Time is going so slow today. Tomorrow is my first appointment and ultrasound. If all goes well, we will start to announce the pregnancy, beginning with my parents when they visit this weekend. But right now I have a lot of work to do. I have to stop procrastinating and find some focus...
Definitely not going to let anyone eat Doritos around my growing belly bump. You know, just in case.
(that was a really horrifying commercial!)
That commercial was terrifying. I'm debating what I would have thought of it if I wasn't pregnant, not sure funny but not nope nope nope. From the annoying guy to the WTF noooo ending.
I am having pb&j, bbq chips, a dill pickle, and chocolate milk for lunch and it is awesome! I also think that combo--especially the chocolate milk and dill pickle--would turn my stomach rather than satisfy it if I wasn't pregnant!
Definitely not going to let anyone eat Doritos around my growing belly bump. You know, just in case.
(that was a really horrifying commercial!)
That commercial was terrifying. I'm debating what I would have thought of it if I wasn't pregnant, not sure funny but not nope nope nope. From the annoying guy to the WTF noooo ending.
I somehow missed that one last night...must have been the screaming toddler. So I just Googled it. And yep, WTF? Lol
Definitely not going to let anyone eat Doritos around my growing belly bump. You know, just in case.
(that was a really horrifying commercial!)
That commercial was terrifying. I'm debating what I would have thought of it if I wasn't pregnant, not sure funny but not nope nope nope. From the annoying guy to the WTF noooo ending.
haha my 7 year old has been watching it for a few weeks now on youtube. He loves it!
I thought the "Super Bowl Babies" one was funny. Not the best one, but interesting and must have took a lot of work to find them. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9KqekigARfE
Too funny @PSUBecky23- I wish I could unsee it from the 1 time I watched it live last night. There are few people that I dislike more than Beyonce and Bruno Mars. Still not sure why either of them were invited
So now I would like to vent. My husband was still planning on going to the Super Bowl party today even though I am not feeling up to it. Unfortunately our bed broke this morning though and has been trying to fix it all day. I just found out that they messed something up with the wood at the hardware store and it more than tripled the amount of time there that he had planned. He just came home all stressed out since he fears he may still have to go back to the store if the wood he has doesn't work (or something like that). So I offered to let our friends know that he can't make it to the party after all and our friend basically laid into me about it.
I texted her since I am not feeling well (and we never call each other) but maybe that wasn't the best move. Anyways, I guess my husband didn't make it clear that I wasn't coming earlier when he told her he was hoping to make it after he fixed the bed. Granted, I did tell her I wasn't feeling well on Friday when we were chatting about something else. I texted her tonight though with what my husband said about the hardware store and everything taking longer than he planned and how stressed he was as he was trying to make it over (they live about 30 mins away). But she just responded that she thought we were both coming and that they had bought a lot of food. I told her I was so sorry and that there must have been a miscommunication since my husband knows I haven't been feeling well and probably wasn't well enough to make it out tonight. Did she ask if I was feeling better or anything (since she knew I was sick Friday)? No. She just replied to my text and said that next time we should let them know earlier because they spent so much money on food and everything. What the heck?! I was super apologetic in my messages to her and she was just being spiteful and responded with "K" and then waited a few and then sent me messages about how much they spent on food and everything. What am I supposed to do? Send them a check? It is not like we were 100% going as we told them a week ago that we were interested but would prob leave around 8 since it was a work night. So I dunno why she felt she needed to make us feel bad. I started to get nervous that maybe we were going to be the only ones there and that is why she's so upset but she immediately just posted on Facebook how she was happy to be making lasagna with one of her "besties". So I know we weren't the only ones invited.
