Both DH and I are a bit less excited this time around. For me, the morning sickness was a lot worse than it was last time, so that put a huge damper on the excitement. Now that the morning sickness is gone and I am still not showing, I can very easily forget that I am pregnant. Most of our conversations about the baby revolve around the worries I have about paying for 2 kids in daycare and the stress he has about his job situation - his company is in a 2 year plan to eliminate several positions including his. He got a great annual review but was still advised to keep looking for work elsewhere. He said it was awkward.
@Sporty1216- I get that some days and I just smile and say "I'm pregnant.. and I have a toddler. I AM tired, thank you!" with a big grin on my face. At least it's better than when people think you're sick and you felt great up until that moment, right??
Also - I ate my PB&J at 10am this morning, so I just ran to Panera for lunch (well. I drove.. let's get real here). Tomato/mozz flatbread and veggie/pesto soup. I also had to get gas, and ran into the gas station for a giant blue slushee.. because - why not?
@Sporty1216 I think people should be banned from saying, "You look tired." Especially when there is pregnancy involved. ESPECIALLY when there is pregnancy, a toddler, and a husband gone all the time. Yup! I'm tired! Thanks for pointing out that I look like crap! I'm doing the best I can here, people.....
I think the lady in that picture was just told that she looked tired.
I just laughed out loud at this!
I too am getting fed up of my coworkers telling me how tired I look. No kidding? I'm pregnant, work full time, go to school part time, house hunting, etc, etc. I have a new respect for the STMs who are also juggling toddlers/other kids in addition to everything else.
@geminigirl16 The worst is when they add, "Well it's good practice for the baby!" Ughh that's ridiculous! I have the utmost respect when I see a pregnant mom walking around a store with a screaming toddler in the cart and she's keeping her cool and not yelling back!
@Sbrown721 - listen for the scream the second she's back in her car and the door closes. I don't mean screaming at the toddler, but sometimes you gotta let out a bit of a scream to get the frustrations/exhaustion out. Then a deep breath, turn on the car and roll out of there
edited to add: I have not done this.. I'm too much of a wimp and bail out of a store if my toddler were to scream. I try to keep the snacks flowing and power walk through places for best chance of a peaceful trip.. doing well so far, but only 16 months into this game
@AnnaS930 I'm even more of a wimp, I avoid taking my kids anywhere when at all possible. I'd rather run to the store after DH gets home than take them with me. Sometimes this isn't possible because DH has long hours. When I do have to take them, I go to the grocery store that has ice cream cones. We get one of the carts that has a car in front (Even though they suck to push and I sorta hate them) and the older two get an ice cream cone. I try and get everything done before the ice cream is gone. Otherwise they start getting grumpy and want out of the cart.
I have totally done the screaming in the car. And I full out yelled at my 4 year old in Target the other day. What was I thinking bringing her to Target? She kept running away and hiding underneath/behind the displays. I've also gotten myself fast food for lunch and made them peanut butter sandwiches when we got home. Because they don't deserve a Happy Meal when they'be been naughty. Usually that sends a pretty big message about misbehaving at the store.
This is a belated WTF, but the whole school shares one Amazon account. Someone was using the cart to try to build out a total that matched their leftover money (since purchases are due today) which means no one else can buy anything. I emailed everyone to ask them to allow me to make a quick purchase since my stuff is all lined up. They did, but some one else immediately filled the list with their junk to try to price out their options! I just want to buy my stuff!
Update: They had stopped making changes for a few minutes, but hadn't purchased yet. I just saved their stuff, added mine, paid, and put their things back...in under a minute...
Stop the presses!!! True email conversation between my H and I just now (the D is purposefully removed and you'll see why):
H: OMG some guy just brought in 5 boxes of Klondike bars for everyone! Me: Ugh! I want one! I'm the pregnant one why don't I get any of this awesomeness <5 minutes later> H: Scratch that! Boss just ran out and said to put away all the Klondike bars they have an ice cream bar coming for everyone in half an hour. Me: #^^(#%^)*%)*#!!!!! Take a late lunch and bring me a sundae!!!! H: Can't do that - it'd melt.
