My assistant superintendents daughter in law in pregnant too... So one day while we were making conversation about it he goes "yea, she isn't due until July so she hasn't gotten her pudge like you have yet."
Also guy I always see that works at target, on my way out he apparently notices my belly and goes "WHOA, where did that come from?"
I think the weirdest thing I've gotten so far is from a woman in the grocery store last week. She asked me if I knew what I was having and when I said boy she goes "make sure he is circumcised or he won't be able to give you grandchildren." Wait. Whaaaaat?
How on earth did the human race survive prior to the invention of surgical equipment?!
I thought exactly this!
Honestly, some people. Also, strangers' unborn babies' penises are not her business, even if that was how that worked.
I think the weirdest thing I've gotten so far is from a woman in the grocery store last week. She asked me if I knew what I was having and when I said boy she goes "make sure he is circumcised or he won't be able to give you grandchildren." Wait. Whaaaaat?
OMG. Lady needs to check her facts! If she said that to me I would have told her my husband isn't and he managed to knock me up on the first try!
DH and I ordered sushi to share. Waitress explicitly told me TWICE that I couldn't have the raw tuna ones but could eat the cooked ones. Don't tell me what to do lady!
(although I suppose it was a nice gesture to look out for the pregnant lady but then I realized I look pregnant now instead of just fat so yay!)
1. Some of the women at work have decided to start trying to guess our baby's name. We tell people "yes we've chosen. It's a bible name, we aren't sharing it with people yet though". One lady after seven guesses got so mad at me she said "well when WILL we get to find out?!" Uh...when he's born, like the rest of the world? 2. A woman at church (who asked if she could be our kids daycare provider) said "wow you're looking pregnant in your face now!". Wow. Thanks. She corrected herself by saying I had a glow but whatever.
i read a funny line that if you wanna make someone uncomfortable who has just told a sexist/racist joke, tell them you don't get it and make them explain it. I think when people comment about us we should say equally rude things back. Like, "oh you're so big for 8 months!" "Yeah, I mean, you're not even pregnant and look how big you are!" bless all the people who see me and just say I look cute.
"How are you feeling dear?" Followed by "just wait until the baby gets here, you'll (insert tired/ other feeling/emotion that has been predetermined that I will experience)
Cant a pregnant woman just be feeling ok without some comment following?!
I think the weirdest thing I've gotten so far is from a woman in the grocery store last week. She asked me if I knew what I was having and when I said boy she goes "make sure he is circumcised or he won't be able to give you grandchildren." Wait. Whaaaaat?
"you're so small!" "are you sure there's a baby in there?" "you're tiny!"
But it doesn't bother me... I actually like those comments
But then I wore a shirt that I KNEW would make it obvious I was pregnant and got "NOW you look pregnant!" - said by someone the very next day after saying one of the above
Thanks?
ETA: And "tiny" as I may look, I've gained 30 pounds, soooo
I had a complete stranger (male) try and grab my bump today at the supermarket. I blocked his move with the overloaded basket I was carrying and said "Do you mind?!" in the rudest way possible. There wasn't even and pre-chatter or anything. I was just standing there deciding on cheese and a hand came out of no where to touch my bump?! What is wrong with people?!
I was going through airport security and the agent asked me if I was pregnant or had a large breakfast.
I had a very annoying co-worker watch me while was pulling on my wetsuit and ask if I had been eating too many tacos. She already knew I was pregnant but asked very loudly in front of others who didn't know yet. I told her it was all baby and asked her what her excuse was for no longer fitting in her suit. She did not comment on my weight again
Today...with 2 months left I had two people just ask me if I was pregnant. My favorite though are the people who demand I have another child after this (not the current plan). As an only child myself it's amazing just watching them shove their foot in their mouth and say how they will be awkward or not be able to hold a job and be able to say oh hey...I'm an old child with a job that helps other people. Probably right on the awkward part though
I have not experienced anything like that as of yet. Will be 30 weeks tomorrow. Then again I don't leave the house that much. I think I just look more fat than pregnant. I can tell it's a bump, but i wear oversized tshirts so that might be part of the reason. Either way I"m glad not to get the weird comments.
