i tried to suggest some sexytime to DH this weekend, and he was like NOPENOPE TOO WEIRD. he's never been that way with the other babies, but he never really felt the others move very much, and my suggestion came the morning after he had laid in bed watching very obvious baby feet and hands and stuff trying to reach waaaay out and hug him through my belly. i just laughed, bc honestly i am not feeling it at all lately, but thought i'd do the whole "fake it til ya make it" bit just for his benefit. i was all "HAH! NO PROBLEM DUDE! please go make me some waffintangles!"
March 2016 siggy: babies - expectation vs reality Brian's Whovian wife (5/'09)
AP, BF, BW, CD, CLW, CS, ERF, Catholic mama
to Evan (7/'10), Clare (8/'11), Dean (3/'14), ^F(12/'15)^, Rose (3/'16)
*no longer a Timelord ~ WibblyWobbly BabyWaby is here!*
but i still feel bigger on the inside Autism mama!
I must say it really makes me feel better knowing I have a coworker going through the same crap as me at the end of her pregnancy. She is now 3 days overdue (this is the one I said I was having a baby race with lol- to see who would have their baby first) and while you can never tell from her sweet yet upbeat personality, I found out today she is just as miserable as me lol. Her husband also works for our school district as a therapist- he came in today just a smiling and asking me how I'm doing. Now I'm completely open with my emotions, so I had no problem telling him just how miserable I am lol. That's when he piped up and said his wife is too. She is cranky and miserable at home. I honestly felt bad for the man, even though I know I'm sitting around at home and doing the same exact thing to my own husband- being cranky as shit. I didn't even kiss my husband good-bye this morning because he just irritated the crap out of me lol.
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My husband is the exact opposite. I'm getting the constant reminders that we don't have that much longer until it's a no-touch zone officially. I'm like, "I can't move. I hurt. I can't even think about that right now."
DS1 - 9/21/11
DS2 - 7/4/14
DS3 - 2/21/16 ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
You ladies are champions. I have no intention of faking anything and he's too scared of me to ask. It's officially a no sexy zone here and I'm a-ok with that.
Ha ha last time we fooled around, I was on top and I told him I was too uncomfortable in this position and he's like well I'm done sooooo. HA HA I found it humorous.
BFP 2/11/15 (EDD 10/13/15). MMC 3/30/15 D&C 4/3/15 "We will always love you"
DD1 - BFP 7/23/15 (EDD 3/31/16). "We believe in you rainbow" DOB 4/2/16
DD2 - BFP 2/9/18 (EDD 10/19/18). "Grow baby grow!" DOB 10/24/18
BFP 11/16/20 (EDD 7/31/21). "Round 3 FIGHT!"
Man, rough day over here. I woke up with some tooth pain, which quickly turned into swelling and horrible pain in my sinus cavity on the right, then it spread to my eye and my ear. Now I'm struggling to open my mouth enough to chew. Dr. put me on omnicef, and I'm hopeful it kicks the pain quickly, because my entire right side of my face is throbbing.
Dang it. Hope everyone else had a happier Tuesday. On the upside, I did buy chocolate jello pudding, so I'm set in the chewing department.
@smushi ugh! Tooth pain is the worst! I like to think I have a fairly high pain threshold, but any sort of mouth/tooth pain and I turn into a giant baby! At least it's an excuse to eat ALL the chocolate pudding
I don't know where to put this, so I'm putting in the randoms... I'm a little sad about staying in the hospital without DH. He has to go back to take care of the other kiddo. It'll be just me and the newbie. I also don't expect any visitors/have family who could stay with me. I guess I'll make friends with the nurses??
@ejverreAgreed, I was a mess yesterday! Dr prescribed a high powered antibiotic and I took some last night. Pain is almost totally gone this morning, it's amazing! I'm wondering if it was something centered in my sinuses because that still hurts, but my teeth feel better. So weird.
