@618mom22boys I went from a weirdly hard to pronounce 5 letter last name to a super common last name. Perhaps that's why I changed it like a week after we got married It's so nice but at the same time I miss feeling unique as I've come across several people over the years with the same first and last name.
My maiden name (watch out and get ready to stalk me) was Anna White. I lived my whole life with people being like "Oh my god! Just like Vanna!" ... I loved it. It never once bothered me and I think it made me memorable, everyone remembered my name. Also - how easy is it to say "White like the color". My married last name I have to spell, every time, because there's a couple common alterations. It's pretty annoying, and I often miss my simple name.
I'm kind of judgey when people don't at least try to breastfeed. I know, BFing can be really hard. It took several months to get a good relationship going with my daughter but it was so worth it. I know, how another person feeds her child isn't my business but it still makes me sad when people don't at least make a small effort.
My DH suggested Olivia, Penelope, Sophia, and Emma so far for this baby. These are beautiful names, and I would love them if they weren't trending, but I just looked at him and said "did you just google top 5 names in the last 10 years or something?" I don't care if the name is in the top 50 or 100, but I'm really trying to avoid the top 10.
As a Jennifer, having a popular name isn't bad. Yes you turn around a lot and find out people are not talking to you. Why are there sooo many of us? Because my name is just that awesome.
@Sporty1216 I've thought of some ideas to make rocking DD after LO is born work as well. Night time shouldn't be too bad since DH is home, and one of us can tackle one kid while the other tackles the second. Daytime naps may get hard because it'll just be me. DD is pretty flexible with her naptimes, so as long as baby can handle being put down in a rock n play or swing for 5-10 minutes, I think I can manage.
Or I'm crazy, and it'll never work during the day... I keep second guessing myself because I've never been a parent to more than one child and have no idea what to expect.
I've been trying to post more so I don't feel like such a lurker, but I'm on the mobile app and posting is a pita. My fffc is that I've just about convinced myself in the past week that my gas is the baby moving. I'm only 11.5 weeks, yes I am side eyeing myself.
I'm kind of judgey when people don't at least try to breastfeed. I know, BFing can be really hard. It took several months to get a good relationship going with my daughter but it was so worth it. I know, how another person feeds her child isn't my business but it still makes me sad when people don't at least make a small effort.
I had absolutely no interest in breastfeeding my son, so I didn't, it's a personal choice. DS is growing and a healthy boy. My doctor was on board with whatever I decided, why cause extra stress / anxiety for something that just doesn't feel right for someone? Or judge someone because they don't do as you do
We still rock out DS to sleep both at naps, bedtime and mid of the night and he's almost 2. He's NOT a good sleeper however and we were never able to sleep train bc he has a sensitive gag reflex and he will start barfing if he cries too intensely. Its awful. However, if he would go to sleep on his own I would def let him! I miss sleep...
Agreed with naming kids after TV shows! My fave girl name is Lillian (Lily for short) and I know became really popular bc of Charlottes baby in Sex in the City. Whateves, im still using it.
Also, def miss the snark. Two FFFCs: first sometimes when I'm in the mood for some bitchy I scroll through the boards looking for trigger subjects with lots of responses hoping for a good run if snark. I've been disappointed more than once
Second, I've watched every episode of American Idol this season and I'm hooked. I'm not a super fan or anything, and I've seen some seasons in the past, but my pregnant hormonal self just can't turn away when it's on! When the parents of the contestants cry, it gets me every time... And I want to see what JLo is wearing
@izzetoot- I have seen most episodes of every season (some seasons we drop watching when our favorites go home because we just don't like who's left). I'm guessing you saw last night? Kelly Clarkson?!?! OMG, I had tears running down my face - My husband was laughing at Keith Urban for crying, then looked at me and just went "...oh." That song though, wow! I hadn't heard it yet.
If we find a few who watch we can chat about who are some favorites!
