I have seen them work wonders with aggressive animals.
@kosmo86 I am sorry you are going through having to re-home your dog. Please make sure you that you look into every possible avenue of finding him a new home. It's probably going to be an unpopular opinion here but I don't think killing an animal for behavioral problems should even be an option. I hate that vets will even allow you to bring in an animal to be "put down" that doesn't have a serious medical reason for it. I hope that everything works out and that you are able to find him somewhere to go.
@veramali I would almost 100% agree with you. The mere thought of even putting down my dog makes my stomach go and knots and my knees weak. We have been through training and vets, we have discussed medication which my vet says will not work. Currently all we can do is manage is his problems. We have child locks on the cabinets, no books can be on lower shelves, all closest must be kept closed, trash has to be hidden, we buried bricks along the entire perimeter of our yard. We walk him, run him, play games with him to help stimulate his brain. We spend no less than an hour a day devoted to him. This is not a simple my dog is too much work lets kill it situation.
If he was any bigger of a dog I would have no choice but to put him down. 90% of rescues will not take him and no shelter will accept an aggressive dog, no matter the size. I have scars up my arm and hands from years of dealing with him. I hide the new bites from people and if someone asks I lie like an abused housewife and tell them I feel or was working in the yard. If there was not a baby on the way I would keep trying (and we are still trying and my husband has already contacted another trainer who specializes in these issues) but I can't live in fear of my dog anymore.
Me: 32 DH: 31
TTC #2 since January 2018
Baby #1 DD Born 8/25/2016 BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
Hit up Carter's tonight to check out this sale that some of you have been raving about (Yes, I'm the loser at Carter's at 8 pm on a Saturday night). WELL, I made off with $175 worth of clothing for $70!! I'm so pumped -- honestly it's probably good that we don't know the sex yet or I could have bought one of everything in the girls or boys section!
@kosmo86 I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this, that's got to be so tough. I hope you are able to find a family or rescue that will work with him -- there's got to be a family out there for the little guy that's the perfect fit!
Not that this is the same thing, but a long time ago, in my mid 20s, I had a dog with my (now) ex when we lived together. When we broke up, I kept the dog. With me as his owner, he was aggressive with other dogs and some humans, and even towards me sometimes even though he was also overly protective of me so it was weird. It broke my heart to have to give him up after a while but it was not safe to have him in my home (he was a big dog and getting very hard to control). Luckily, my ex took him in and has now had him for the past 7 years, and he is a perfect dog now. Once he was in the house with a man as his "master", he instantly became non-aggressive somehow, which is why I think he was just protecting me. The weird thing is, my ex is now married and as far as I know the dog is still doing very well with another female in the home. SO, long story short, some house holds just do not match with dogs but there will be some family out there that will be the right fit!
@kosmo86 I'm happy you're looking through all different options for your pup! Best of luck! I truly believe something will work out for the best
@veramali I felt like jumping in to back you because I am most definitely 100% behind you and your opinion. I've personally seen MANY MANY doggies make a turn for the better in a new home/setting. And at the same time I do think she's doing her best to look for positive alternatives for her pup. I think throwing out the term euthanizing can be quite jarring (at least it was for me) but I think it was just to emphasize her distress and helplessness of what to do.
@mom2adoodle right????? Ugh so annoying, but I try not to add fuel to their fire. Anyone who gets off on that shit is a real winner. Really? You had nothing better to do on a Saturday night?! Nice life lol.
@SLou24 I also scored BIG @ Carter's yesterday. Bought 16 items (fleeces, pants, onesies) for $32... Whattttt. I'm so excited to be filling my DDs (ok that was the first time I've used that term and it's amazing!!!!!) closet with this adorableness!
@RedMar I'm just catching up on here. I'm so sorry to hear about the cupcakes. I don't think I would have kept my cool and I think it is OK to write a very factual review including the conclusion. I can see the mistake but it a super sloppy unprofessional one! Take 15 seconds more to look at the rest. On the rando who doesn't go here WTF!? It is a big event that is your future and you handled it amazing.
Sharing a fun mock tail for those that are sad that it's drinking on a patio weather - husband took me to fancy dinner last night. They had a strawberry lemonade vodka drink that they made virgin for me. Muddled basil, a few squeezes of lemon, chopped fresh strawberries and topped with club soda.
First, I'm hoping carter's sale goes on until wednesday... that's the anatomy scan and I want to shop right after, will have to call mine to ask.
Also, I'm in nyc. The car ride took just over 7 hours. I showed up swollen... hands and feet. Blech. Then we walked about 7 miles with my in-laws which was good but my lower abdomen was so sore (dehydrated). The hotel is reminiscent of the tower of Terror, my in-laws are staying with relatives in their multimillion dollar nyc double apartment. We searched for something quick to eat but couldn't find anything, so I had had a bagel at dunkin at 930am, and next had a meal at 830pm... with some road snacks in between. Everyone (not husband thank god) got totally sloshed at dinner and we stayed there until 1030pm. Walked back to our room and got some dessert room service that was only ok, but hopefully on FILs tab! Today we go to the show then 7 hours back home and I miss my kiddo.
