Randoms Thread-February

mom2adoodle · February 2016

Ever feel the need to post something but can't find the right thread?

Have no fear...Post it here!

*Disclaimer: Most likely not flame free, probably not snark free, no guarantee people will comment back, not necessarily baby related.... ..But FUN!

lovelylauren86 · February 2016

PSA:
Photofy is a fun app for editing bump pics

pizzaandwine · February 2016

I need sunshine! I'm tired of grey, rainy days. I'm ready for a beach vacation.

jennlynn777 · February 2016

I'm excited to wear my new pants to work tomorrow!!

blondie080300 · February 2016

@lovelylauren86 I use Photofy too. Love it.

My random: I really don't want to go to a Super Bowl party today. I feel bad because it is our good friends who are throwing it and they really want us to come (probably to give us our official "will you be a bridesmaid/groomsman" gift I know they have been hinting they have for DH and I). But weekdays are hard enough trying to get through work and I really just want to stay at home and rest on my couch in my pajamas before another 5 days of extreme effort at work. I hinted that I had a sore throat on Friday to plant the seed that we might not come but I feel really bad. So I am having an internal battle of doing what I want vs. making our friends happy.

TheTamedShrew · February 2016

"Spotlight" is a good movie. Disturbing, but very good.

mom2adoodle · February 2016

@TheTamedShrew I agree.

pizzaandwine · February 2016

@blondie080300I totally get you on the wanting to stay home. I feel like that every day (stay at home on couch in pajamas). Socializing is so much work. Are they having other people, or just you? If other people are going, I definitely vote stay home. They'll be fine.

SarahDarah333 · February 2016

Alright I'm pretty sure I'm dense- but how can I get the ticker to work on all my posts? I got the URL for it, but when I paste it in here it comes up as a link. I swear, I used to be so good at this stuff but my brain is not fully functional these days

SarahDarah333 · February 2016

@blondie080300
DH and I are home-bound too. My family is having their annual Superbowl party, but I am avoiding leaving home like the plague. Granted, I've been sick for the last few days, but even before then I had zero intention of leaving the couch. DH is out now picking up the wings I'm craving

Don't feel guilty, this is your time!

lovelylauren86 · February 2016

I'm making gumbo for DH and all he does is whine about having to watch LO

I feel like crap and just want to lay on the couch

blondie080300 · February 2016

@pizza&wine I think I am going to stay home since there are supposed to be others going. But my DH is such a sweetie and is still going to swing by to make an appearance for the both of us. I'm kinda happy to have a couple of hours to myself since our friends live 30 mins away.

@sarahmconnors I hope you feel better soon! I remember it taking me a while to get my signature to work. I will play around with it and see if I can remember to help you.

blondie080300 · February 2016

Here you go, @SarahMConnors https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12397425/want-to-add-ticker-to-signature-not-showing-up

SarahDarah333 · February 2016

Thank you @blondie080300 !!

RedMar · February 2016

I am too going to a Super Bowl party this afternoon. My excuse for this social drinking event will be "no thanks, I just took some Tylenol because my back has been killing me". Not a total lie, but I've been milking this back excuse for way too long. It has started to get better, but I'm still going to the chiropractor at least once a week. Now when we do announce, I feel like everyone's going to be like "what about your back, how will that hold up?" To be honest, I don't really know, but will cross that bridge when we get to it. Thank goodness for that hormone "Relaxin"

blondie080300 · February 2016

So now I would like to vent. My husband was still planning on going to the Super Bowl party today even though I am not feeling up to it. Unfortunately our bed broke this morning though and has been trying to fix it all day. I just found out that they messed something up with the wood at the hardware store and it more than tripled the amount of time there that he had planned. He just came home all stressed out since he fears he may still have to go back to the store if the wood he has doesn't work (or something like that). So I offered to let our friends know that he can't make it to the party after all and our friend basically laid into me about it.

I texted her since I am not feeling well (and we never call each other) but maybe that wasn't the best move. Anyways, I guess my husband didn't make it clear that I wasn't coming earlier when he told her he was hoping to make it after he fixed the bed. Granted, I did tell her I wasn't feeling well on Friday when we were chatting about something else. I texted her tonight though with what my husband said about the hardware store and everything taking longer than he planned and how stressed he was as he was trying to make it over (they live about 30 mins away). But she just responded that she thought we were both coming and that they had bought a lot of food. I told her I was so sorry and that there must have been a miscommunication since my husband knows I haven't been feeling well and probably wasn't well enough to make it out tonight. Did she ask if I was feeling better or anything (since she knew I was sick Friday)? No. She just replied to my text and said that next time we should let them know earlier because they spent so much money on food and everything.