S/O breastfeeding, I couldn't care less whether mothers choose to breastfeed or bottle feed. However, my FFFC is I think a lot of women claim they can't when in reality they don't want to. Yes, there are women who physically can't breastfeed, but if you decide not to breastfeed, at any point for any reason, it should be ok and say, "I don't want to breastfeed".
FWIW, I started out EBF LO. I had latching problems, then supply problems and it was hard work, as @PSUBecky23 stated. Finally, I had enough and we started LO on formula. I enjoyed the months we breastfed, but I also enjoyed the freedom formula gave me.
@AMT1107- Good for you. I wanted to breastfeed my son but was never super gungho about it - it was a "I'll try this and if it doesn't work then formula is cool too" We introduced a bottle within the first week and he took it immediately. When someone says that they chose not to breastfeed I never ask why - because it just doesn't matter. It's like "I chose not to name my child John" ... fantastic, doesn't need be a reason. Do what you do. I think formula is a gift from the gods, the switch helped me overcome some pretty severe post-partum anxiety and my little guy is a strong, smart, growing little dude now on cow's milk.
Like a meme my sister posted "I breastfed, I bottlefed, Now my kids each stale french fries off the floor of the van"
Here's a more fun FFFC - I haven't really been in the mood for sex. My husband probably assumes my drive is just low. The truth is I'm not in the mood because I've already "taken care of business" earlier in the day. I'm kind of sorry, but really not - If the mood kicks while I'm in the shower or fresh out, I'm not waiting until the end of the day to fulfill it.
@AnnaS930 Yaaaaass! I was bawling, and when Keith Urban started crying I cried harder! I blame it on the hormones but still, that song! So sad and endearing to her daughter I almost started an Idol thread last night after watching but searched first to see if anyone else was watching and didn't see a lot of interest. I hope other mamas watch so we can start chatting about it! I'm all for LaPorsha and Dalton for now
Last night I threw up for the first time in either pregnancy. It won me a night to myself in a bed by myself and I got the best sleep I've had in a while. Silver lining. Maybe getting sick isn't so bad ::sigh::
Ugh, so jealous. I don't see how people can be pregnant without puking their guts out.
Another fffc: I have little sympathy for my friends with nausea during pregnancy who don't puke. Apparently puking a lot has made me a bitter person.
DD1 6.2011 DD2 4.2013 - vbac DS1 9.2016 - vbac, team green Baby #4 due 9.2018
I'm kind of judgey when people don't at least try to breastfeed. I know, BFing can be really hard. It took several months to get a good relationship going with my daughter but it was so worth it. I know, how another person feeds her child isn't my business but it still makes me sad when people don't at least make a small effort.
I had absolutely no interest in breastfeeding my son, so I didn't, it's a personal choice. DS is growing and a healthy boy. My doctor was on board with whatever I decided, why cause extra stress / anxiety for something that just doesn't feel right for someone? Or judge someone because they don't do as you do
Like I said, I know it's not my business. It's just a judgment that I have. You do you.
I'm kind of jealous of the ladies who can go days without washing their hair. Mine gets greasy after 1 day so I'm an every other day washer. I have thick, wavy hair so it's a PITA.
I don't have much for a FFFC other than I ate McDonald's for lunch and Jack in the Box for dinner yesterday. My morning sickness is gone (for the most part) and my appetite is back so I thought I'd take advantage. I'll probably regret it when I step on the scale at my next appointment.
@AnnaS930 - My maiden name is Brown. Yes, saying "Brown, like the color" was so easy. Although you would get the occasional weirdo that wanted to add an 'e' at the end. My married name is Scottish/Nordic and often misspelled and even mispronounced.
My FFFC - Everyone is assuming that DH and I are done having kids after these two. Two pregnancies, four kids, who wouldn't be done, right?! Truth is, I've asked DH to keep an open mind on the subject because I'm not sure that I'll be ready to be done. We're certainly not making any permanent decisions (no tube-tying or snipping). If I don't jump at saying "Yep, we're done after these two!", people's jaws drop and they look at me like I'm insane. In truth, some people already think we're insane for having two more.
