@lovelylauren86 so sorry to hear about your friend. Sending prayers her way.
@annas930 - we didn't tell anyone when our MC happened, but we did have a getaway for ourselves the following August (went to napa and toured SanFran). Is she local? If so, maybe take her to a nice massage or pedicure. If she's not nearby, I would suggest flowers and letting her know you're there for her at all times! Don't be alarmed if she doesn't want to talk or hang out as I found it difficult to speak with/see my pregnant friends until I became pregnant again. Actually when we took our trip to SanFran, the couple we were staying with announced their pregnancy that weekend and it was a stab in the heart (but I really couldn't hold anything against them bc they didn't know of our recent situation). For the record, I became pregnant the following month and had over 20 dreams about the Golden Gate Bridge throughout my pregnancy. They stopped until this pregnancy (in fact that's a weird sign I knew I was expecting again). I know it might sound crazy, but I feel those dreams are my angel baby reaching out to me. Sorry I got off topic there, but if this her first babe, maybe suggest a similar getaway with her SO. One to wine country or the Caribbean where travel would be prohibited otherwise.
@AnnaS930 I think just being there is enough. I will say that my one friend took me out for dinner at one of my favorite spots and then a shopping trip to Sephora. I didn't want to go (at all), but getting out and being with someone ended up being a good distraction. And it was nice knowing that my friend would listen if I wanted to talk and that she wouldn't push me if I didn't feel like talking.
Everyone handles it so differently. I was one of those people where no matter what someone said, it wasn't right. I knew they all meant well, it was just me. After my first mc, when I started to feel better, my aunt sent a sympathy card and I totally unraveled. Even though it was thoughtful, I hated that she did that.
It's tough and I feel bad for your friend (or anyone that has to go through that). You're already a good friend for even thinking about how to make things better for her.
@AnnaS930 Oh I am so sorry to hear about your friend. My neighbor sent me flowers and somehow that small gesture made all the difference. I am happy your friend has you there in case she wants support at this time.
Thanks all for the advice. She's local and has been a best friend since elementary school. If I weren't pregnant myself I'd be more likely to take her out but not sure how seeing my big belly would feel. Will sleep on it and consider sending flowers and continue to feel out what she needs. Thank you all!!!
When I lost our LO last year, it really did help when someone was there to listen and let me cry as needed. For months afterwards I still had bouts of depression and those that just listened (whether it was a week after the mc or a few months later) meant the most to me. A close friend sent me flowers and a teddy bear and, TBH, I slept with that bear for so long afterwards. It was somehow a symbol of what I'd lost. DD sleeps with her now.
Wanted to share this with you all. We are currently doing a bathroom reno and all of our things are in the kitchen (good times). I turned my back for one sec as I'm cooking dinner and DS found himself some "stickers"
I finally felt the baby today!!! After lunch it felt like I had a hummingbird in my belly...like soft vibrations. And the little one hasn't really stopped moving since! It's been off and on since about 1pm. I love it! So neat! Very random but I just had to share...I have been waiting forever for this!
I am really sorry that both of your friends are going through this @lovelylauren86 and @AnnaS930 Both situations are heartbreaking and so unfair. They are lucky that they have such caring friends.
Pregnancy brain almost caused me to burn down our house today. I was steaming some broccoli on the stovetop and forgot to put water is the pot...there were flames, but to my credit DH said that he think there was oil in the burner from when he made popcorn the other day. So I partly blame him.
Again, thank you to all of you for your kind words. I am going to have some flowers sent to my friend today and give her some time before checking in to see how she is doing.
I am back at work this morning. 7 hour car ride home from NYC got us home at midnight, my dog was annoying at 5am but my husband was kind enough to wake up with her and take her downstairs.. my alarm went off at 6am and I feel like I never even blinked. YAAAAAWN. Then I saw this little face in his crib when he woke up and got to spend a few minutes with him before work - makes my world go round (and my parents had an absolutely awesome weekend with him and his nose is no longer running! Woop woop!).
I'm glad to read there's no hate on here for giving up a dog. Some people act as though deciding to own a dog is an iron clad lifetime decision, and although it should not be considered flippantly, if the dog becomes a poor fit for the home I see nothing wrong with finding a home that will better suit the dog and family.
@KimmySchmidt- I could not agree with you more. Dec14 lost it multiple times (like complete thread blowup, original posters fled) over rehoming pet questions. Granted - most of them were not as sincere as our situation here, but at the same time... rehoming a pet is sometimes the absolute kindest most selfless thing you can do for your pet if someone else can provide them a better life.
Yes! I'm glad about that too, @KimmySchmidt and @AnnaS930 I know in our case, the life we were providing for our pup was not a happy one for him. As pack animals, they don't want to be isolated, so a home without kiddos was going to be much happier for him.
