I'm kind of judgey when people don't at least try to breastfeed. I know, BFing can be really hard. It took several months to get a good relationship going with my daughter but it was so worth it. I know, how another person feeds her child isn't my business but it still makes me sad when people don't at least make a small effort.
@PSUBecky23I'm completely ok with the judgement. I will not be BFing, in order to keep my own sanity. I need to be able to be separate from my child or allow my husband to take them or my parents to take them without feeling constricted because I need to pump or wip out the boob. I had a friend with the same mindset/personality. She caved and did breastfeeding, it ended causing serious depression and strain between her and her daughter. Once she stopped (and let go of the guilt) she went back to normal and continues to dote on her daughter to this day. I have no problem with women who BF, but for me and my child it just won't be the right thing for us.
I wish I could change your mind but I won't try because, again, not my business.
FTR, I EBF'd until my daughter was six months and then switched to combo BF/FF (because pumping and my job did not mix). So the best of both worlds!
@backoffunicorn- that was a good read - thanks for sharing! And I know that a lot of it will ultimately depend on who my child is, so I would never rule out either redshirting OR pushing my kid to start early (in my state, I could apply to have my child evaluated to an early-start to kindergarten, but as of now, that doesn't really seem like an appealing option). He/she might end up needing the extra year or might be advanced and need to start earlier. We just won't know until we get to know him or her!
@backoffunicorn- that was a good read - thanks for sharing! And I know that a lot of it will ultimately depend on who my child is, so I would never rule out either redshirting OR pushing my kid to start early (in my state, I could apply to have my child evaluated to an early-start to kindergarten, but as of now, that doesn't really seem like an appealing option). He/she might end up needing the extra year or might be advanced and need to start earlier. We just won't know until we get to know him or her!
Too true. After reading more, I'm actually not as set on redshirting either now. Only time will tell
@PoodleDoodleOoo My first is a September baby, and I'm excited to have another. For the opposite reason as you. I get to keep them home with me an extra year before they start school and eventually when they leave for college. We can also do two years of preschool this way, which will be nice to help acclimate them to a school environment since they aren't/won't be in daycare. I was a late August baby, but made it right before the cutoff. I honestly hated it. I was the last to become a teenager, the last to get their license, the last to turn 18, and last to turn 21. Of course, I was the last to turn 30, so it's at it's advantage now.
DH is an October birthday and was one of the oldest in his class. There were/are no discernible differences in how we did in school. Ultimately, it's up to each individual child.
ETA: I think Aug 1 is the cutoff here now, but I'm not positive on that.
@backoffunicorn- that was a good read - thanks for sharing! And I know that a lot of it will ultimately depend on who my child is, so I would never rule out either redshirting OR pushing my kid to start early (in my state, I could apply to have my child evaluated to an early-start to kindergarten, but as of now, that doesn't really seem like an appealing option). He/she might end up needing the extra year or might be advanced and need to start earlier. We just won't know until we get to know him or her!
DS was born on July 31st and will be among the youngest in his class. This kid will likely be among the oldest. Both ideas freak me out because I think as much as either can be beneficial, it can also be hard on the kids if they aren't ready/are ready early and can't start. I sort of wish they were middle of the year kids but oh well.
My FFFC - I'm so stressed out at work, I'm literally about to cry. Normally, I would go home and pour myself a big glass of wine. Instead, I went to the gas station next door and bought a diet coke, some peanut butter mm's and twizzlers.
Edit to add: I've been REALLY careful about not giving into cravings and trying watch what I'm eating this time around. Today though, all bets are off.
@PoodleDoodleOoo After working in kindergarten, there are definitely some teachers with a "stigma" against summer babies because they don't feel like they're ready for school yet, so there's that? And you never know when baby will be born so I wouldn't stress right now about the dates. I was determined my baby would come late simply so I could finish out the school year and have the maternity leave I desired. Not only did he not come late, he came 6 weeks early. I learned this time not to worry about the what ifs of my baby's due date because I don't have control over things like this. And if you're really that caught up about it, send your kid to private school for kindergarten when you want them to go and then they can transfer in to public school for first grade. Cut off date doesn't apply.
@backoffunicorn- that was a good read - thanks for sharing! And I know that a lot of it will ultimately depend on who my child is, so I would never rule out either redshirting OR pushing my kid to start early (in my state, I could apply to have my child evaluated to an early-start to kindergarten, but as of now, that doesn't really seem like an appealing option). He/she might end up needing the extra year or might be advanced and need to start earlier. We just won't know until we get to know him or her!
DS was born on July 31st and will be among the youngest in his class. This kid will likely be among the oldest. Both ideas freak me out because I think as much as either can be beneficial, it can also be hard on the kids if they aren't ready/are ready early and can't start. I sort of wish they were middle of the year kids but oh well.