That was long, missing the bump action, will hopefully find a time to respond to individual posts on car ride home!!
@kosmo86 I'm so sorry you're in the situation where you have to give up your pup. We also have a 7 yr old Jack Russell who has behavioral issues (taking things and growling and snapping when we try to get them back). It's nothing compared to what you are going through, but he gave us a scare when DD was around 6 months old. For what ever reason, he started attacking DH's feet for no reason and unexpectedly. He was drawing blood even, which is unlike him. DH started taking his socks off when he got home from work and the behavior stopped, but there was a time where we had to consider what we were going to do as it wasn't going to be safe to have him around the baby if he was going after socked feet. I know it can't be easy to give him up, but just try to think about how a home without a baby is going to be better for him, too.
@RedMar Your son is adorable! I want to go to Carters and buy all the clothes! My only complaint of having a second girl... I can't justify buying any clothes for her yet. But it's a half hearted complaint because I'm equally happy to be saving the money.
@kosmo86I'm sorry to read what you are going through with your pup. My husky used to bite me when she was a puppy and I found a trainer that helped "break her" and she has been a different dog ever since. She taught me how to show my dominance and reinforce that I am alpha, not her. That was several years ago and she studied under someone who studied under Caesar Milan. But if you don't have the time, money or energy to do all of that, I definitely think you are doing the right thing by re-homing him. Good luck!!!
@Annas930 Your trip sounds awful! I hope the show at least made up for part of it!
Married: 3/21/15 First time mom to a human but have been a puppy mamma for over 12 years
So I recently posted that I had to miss my first hypnobirthing class last week because DH and I were both sick. Well, the instructor was so awesome and offered a make-up session (private 1x1) on Saturday. DH and I spent 2 hours with her and I am SO EXCITED to learn more about hypnobirthing!! Everything we have learned so far is right up my alley and I already feel more calm about the idea of giving birth. I highly recommend people look into this!
Married: 3/21/15 First time mom to a human but have been a puppy mamma for over 12 years
@RedMar What a weekend! I hope the disappointment of getting the wrong cupcakes has blown over and it can become a good story to tell. I'm glad the baker called you back to apologize and offered to make it up!
@kosmo86 Your heart sounds like it's in the right place and I hope you can find a solution that will keep everyone safe.
@AnnaS930 That sounds EXHAUSTING. Hopefully everyone finds better food options for you today!!
@kosmo86 I do understand what you are saying but I really want you to look into actual re-homing of your dog than just telling shelters you have an aggressive dog. From everything you've said, especially the "abused housewife" description it sounds like you've simply let your dog become the alpha in your home. Even if you try to hold him accountable for his behavior he is still sensing your fear so his behavior isn't going to change. It's not your fault but it's something that would be very hard to change once the animal has that mindset. I think he might be a perfect dog for someone else in a new environment.
@RedMar I'm just catching up on here. I'm so sorry to hear about the cupcakes. I don't think I would have kept my cool and I think it is OK to write a very factual review including the conclusion. I can see the mistake but it a super sloppy unprofessional one! Take 15 seconds more to look at the rest.
So much this, pleeeease please leave a review. I read your thread this morning and I was aghast for you. I'm glad the owner is trying to make some kind of amends, but that was (understandably so) a lot of stress heartbreak caused by one person's lack of attention to detail. Details matter, especially in that kind of a business.
September '16 - May Signature Challenge Awkward Family Fun
If you are the praying kind please send one up for my friend Caroline. Her husband passed away yesterday morning. He was 38 and in great shape. We don't know for sure what happened yet, he just didn't wake up yesterday morning. They have 2 beautiful girls (2&4)
Trigger warning.... My BFF who was about 5 weeks behind me texted to say she miscarried overnight. I've been in a daze since finding out and sitting here waiting for the show to begin just fighting back tears. For those who have unfortunately been through this heart-rending experience, do I send her anything? I've expressed my condolences and just don't know what else there is to do (knowing I can't fix anything just so she knows I care so deeply)
Re: April Randoms Thread
And super congrats @RedMar!! Your little one looks so excited to meet his little sister!
Fx @ Soon2bemissG!
I've been craving tomato soup in a bread bowl from Boudin for weeks. And DH and I may have driven 20 minutes to our closest Boudin on the chance they had soup ready to serve at 9:30 am (they did!) and I may have gotten an extra serving and soup bowl to go for later...so freaking good.