@J234 we're doing the same except
I think our boys will still be at Grandma's house overnight - he'll
just be sleeping at home so that one of us can make it out of the
hospital well rested. (Actually it's more to ward off cranky husband
syndrome - he gets super cranky with the hospital husband accommodations
and can't sleep worth beans).
DS1 - 9/21/11
DS2 - 7/4/14
DS3 - 2/21/16 ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
@J234 I'll be in the same boat as well. I am actually debating about putting LO in nursery overnight so mommy can sleep a little. Yes selfish of me but gosh I can't imagine NOT sleeping for the next few months with a newborn and DD still not sleeping through the night. DH is quite supportive with that decision actually so I guess I shouldn't guilt trip myself. I'm still debating though so things may change when I actually see LO's angel face. Definitely ask DH to bring the kid(s) so they can spend some time with the LO. I think kids generally like to see babies, especially when the babies can't take their toys yet.
@irenewslee Don't feel badly about putting baby in the nursery at night! The hospital that I delivered DD at, it was their policy to have baby in the nursery at night and then bring them in for feedings unless mom requested that baby stay in the room. It was so nice so get some sleep! I plan on doing it this way again, but when I took the tour of the hospital that I will deliver at this time, the nurse said that their policy is the exact opposite and that there are never any babies in the nursery... so I will be THAT mom that requests the baby be taken out at night, haha! The lone babe in the nursery! But I want to get some sleep while I can!
@J234 i'm sorry your DH can't stay with you the whole time! i would hate that myself, so i get it. maybe like someone above suggested he and big sibling could hang with you during the day (bring crayons and stuff for big kiddo), and definitely make pals with your nurses you are going to rock it!
March 2016 siggy: babies - expectation vs reality Brian's Whovian wife (5/'09)
AP, BF, BW, CD, CLW, CS, ERF, Catholic mama
to Evan (7/'10), Clare (8/'11), Dean (3/'14), ^F(12/'15)^, Rose (3/'16)
*no longer a Timelord ~ WibblyWobbly BabyWaby is here!*
but i still feel bigger on the inside Autism mama!
@ejverre With DD, I spent the first night in the ICU and they don't allow babies up there (except for feeding time). So we had no choice but to leave her there. DH basically stayed up all night between ICU and the nursery to check on his ladies. The nurses were pretty good about checking on the babies (per his observation) so I do feel safe leaving LO there. I just feel like people talk about bonding time with the baby, and here I am being THAT mom who prefers to sleep. Do you know if they bring the baby in at random hours in the middle of the night? Or only in the morning?
Thanks everyone. Yes, he will be dropping kiddo off at school, coming to see me, picking kiddo up and coming back to visit. He stayed overnight once with me with the first kiddo, but LO was in the NICU, not in my room.
@irenewslee they brought DD in every 2-3 hours to nurse. Basically whenever she woke up or made signs that she was hungry. From like 6am until 10pm she was in the room with me though!
Well- made it to 37 weeks today! Don't know whether to be happy I made it out of pre-term stage, or miserable because I'm still contracting/in labor but baby STILL ISN'T HERE!!!
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@irenewslee they brought DD in every 2-3 hours to nurse. Basically whenever she woke up or made signs that she was hungry. From like 6am until 10pm she was in the room with me though!
Thanks! I was actually hoping for them to just bring LO in in the morning. I guess I was being too optimistic about mommy sleeping through the night. But this totally makes sense and will help with the milk coming in. Last time my milk didn't come in until 4-5 days after and we had to give her formula. I hope I will have better luck this time.
Well- made it to 37 weeks today! Don't know whether to be happy I made it out of pre-term stage, or miserable because I'm still contracting/in labor but baby STILL ISN'T HERE!!!
I'm sure all he was waiting for was that 37 to show up on your Bump app...he'll move into high gear now!