The above is not a valid excuse for me. He has AC in his car he could totally get me a sundae on his lunch and it wouldn't be melted!
@LakeR2014- I WANT TO WORK THERE! Also, put away all the Klondike bars? oh please, eat one as fast as you can so you're ready for the ice cream bar when it shows up! Obviously.
I think the baby is enjoying jumping around on my bowels lately. It started last night and it is back this afternoon. I feel a little bit of movement and then it is followed by pains that are somewhat similar to diarrhea pains. I hate the way how the uterus fights the bowels for space.
I hate to change a subject without catching up on all the posts I missed first, but I am hoping for a little insight. I am considering taking a job that my schedule would be overnight (8p-6am) 7 days on and 7 days off. It sounds perfect to me because it would completely eliminate any need for daycare for us, but I am wondering if I am being overly optimistic about the ease of adjustment. Does anyone have experience with this type of shift or know anyone who has done it? I don't know anyone with this kind of schedule even though it is somewhat common in my field. Any input is appreciated
@Thscary- are you going to do the daytime childcare on your own? After working 8pm-6am? My concern would b that as baby gets older and wake times are longer, you'll end up being awake for most of the day (and awake working overnight). The 7 days off would be great,
@AnnaS930 DH works from home, so while I'd plan to do the bulk of the daytime childcare he'll be around all day too. And it's the 7 days off that's really luring me in haha
@AnnaS930 DH works from home, so while I'd plan to do the bulk of the daytime childcare he'll be around all day too. And it's the 7 days off that's really luring me in haha
Aaah, I had forgotten that part of it. It sounds really intriguing.. hard to figure out if it would work well until you do it I think. I don't have any advice for you - but perhaps some nurses or other nightshift workers have some insight for you?
I'm bringing my pup to his first pro baseball game tomorrow! I'm excited to get some sunshine with my friends but it's always a little nerve wracking bringing him new places - I never know how he'll do. Though he always does awesome and my worries are always unnecessary. I mean he's flown on a plane without problems - he can handle a baseball game, right?!
@Thscary - DH works overnights (10 pm - 6:30 am) 6 days a week (mandatory overtime for the past 10 or 11 months) with a day off during the week. For a while, it was awesome! Once DS and DD started kindergarten, it completely eliminated the need for daycare. (And I don't even need to fully express how wonderful that is!)
Forget the fact that he works 6 days a week. That takes it's toll quite a bit. But the opposite schedules can be very hard, especially on the weekends. He sleeps during the day so that he can get the kids off of the bus at 3 and still spend time with us in the evenings. But, on weekends, he comes home and doesn't go to bed until the afternoon so that he can spend time with us and participate in things like football/basketball games in the morning. So his schedule completely switches on the weekends. It's not easy. When he gets home, he's generally ready for bed (as a diesel mechanic, it's a lot of physical labor) so he's really dragging on weekends. And, especially lately, it's really hard not to have him home at night. I miss him. Plus, I keep thinking about when the babies get here. I'll be responsible for two 6-year-olds and two newborns (who will be waking up periodically through the night). YIKES!
Let's now focus on the plus side of this. I love him. I miss snuggling with him at night...sometimes. But we each get the bed to ourselves six days a week. I can sleep in the middle of the bed without worrying that I'm pushing him out of the bed and vice-versa. All joking aside though, if you can handle changing your sleep schedule around every 7 days, go for it. It took DH a few months to get used to the change both times. (He went from overnights to mid-days back to overnights.) It has saved us a ton of money in daycare costs and given him flexibility that he wouldn't normally have. If he needs to go to the doctor on a Tuesday at noon, he can do it without taking work off. He may need to sleep a little bit in the evening that day, but that's ok.
I hope this was more helpful and less rambling, but I'm not sure. Good luck in your decision. In the end, it's whatever will work best for you and your family.