@JoMunson if someone told me I was looking pregnant in the face (which I do and I have since 20 weeks) I would have cut them.
That's like oh your thighs are so pregnant.
So far this week my comment goes to the creepster who asked if I've been checked for dilation. He then goes on to tell me his daughter in law is 3.5 cm dilated and 36 weeks, and he doesn't remember those checks with his wife and their 4 kids.
Not exactly a stranger but a patron from the public library. He's a special needs adult and generally very friendly and jovial, but when he asked me when I decided to have a baby I was a bit flabbergasted - honestly couldn't think of anything to say. He also made a disappointed "awww" sound when he found out I wasn't due until the end of May, and I was just thinking dude, it's not like I'm going to have the baby in a papoose while I'm at work. He's nice, and means well, but most of the things he says give me an "Oh, [patron name]..." reaction.
There's also one of the teachers at the school I work at who commented back in January that I wasn't showing at all... last week she told me I looked "normal" now. Thanks?
When DH and I were touring daycares, an eavesdropping dropoff mom asked us if we had used fertility treatments (because we're having twins). I was floored and it probably showed on my face because she said "it's okay, I'm a nurse" after my moments of silence. We did do ivf, but only transfered one embryo so identical twins were still a crazy surprise. We ended up picking a different daycare.
Lately, people just keep telling me "Any day now, right?" No, you f*cks. I have two months to go and yeah I look full term pregnant because I am carrying a combined 5 lbs of baby. Deal with it and bring me a cookie.
I had a complete stranger (male) try and grab my bump today at the supermarket. I blocked his move with the overloaded basket I was carrying and said "Do you mind?!" in the rudest way possible. There wasn't even and pre-chatter or anything. I was just standing there deciding on cheese and a hand came out of no where to touch my bump?! What is wrong with people?!
That's so creepy. I'd be so worried it's a perv who gets off on touching pregnant women, like those guys on subways who try to touch boobs/butts.
Like others, I'm getting the stares of disbelief when I tell them I have 6-7 weeks to go still-- and the questions of "are you certain it's not twins?" Plus, my ultra rude, occasional comment of: "that's okay, you can try again for a girl next time," when they see I have a boy and hear I'm having another boy. Nope, we were trying for another baby...not a specific sex. Stop pretending like everyone needs one of each or like my boys won't be good enough! I hate those comments far more than the size/you won't make it another 6 weeks comments.
Founding (female) partner at my law firm....you've still got two months left...you're never gonna make it!! Ummm why?
Also, woman at restaurant came up, grabbed my belly and said "you're going to have a beautiful baby girl about the third week in May!" Freaky weird...it is a girl and while 40 weeks is the end of May, i will be induced sometime that third week....
We went to visit DH's grandma in the hospital, she just had hip surgery. I voluntarily said I wanted to go, DH didn't ask me to. We got there and the nurse comes in, she goes "oh I didn't get to introduce you to Easton, this is Easton" she points to me.The nurse thought my name was Easton, it's not. That is the name of our unborn child, the one I'm carrying right now. So yeah, I'm officially the human incubator in her eyes.
Note: she never formally introduced me to the nurse after we clarified to the nurse that that was the baby's name. Isn't grandma a real peach?!
Founding (female) partner at my law firm....you've still got two months left...you're never gonna make it!! Ummm why?
Also, woman at restaurant came up, grabbed my belly and said "you're going to have a beautiful baby girl about the third week in May!" Freaky weird...it is a girl and while 40 weeks is the end of May, i will be induced sometime that third week....
I always think when people say this: Am I supposed to die??
Been married since 2009. Unicornuate Uterus (yes I menstruate glitter) Several MCs DD born 2013 (our miracle "you can't have babies" baby!)