@ejverre - can you clarify how this is different than just having the baby in the room with you? I was thinking about doing this as a compromise between rooming-in and sending the baby to the nursery for the night, but the more I thought about it I couldn't really see what I would gain in terms of sleep since they are bringing the baby in whenever she wakes up or makes signs that she is hungry. Am I missing something?
@irenewslee they brought DD in every 2-3 hours to nurse. Basically whenever she woke up or made signs that she was hungry. From like 6am until 10pm she was in the room with me though!
Thanks! I was actually hoping for them to just bring LO in in the morning. I guess I was being too optimistic about mommy sleeping through the night. But this totally makes sense and will help with the milk coming in. Last time my milk didn't come in until 4-5 days after and we had to give her formula. I hope I will have better luck this time.
If it helps you at all, my milk for DS2 came in day 2 - it seems like your body just knows the second time around and just kicks it into gear.
DS1 - 9/21/11
DS2 - 7/4/14
DS3 - 2/21/16 ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
Officially getting stretch marks. I am now shaped like a bulb. Dr says she can tell just by looking at me that there are 2 in there because of how my belly is shaped. Thanks doc for telling me I'm huge
@ejverre - can you clarify how this is different than just having the baby in the room with you? I was thinking about doing this as a compromise between rooming-in and sending the baby to the nursery for the night, but the more I thought about it I couldn't really see what I would gain in terms of sleep since they are bringing the baby in whenever she wakes up or makes signs that she is hungry. Am I missing something?
For me personally, I do not get any sleep when the baby is in the same room as me. Every movement, sound, anything keeps me awake. So, for me, I prefer not to have baby in the room when I sleep so I can at least get 2-3 hours of sleep. Otherwise I'm up every time I hear a sound, which with DD was every 15-20 minutes- she moved her arms and legs a lot when she slept, even when swaddled, she would find a way to get those arms out (we called her Little Houdini)! I tried having DD in the bassinet of our Pack N Play in my room when we got home from the hospital and I couldn't sleep at all, and to be honest she didn't sleep well either (I think the Pack N Play bassinet was too hard for her), so 2 days later I put her in her crib, in her nursery and we both slept great! She actually went 4 hours straight that night! Woo-hoo! So, it's just personal preference and what worked best for me and LO.
@ejverre - thanks for clarifying! Sounds like it might be a good compromise for me to consider after all if I'm just not getting any sleep with her in the room!
So funny how everyone is so different. I was the complete opposite. Especially in the first few days/weeks, I couldn't sleep if the baby wasn't at arms length. We set up a mini crib right next to the bed. I was always paranoid something would happen and I wouldn't be able to get to him in time.
When we were in the hospital I wouldn't let him leave my side or the room. He stayed with us there and they even helped me bathe him there and did all tests there. He never went to the nursery. This was mainly because there was one nurse who kept insisting that I give him formula because his blood sugars were low. I opted to nurse him almost constantly instead but honestly didn't trust that she wouldn't sneak some to him when he left the room. Once we got home he went into his crib the first night and hasn't spent a night with us since.
I've only been home 2 days and I'm already getting depressed. Can't do much without setting off contractions, and everyone is telling me I need rest. I tried crocheting but my fingers go numb. I've done countless word searches and I'm bored of those now. I go from chair to bed, to chair, occasionally the bathroom, back to the chair or bed. I have Netflix but I've been through a bunch already. My husband doesn't seem to help- he sent me to bed, then turned basketball on the living room TV instead of coming to spend time with me. I've been through 4 or 5 dvds (no netflix in the bedroom). I took over an hour in the bath tub, only to end back up in the bed afterward. Tomorrow I'm taking dd to her father's house, although DH has to drive because contractions make my vision blurry. maybe I'll try shopping again tomorrow- buy something that will perk me up. We'll see. But for now I'm back in my chair fighting contractions and heartburn.
