Just got off the phone with my mom on my walk back to the office from my appointment. She likes to get updates after each one to be sure everything is ok. And EVERY SINGLE EFFING TIME she asks me if they checked to be sure there is only one in there. I flipped out at her, told her I have had enough. Does she think she is being clever or funny? Its freaking annoying. And since she has said it atleast 10 times now, just over it...
Just got off the phone with my mom on my walk back to the office from my appointment. She likes to get updates after each one to be sure everything is ok. And EVERY SINGLE EFFING TIME she asks me if they checked to be sure there is only one in there. I flipped out at her, told her I have had enough. Does she think she is being clever or funny? Its freaking annoying. And since she has said it atleast 10 times now, just over it...
Next time tell her that they were wrong all along and that you are having quadruplets!
It use to be cute when the little kids at school would make comments about my bump but these little boogers are becoming rude.
-Two kids were discussing if I was having twins or not. One kid said I was because I've been pregnant since Christmas time and twins take longer. I started to tell him that twins take the same amount of time as singles but before I could he pointed at me and said "Plus look at how big she is. Of course there's two babies."
-Every time I eat in front of the kindergarten class I monitor for lunch someone manages to tell me how I should stop eating because I've been getting fat. Now I know they're kindergarteners but I've explained to them 100 times that it's not fat it's a baby.
-Ms. Charla are you fat or having a baby? I explained to the student that I'm having a baby. She said, "Oh I didn't know because your belly was getting bigger and your arms are more shaky." (Meaning my upper arm fat)
-"Ms. Charla did you know you could feed your baby with your breast?" Cautiously I said, "yes. I did know that." His response, "Your baby's going to be fat because you have a lot of food in yours." (1st grade kid)
It use to be cute when the little kids at school would make comments about my bump but these little boogers are becoming rude.
-Two kids were discussing if I was having twins or not. One kid said I was because I've been pregnant since Christmas time and twins take longer. I started to tell him that twins take the same amount of time as singles but before I could he pointed at me and said "Plus look at how big she is. Of course there's two babies."
-Every time I eat in front of the kindergarten class I monitor for lunch someone manages to tell me how I should stop eating because I've been getting fat. Now I know they're kindergarteners but I've explained to them 100 times that it's not fat it's a baby.
-Ms. Charla are you fat or having a baby? I explained to the student that I'm having a baby. She said, "Oh I didn't know because your belly was getting bigger and your arms are more shaky." (Meaning my upper arm fat)
-"Ms. Charla did you know you could feed your baby with your breast?" Cautiously I said, "yes. I did know that." His response, "Your baby's going to be fat because you have a lot of food in yours." (1st grade kid)
************************************************************************************************************ HALLLPPPPP IM STUCK IN A BOX
Anyways, just had to say that made me chuckle. Kid logic....
I will say in 1st grade I asked my obese teacher when she was having her baby. That got me a demerit...I was that kid.
Oh, @charla1224 from the mouths of babes, right?! The boob one got me!
My students have been surprisingly quiet about the whole thing. One boy did drop something on the floor and said "Oooops, I better pick that up because Nurse Lauren definitely can't. She might fall over!" I explained that that was rude (thinking: but true!) and yes, he needs to pick it up but because HE dropped it. Then, wouldn't you know, I dropped my pen not 2 seconds later. I had made SUCH a big deal about picking up after yourself that I couldn't back out so I did my best squat retrieval and even gave a little triumphant smirk to the kid.
I had a patient of mine point to my belly and say "I know what you've been up to". Like yes we all know how babies are made. Thanks for pointing it out, literally.
Oh my, I won't even go into all of the student comments. Suffice it to say I've gotten many borderline (or blatantly) intrusive ones since my 9th graders are learning about childbirth in Health class right now...so everything they learn, they come into English class ready to ask me personal questions about since I'm currently pregnant and already have a son. Some questions I don't mind answering for the sake of education...but they need to keep the conversation off of my parts. And the kid who insisted that I "didn't actually give birth" because DS was a breech csection after labor started got a politically correct ear-full. Same kid asked if I was getting "sliced and diced" this time around. Super nice kid.