@UnwritteN12- My sister and BIL didn't make any final decisions after having their boy/girl twins 4 years ago. They're now positive that those two have completed their family and will be going in for the snip at some point. I wouldn't have questioned it for a second had they decided to go for more! I got very few questions after having 1, but pregnant with #2 everyone seems to be asking if this is it for us or if we will have more. Uhh, let's have the baby first and see what life is like.
@crispy11 I welcome the puking. My nausea that doesn't end in puking often makes me feel worse than when I do puke. Normally after I throw up, I can choke down a frozen waffle with pb on it, and shortly feel better after. The nausea alone is endless, and I can't eat a thing until it's gone the next morning.
@AnnaS930 DH's and my favorite time for sex don't synch up either. He's a night person, and I prefer afternoon delight. Even not pregnant, I have more energy during the day and just want to go to sleep when I get to bed. Unless it's the weekend, there's not much choice in it now that we have a kid. Self induced lovin' doesn't really taper my desire for sex, though. They're different. Or I'm insatiable. Or both.
@AnnaS930 Leo is a fine name.. I like the meaning. But I much prefer Liam, and that sound, over the sharp O, and he hates it.
Another name FFFC- bring on the side eyes- one of the only boy names we agree on is Cooper, and it also happens to be our dog's name. So that'll be interesting if it ends up the name. However, our cats are Harlow and Maxi, and kids Harper and Max..so apparently that's our theme...?
@TNgoldengirl- I'm loving Cooper as well right now. I have kicked myself for using named I like for pets in the past, like What was I thinking?! Although I like Stella and I'm pretty sure that's my cousin's cat. Whatevs.
@AnnaS930 I know the struggle! The best incentive about that name is DH said as long as he goes by Cooper, I get to pick the first or middle name and the combination.
Inspiration also comes from movies...Bradley Cooper and Cooper from Interstellar. Ha.
@crispy11I am one of those people who almost never puked and only had constant nausea. I like it much better like that and feel very lucky. The nausea is very uncomfortable and would last all day but I really really hate puking, I used to have an eating disorder and would either go days without eating or make myself throw up after eating a small thing so it is really triggering to me and brings back too many bad memories.
Thankfully I don't feel nauseous much anymore, only a little bit here and there.
35 years old, TTC #1 Dec 28, 2011 PCOS, Hypothyroidism.
First IVF cycle June 5th 2015 --- BFP Miscarriage at 8 weeks
FET December 15th 2015--- BFP! First saw at 6w4d It's a boy!
Luciano Alessandro Maximiliano was born on September 3rd 2016
I'm with you @izzetoot and @AnnaS930 - I love American Idol! I cried my eyes out last night watching Kelly Clarkson. I've never heard that song before, but the words, the emotion, the tears and from Keith Urban?!? I was done.
For some reason it wouldn't let me reply directly, but, @crispy11 I felt so much better after actually puking. I've definitely had bouts of nausea this pregnancy but they always result in just that and I just feel like crap until I wake up the next morning and am not able to eat anything. After getting sick it was instant relief. But I still played it off and got a night to myself which I desperately needed.
@crispy11 I welcome the puking. My nausea that doesn't end in puking often makes me feel worse than when I do puke. Normally after I throw up, I can choke down a frozen waffle with pb on it, and shortly feel better after. The nausea alone is endless, and I can't eat a thing until it's gone the next morning.
This a thousand times! I want to puke so badly, because when I do I have an hour or two at least of feeling better afterwards, and it just so rarely happens. The nausea is just so constant. I go to bed nauseous, and I wake up nauseous without a break otherwise. Added to the constipation it's like my body is just holding on to everything when it needs to let it go!
My fffc is that I cried like a child last night because I was uncomfortable on the couch but it was warm, and the bed was all the way in the bedroom.