We went to a new restaurant for lunch today and the server leaned over as she was taking our order and poked my bump with the back of her pen and asked "whatcha got in there?" Ummmmm.........yeah that's the basketball that I'm smuggling in here and I'd like a coke to drink, thanks.....who does that?!?! Never had anyone try and molest my bump with DS, but I did, and still do, have problems with strangers grabbing all up on him after he was born. I really wish people didn't throw common sense out the window with pregnant women and small children.
On Christmas Day, we were at Disney with our 4 & 2 year old. I was momentarily alone with both kids while DH was locating our stroller and they were misbehaving by not holding my hands. This elderly lady rolled up in a scooter and asked if I was really having a third or if I was a surrogate. Then when I answered, "he's mine" she gave me the look and said "well you're a brave one, huh?" I told her that was rude and that nobody asks that kind of thing these days.
Thanks to her we had a great experience, though. A Disney attendant was standing next to me and heard the whole exchange. He ushered me towards a set of exit doors. On the other side we were immediately approached by another attendant, who chose my daughter to call a huge flock of pretty songbirds, just like the princesses do. It was amazing!
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Ah I just remembered this gem from my first pregnancy...
teen coworker: So do you know who the baby daddy is? me: What? tc: Do you know who the dad is? me: Well, I'm married. tc: So. That doesn't mean anything. me: Well yeah it does, because I've only had sex with my husband. tc: Still... me: It's 100% my husband's. tc: Ok...
Today at my work conference we have this card that if we go to each vendor booth and get it signed and completed we will be entered into a drawing...so I made it my mission to do it and go into the drawing because I'm awesome at winning random shit at conferences. Anyhow, so I walk up to this drug testing booth and the guy sees my card and asks if I want him to sign it, then sees that it's still completely empty and he says "You better get busy!" and the female vendor with him says "Looks like she's already been busy!!" So inappropriate. I've never even met you lady!
Also, the other week at Court we had to recess to wait for the jail to bring someone and I was talking with one of the therapists about a new client I was getting when she started rubbing my belly and said "Ooooohhh!! You're tight! Are you using lotion!?" I was so shocked and uncomfortable because of her lack of boundaries that I had no clue how to respond.
I've been totally oblivious to the dumbass jokes people make. Last time we were at Home Depot, we finished checking out, but then the check-out guy pointed at me and said, "looks like you forgot to ring something up!" I had a book on paint colors under my arm that I had brought, so I was like, "oh sorry, I actually brought this with me." So of course he had to further explain his stupid joke and say, "no, I mean that thing you're trying to hide under your shirt!" I just stared at him and said, "Oh. I thought you were talking about the book." And left without so much as smiling at him. It wasn't the worst comment in the world, but was just not funny at all, especially when it completely went over my head and had to be explained.
A friend asked me if we had celebrated a birthday or some anniversary in August (when we conceived).
Like we only have sex on special occasions.
Gah QBF: This reminds me of a great comment I got when I announced I was pregnant at a staff meeting. When I said my due date, I watched one of the male teachers do fast math in his head and smirk "Guess we know what you did this summer!" Yup, I had sex. Good one.
Although he's not a stranger, my boss keeps referring to when I "go on vacation"...aka maternity leave. I usually give him a puzzled look and remind him that I'm not planning to go on vacation anytime soon.
There's this guy who works in another department in my company who I barely know, but I occasionally have to draft legal documents for his deals. His wife just had a baby a few months ago, so apparently that makes him some sort of expert on pregnancy. Every time I see him, even just in passing, he wants to stop and ask questions about my pregnancy. It's usually pretty mundane and along the lines of him asking how I'm feeling, me saying "fine," and him going on to say, "Well, when my wife was pregnant...blah, blah, blah." A little annoying, but whatever. We were standing in line at the cafeteria yesterday, and he randomly walked up to me and was like, "So, are you experiencing a lot of anxiety now?" I just gave him a puzzled look and said, "No, but thanks for asking." It just seemed like an odd question.
Although he's not a stranger, my boss keeps referring to when I "go on vacation"...aka maternity leave. I usually give him a puzzled look and remind him that I'm not planning to go on vacation anytime soon.