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charley15, Don't laugh here, I've never had a baby before. So I'm probably just totally naive. But I'm starting to think that you shouldn't be "fighting" the contractions. I understand they hurt and you're trying not to set them off so that you won't hurt. But I was under the impression that the contractions are what thins the cervix. So shouldn't you be up dancing and walking around? (And then screaming at me for suggesting that you cause yourself more pain.)
I have had non-stop contractions since week 20 too. Last night they were extremely painful and spaced about 5 minutes apart for about 5 hours (was up all night). Eventually they spaced out to about 10minutes apart or else I would have called it in. My last pregnancy was the same. Was in and out triage a couple times. Apparently I just have an active uterus. You really can't fight them. Just try to grin and bear and hope and pray that real labor starts soon. I'm 37w + 4 right now. Really hoping it's any day now. My son came perfectly healthy and plump at 37w+6.
@jstanton0822 while that is true the opposite also happens- once the contractions stop my cervix begins to close back up. So not much is going to happen if they don't keep coming. Everything I read says both rest and get activity in. Activity will stimulate contractions but if I'm not having any then I need to rest. it's all conflicting to me and it also doesn't help when everyone (meaning family and friends) has their own opinions of what I need to be doing. For example: yesterday morning I was up at 545.My mom showed up at 645 to pick up a scarf she left at my house. She walked in to find me having a couple big contractions I had to breathe through. I told her all I did was pick up some papers and throw them in the trash and she scolded me for getting up when I supposedly need rest and that is why the doctor took me out of work. But I really wanted to yell at her- if I'm supposed to be resting why the hell do you want to show up at my house at 6:45 IN THE MORNING!? Everyone and everything seems to contradict themselves and it drives me insane!!!
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omg...don't get me started on the unwanted advice from mums. It seems exceptionally grating when you're pregnant/a new mother. I love my mum very, very, much. Talk to her twice a day sometimes. But I can't handle the contradictory, un-scientific, un-proven, old wives tales, downright incorrect pregnancy/baby advice. Drives me batty.
Hey at least your moms want to help. Mine has a new boyfriend and lives in another country. We went down at Xmas to visit and she spent more time with him than with us (and she had known him for a week at that time). I'm used to it but it still hurts. I'm her only child-and I know she's happy and excited but her work and whatever man she is seeing has always been more important than me.
I know I'm 30 and I have a wonderful DH, father, and MIL who have been helping but I still want my mom. She's planning on booking her flight here when Im on labour so she will miss being in the delivery room which I told her I wanted. She just doesn't want to "waste" any vacation days. Because time just spent with me isn't as important as her life.
Sorry for for the rant. Sometimes I'm glad I don't have an overbearing parent but right now I'm hormonal and worried I'll make my daughter feel like my mom makes me feel. I love her and she did the best she could but it still hurts.
DD: Beatrix Louise aka BeeBop. April 2 2016. H.I.E Warrior
@irenewslee they brought DD in every 2-3 hours to nurse. Basically whenever she woke up or made signs that she was hungry. From like 6am until 10pm she was in the room with me though!
Thanks! I was actually hoping for them to just bring LO in in the morning. I guess I was being too optimistic about mommy sleeping through the night. But this totally makes sense and will help with the milk coming in. Last time my milk didn't come in until 4-5 days after and we had to give her formula. I hope I will have better luck this time.
If it helps you at all, my milk for DS2 came in day 2 - it seems like your body just knows the second time around and just kicks it into gear.
my useless anecdata: with #2 my milk came in on day 5, and with #4 on day 3 (it was day 6 with #1!), so it is definitely getting better! if you are planning on BFing though, it is definitely good that the nurses will bring you the babe every time it wakes/stirs/etc, even if you plan on them keeping baby between those times so you can rest
March 2016 siggy: babies - expectation vs reality Brian's Whovian wife (5/'09)
AP, BF, BW, CD, CLW, CS, ERF, Catholic mama
to Evan (7/'10), Clare (8/'11), Dean (3/'14), ^F(12/'15)^, Rose (3/'16)
*no longer a Timelord ~ WibblyWobbly BabyWaby is here!*
but i still feel bigger on the inside Autism mama!