@UnwritteN12 I feel you. I had a boy, then a girl and people automatically assumed I was done because I had one of each. Even now I get comments like "you have one of each, you didn't need another"! Um, how about maybe I wanted another baby just because, regardless of the sex? This will be my third and realistically probably the last, but it does make me sad and I've asked DH to keep an open mind about a possible fourth. We will wait and see.
@crispy11 I welcome the puking. My nausea that doesn't end in puking often makes me feel worse than when I do puke. Normally after I throw up, I can choke down a frozen waffle with pb on it, and shortly feel better after. The nausea alone is endless, and I can't eat a thing until it's gone the next morning.
This is assuming the nausea goes away with puking. For me, puking just makes the nausea worse because I have a harder time eating food. I am not one of the "lucky" ones who can just puke and feel better. I can puke multiple times a day. I'm telling you. I'm bitter. Just let me stew in my bitterness.
DD1 6.2011 DD2 4.2013 - vbac DS1 9.2016 - vbac, team green Baby #4 due 9.2018
Regarding lurkers - I don't have a problem with them stopping by and contributing to the conversation, but I don't see why they would want to participate in our daily threads (FFFC, UO, MCM, etc) or more GTKY type threads (Walking dead spoilers, baby names, etc), as I see those as a way to get to know each other and build our own little community. I occasionally read other BMBs for ideas or to see if a question I have has been asked (and answered) there, and if I had something to contribute to a question asked or experience or advice with something, I'd absolutely chime in, but when it comes to opinions, confessions, or man crushes, or whether you watch the walking dead or dislike a baby name - I don't really have a desire to get to know others on a diff BMB, know what I mean? There is a difference between butting into a friendly group conversation and offering helpful advice or perspective to someone who is deliberately seeking it out.
Regarding the lack of snark - I'm kind of okay with it. If I ever want more snark, I can always hop over The Knot, which I think is getting downright mean lately.
My own FFFC - sex is totally, 100% completely for my husband right now, and unfortunately for him, he's not getting much of it. I mostly try to convince him to do it in the AM, before I have a chance to get crabby, and I pretty much just lie there 75% asleep while he goes about it. It's fun, and the 25% of my brain that is awake definitely enjoys it, but yeah, I'm much too exhausted to put in any effort or really care that much.
Another FFFC (I was reminded about this from the baby names post).
I'm kind of bummed about having a September baby. I mean, don't get me wrong, I'm really excited to even be having a baby and feel incredibly blessed to have a healthy pregnancy (so far *knocks on wood*). But I'd much rather have a spring or summer baby due to the school schedule. Our school year cuts off on Sept 1, so any child after that will have to wait until the following year to enroll in Kindergarten. I've heard that slightly younger kids do better in school because they are able to learn from the older kids and tend to be more appropriately "challenged" than those that are older. (it was an article about a study, not the study itself, and I can try to find it). I was a younger kid (born at the end of June) and really liked being on the younger side of things. It somehow felt advantageous. And while the age thing is a bit of a bummer, I'm really bummed out about the fact that it'll mean I have to pay for a full extra year of daycare that I wouldn't have had to pay for if baby would be born in August.
@PoodleDoodleOoo- I'm just so thankful to not be having another December baby. Although it was a blast to have him be 6months old by summer, it was brutal to be locked indoors with a newborn in the bitter cold of winter. We'd check the forecast and know in the morning that we wouldn't even be able to get out for a walk all day. This time around, I'm hoping to bundle up baby and be able to snuggle them/feed them on the screen porch while my 1.5 year old will be able to play outside. Fresh air is pretty much everything to me - Right now I jump for joy at 40degrees! It means we can go for a "long" walk - couple miles.
I completely agree @PoodleDoodleOoo I am a Kindergarten teacher. This is the worst time for a teacher to have a baby... I wanted spring so bad but it just didn't work out that way, but still grateful.
In nyc the school cut off is Dec 31st - so it's so bad for those poor Nov/ Dec babies who come in a 4 years old and are expected to do K ( which is like first grade now) So not fair.... to us and to them. they also won't let us recommend another year in prek - I've tried.