THIS! OMG my supervisors also call ML a "vacation". I can't even tell you how many times I have clarified that I am going out on disability not going to The Bahama's.
A couple weeks ago DH and I were getting food at the hospital and the lady at the register said "oh, you're about to pop, huh?!" I was so dumbfounded. DH couldn't stop giggling after we walked away.
Sunday we were visiting with family and my aunt asked what we were having because she couldn't remember. My dad answered before I had the chance and said "she's having a baby!" Love him.
And the most awkward one so far: My mom and I went to get pedicures yesterday and I had a guy doing mine, which was already weird enough. First he said he didn't know I was pregnant.. What?? And then when my mom told him I have another daughter that is almost 3 he said "oh, so you've been a busy girl!" Excuse me?!?! I said "well, I'm an adult and I'm married, soooo......?" What in the world, crazy people? When is it ever acceptable to comment on my sex life, and I wouldn't consider 2 kids in 3 years being "busy".
I was going through airport security and the agent asked me if I was pregnant or had a large breakfast.
I had a very annoying co-worker watch me while was pulling on my wetsuit and ask if I had been eating too many tacos. She already knew I was pregnant but asked very loudly in front of others who didn't know yet. I told her it was all baby and asked her what her excuse was for no longer fitting in her suit. She did not comment on my weight again
There is this guy at the dog park who is nice but loves to talk about himself and often smokes weed at the park while we are all there at 6 AM. We hadn't seen him in a few weeks but he showed up the other day and couldn't wait to tell us all about his recent hemorrhoid surgery. After he told us way to much about it despite our attempts to shift the conversation to normal dog park fodder (e.g. the dogs, the weather, etc.) he turned to me and said, "You know, women say hemorrhoid surgery is more painful than giving birth."
Ummm cool dude. What did he want me to say - "Can't wait until after the baby is born so we can compare notes!" ?!
There is this guy at the dog park who is nice but loves to talk about himself and often smokes weed at the park while we are all there at 6 AM. We hadn't seen him in a few weeks but he showed up the other day and couldn't wait to tell us all about his recent hemorrhoid surgery. After he told us way to much about it despite our attempts to shift the conversation to normal dog park fodder (e.g. the dogs, the weather, etc.) he turned to me and said, "You know, women say hemorrhoid surgery is more painful than giving birth."
Ummm cool dude. What did he want me to say - "Can't wait until after the baby is born so we can compare notes!" ?!
Re: Comments from Strangers Thread
Also guy I always see that works at target, on my way out he apparently notices my belly and goes "WHOA, where did that come from?"
Really.... men!
Honestly, some people. Also, strangers' unborn babies' penises are not her business, even if that was how that worked.
Not everyone can breastfeed - Mammary Hypoplasia/Insufficient Glandular Tissue Awareness
(although I suppose it was a nice gesture to look out for the pregnant lady but then I realized I look pregnant now instead of just fat
2. A woman at church (who asked if she could be our kids daycare provider) said "wow you're looking pregnant in your face now!". Wow. Thanks. She corrected herself by saying I had a glow but whatever.
i read a funny line that if you wanna make someone uncomfortable who has just told a sexist/racist joke, tell them you don't get it and make them explain it. I think when people comment about us we should say equally rude things back. Like, "oh you're so big for 8 months!" "Yeah, I mean, you're not even pregnant and look how big you are!"
bless all the people who see me and just say I look cute.
Cant a pregnant woman just be feeling ok without some comment following?!
"are you sure there's a baby in there?"
"you're tiny!"
But it doesn't bother me... I actually like those comments
But then I wore a shirt that I KNEW would make it obvious I was pregnant and got
"NOW you look pregnant!" - said by someone the very next day after saying one of the above
Thanks?
ETA:
And "tiny" as I may look, I've gained 30 pounds, soooo
Married: Oct 20, 2013
BFP 1: Aug 31, 2015
EDD 1: May 12, 2016
DD1 Emma born May 12, 2016
An Honest Account of New Motherhood (with Postpartum Anxiety, Depression, and OCD)
BFP 2: October 07, 2019
EDD 2: June 20, 2020
I had a very annoying co-worker watch me while was pulling on my wetsuit and ask if I had been eating too many tacos. She already knew I was pregnant but asked very loudly in front of others who didn't know yet. I told her it was all baby and asked her what her excuse was for no longer fitting in her suit. She did not comment on my weight again
"How far along are you?"