@yogahh you have inspired me to lay the verbal smackdown on this one lady in our neighborhood who is the quintessential nosy neighbor and has basically been on labor watch 24/7 since January. She is not super nice about it and is almost annoyed I haven't had the baby yet, like I am purposefully keeping it from her. She also gets really weirdly offended when I either don't play outside with my son or we go out for the evening. Her latest comments are "I don't think you can get any bigger!", "Are you sure it is just one?", "Why won't you tell me the name? Is it because it is one of those weird hipster names?", and many others. I honestly just tune her out, but I dread getting the mail or going outside because she is always there, sitting on her porch crabbing, even when it is like 30 degrees out! Oh, and she apparently keeps track of how many times I order delivery or come home with take-out. And yes, she has commented that maybe pizza isn't the best food for the baby. STFU crazy lady!
Dude, your nosy neighbor lady sounds like she's straight out of a sitcom!! I'd start ordering random deliveries just to make her crazy!
What's with all these people who think there could be a hidden twin in there that gets missed for 7 months?! As someone who *is* having twins (and tells people they should never ask another pregnant woman that question), we knew ours were twins at 6 weeks.
Also, kids who obviously don't get science, twins actually take less time.
"How are you feeling dear?" Followed by "just wait until the baby gets here, you'll (insert tired/ other feeling/emotion that has been predetermined that I will experience)
Cant a pregnant woman just be feeling ok without some comment following?!
This one drives me CRAZY! Just let every woman enjoy the season they are in. Why the belittling? "Oh you only have one baby, just wait until you have two!" grrrrr
Walking home from work today I was crossing the street and a woman yelled out the passenger side window "excuse me, are you having a boy?!" it was seriously the weirdest thing ever... also because I am having a boy. WTF.
I was getting a massage and the therapist asked if I'm having a boy or a girl after I told her I have a son at home. After I said I'm having another son she said "your husband must be very proud". Yes, his pride is the sole reason we keep having kids.
I was getting a massage and the therapist asked if I'm having a boy or a girl after I told her I have a son at home. After I said I'm having another son she said "your husband must be very proud". Yes, his pride is the sole reason we keep having kids.
This one might be cultural. There are a lot of cultures where sons are highly valued.
Not really a stranger per se, but a co-worker I am not familiar with because she is brand new says to me in a meeting today " Your feet are swollen" (mind you she is in her 50's). I was like ummm yeah I am aware of that, thanks.
Like wtf do you need to point out something so unnecessary and useless in front of everyone in a meeting. Its not like I would randomly tell her you know you have one weird strand of grey hair right?
A friend asked me if we had celebrated a birthday or some anniversary in August (when we conceived).
Like we only have sex on special occasions.
Gah QBF: This reminds me of a great comment I got when I announced I was pregnant at a staff meeting. When I said my due date, I watched one of the male teachers do fast math in his head and smirk "Guess we know what you did this summer!" Yup, I had sex. Good one.
I swear that if anyone tries this one on me, I'm going to say, "I really don't know which night that we had sex got me pregnant." Do you think that would help people pipe down?!
and it's the truth...I should have been too late in my cycle to get pregnant!
Mama to Three Girls: Twins born March 2014 at 26 weeks due to preterm labor and our 37weeker born May 9th, 2016!
I was literally just logging on to tell about my experience getting lunch today...
I am at the deli, and the girl behind the counter goes "how far along are you". When I say "2 months today" shes goes "wow, that's a big one". I was calm, but told her " that is really rude". When she asks why, I told her she has NO right to comment on MY body. Pregnant or not. I mean, I wouldnt tell a fat person they are big, so why is it ok to tell a pregnant person the same?
I know a lot of you have posted about similar experiences and I have to tell you, STAND UP FOR YOURSELF. If we don't tell people how effing rude they are, they will continue to behavior. I will continue to tell people to STFU anytime I get this comment for the next 2 months, and you should too!
Edited to correct- she didnt ask how far along I am...she asked when I am due!!! Big difference!
Totally agree it's time we stand up for ourselves. I had a similar situation with "friends" commenting on my massive belly a few weeks ago. I was a bit concerned so when I went to my next appointment I told the OB and asked if my size was ok. His exact words: "You have shitty friends. You are 30 weeks and measuring 30 cm. That's perfect! Don't listen to anyone who tells you these things".
I was literally just logging on to tell about my experience getting lunch today...
I am at the deli, and the girl behind the counter goes "how far along are you". When I say "2 months today" shes goes "wow, that's a big one". I was calm, but told her " that is really rude". When she asks why, I told her she has NO right to comment on MY body. Pregnant or not. I mean, I wouldnt tell a fat person they are big, so why is it ok to tell a pregnant person the same?