@Shiva14My brother and I were both part of the older kids in our class growing up (me, more so). He was a September baby, I was a July. We were sent to pre-K by our parents to give us that 'extra boost' as we entered elementary school. It worked out well for both my brother and I as we both entered school with a little more confidence and education, I think. We both were in the top 5% in our class when we graduated so I think the move our parents took worked out really well. My brother has taken the same step with his kids, and when our nugget is old enough we'll be going the same route. I never felt odd being the oldest, just really enjoyed getting my license sooner.
@diagonalley- I'm not so much as worried or stressed about - just a little like "that is not what I would have preferred." Like I said, I have no idea how my kid will turn out and thankfully, I'll have at least 4-5 years to get to know him/her before making a decision about when to start school.
Here is my confession, my second thought of having a Sept baby was oh no that will be an entire year more of daycare. Daycare around here is 1.8K plus a month.
@izzetoot@AnnaS930 I'm a total American Idol junkie.. have been since the beginning! I absolutely love the current line up of judges, I think it's the best 3 they've had since the show started. Also, don't even get me started on Kelly Clarkson -- I saw her live this summer and Definitely cried when she sang that song. It's amazing. SHE is amazing.
@camichael84 I'm with ya.. morning or afternoon is my jam.
@PoodleDoodleOoo I agree with you on the BMB thing. When I first got my BFP, I fully intended on participating here AND in October since I'm 9/30. But the truth is, I realized that I'd rather get to know one group of ladies better than haphazardly post in two different groups. Plus, I like our group a lot
Also to keep going with your FFFC @PoodleDoodleOoo, one other way to look at it is for athletics -- I read a study about athletes who are older in their grades tend to be statistically bettter/more successful due to being a little bit more physically developed during certain grades. Just a positive spin on having the old kid in the class!
@SLou24- get on over to the American Idol Watchers thread and leave some comments on last night's show! I'll try to comment each week after the show/the following day to bump it back into view
Or I'm crazy, and it'll never work during the day... I keep second guessing myself because I've never been a parent to more than one child and have no idea what to expect.
Ha! This is how I feel all the time, @camichael84 ! One minute I'm like, "I got this!" and then the next I'm freaking out because how will I ever do X, Y, or Z when I'm chasing a toddler and have a new born. I'm trying to remind myself that all of this change will come in phases and I won't be left alone with no help from day 1.
I got very few questions after having 1, but pregnant with #2 everyone seems to be asking if this is it for us or if we will have more. Uhh, let's have the baby first and see what life is like.
Yes! I'm 41 and my DH is 44 and we have had several of the few people who even know we are expecting say "after this one, we'll have our family, right?" I don't get it. I mean, I get that we're older, but it seems to me that it's really our decision. At this point, we're leaning toward leaving the door open, if you will, but we also just want to a) focus on getting this one here and b) have time to see what it's like to have 2 before we make any real decisions about going from there.
Regarding the whole school thing, our cut off is also Sept 1st. I am going to try my hardest to keep this baby in till after Sept 1st. My youngest was born Aug 3rd and was no where ready for kindergarten this year. He is actually in special Ed kindergarten this year and will be graduating from that and starting traditional kindergarten next year. I would love for this baby to have 3 years of preschool before starting kindergarten.
ETA: My birthday is Sept 1st (the cut off changed shortly after I started school). Do you know how bad it sucked being aJunor when I FINALLY got my DL? lol
Just realized something....I have bumped more today than I've worked.
@JLmama118 - Yes! Our first twins were boy/girl. Of course it was assumed that, since we got one of each right off the bat, we would be done. I honestly enjoyed being pregnant and, for a twin pregnancy especially, had a pretty easy pregnancy and carried to 37.5. Why wouldn't I want to do this again? It's an amazing experience! Plus you get the beautiful babies afterward.
@AnnaS930 - Can I ask where you're from? I ask because I felt the same way when DS and DD were born. We lived in Minnesota at the time and they were born on 3 December. It was a pretty hellish winter and having two newborns did not help. The whole situation definitely added to the already very present post-partum depression. Maybe post-partum won't be as bad this time around with having summer babies and being in a warmer climate... *crosses fingers*
I think it's the same as when I was in school. Kindergarten enrollment is allowed for any student who will be at least 5 years old by October 15 of that school year. I made the cut as a September 30th birthday and only had 1 classmate younger than me, on October 1st. Guessing kids in the other 2 weeks stayed home an extra year or were kept back. I picture this kiddo being on the young end of his/her class because that's what I'm familiar with, but my December 14 baby will be one of the oldest in his. Should be interesting!