What the heck?! I was super apologetic in my messages to her and she was just being spiteful and responded with "K" and then waited a few and then sent me messages about how much they spent on food and everything. What am I supposed to do? Send them a check? It is not like we were 100% going as we told them a week ago that we were interested but would prob leave around 8 since it was a work night. So I dunno why she felt she needed to make us feel bad. I started to get nervous that maybe we were going to be the only ones there and that is why she's so upset but she immediately just posted on Facebook how she was happy to be making lasagna with one of her "besties". So I know we weren't the only ones invited.

So I know my hormones are making me more mad about this than needed (my heart is racing!) but I still feel mad that she gave me crap about not coming. I have hosted a lot of parties in my life and have NEVER given anyone grief for not showing up last minute. Things happen. Yes, sometimes it is inconvenient or frustrating but that's life, right? She is STILL texting me about how she bought meatless food and everything (I am a vegetarian) and how they spent all day cooking. I have NEVER backed out of a social gathering with them so I don't know where this is coming from. I know she has crappy friends who do this to her (usually without texting or calling even) and she may be trying to stand up for herself with me, but I feel this is not cool. I have told her several times how sorry we were and that DH was really trying to get over there but we can't sleep in our bed tonight if he doesn't get it fixed. She kept texting so I finally told her to call my husband since I am getting too upset to get into it with her. What kind of friends do that? I have been in her shoes but I would never call my friends out like that. Life happens. I had no idea she was planning this elaborate dinner or anything either. Reading about lasagna on FB was surprising...not that it would have changed anything but maybe I would have thought to let her know personally that I wasn't coming if I knew they were planning on cooking all day as she said. But I said I was sick on Friday so if she was worried, shouldn't she have asked me yesterday or today? I thought DH told her for me but I guess he said he was trying to make it without specifically saying I would not be there. Ugh. Sorry for the long post but I really needed to get this off my chest since I don't ever treat my friends like this.

Ah825 · February 2016

All I can eat is bread and more bread. I feel fat.

SarahDarah333 · February 2016

@Ah825 don't be hard on yourself, you're growing a person!!

TNgoldengirl · February 2016

Ah825 said:

All I can eat is bread and more bread. I feel fat.

Meeee too! I haven't eaten much bread in the past year or so but now it's like the best ever. I want all the rolls. And muffins. And donuts.

Sporty1216 · February 2016

@blondie080300 -- hang in there! It sounds like she definitely is overreacting and there is nothing you can do about that! Hopefully you all can clear the air when you tell her you're pregnant (if not before). And I hope your DH is able to get your bed fixed. I know how those projects go--it never seems like they can just move smoothly! Always a bump in the road. You did all you could and no one can ask for more than that.

blondie080300 · February 2016

Thanks for the support @Sporty1216 ! DH finished fixing the bed around 8pm EST.

Whew! And I agree about not being able to control my friend's overreactions. I just need to let it go. Thanks for reading my long post and responding!

Prof=Mom · February 2016

Honey that wasn't about you. Something else was going on and you were the recipient of the misdirected anger. It hurts. Forgive her, move forward, but remember not to pass that anger on in your own life.

frogdog06 · February 2016

I can't stand my brother right now. He's 27, never finished college (with only one year left), hasn't figured out his sh.t, still lives with my mom, is useless and not dependable, etcetera etcetera etcetera. I told my mom not to tell me about him and their troubles since it stresses me out too much. I already pay for his cell phone bill and he never says thanks. Whenever I talk to him about adult stuff (and trust, I've cooled down over the years so I actually talk to him as a peer instead of cursing), he just shuts down. Seriously, man up. Anyways, venting because she just told me they cancelled their television cable because it was too expensive for him (she hardly watches anyway). Not to say that he's horrible, he's juggling two jobs related to his passion (one involves teaching), he doesn't do drugs, hasn't been incarcerated or anything. BUT STILL. Can we all not be productive and contributing adults???