The whole weekend had such gorgeous weather so we spent a lot of time outside. My 1 1/2 year old son has thin, blond hair. He pulls of hats too often, so we put sunscreen in his hair to keep his scalp from burning. Any recommendations for a sunscreen that won't make his hair all greasy and funky?
We also were given a wooden swing set over the weekend for free! The house next door recently sold and the new people do not have any young children. They didn't want the swing set in their backyard, so some of DH's friends are coming over to help us move it. Yay for a free swing set! DS will love it so much!
@marajay6 - My son HATES hats/things on his head (ear protection at loud events, etc) but did really really well with this hat last year (He wore it over the summer, so maybe 6months-9months). It does well when dry or wet and he never burned his scalp/face/back of his neck - he has dark hair but it was pretty fine last year. Definitely getting one in a bigger size this year for him again, they are also CRAZY adorable, and come in matching swim bottoms.. Soooo, I'm basically obsessed. He rarely tried to pull it off, and the chin velcro kept it in place if he did/if it was windy at the beach
The kids have a 2 hour late start this morning due to heavy rains and flooding in the area. While this means I'm working from home today (Yay!) it also means that this throws off the whole day for all 4 of us and I'm having to listen to arguing from the monsters for an extra 2 hours. And it's arguing about things that normally wouldn't be argued about on a school morning. For instance, why does DS feel the need to take a chocolate bunny for snack today (thank you Mimi & Papa) as well as put a whole bunch of toys in his backpack (no toys allowed at school)? Apparently DD told him to take the toys to school (their new favorite excuse - "They told me to do it!!"). And now they're arguing about who gets the clothes out of the dryer and who puts the wet clothes into the dryer. Ugh. At least they're doing it instead of me.
Come on 4 o'clock. I've got an OB appointment with an ultrasound. Let's see these two wiggling around!
@UnwritteN12- My sister's 4 year old boy/girl twins are exactly the same! They shared a room up until the past year and at night Harper would try to get Easton to say things. So on the monitor we'd hear her whispering "Eaaaaastonnn... say 'mommyyyy!!!'" and he'd mumble "mommy" then "Eastonnnn... say you need to get up and go potttttyyyyyy!" And if we'd go in there she'd dive under the covers and say "I'm kidding I'm kidding I'm kiddingggg!" She is SUCH a little instigator, and Easton would just go along with it. Man, I love those kids.
I went shopping yesterday with my MIL and SIL (my mom lives several provinces away) and bought my first maternity clothes! They are so much more comfortable than my too tight regular clothes/struggling with my belly band.
I tried out the belly pillow in the dressing room and took photos - now I have an idea of what I'll look like in a couple months!
@AnnaS930 - I'm cracking up over here! That's too funny. Mine actually are going back to sharing a room when the babies get here so we'll see what trouble they cause. I have a lot of guilt about them sharing a room again. But then, last night, some of that guilt faded away. I went in DD's room to check on her, heard snoring and looked around to find DS on the floor under the table that holds her dollhouse with his sleeping bag and pillow. Apparently he was scared of the dark so she let her brother sleep in her room.
@UnwritteN12- that is so sweet! My sister's kiddos had no qualms about sharing a room whatsoever, Harper is just too chatty at night to let Easton sleep (She still naps during the day while he never does.. so he needs his nighttime sleep to be less of a bear in the morning!) They still share a room and often want to share a double bed when they travel.
Also - it would be really fun if you stay where you are and eventually have a girls' room and a boys' room!!
Am I the only one that doesn't understand the Faith Friday's thing?
I don't either. If lots of people wanted to participate I think it would be fine, but most of the time no one responds except the original poster so it is a little strange. To each their own I guess
Me: 32 DH: 31
TTC #2 since January 2018
Baby #1 DD Born 8/25/2016 BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
@PoodleDoodleOoo Nope, I'm not quite sure what she's hoping for at this point either. No one seemed interested in the beginning, and the past two weeks have just been her posting and replying alone in the thread. If it comforts her to post and share it, though, I'm glad it's in a space that is clearly marked as being a faith-related thread.
Am I the only one that doesn't understand the Faith Friday's thing?
I don't get it either and I have been pretty damned vocal about it in other threads. I don't know what it has to do with pregnancy imho and nobody else here has expressed the desire.
September '16 - May Signature Challenge Awkward Family Fun
I just kind of shake my head each week.. I don't bump much over the weekends so I'm usually seeing the thread come Monday, with the same name as the original poster and most recent poster and a number less than 3 on replies..hmmmm. It is odd.
@lovelylauren 86 & @AnnaS930 I'm so sorry to hear this. Best wishes to everyone involved.