Me:35, DH 37 ~ Married July 2014 ttc July 2015 ~ bfp Nov 2015 (cp) bfp Dec 2015 ~ (tfmr 17wk, March 2016, genetic disease) ttcal May 2016
Another FFFC (I was reminded about this from the baby names post).
I'm kind of bummed about having a September baby. I mean, don't get me wrong, I'm really excited to even be having a baby and feel incredibly blessed to have a healthy pregnancy (so far *knocks on wood*). But I'd much rather have a spring or summer baby due to the school schedule. Our school year cuts off on Sept 1, so any child after that will have to wait until the following year to enroll in Kindergarten. I've heard that slightly younger kids do better in school because they are able to learn from the older kids and tend to be more appropriately "challenged" than those that are older. (it was an article about a study, not the study itself, and I can try to find it). I was a younger kid (born at the end of June) and really liked being on the younger side of things. It somehow felt advantageous. And while the age thing is a bit of a bummer, I'm really bummed out about the fact that it'll mean I have to pay for a full extra year of daycare that I wouldn't have had to pay for if baby would be born in August.
The argument goes both ways. I'm hoping I make it till 9/2 so I don't have to redshirt. If you look up Malcolm Gladwell Outliers oldest kid in class you'll find a lot of articles saying being oldest is an advantage. I'm also a June bday so I get what you're saying but there are studies on both sides.
I'm kind of judgey when people don't at least try to breastfeed. I know, BFing can be really hard. It took several months to get a good relationship going with my daughter but it was so worth it. I know, how another person feeds her child isn't my business but it still makes me sad when people don't at least make a small effort.
@PSUBecky23I'm completely ok with the judgement. I will not be BFing, in order to keep my own sanity. I need to be able to be separate from my child or allow my husband to take them or my parents to take them without feeling constricted because I need to pump or wip out the boob. I had a friend with the same mindset/personality. She caved and did breastfeeding, it ended causing serious depression and strain between her and her daughter. Once she stopped (and let go of the guilt) she went back to normal and continues to dote on her daughter to this day. I have no problem with women who BF, but for me and my child it just won't be the right thing for us.
@LakeR2014- I really like your post, especially the first line. I think that's what I'm missing. The fact that I wasn't ok with the judgement.. but judgement happens everywhere in everything we do. It's funny I so quickly was okay with the judgement on formula feeding but this post rubbed me the wrong way. You're right. I'm ok with the judgement because I'm confident it's right for me. Another person's skepticism or judgement can't define you
Re: FFFC!!
I'm kind of judgey when people don't at least try to breastfeed. I know, BFing can be really hard. It took several months to get a good relationship going with my daughter but it was so worth it. I know, how another person feeds her child isn't my business but it still makes me sad when people don't at least make a small effort.
Or I'm crazy, and it'll never work during the day... I keep second guessing myself because I've never been a parent to more than one child and have no idea what to expect.
My fffc is that I've just about convinced myself in the past week that my gas is the baby moving. I'm only 11.5 weeks, yes I am side eyeing myself.
July: Patriotic Fails
Agreed with naming kids after TV shows! My fave girl name is Lillian (Lily for short) and I know became really popular bc of Charlottes baby in Sex in the City. Whateves, im still using it.
Also, def miss the snark. Two FFFCs: first sometimes when I'm in the mood for some bitchy I scroll through the boards looking for trigger subjects with lots of responses hoping for a good run if snark. I've been disappointed more than once
Second, I've watched every episode of American Idol this season and I'm hooked. I'm not a super fan or anything, and I've seen some seasons in the past, but my pregnant hormonal self just can't turn away when it's on! When the parents of the contestants cry, it gets me every time... And I want to see what JLo is wearing
If we find a few who watch we can chat about who are some favorites!
FWIW, I started out EBF LO. I had latching problems, then supply problems and it was hard work, as @PSUBecky23 stated. Finally, I had enough and we started LO on formula. I enjoyed the months we breastfed, but I also enjoyed the freedom formula gave me.