"32 weeks"
"First one?"
"Yes"
"Wow, you look great, your face didn't stretch out or get ugly or anything"
"Gee, thanks..."
Been married since 2009.
Unicornuate Uterus (yes I menstruate glitter)
Several MCs
DD born 2013 (our miracle "you can't have babies" baby!)
First Pregnancy
Second Pregnancy
- BFP: 09/11/2015
- EDD: 05/25/2016
Baby Born04/15/2016
PGAL
That's like oh your thighs are so pregnant.
So far this week my comment goes to the creepster who asked if I've been checked for dilation. He then goes on to tell me his daughter in law is 3.5 cm dilated and 36 weeks, and he doesn't remember those checks with his wife and their 4 kids.
There's also one of the teachers at the school I work at who commented back in January that I wasn't showing at all... last week she told me I looked "normal" now. Thanks?
Lately, people just keep telling me "Any day now, right?" No, you f*cks. I have two months to go and yeah I look full term pregnant because I am carrying a combined 5 lbs of baby. Deal with it and bring me a cookie.
That's so creepy. I'd be so worried it's a perv who gets off on touching pregnant women, like those guys on subways who try to touch boobs/butts.
Also, woman at restaurant came up, grabbed my belly and said "you're going to have a beautiful baby girl about the third week in May!" Freaky weird...it is a girl and while 40 weeks is the end of May, i will be induced sometime that third week....
We went to visit DH's grandma in the hospital, she just had hip surgery. I voluntarily said I wanted to go, DH didn't ask me to. We got there and the nurse comes in, she goes "oh I didn't get to introduce you to Easton, this is Easton" she points to me.The nurse thought my name was Easton, it's not. That is the name of our unborn child, the one I'm carrying right now. So yeah, I'm officially the human incubator in her eyes.
Note: she never formally introduced me to the nurse after we clarified to the nurse that that was the baby's name. Isn't grandma a real peach?!
Been married since 2009.
Unicornuate Uterus (yes I menstruate glitter)
Several MCs
DD born 2013 (our miracle "you can't have babies" baby!)
Thanks to her we had a great experience, though. A Disney attendant was standing next to me and heard the whole exchange. He ushered me towards a set of exit doors. On the other side we were immediately approached by another attendant, who chose my daughter to call a huge flock of pretty songbirds, just like the princesses do. It was amazing!
teen coworker: So do you know who the baby daddy is?
me: What?
tc: Do you know who the dad is?
me: Well, I'm married.
tc: So. That doesn't mean anything.
me: Well yeah it does, because I've only had sex with my husband.
tc: Still...
me: It's 100% my husband's.
tc: Ok...
i had had to just walk away.
Like we only have sex on special occasions.
BFP #1: 9/12/2015
DD: 6/1/2016
BFP #2: 1/16/2018 MC 2/2/2018
Sunday we were visiting with family and my aunt asked what we were having because she couldn't remember. My dad answered before I had the chance and said "she's having a baby!"
Love him.
And the most awkward one so far: My mom and I went to get pedicures yesterday and I had a guy doing mine, which was already weird enough. First he said he didn't know I was pregnant.. What?? And then when my mom told him I have another daughter that is almost 3 he said "oh, so you've been a busy girl!" Excuse me?!?! I said "well, I'm an adult and I'm married, soooo......?" What in the world, crazy people? When is it ever acceptable to comment on my sex life, and I wouldn't consider 2 kids in 3 years being "busy".
Ummm cool dude. What did he want me to say - "Can't wait until after the baby is born so we can compare notes!" ?!
"So you look far enough along that I can ask you, your pregnant not fat right?"
I just laughed and said, "Yes, pregnant." I mean how do you respond to that?