We had beautiful weather this weekend so we spent most of our time outside. We have 3 dogs (2 labs and a golden retriever). I went over to the hose to fill up their water dish and we had no water pressure. I called my husband over, we thought maybe there was a kink in the hose, we fiddled with it for awhile with no luck so he went into the basement to check the water...Well we had water pouring through our basement ceiling. I yelled to me so I came running down, turned off the water supply, and grabbed a bunch of towels. We called a plumber, they came out and apparently over the winter the pipe to our hose froze, this was the first time we'd used it so once we turned it on the water flooded everywhere. So the remediation guys came out, cut out a big chunk of our ceiling and wall, ripped up our flooring and setup a huge dehumidifier and fans...Thank goodness for homeowners insurance. We still have a $1000 deductible, the damage is more than that.
@SaraJuul-UGH! My love it was for your support, not your water issues! We have 2 outdoor faucets and always try to remember to turn off the water going to them in the Fall before it starts to freeze but don't always do it. We haven't had this happen yet, but it's always a chance with pipes so close to the exterior - sorry for the bad luck!!!
So I have no willpower and DH and I opened up the envelope with the sex. So much for waiting haha. Plus the tech was only 75% sure because I had a wild animal in my stomach who wouldn't stop moving so we go bs k to confirm in a couple weeks.
@Soon2bemissG-Woohoo!!! Congrats!!!! I hardly have the will power to wait during the scan to get to that area.. anyone who walks out with an envelope is better than me!
Hey guys! I've been so bad about keeping up on here lately..hope you all will still have me. I turned 26 over the weekend and have been pretty busy. Then DD woke up puking this morning (with what DS had a full week ago)...hoping she's okay now.
In other news, I found a new therapist I want to see, and made the mistake of asking GMIL to watch the kids because I had an appt. She called MIL asking if the baby was okay and what kind of appt because I just had an OB appt two weeks ago. Then MIL asked SIL, me, and then DH after I played it off. Good grief people! Mind your own business... Next time I will know to say I am running errands.
@TNgoldengirl-ugh!!! It was nice of her not to pester you, but to go to everyone else? Sounds like it was possibly coming from a good place of concern but inappropriate and way over the top! I'm sorry she invaded your privacy in that way. Similarly - my parents seem to answer the phone in a panic every time I call (I call them multiple times a week! lol). If I don't quickly say "I'm just calling to check in" they have a very worried tone and say "Ann.. what's up? Everything ok??" Ugh.
Good luck with the new therapist! I hope they're a good match for you and HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY! Closer to 30 than 20... wake up with aches and pains?? Only kidding - I'm 28, and the second half of my 20s have been better than the first!
@Soon2bemissG-Woohoo!!! Congrats!!!! I hardly have the will power to wait during the scan to get to that area.. anyone who walks out with an envelope is better than me!
Congrats @Soon2bemissG!!! @AnnaS930 it's so funny on the will power thing. My fear about the A/S is that they'll start the ultrasound and it'll immediately give us a shot where we can tell if its a boy or girl. We're full on team green now, and I plan to announce that as soon as I see the US tech, but I can't stop imagining that the first image that pops up is baby spread eagle being all 'I want you to stop calling me 'It', here's what I am, now give me a name!' Lol.
Our anatomy scan is in 2 weeks and we've already lost our willpower. The plan was to have the tech write it down, bring it to the bakery, and find out with everybody else when we ate the cupcakes. Now DH and I are going to find out and keep it a secret from everybody else. We're going to pretend that we don't know.
@LakeR2014- and here I was so anxious to find out last time and my little guy didn't want to show his bits at all! He spent the first ultrasound in a position that gave us 1 glimpse, and second ultrasound with his hands constantly over the area (which the tech joked was a guarantee that it was a boy). I have seen some posters even on this board where first shot was a crotch shot - maybe best to keep your eyes closed and have the tech tell you when the view is on and not centered on the money shot!!
Re: April Randoms Thread
@annas930 - we didn't tell anyone when our MC happened, but we did have a getaway for ourselves the following August (went to napa and toured SanFran). Is she local? If so, maybe take her to a nice massage or pedicure. If she's not nearby, I would suggest flowers and letting her know you're there for her at all times! Don't be alarmed if she doesn't want to talk or hang out as I found it difficult to speak with/see my pregnant friends until I became pregnant again. Actually when we took our trip to SanFran, the couple we were staying with announced their pregnancy that weekend and it was a stab in the heart (but I really couldn't hold anything against them bc they didn't know of our recent situation). For the record, I became pregnant the following month and had over 20 dreams about the Golden Gate Bridge throughout my pregnancy. They stopped until this pregnancy (in fact that's a weird sign I knew I was expecting again). I know it might sound crazy, but I feel those dreams are my angel baby reaching out to me. Sorry I got off topic there, but if this her first babe, maybe suggest a similar getaway with her SO. One to wine country or the Caribbean where travel would be prohibited otherwise.