Thanks for letting me vent.

mom2adoodle · February 2016

Curmudgeon post here. Evening sickness" has been the bane of my existence for the last two weeks. Like clockwork, 5pm comes and it's nausea central. I'm glad I can semi- function at work but I feel so bummed being a bump on a log when I'm home from work and my pup and DH are there eagerly awaiting fun me, not veggie on the couch watching the boob tube me. Womp.

pizzaandwine · February 2016

@mom2adoodle that's when I get it too. It's the worst. You're right - it's right when hubby and the kids are getting home, and dinner needs to be made, and the baby is getting cranky, and I am just done. Plus, cooking while nauseous is no fun.

@blondie080300 I'm sorry your friend was so rude. Frankly, if you have a party, the food you buy is your responsibility. No on is signing a contract, agreeing to eat a certain amount of food. If you HAD gone, and not felt like eating, would she have bitched about that too? You had every right to not go if you didn't feel like going. I'm sorry she made you feel bad about it. I'd be tempted to reply to the "cost of food" comments with "send me a bill," to let her know she's being ridiculous.

SLou24 · February 2016

@blondie080300 I'm sorry your friend was such a jerk about that! You're right, life happens, and she really just needs to get over it. Especially if she never told you that she would be "cooking all day", or anything like that. I would give it a few days for her to come to her senses and then touch base, maybe just apologizing again for the late notice (even though it's not really that big of a deal) and making sure you two are ok. Good luck, and glad you got your bed fixed!!

AnnaS930 · February 2016

I've been MIA for a few days. On Thursday night my husband and I ate a freezer meal I'd made a while back and apparently didn't thaw appropriately - we were both SICK on Friday. Thankfully we didn't feed it to our 1 year old because it was too hot out of the oven (THANK GOODNESS!). I worked 1/2 day on Friday despite puking in the parking lot and in the bathroom. I had a coworker joke about me being pregnant (they don't know).. I was not pleased. It was a long day, and it took the weekend to get my stomach back to completely normal.

Today I am HUNGRYYY and off to the cafeteria to get a bagel.. my granola bar isn't cutting it!

reesaXden · February 2016

I had a dr appt last Thursday and I've gained 7lbs!!!!! I'm a pretty tiny person so that seems like a ton to me!! I've been vomiting a ton but also eating like a man. What the heck?!

tbearlion · February 2016

I smoked a pork shoulder yesterday. I put it on at 9 thinking it would be done around 6. We finally ate dinner at 10:40. I cried. I was so hungry and the smell was so good. The shoulder turned out really good but it could have went longer. Oh well, not bad for my first time.

JennM205 · February 2016

My random is with work. Through a series of unexpected events, my department of 6 (3 guys, 3 women) went to a department of 8. Me...and 7 guys...

Two of the guys are mid-thirties, one married, the other married with 2 kids...but the other 5 guys are all early 20s and living the "bachelor" life downtown. I'm going to make the best of it and (most of) the guys are super nice so I'm sure it won't be terrible...but I've never felt more out of place in my life!

On top of it all, I'm so self-conscious about announcing my pregnancy to a bunch of guys who have no clue! (And, unfortunately, the two older guys that might be more understanding are the two least approachable on the team.) Again, I'm sure it'll be fine (it'll be what I make it) but I'm a bit bummed. When I was pregnant with DD, I worked directly with people I was very, very close to and it was not only nice to have their support but also to share my joy and excitement with them as things progressed. I definitely won't be having the same experience this time.

TheTamedShrew · February 2016

We watched the Super Bowl over at BIL/SIL's house so the kids could play. So I have to vent a little (okay a lot, just bear with me).
Every single time I go over to SIL's house I come home feeling overwhelmed and bad about myself. She has two kids 13 months apart and her house is always immaculate and extremely well organized. Like down to every single shelf and drawer and closet. Everything in it's rightful place, and everything matches and is styled just so. She pays a cleaning lady to come every two weeks, but still.

Also, she always has new stuff when we come over. Whether it be new toys, new clothes for her or the kids, a new piece of furniture, new home decor. She and BIL are TTC #3 (which I don't really understand because she is always complaining about how hard it is to chase after two kids so close together, but that's not my business). When we got over there yesterday she had COMPLETELY cleaned out their office/bonus room and organized it (complete with a dinosaur theme) to be her little boy's new room. I had seen her two days earlier and she hadn't done any of this. She is already decorating and designing the new nursery (her son's old room) and she isn't even pregnant yet. She had also bought tons of stuff for her daughter's room because she can't decide on the NEW theme. Her daughter's room is already really pretty the way it is. She is the queen of Pinterest, like nothing I've ever seen before. The birthday parties she throws are absolutely insane (she already has the kid's party themes planned out and it's 4 months away). Every time I hang out with her she is shoving IKEA catalogs in my face or saying "so I really want to buy this, this, oh, AND this would be great for this, and DON'T you just love this??" She has a playroom that is wall-to-wall with toys for the kids. Play kitchens, two play houses, AND A FRICKIN TRAMPOLINE. I don't know how they have the money for her to constantly be shopping, but again, not my business. On top of having a cleaning lady, she also pays $300 a month to have both kids in mom's day out and has her daughter in ballet, gymnastics, AND swim. She's two. I haven't registered DD for any classes. I was thinking of starting her in swim classes this summer, and ballet in the fall, maybe...