@UnwritteN12- you and me both on Bumping>Working. I live in Maine.. so not in that area at all, but probably pretty similar winter situations. At times the kind of cold that takes your breath away, and storms that can dump feet of snow and take half the day to clear out. Ugh. We've been super lucky this winter, but I do look forward to a 3-6 month old during the winter months instead of 0-3.
FFFC: The only reason I come over here to read your posts is because I'm watching to see what will happen when you all inevitably stop being so nice to each other.
(sorry I keep finding more gems - gotta get them outta my system)
And thanks for giving me an excuse to use some fabulous side-eye gifs. The occasion doesn't happen too often around Sept 2016 because most ladies here aren't side-eye-able
FFFC: The only reason I come over here to read your posts is because I'm watching to see what will happen when you all inevitably stop being so nice to each other.
Rude. It is possible for people to get along that don't necessarily have the same view points. I would hardly say this is a unicorn/rainbows type board but just because we're not a bunch of bishes towards each other doesn't make it inevitable. Oh hey! Another BMB lurker trying to cause drama
@mhilpisch10 FFFC means Flame-Free Friday Confessional. Not always guaranteed flame-free, though this week seems pretty tame!
Throwing back to the name discussion a page or two ago, I agree that odd, overly unique, or made-up names are my pet peeve. As a high school teacher, I have run across all kinds of names (Jazman/Jasmine/Jazmin, Jessyca/Jessika/Jessicah, all variations of Aiden/Braden/Caden), and I know it's the parents' prerogative and I'd never tell them or a student this, but I judge you! I know that naming a child is a hugely personal process, but try to think about the impression it will make in a professional setting or on a resume.
Moving on with our lives...who's got a juicy confession to share? How many breakfasts did you have today? Who hasn't cleaned her house in four months? Who's still in her PJs? Who's neglecting work? (Or children, gasp.)
I'm bracing myself to get flamed but I think I deserve it. I'm being crazy:
I don't like when DH (or anyone else really) comments about my growing stomach. I know, that's what's supposed to happen. I know, I am very blessed to be able to carry my child. I know, I have lost a baby in the past and am supposed to be over the moon about a bump. I know, I know, I know. I just feel like people are calling my fat. I know they're not, and maybe I'll get used to it as the bump looks more pregnant and less an entire bag of chips, but I'm just ragey about it. DH said something today while smiling sweetly and I just about slapped him.
I've been laying in bed for over an hour now just reading articles on TB. I haven't done much of anything except go to work in the past few weeks. I know I need to go take a walk today! I just found out I'm on call tonight so that is kind of crummy.
My husband has been so great lately. We bought a used car after mine was totaled in Dec, and when I get in it, I want to throw up. Don't know if the vent filters are old or somethings in the carpet. He says he can hardly smell it but I notice right away.
He took all the floor mats out last night and washed them, while I just laid on the couch and watched tv. I feel so guilty for being so lazy but I have zero energy and nausea is still plaguing me (12 weeks and change).
OK here's a juicy one (maybe?) I don't typically groom down there and I don't really care. Although I will say I trimmed things up for my first prenatal appointment because I knew it'd include a transvaginal ultrasound. But yea, hubby gets the real me. Sorrynotsorry.
Edited for spelling because it drives me nuts when I have a typo.
@diagonalley I didn't even bother to trim for the OB...I figure, she's a doctor and she's probably seen it all! Partly it's laziness, partly I hate itchy stubble, partly (and this is NOT a judgement on anyone else) but DH and I agree it's weird to act like an adult woman wouldn't have hair there...that's what a kid's body looks like!
@diagonalley- I'm all for the disposable razors that have the trimmer on the other end. Got one last pregnancy and it was a godsend later on when I couldn't see as well down there to put it on a middle setting and just trim things up. I definitely do not shave and have never been waxed. Trimming is sufficient, husband has never complained
@diagonalley Sometimes I groom. Sometimes I don't. Depends on the time of year and how lazy I am. DH doesn't routinely trim for me, so I'm not putting myself out to do it for him. I did, however, have him help me shave when I was 36 weeks with DD, and I knew I'd be getting checked by the OB. I just couldn't go in there looking how I did.
On the topic of trimming.. on my last board one of the Canadian mamas posted a pic of a poster in her OB's bathroom asking women not to wax/shave after a certain point in pregnancy - probably due to increased risk of infection? Booyeah.
@diagonalley I'm with you. I only trim up for the doctor or during the summer. DH can have the all natural me.
Maybe my FFFC is I don't get the whole Brazilian wax trend. I tend to run on the crunchy end of things so natural is ok to me. The expense alone is enough to keep me away.
Re: FFFC!!
I wish I could change your mind but I won't try because, again, not my business.