I hate to change a subject without catching up on all the posts I missed first, but I am hoping for a little insight. I am considering taking a job that my schedule would be overnight (8p-6am) 7 days on and 7 days off. It sounds perfect to me because it would completely eliminate any need for daycare for us, but I am wondering if I am being overly optimistic about the ease of adjustment. Does anyone have experience with this type of shift or know anyone who has done it? I don't know anyone with this kind of schedule even though it is somewhat common in my field. Any input is appreciated
I'd be weary of you working overnight and then caring for a baby, even with your husband around. Plus the seven days on and seven days off, your sleep schedule is going to be all over the place.
My husband used to be night shift (10p-6a) and we still had my daughter in daycare. His sleep was too important. And night shifters don't get enough sleep regardless because your sleep during the day is just not the same as at night.
We are leaving for our beach vacation in the morning and DH just called to say he was getting a man cold, and I am taking DD to the doc at 4 because she has what looks to be f*cking pink eye.
@Thscaryyea - I'd check with other nurses who've done that with newborns first. Because even though DH will be home, working at nights, you usually need more sleep because it's a restless sleep, so I caution that you might not be able to help during the day as much as you think. Plus, how's your DH about handling the nightshift solo at home, that would be really tough for him to do that and handle taking care of the little one while you sleep during his work day. Also, as other PP's have said...although the 7 on, 7 off is great - it's a serious mind f*ck when it comes to your sleep schedule and usually takes you by day three of the day off to get it figured out, just in time to be ready again to try and get back to the other sleep schedule, and repeat.
These posts about food are making my mouth water. Where's the activity in the unhealthy foods thread? I need my ideas for lunch/dinner! Going to get a white coconut sno ball from Bahama Bucks this afternoon in hopes that it will soothe the fiery hell that is my heartburn.
@Thscary I know a few people who work nights. Our neighbor is an ER nurse and works nights, but it's not a week on week off. My mom also works nights at an assisted living center, she works Friday through Tuesday. It's like she only gets 1 day off because she needs a day to catch up on sleep. Our old neighbor did the week on, week off thing. She does not have kids, she loved it in the summers and in the winter it was OK. Same thing from her, it takes her a day to catchup on sleep to be awake for the daytime on her week off.
It will be hard to help with the kids on your week on, the week off you should be OK after your catch-up day. I really think your on days would be hard if you need to help out.
On the note of food. Our company hosts a lunch for all employees the 3rd Friday of every month. Today we had Ham, scalloped potatoes, spinach salad with a bacon dressing and brownies & bars. So yummy. I'm sitting fat and happy.
Ok I may have to purchase those crotch pain panties... It's brutal today. I spent my entire day cleaning out the back room at work where my new office will be so the flooring can go in this weekend. Zonked.
My win is that the husband went to get sushi, and we're going to eat it when the children have all gone to bed.
Re: excitement; my husband never seems excited when talking about different pregnancy stuff until we find out the sex, and until he can feel the baby moving around.
Wife to A; Mama to C (2009), N (2011), H (2014) & baby F due 09/16/16
The crotch pain is real, ladies! And it just comes out of nowhere like "BAM! Here I am!!" Those panties make me laugh but I wonder if they really work...
Also, re:DH being excited-- For me I keep getting the feeling that he doesn't really understand. For instance, he keeps telling people that I feel fine, that I don't really have any symptoms. When in reality, my fine is a relative pregnant "fine"! Lightning crotch is no joke, I'd like to see him tolerate that, lol. Little things. Also, there have been a couple times when the nausea hits like a ton of bricks and I just have to lay down. Last time this happened he was cleaning the apartment and I got the feeling he was annoyed, like I was faking it. Don't get me wrong, he's great and supportive, he just really doesn't get it sometimes!
You guys! I just got kicked so hard in the back (repeatedly), that my back bowed up involuntarily trying to get away from the sensation!
I honestly thought I was having back spasms at first, but DH pointed out (while laughing, damn him ) that it was probably one or both of the babies and damned if he wasn't right.
At my ultrasound on Monday they were both curled up facing backwards into my spine, so their knees, feet, elbows and hands are all in position to have done the deed, but my best guess is they were kickboxing.