I always come home and look at DD's room, and just think about how cruddy and unorganized it looks and how many closets and drawers I haven't organized and I wish we could have a hand built entertainment center and wow do I need to get my shit together. This is all amplified by the fact that I barely have the energy to get basic responsibilities taken care of right now. I keep telling myself to stop comparing, and it's not a competition, but damn! Cue pity party/end rant...

JennM205 · February 2016

@blondie080300 So sorry you had to deal with your friend lashing out. As PPs have said, you've done nothing wrong and hopefully it will blow over soon! Sorry you had to deal with drama over your weekend!

@AnnaS930 Sounds like you had a rough weekend, sorry to hear that! Glad you're feeling better, though!

@ReesaXden Hang in there! I don't know how it was with your first but with my DD, second tri was nausea free and full of energy so I was able to level-out my weight gain by being more active and controlling my eating rather than eating based off of constant cravings/aversions. Hopefully it'll be the same this time - for you, too! And, either way, 7 lbs isn't a ton.

Especially when you're growing a baby.

@Mom2aDoodle I hear you with the "evening sickness"... With DD, my evenings were the worst. DH would say that my nausea was related to him (since he was around in the evening but not while I felt better-ish all day at work). It annoyed me a little that he was making it about himself but I also felt bad for him and wished I really wasn't sick whenever he was around (even though I know his presence wasn't the cause.)

618mom22boys · February 2016

Why must my prenatals be so damn big?!

AnnaS930 · February 2016

@JennM205 -Thanks!! It was definitely not the best weekend (actually grocery shopping was miserable - I have a new respect for anyone with severe morning sickness). I did get to go snowshoeing (had my dad wear my 13 month old in our hiking pack), had some delicious Thai food in the half hour I felt decent on Saturday (it was a bit of a mistake), and had an awesome day with my son yesterday - my husband worked all day and my 13 monther was in the goofiest little mood, trying to make me smile and snuggling me. He's always a very happy little dude, but yesterday he was such a clown.. really helped keep my mind off things.

Also - I bought my bagel AND doritos.. so now I'm looking forward to lunch!

Steephers123 · February 2016

I'm listening to the Undisclosed podcast at work and they're based out of a Dunkin Donuts for the trial update. Not helping me with wanting a donut right now. I gave in and went to get one but the cafeteria is OUT of donuts.

lovelylauren86 · February 2016

This thing is intimidating

SarahDarah333 · February 2016

@blondie080300
I am lost, it's still not working

shows up as codes even when I save it in there. Good grief! Thanks for trying

SarahDarah333 · February 2016

Forgive me guys, testing my dang signature again

reesaXden · February 2016

@JennM205 with my son I was sick from weeks 8-17. This time is started at week 4 so hoping it ends much sooner as well!!!
I just feel like I'm constantly eating to keep my nausea at bay... Packing on the pounds. Ha

I'm really not that worried about it but was just so surprised!!

pizzaandwine · February 2016

@TheTamedShrew I feel you so hard. I don't have a SIL like that, but I am so far from a pinterest queen, I can't even tell you. I look at people who have that kind of energy, and I am so envious. I finally got dressed (out of my pajamas) at noon today, and that seemed like a herculean task. I WANT to do all kinds of organizing projects and fun things with my toddler, etc., but I'm so tired and I just can't motivate. Try to remind yourself that you're growing a human right now, and that's enough. I also try to remember that everybody's got shit going on. She may be organized and pinterest-y, but who knows what her hidden issues are.

PSUBecky23 · February 2016

Only almost nine weeks and everyone knows I'm pregnant. My family last weekend, my boss on Friday which thus led to my whole office, and my husband's family this past weekend. Also, made no effort to hide my lack of drinking at a Super Bowl party last night so several friends now know, as well. I'm cool with it. I hate hiding it.

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