FTR, I EBF'd until my daughter was six months and then switched to combo BF/FF (because pumping and my job did not mix). So the best of both worlds!
DH is an October birthday and was one of the oldest in his class. There were/are no discernible differences in how we did in school. Ultimately, it's up to each individual child.
ETA: I think Aug 1 is the cutoff here now, but I'm not positive on that.
ETAA: Just looked it up. It is.
Edit to add: I've been REALLY careful about not giving into cravings and trying watch what I'm eating this time around. Today though, all bets are off.
@camichael84 I'm with ya.. morning or afternoon is my jam.
@PoodleDoodleOoo I agree with you on the BMB thing. When I first got my BFP, I fully intended on participating here AND in October since I'm 9/30. But the truth is, I realized that I'd rather get to know one group of ladies better than haphazardly post in two different groups. Plus, I like our group a lot
Also to keep going with your FFFC @PoodleDoodleOoo, one other way to look at it is for athletics -- I read a study about athletes who are older in their grades tend to be statistically bettter/more successful due to being a little bit more physically developed during certain grades. Just a positive spin on having the old kid in the class!
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Yes! I'm 41 and my DH is 44 and we have had several of the few people who even know we are expecting say "after this one, we'll have our family, right?" I don't get it. I mean, I get that we're older, but it seems to me that it's really our decision. At this point, we're leaning toward leaving the door open, if you will, but we also just want to a) focus on getting this one here and b) have time to see what it's like to have 2 before we make any real decisions about going from there.
Regarding the whole school thing, our cut off is also Sept 1st. I am going to try my hardest to keep this baby in till after Sept 1st. My youngest was born Aug 3rd and was no where ready for kindergarten this year. He is actually in special Ed kindergarten this year and will be graduating from that and starting traditional kindergarten next year. I would love for this baby to have 3 years of preschool before starting kindergarten.
ETA: My birthday is Sept 1st (the cut off changed shortly after I started school). Do you know how bad it sucked being aJunor when I FINALLY got my DL? lol
@JLmama118 - Yes! Our first twins were boy/girl. Of course it was assumed that, since we got one of each right off the bat, we would be done. I honestly enjoyed being pregnant and, for a twin pregnancy especially, had a pretty easy pregnancy and carried to 37.5. Why wouldn't I want to do this again? It's an amazing experience! Plus you get the beautiful babies afterward.
@AnnaS930 - Can I ask where you're from? I ask because I felt the same way when DS and DD were born. We lived in Minnesota at the time and they were born on 3 December. It was a pretty hellish winter and having two newborns did not help. The whole situation definitely added to the already very present post-partum depression. Maybe post-partum won't be as bad this time around with having summer babies and being in a warmer climate... *crosses fingers*
(sorry I keep finding more gems - gotta get them outta my system)
And thanks for giving me an excuse to use some fabulous side-eye gifs. The occasion doesn't happen too often around Sept 2016 because most ladies here aren't side-eye-able
Don't feed the trolls, ladies.
Throwing back to the name discussion a page or two ago, I agree that odd, overly unique, or made-up names are my pet peeve. As a high school teacher, I have run across all kinds of names (Jazman/Jasmine/Jazmin, Jessyca/Jessika/Jessicah, all variations of Aiden/Braden/Caden), and I know it's the parents' prerogative and I'd never tell them or a student this, but I judge you! I know that naming a child is a hugely personal process, but try to think about the impression it will make in a professional setting or on a resume.
Agreed.
Moving on with our lives...who's got a juicy confession to share? How many breakfasts did you have today? Who hasn't cleaned her house in four months? Who's still in her PJs? Who's neglecting work? (Or children, gasp.)
I don't like when DH (or anyone else really) comments about my growing stomach. I know, that's what's supposed to happen. I know, I am very blessed to be able to carry my child. I know, I have lost a baby in the past and am supposed to be over the moon about a bump. I know, I know, I know. I just feel like people are calling my fat. I know they're not, and maybe I'll get used to it as the bump looks more pregnant and less an entire bag of chips, but I'm just ragey about it. DH said something today while smiling sweetly and I just about slapped him.
My husband has been so great lately. We bought a used car after mine was totaled in Dec, and when I get in it, I want to throw up. Don't know if the vent filters are old or somethings in the carpet. He says he can hardly smell it but I notice right away.
He took all the floor mats out last night and washed them, while I just laid on the couch and watched tv. I feel so guilty for being so lazy but I have zero energy and nausea is still plaguing me (12 weeks and change).
Edited for spelling because it drives me nuts when I have a typo.
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Maybe my FFFC is I don't get the whole Brazilian wax trend. I tend to run on the crunchy end of things so natural is ok to me. The expense alone is enough to keep me away.
Edited to fix words so quote was right...