I know a lot of you have posted about similar experiences and I have to tell you, STAND UP FOR YOURSELF. If we don't tell people how effing rude they are, they will continue to behavior. I will continue to tell people to STFU anytime I get this comment for the next 2 months, and you should too!
Edited to correct- she didnt ask how far along I am...she asked when I am due!!! Big difference!
Totally agree it's time we stand up for ourselves. I had a similar situation with "friends" commenting on my massive belly a few weeks ago. I was a bit concerned so when I went to my next appointment I told the OB and asked if my size was ok. His exact words: "You have shitty friends. You are 30 weeks and measuring 30 cm. That's perfect! Don't listen to anyone who tells you these things".
I was literally just logging on to tell about my experience getting lunch today...
I am at the deli, and the girl behind the counter goes "how far along are you". When I say "2 months today" shes goes "wow, that's a big one". I was calm, but told her " that is really rude". When she asks why, I told her she has NO right to comment on MY body. Pregnant or not. I mean, I wouldnt tell a fat person they are big, so why is it ok to tell a pregnant person the same?
I know a lot of you have posted about similar experiences and I have to tell you, STAND UP FOR YOURSELF. If we don't tell people how effing rude they are, they will continue to behavior. I will continue to tell people to STFU anytime I get this comment for the next 2 months, and you should too!
Edited to correct- she didnt ask how far along I am...she asked when I am due!!! Big difference!
Totally agree it's time we stand up for ourselves. I had a similar situation with "friends" commenting on my massive belly a few weeks ago. I was a bit concerned so when I went to my next appointment I told the OB and asked if my size was ok. His exact words: "You have shitty friends. You are 30 weeks and measuring 30 cm. That's perfect! Don't listen to anyone who tells you these things".
Love this doc!
I want your OB . . . Mine is cold, unfunny and comments that I should gain 250g every week . . . Some weeks it's more and some it's less but DH takes every chance he can to point out that my OB mentioned my weight . . . The funny thing is that last appointment I was up 4lbs in 3 weeks (which I get is a bit much apparently) she mentions the 250g thing AGAIN then tells me, almost in the same breath, that I and baby measure right for 32 weeks. WTF Doc?!
Went to the endocrinologist, and the nurse has told me twice now how her son and daughter in law would have had a baby the same time I'm due. I have no clue how to respond to that besides I'm sorry to hear that. Super uncomfortable.
She also asked if I was just getting done with work, or just starting. I said just starting, and she responded, you look like you need a nap. Uh, thanks?
I had a member of management tell me, "not trying to sound mean, but I was huge!" Of course, right in front of a crowd of people. I looked at her, and said, well, that's what happens when the baby grows. And she kept on about it, not dropping it and people were sheepishly laughing, because it was so awkward. I literally walked away.
I have sent pics to my siblings randomly to involve them since I don't live near them, and they haven't seen me since Thanksgiving. And one of my sisters responded, "are you sure they're aren't two in there?" Uh, yes, I sent you the ultrasound pictures. I haven't sent a pic since then.
Today at work: "oh my goodness! You are huuuuge!!!" ( by someone I haven't seen in months.) geeeeezzz... Thank you! That's great to hear... I haven't noticed ....
Why can't people just shut the f.... Up and leave us alone with their useless and annoying comments!!!
I another person tells me that I "don't look pregnant from the back" I might freak out. I know it is meant as a compliment but it just skeeves me out. And does anyone look pregnant from the back?
Another student comment: "Wow! I never knew you were pregnant! You are always wearing HUUUUUGE shirts so it is hard to see your belly, but I definitely see it now."
And then her buddy said: "You should name your kid Waffle." which started a very passionate discussion about whether "Waffle" or "French Toast" is a better name based on the deliciousness of said item.
It is never boring working with elementary school aged kids.
I another person tells me that I "don't look pregnant from the back" I might freak out. I know it is meant as a compliment but it just skeeves me out. And does anyone look pregnant from the back?
This has always been the weirdest "compliment" to me too. Who looks pregnant from the back? What does that even mean?
@laurenmdrn16 - I like it - I always divert "what's the name?" conversations over to a long discussion of ridiculous names, most recently which bread I should name my daughter after. Top contenders are Brioche and Ciabatta.