Everyone handles it so differently. I was one of those people where no matter what someone said, it wasn't right. I knew they all meant well, it was just me. After my first mc, when I started to feel better, my aunt sent a sympathy card and I totally unraveled. Even though it was thoughtful, I hated that she did that.
It's tough and I feel bad for your friend (or anyone that has to go through that). You're already a good friend for even thinking about how to make things better for her.
When I lost our LO last year, it really did help when someone was there to listen and let me cry as needed. For months afterwards I still had bouts of depression and those that just listened (whether it was a week after the mc or a few months later) meant the most to me. A close friend sent me flowers and a teddy bear and, TBH, I slept with that bear for so long afterwards. It was somehow a symbol of what I'd lost. DD sleeps with her now.
DS1 -- 9/30/2016
I am back at work this morning. 7 hour car ride home from NYC got us home at midnight, my dog was annoying at 5am but my husband was kind enough to wake up with her and take her downstairs.. my alarm went off at 6am and I feel like I never even blinked. YAAAAAWN. Then I saw this little face in his crib when he woke up and got to spend a few minutes with him before work - makes my world go round (and my parents had an absolutely awesome weekend with him and his nose is no longer running! Woop woop!).
The whole weekend had such gorgeous weather so we spent a lot of time outside. My 1 1/2 year old son has thin, blond hair. He pulls of hats too often, so we put sunscreen in his hair to keep his scalp from burning. Any recommendations for a sunscreen that won't make his hair all greasy and funky?
We also were given a wooden swing set over the weekend for free! The house next door recently sold and the new people do not have any young children. They didn't want the swing set in their backyard, so some of DH's friends are coming over to help us move it. Yay for a free swing set! DS will love it so much!
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Come on 4 o'clock. I've got an OB appointment with an ultrasound. Let's see these two wiggling around!
@lovelylauren86 & @AnnaS930 my thoughts go out to your friends!
@RedMar Glad to hear that even though the reveal went off the rails (!), that your DH is adjusting now.
I am super excited about the book recs thread, I am always looking for new books to read!
July: Patriotic Fails
They shared a room up until the past year and at night Harper would try to get Easton to say things. So on the monitor we'd hear her whispering "Eaaaaastonnn... say 'mommyyyy!!!'" and he'd mumble "mommy" then "Eastonnnn... say you need to get up and go potttttyyyyyy!" And if we'd go in there she'd dive under the covers and say "I'm kidding I'm kidding I'm kiddingggg!"
She is SUCH a little instigator, and Easton would just go along with it. Man, I love those kids.
I tried out the belly pillow in the dressing room and took photos - now I have an idea of what I'll look like in a couple months!
Also - it would be really fun if you stay where you are and eventually have a girls' room and a boys' room!!
I have an OB appointment today and am hoping that it's more than just a Doppler and a q&a!
DS1 -- 9/30/2016
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
Awkward Family Fun
@lovelylauren 86 & @AnnaS930 I'm so sorry to hear this. Best wishes to everyone involved.
We had beautiful weather this weekend so we spent most of our time outside. We have 3 dogs (2 labs and a golden retriever). I went over to the hose to fill up their water dish and we had no water pressure. I called my husband over, we thought maybe there was a kink in the hose, we fiddled with it for awhile with no luck so he went into the basement to check the water...Well we had water pouring through our basement ceiling. I yelled to me so I came running down, turned off the water supply, and grabbed a bunch of towels. We called a plumber, they came out and apparently over the winter the pipe to our hose froze, this was the first time we'd used it so once we turned it on the water flooded everywhere. So the remediation guys came out, cut out a big chunk of our ceiling and wall, ripped up our flooring and setup a huge dehumidifier and fans...Thank goodness for homeowners insurance. We still have a $1000 deductible, the damage is more than that.
Relaxing Saturday turned into chaos.
But it we are 75% sure it's another GIRL.
Edited for spelling.
In other news, I found a new therapist I want to see, and made the mistake of asking GMIL to watch the kids because I had an appt. She called MIL asking if the baby was okay and what kind of appt because I just had an OB appt two weeks ago. Then MIL asked SIL, me, and then DH after I played it off. Good grief people! Mind your own business... Next time I will know to say I am running errands.
Good luck with the new therapist! I hope they're a good match for you and HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY! Closer to 30 than 20... wake up with aches and pains?? Only kidding - I'm 28, and the second half of my 20s have been better than the first!