Like a meme my sister posted "I breastfed, I bottlefed, Now my kids each stale french fries off the floor of the van"
Another fffc: I have little sympathy for my friends with nausea during pregnancy who don't puke. Apparently puking a lot has made me a bitter person.
DD2 4.2013 - vbac
DS1 9.2016 - vbac, team green
Baby #4 due 9.2018
I don't have much for a FFFC other than I ate McDonald's for lunch and Jack in the Box for dinner yesterday. My morning sickness is gone (for the most part) and my appetite is back so I thought I'd take advantage. I'll probably regret it when I step on the scale at my next appointment.
My FFFC - Everyone is assuming that DH and I are done having kids after these two. Two pregnancies, four kids, who wouldn't be done, right?! Truth is, I've asked DH to keep an open mind on the subject because I'm not sure that I'll be ready to be done. We're certainly not making any permanent decisions (no tube-tying or snipping). If I don't jump at saying "Yep, we're done after these two!", people's jaws drop and they look at me like I'm insane. In truth, some people already think we're insane for having two more.
Another name FFFC- bring on the side eyes- one of the only boy names we agree on is Cooper, and it also happens to be our dog's name. So that'll be interesting if it ends up the name. However, our cats are Harlow and Maxi, and kids Harper and Max..so apparently that's our theme...?
Inspiration also comes from movies...Bradley Cooper and Cooper from Interstellar. Ha.
Thankfully I don't feel nauseous much anymore, only a little bit here and there.
PCOS, Hypothyroidism.
Miscarriage at 8 weeks
First saw
It's a boy!
My fffc is that I cried like a child last night because I was uncomfortable on the couch but it was warm, and the bed was all the way in the bedroom.
DD2 4.2013 - vbac
DS1 9.2016 - vbac, team green
Baby #4 due 9.2018
Regarding the lack of snark - I'm kind of okay with it. If I ever want more snark, I can always hop over The Knot, which I think is getting downright mean lately.
My own FFFC - sex is totally, 100% completely for my husband right now, and unfortunately for him, he's not getting much of it. I mostly try to convince him to do it in the AM, before I have a chance to get crabby, and I pretty much just lie there 75% asleep while he goes about it. It's fun, and the 25% of my brain that is awake definitely enjoys it, but yeah, I'm much too exhausted to put in any effort or really care that much.
I'm kind of bummed about having a September baby. I mean, don't get me wrong, I'm really excited to even be having a baby and feel incredibly blessed to have a healthy pregnancy (so far *knocks on wood*). But I'd much rather have a spring or summer baby due to the school schedule. Our school year cuts off on Sept 1, so any child after that will have to wait until the following year to enroll in Kindergarten. I've heard that slightly younger kids do better in school because they are able to learn from the older kids and tend to be more appropriately "challenged" than those that are older. (it was an article about a study, not the study itself, and I can try to find it). I was a younger kid (born at the end of June) and really liked being on the younger side of things. It somehow felt advantageous. And while the age thing is a bit of a bummer, I'm really bummed out about the fact that it'll mean I have to pay for a full extra year of daycare that I wouldn't have had to pay for if baby would be born in August.
ETA: Here is one of the articles I read https://www.newyorker.com/tech/elements/youngest-kid-smartest-kid
In nyc the school cut off is Dec 31st - so it's so bad for those poor Nov/ Dec babies who come in a 4 years old and are expected to do K ( which is like first grade now) So not fair.... to us and to them. they also won't let us recommend another year in prek - I've tried.
ttc July 2015 ~ bfp Nov 2015 (cp)
bfp Dec 2015 ~ (tfmr 17wk, March 2016, genetic disease)
ttcal May 2016
The daycare thing I get. It stinks.
https://mobile.nytimes.com/2010/08/22/fashion/22Cultural.html?referer=
You're right. I'm ok with the judgement because I'm confident it's right for me. Another person's skepticism or judgement can't define you