Also just came over after looking at all of yesterday's HDBD pictures to say that, maybe I'm just used to what a pregnant woman looks like now, but everyone looks so good - cannot believe how many "are you sure there aren't two?" and "you're huge!" comments people are getting. You all are looking good!
@Pascal86, with name trends these days, I totally wouldn't be surprised if people actually named their kids Brioche or Ciabatta! (I've seen worse names on the Baby Names board.)
I another person tells me that I "don't look pregnant from the back" I might freak out. I know it is meant as a compliment but it just skeeves me out. And does anyone look pregnant from the back?
I look pregnant from the back because I waddle . . . a lot!
OK, so.......before babies. I was very small. I'm still kind of small and I'm pregnant with number 3. A lady at my church asked me how far along I was. I told her almost 7 months. She gave me the most disgusting look and said "I wish I looked like you when I had my kids". Like what???? Am I suppose to be huge just cause I'm pregnant? I think that's just as rude as tell someone they are fat!!!!!!
Got my first weird one today...kindergartner says, "I hope you don't trip on your baby," as we were walking out to recess. Umm???
Ok so I read this while very tired. My first thought was "Is he/she concerned the baby will fall out and you will trip?" This instantly made me laugh uncontrollably!
Got my first weird one today...kindergartner says, "I hope you don't trip on your baby," as we were walking out to recess. Umm???
Ok so I read this while very tired. My first thought was "Is he/she concerned the baby will fall out and you will trip?" This instantly made me laugh uncontrollably!
bahaha!! That's hilarious!
I just said, "Well, the baby is in my stomach still, so my feet can still walk just fine." I wonder if she was thinking the same thing you were?! hahaha
So I went to the gym for the first time in about a month this morning. This old man that is always in there the same time as me stopped me on my way out.
Old man: Where have you been? I haven't seen you in here in a while.
Me: *pointing to belly* Well, I've been growing a baby and not exercising as much.
Old man: You look like you've swallowed a watermelon!
Me: Haha..
Old man: You came in here one day with your hair down. Long, beautiful hair... is that hair what caused the baby?
Me: Um... *slowly backs away to the door*
Married: May 2012 DS1: May 2016 DS2: Jan 2019 Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
So I went to the gym for the first time in about a month this morning. This old man that is always in there the same time as me stopped me on my way out.
Old man: Where have you been? I haven't seen you in here in a while.
Me: *pointing to belly* Well, I've been growing a baby and not exercising as much.
Old man: You look like you've swallowed a watermelon!
Me: Haha..
Old man: You came in here one day with your hair down. Long, beautiful hair... is that hair what caused the baby?
Me: Um... *slowly backs away to the door*
Is he confused about how babies are made? It reminds me of in Avatar when the alien cats connected their hair to each other and it was like "Ooooo are they doing it?!"
OMG! I finally had a rude comment from a stranger.. well a patient of mine... who is kind of weird to begin with. So he starts off by telling my I should be taking care of myself and why was I walking around, blah blah blah. THEN he mumbled something and I said, "excuse me?" and he said "answer me quietly, watch my eyes" as I'm getting weirded out he looks at my left hand and says "Is that because you just didn't feel like wearing it?" meaning my empty left hand/ring finger...... First of all ASSHOLE. It's none of your business. Maybe I'm a single mom doing this on my own and don't need a ring on my finger!! Second, did you ever stop to realize pregnant women swell and can't fit into ANYTHING they did pre-pregnancy... including rings. Ahhhh... has me so angry. Some people need a damn filter.... or muzzle.
OMG! I finally had a rude comment from a stranger.. well a patient of mine... who is kind of weird to begin with. So he starts off by telling my I should be taking care of myself and why was I walking around, blah blah blah. THEN he mumbled something and I said, "excuse me?" and he said "answer me quietly, watch my eyes" as I'm getting weirded out he looks at my left hand and says "Is that because you just didn't feel like wearing it?" meaning my empty left hand/ring finger...... First of all ASSHOLE. It's none of your business. Maybe I'm a single mom doing this on my own and don't need a ring on my finger!! Second, did you ever stop to realize pregnant women swell and can't fit into ANYTHING they did pre-pregnancy... including rings. Ahhhh... has me so angry. Some people need a damn filter.... or muzzle.
Re: Comments from Strangers Thread
Next time tell her that they were wrong all along and that you are having quadruplets!