Apparently they decided to make themselves known with a vengeance, none of that gentle wiggling and poking, because that was the strongest movement I've felt by far.
@Themaritimemama It is! I was so glad my husband and dad were both in the room. They didn't get to feel it, but their reactions were great. I honestly can't wait to have this happen more regularly, even if it did hurt!
Up until now I've been thinking to myself "How will I tell when they're really kicking vs. just sort of wiggling around and prodding me?" Well, now I know. It really is unmistakable.
And yay for hubby feeling the baby! DH felt one of ours maybe 5 days ago(?) for the first time and it was so sweet.
Aww @MojieJo that's great! I just started feeling my girls regularly like yesterday and I can already tell they're going to beat me up! It has been all day long! I love it
I went to the playground with my son and another mom and her kids today. My son found a pony bead on the ground and promptly ate it. Thanks kid. Digging through your poop hoping to find a blue bead is EXACTLY what I want to do while pregnant. #momlife
I've had a few cervix kicks/stomps today that are pretty surprising... I don't think it's necessarily painful just such a shock that it makes me flinch a bit
I finally felt the baby today!!! After lunch it felt like I had a hummingbird in my belly...like soft vibrations. And the little one hasn't really stopped moving since! It's been off and on since about 1pm. I love it! So neat! Very random but I just had to share...I have been waiting forever for this!
Married: 3/21/15 First time mom to a human but have been a puppy mamma for over 12 years
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Also - I ate my PB&J at 10am this morning, so I just ran to Panera for lunch (well. I drove.. let's get real here). Tomato/mozz flatbread and veggie/pesto soup. I also had to get gas, and ran into the gas station for a giant blue slushee.. because - why not?
I too am getting fed up of my coworkers telling me how tired I look. No kidding? I'm pregnant, work full time, go to school part time, house hunting, etc, etc. I have a new respect for the STMs who are also juggling toddlers/other kids in addition to everything else.
edited to add: I have not done this.. I'm too much of a wimp and bail out of a store if my toddler were to scream. I try to keep the snacks flowing and power walk through places for best chance of a peaceful trip.. doing well so far, but only 16 months into this game
I have totally done the screaming in the car. And I full out yelled at my 4 year old in Target the other day. What was I thinking bringing her to Target? She kept running away and hiding underneath/behind the displays. I've also gotten myself fast food for lunch and made them peanut butter sandwiches when we got home. Because they don't deserve a Happy Meal when they'be been naughty. Usually that sends a pretty big message about misbehaving at the store.
Update: They had stopped making changes for a few minutes, but hadn't purchased yet. I just saved their stuff, added mine, paid, and put their things back...in under a minute...
H: OMG some guy just brought in 5 boxes of Klondike bars for everyone!
Me: Ugh! I want one! I'm the pregnant one why don't I get any of this awesomeness
<5 minutes later>
H: Scratch that! Boss just ran out and said to put away all the Klondike bars they have an ice cream bar coming for everyone in half an hour.
Me: #^^(#%^)*%)*#!!!!! Take a late lunch and bring me a sundae!!!!
H: Can't do that - it'd melt.
The above is not a valid excuse for me. He has AC in his car he could totally get me a sundae on his lunch and it wouldn't be melted!
And I challenge you to get more random than that
Forget the fact that he works 6 days a week. That takes it's toll quite a bit. But the opposite schedules can be very hard, especially on the weekends. He sleeps during the day so that he can get the kids off of the bus at 3 and still spend time with us in the evenings. But, on weekends, he comes home and doesn't go to bed until the afternoon so that he can spend time with us and participate in things like football/basketball games in the morning. So his schedule completely switches on the weekends. It's not easy. When he gets home, he's generally ready for bed (as a diesel mechanic, it's a lot of physical labor) so he's really dragging on weekends. And, especially lately, it's really hard not to have him home at night. I miss him. Plus, I keep thinking about when the babies get here. I'll be responsible for two 6-year-olds and two newborns (who will be waking up periodically through the night). YIKES!