DD 10/4/02
DS due 9/28/16
Afterwards, I went over to Carter's to check out their sale (which is amazing by the way) and stocked up on some girls' clothes to boost my mood. As I was perusing the racks, I overhead a grandmother (again in her 50s) say to the associate "well I can't buy her a winter coat bc I know she won't wear it. Her parents don't let her put it on under the car seat, so they have one of those cover things. It's stupid if you ask me." The salesperson pretended she just didn't hear it to appease the other shoppers in the store (as they were looking over in disgust). I understand grandma comes from a different generation of car seat safety, but holy shit, trust your kids' instincts that they're doing what's best for their babies.
Overloaded with ignorance today, had to share.
Side note-I was just in Target today too! Can't stay away
The super short version is I have had a dog (mumu) for 5 years, he is a 7yo Jack Russel. 95% of the time he is a great dog. the other 5% he is a crazy horrible dog who will bite. His bites are pretty superficial but I still have to live in fear that he will snap. It really sometimes feels like I am in a domestic abuse situation. He loves to steal things that he isn't supposed to have. We have been working for years on his issue but it still isn't good enough.
Last night was kind of the last straw. Over a stupid toilet bowl brush that he stole for no reason and I got bit again. I finally told my husband that I couldn't live like this anymore. We are currently trying to find a rescue that will take him despite his aggressive behavior. I have no idea what I will be able if we can't find one because my only other option is to euthanize him. Even the thought of that brings on immediate hysteria, but I know there is no way I will be able to keep him with the new baby coming. It makes me feel so guilty.
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
I hope everything works out and you find a place for him
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
If he was any bigger of a dog I would have no choice but to put him down. 90% of rescues will not take him and no shelter will accept an aggressive dog, no matter the size. I have scars up my arm and hands from years of dealing with him. I hide the new bites from people and if someone asks I lie like an abused housewife and tell them I feel or was working in the yard. If there was not a baby on the way I would keep trying (and we are still trying and my husband has already contacted another trainer who specializes in these issues) but I can't live in fear of my dog anymore.
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
Not that this is the same thing, but a long time ago, in my mid 20s, I had a dog with my (now) ex when we lived together. When we broke up, I kept the dog. With me as his owner, he was aggressive with other dogs and some humans, and even towards me sometimes even though he was also overly protective of me so it was weird. It broke my heart to have to give him up after a while but it was not safe to have him in my home (he was a big dog and getting very hard to control). Luckily, my ex took him in and has now had him for the past 7 years, and he is a perfect dog now. Once he was in the house with a man as his "master", he instantly became non-aggressive somehow, which is why I think he was just protecting me. The weird thing is, my ex is now married and as far as I know the dog is still doing very well with another female in the home. SO, long story short, some house holds just do not match with dogs but there will be some family out there that will be the right fit!
@veramali I felt like jumping in to back you because I am most definitely 100% behind you and your opinion. I've personally seen MANY MANY doggies make a turn for the better in a new home/setting. And at the same time I do think she's doing her best to look for positive alternatives for her pup. I think throwing out the term euthanizing can be quite jarring (at least it was for me) but I think it was just to emphasize her distress and helplessness of what to do.
Now, do you want to know how I really feel??
Also, I'm in nyc. The car ride took just over 7 hours. I showed up swollen... hands and feet. Blech. Then we walked about 7 miles with my in-laws which was good but my lower abdomen was so sore (dehydrated). The hotel is reminiscent of the tower of Terror, my in-laws are staying with relatives in their multimillion dollar nyc double apartment. We searched for something quick to eat but couldn't find anything, so I had had a bagel at dunkin at 930am, and next had a meal at 830pm... with some road snacks in between. Everyone (not husband thank god) got totally sloshed at dinner and we stayed there until 1030pm. Walked back to our room and got some dessert room service that was only ok, but hopefully on FILs tab!
Today we go to the show then 7 hours back home and I miss my kiddo.
That was long, missing the bump action, will hopefully find a time to respond to individual posts on car ride home!!
@RedMar Your son is adorable! I want to go to Carters and buy all the clothes! My only complaint of having a second girl... I can't justify buying any clothes for her yet. But it's a half hearted complaint because I'm equally happy to be saving the money.
@Annas930 Your trip sounds awful!
First time mom to a human but have been a puppy mamma for over 12 years
First time mom to a human but have been a puppy mamma for over 12 years
@kosmo86 Your heart sounds like it's in the right place and I hope you can find a solution that will keep everyone safe.
@AnnaS930 That sounds EXHAUSTING. Hopefully everyone finds better food options for you today!!
Awkward Family Fun
First time mom to a human but have been a puppy mamma for over 12 years
My BFF who was about 5 weeks behind me texted to say she miscarried overnight. I've been in a daze since finding out and sitting here waiting for the show to begin just fighting back tears.
For those who have unfortunately been through this heart-rending experience, do I send her anything? I've expressed my condolences and just don't know what else there is to do (knowing I can't fix anything just so she knows I care so deeply)