So funny how everyone is so different. I was the complete opposite. Especially in the first few days/weeks, I couldn't sleep if the baby wasn't at arms length. We set up a mini crib right next to the bed. I was always paranoid something would happen and I wouldn't be able to get to him in time.
this is me as well - my second had an apnic episode that she wouldn't have survived if i hadn't been right there and started CPR; hence why i really want one of those monitors ... i don't think i will ever be able to shake that memory. one of the scariest moments of myine and DH's lives
March 2016 siggy: babies - expectation vs reality Brian's Whovian wife (5/'09)
AP, BF, BW, CD, CLW, CS, ERF, Catholic mama
to Evan (7/'10), Clare (8/'11), Dean (3/'14), ^F(12/'15)^, Rose (3/'16)
*no longer a Timelord ~ WibblyWobbly BabyWaby is here!*
but i still feel bigger on the inside Autism mama!
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Brian's Whovian wife (5/'09)
Autism mama!
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Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
DD1 - BFP 7/23/15 (EDD 3/31/16). "We believe in you rainbow" DOB 4/2/16
DD2 - BFP 2/9/18 (EDD 10/19/18). "Grow baby grow!" DOB 10/24/18
BFP 11/16/20 (EDD 7/31/21). "Round 3 FIGHT!"
DS2 due 12/12/18
Dang it. Hope everyone else had a happier Tuesday. On the upside, I did buy chocolate jello pudding, so I'm set in the chewing department.
@j234 I'm sorry your DH won't be able to stay
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Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
March 2016 siggy: babies - expectation vs reality
Brian's Whovian wife (5/'09)
Autism mama!
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Our family of 5 is complete!! Love our boys!
For me personally, I do not get any sleep when the baby is in the same room as me. Every movement, sound, anything keeps me awake. So, for me, I prefer not to have baby in the room when I sleep so I can at least get 2-3 hours of sleep. Otherwise I'm up every time I hear a sound, which with DD was every 15-20 minutes- she moved her arms and legs a lot when she slept, even when swaddled, she would find a way to get those arms out (we called her Little Houdini)! I tried having DD in the bassinet of our Pack N Play in my room when we got home from the hospital and I couldn't sleep at all, and to be honest she didn't sleep well either (I think the Pack N Play bassinet was too hard for her), so 2 days later I put her in her crib, in her nursery and we both slept great! She actually went 4 hours straight that night! Woo-hoo! So, it's just personal preference and what worked best for me and LO.
What the actual eff is wrong with the app? Why can I not gif!?!?!?!?!!?? Can you guys?
Don't laugh here, I've never had a baby before. So I'm probably just totally naive.
But I'm starting to think that you shouldn't be "fighting" the contractions. I understand they hurt and you're trying not to set them off so that you won't hurt. But I was under the impression that the contractions are what thins the cervix.
So shouldn't you be up dancing and walking around? (And then screaming at me for suggesting that you cause yourself more pain.)
I know I'm 30 and I have a wonderful DH, father, and MIL who have been helping but I still want my mom. She's planning on booking her flight here when Im on labour so she will miss being in the delivery room which I told her I wanted. She just doesn't want to "waste" any vacation days. Because time just spent with me isn't as important as her life.
Sorry for for the rant. Sometimes I'm glad I don't have an overbearing parent but right now I'm hormonal and worried I'll make my daughter feel like my mom makes me feel. I love her and she did the best she could but it still hurts.
March 2016 siggy: babies - expectation vs reality
Brian's Whovian wife (5/'09)
Autism mama!
March 2016 siggy: babies - expectation vs reality
Brian's Whovian wife (5/'09)
Autism mama!
March 2016 siggy: babies - expectation vs reality
Brian's Whovian wife (5/'09)
Autism mama!