-Two kids were discussing if I was having twins or not. One kid said I was because I've been pregnant since Christmas time and twins take longer. I started to tell him that twins take the same amount of time as singles but before I could he pointed at me and said "Plus look at how big she is. Of course there's two babies."
-Every time I eat in front of the kindergarten class I monitor for lunch someone manages to tell me how I should stop eating because I've been getting fat. Now I know they're kindergarteners but I've explained to them 100 times that it's not fat it's a baby.
-Ms. Charla are you fat or having a baby? I explained to the student that I'm having a baby. She said, "Oh I didn't know because your belly was getting bigger and your arms are more shaky." (Meaning my upper arm fat)
-"Ms. Charla did you know you could feed your baby with your breast?" Cautiously I said, "yes. I did know that." His response, "Your baby's going to be fat because you have a lot of food in yours." (1st grade kid)
DD: 05/14/16
My students have been surprisingly quiet about the whole thing. One boy did drop something on the floor and said "Oooops, I better pick that up because Nurse Lauren definitely can't. She might fall over!" I explained that that was rude (thinking: but true!) and yes, he needs to pick it up but because HE dropped it. Then, wouldn't you know, I dropped my pen not 2 seconds later. I had made SUCH a big deal about picking up after yourself that I couldn't back out so I did my best squat retrieval and even gave a little triumphant smirk to the kid.
Also, kids who obviously don't get science, twins actually take less time.
well...I mean...yes?
Like wtf do you need to point out something so unnecessary and useless in front of everyone in a meeting. Its not like I would randomly tell her you know you have one weird strand of grey hair right?
I swear that if anyone tries this one on me, I'm going to say, "I really don't know which night that we had sex got me pregnant." Do you think that would help people pipe down?!
and it's the truth...I should have been too late in my cycle to get pregnant!
Mama to Three Girls:
Twins born March 2014 at 26 weeks due to preterm labor
and our 37weeker born May 9th, 2016!
Love this doc!
I have no clue how to respond to that besides I'm sorry to hear that. Super uncomfortable.
She also asked if I was just getting done with work, or just starting. I said just starting, and she responded, you look like you need a nap.
Uh, thanks?
I had a member of management tell me, "not trying to sound mean, but I was huge!" Of course, right in front of a crowd of people.
I looked at her, and said, well, that's what happens when the baby grows. And she kept on about it, not dropping it and people were sheepishly laughing, because it was so awkward.
I literally walked away.
I have sent pics to my siblings randomly to involve them since I don't live near them, and they haven't seen me since Thanksgiving. And one of my sisters responded, "are you sure they're aren't two in there?"
Uh, yes, I sent you the ultrasound pictures. I haven't sent a pic since then.
( by someone I haven't seen in months.)
geeeeezzz... Thank you! That's great to hear... I haven't noticed ....
Why can't people just shut the f.... Up and leave us alone with their useless and annoying comments!!!
"Wow! I never knew you were pregnant! You are always wearing HUUUUUGE shirts so it is hard to see your belly, but I definitely see it now."
And then her buddy said: "You should name your kid Waffle." which started a very passionate discussion about whether "Waffle" or "French Toast" is a better name based on the deliciousness of said item.
It is never boring working with elementary school aged kids.
Also just came over after looking at all of yesterday's HDBD pictures to say that, maybe I'm just used to what a pregnant woman looks like now, but everyone looks so good - cannot believe how many "are you sure there aren't two?" and "you're huge!" comments people are getting. You all are looking good!
Not everyone can breastfeed - Mammary Hypoplasia/Insufficient Glandular Tissue Awareness
"Ummm, I don't know...."
"Oh, when I was pregnant, I was always planning my next meal!"
I didn't realize this was a pregnancy related question at first. So random!
Last time I started saying I was hoping baby would be born with 6 toes on each foot and end up an Olympic swimmer, but no one ever got the joke...
I just said, "Well, the baby is in my stomach still, so my feet can still walk just fine." I wonder if she was thinking the same thing you were?! hahaha
Old man: Where have you been? I haven't seen you in here in a while.
Me: *pointing to belly* Well, I've been growing a baby and not exercising as much.
Old man: You look like you've swallowed a watermelon!
Me: Haha..
Old man: You came in here one day with your hair down. Long, beautiful hair... is that hair what caused the baby?
Me: Um... *slowly backs away to the door*
DS1: May 2016
DS2: Jan 2019
Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24