Let's now focus on the plus side of this. I love him. I miss snuggling with him at night...sometimes. But we each get the bed to ourselves six days a week. I can sleep in the middle of the bed without worrying that I'm pushing him out of the bed and vice-versa.
I hope this was more helpful and less rambling, but I'm not sure. Good luck in your decision. In the end, it's whatever will work best for you and your family.
I'd be weary of you working overnight and then caring for a baby, even with your husband around. Plus the seven days on and seven days off, your sleep schedule is going to be all over the place.
My husband used to be night shift (10p-6a) and we still had my daughter in daycare. His sleep was too important. And night shifters don't get enough sleep regardless because your sleep during the day is just not the same as at night.
@Thscary I know a few people who work nights. Our neighbor is an ER nurse and works nights, but it's not a week on week off. My mom also works nights at an assisted living center, she works Friday through Tuesday. It's like she only gets 1 day off because she needs a day to catch up on sleep. Our old neighbor did the week on, week off thing. She does not have kids, she loved it in the summers and in the winter it was OK. Same thing from her, it takes her a day to catchup on sleep to be awake for the daytime on her week off.
It will be hard to help with the kids on your week on, the week off you should be OK after your catch-up day. I really think your on days would be hard if you need to help out.
On the note of food. Our company hosts a lunch for all employees the 3rd Friday of every month. Today we had Ham, scalloped potatoes, spinach salad with a bacon dressing and brownies & bars. So yummy. I'm sitting fat and happy.
My win is that the husband went to get sushi, and we're going to eat it when the children have all gone to bed.
Re: excitement; my husband never seems excited when talking about different pregnancy stuff until we find out the sex, and until he can feel the baby moving around.
Also, re:DH being excited-- For me I keep getting the feeling that he doesn't really understand. For instance, he keeps telling people that I feel fine, that I don't really have any symptoms. When in reality, my fine is a relative pregnant "fine"! Lightning crotch is no joke, I'd like to see him tolerate that, lol. Little things. Also, there have been a couple times when the nausea hits like a ton of bricks and I just have to lay down. Last time this happened he was cleaning the apartment and I got the feeling he was annoyed, like I was faking it. Don't get me wrong, he's great and supportive, he just really doesn't get it sometimes!
I honestly thought I was having back spasms at first, but DH pointed out (while laughing, damn him
At my ultrasound on Monday they were both curled up facing backwards into my spine, so their knees, feet, elbows and hands are all in position to have done the deed, but my best guess is they were kickboxing.
Apparently they decided to make themselves known with a vengeance, none of that gentle wiggling and poking, because that was the strongest movement I've felt by far.
It hurt but I'm so excited!
● IUI #2: BFP - early M/C
● IUI #3: BFN
● IUI #4: BFN
● IVF/FET #1 (2 transferred): BFP! TWINS!
● FET #2 (1 transferred): BFP! BOY #3!
● Natural #1: BFP - M/C @ 8 weeks
● Natural #2: BFP - M/C @ 5w5d
after saying my husband isn't super excited with each pregnancy, he was laying on my belly and talking to the baby and he felt him move! So yay!
Up until now I've been thinking to myself "How will I tell when they're really kicking vs. just sort of wiggling around and prodding me?" Well, now I know. It really is unmistakable.
And yay for hubby feeling the baby! DH felt one of ours maybe 5 days ago(?) for the first time and it was so sweet.
● IUI #2: BFP - early M/C
● IUI #3: BFN
● IUI #4: BFN
● IVF/FET #1 (2 transferred): BFP! TWINS!
● FET #2 (1 transferred): BFP! BOY #3!
● Natural #1: BFP - M/C @ 8 weeks
● Natural #2: BFP - M/C @ 5w5d
● IUI #2: BFP - early M/C
● IUI #3: BFN
● IUI #4: BFN
● IVF/FET #1 (2 transferred): BFP! TWINS!
● FET #2 (1 transferred): BFP! BOY #3!
● Natural #1: BFP - M/C @ 8 weeks
● Natural #2: BFP - M/C @ 5w5d
First time mom to a human but have been a puppy mamma for over 12 years