So I know my hormones are making me more mad about this than needed (my heart is racing!) but I still feel mad that she gave me crap about not coming. I have hosted a lot of parties in my life and have NEVER given anyone grief for not showing up last minute. Things happen. Yes, sometimes it is inconvenient or frustrating but that's life, right? She is STILL texting me about how she bought meatless food and everything (I am a vegetarian) and how they spent all day cooking. I have NEVER backed out of a social gathering with them so I don't know where this is coming from. I know she has crappy friends who do this to her (usually without texting or calling even) and she may be trying to stand up for herself with me, but I feel this is not cool. I have told her several times how sorry we were and that DH was really trying to get over there but we can't sleep in our bed tonight if he doesn't get it fixed. She kept texting so I finally told her to call my husband since I am getting too upset to get into it with her. What kind of friends do that? I have been in her shoes but I would never call my friends out like that. Life happens. I had no idea she was planning this elaborate dinner or anything either. Reading about lasagna on FB was surprising...not that it would have changed anything but maybe I would have thought to let her know personally that I wasn't coming if I knew they were planning on cooking all day as she said. But I said I was sick on Friday so if she was worried, shouldn't she have asked me yesterday or today? I thought DH told her for me but I guess he said he was trying to make it without specifically saying I would not be there. Ugh. Sorry for the long post but I really needed to get this off my chest since I don't ever treat my friends like this.
I can't believe how awful your friends were to you! It's not like you "didn't feel good" on purpose, she needs to chill. I could see if it were plans for just you two and them, but it sounds like she planned for more than just you two to come over, and again- what does she think, you got sick on purpose! UGH! Every time something happens now where people push me or give me shit, I want to just yell "I'm effing pregnant, ok? Cut me some effing slack!" but it's still too early to go there. And you know what, if this is her biggest problem, she is one lucky lady. Maybe keep a safe distance from her and let her cool down. I'm sure when you do tell her what's up she will feel really stupid. My bestie/cousin avoided me and came up with excuses for a couple of months when she was prego, and I never held it against her even before I knew. I would get mildly annoyed once in a while, but I would never ever put that massive of a guilt trip on her, and now I'm glad I didn't! I hope she sees how ridiculous she was being and gets over herself. You don't deserve that crap!
I loved the Dorito commercial! I found it horrifingly funny. If that makes sense. The one that disturbed me and I wish I could unsee is PuppyBabyMonkey.
@TheTamedShrew I was justtttt thinking of our friends that remind me so much of your situation. It makes me feel so defeated at times.
They've done everything the "cookie-cutter" way and it just pisses me the hell off. They were fortunate enough to have their parents cover student loans, so that expense isn't haunting them. They make about the same as me and DH, but they must spend every drop or max out the credit cards. Their home is decorated with every last piece from Raymour and Flanagan (down to the suggested drapes) and it was previously owned by a doctor (which they often mention). They recently re-did their basement and half of it is dedicated to their child's toys. I feel as though they're always in competition with us and it's so suffocating!! There have been SEVERAL instances where they've "one-uped" us and I can't help but feel discouraged. As pp's have stated though, there must be some underlying issue for which they're compensating to feel so insecure to resort to material things. In the meantime, I'll drive my older model SUV, cut my veggies on a Formica counter top, and "deprive" my son from the latest ninja turtle toy.
@JennM205 The whole time it was happening, I just kept repeating "no" over and over. I remember the product, if that's what they were going for, but I have zero desire to ever try Mt. Dew Kickstart. I'm forced to assume it's as big of a train wreck as the commercial was.
Thanks, @RedMar. I was afraid my post was tl;dr (too long;didn't read) for most people. DH is so tired of me letting this stuff get to me. I just want to have a good friendship/relationship with her, but sometimes we are just so completely different that I have a hard to time leveling with her. Her only hobby is shopping. Her passion is material things and decorating/throwing parties. My passions are related to fine arts: theater, music, dance, writing/books, films. I can only talk about what sales are going on at Kohl's or how many coupons she got to use at Target for so long until I get bored. My house is a mess because I don't always have to time to clean and won't dish out $150 a month for someone to do it for me. I would rather take my child to the park or the library than drag them through a mall or department store. I would rather save for family vacations and college funds than make sure my child has every toy imaginable.
But there I go making comparisons again. I have to let her be her, and appreciate that she is just better at different things than I am.
I hit up chick-fil-a drive thru on my way home from work. I was hungry so I sat in the parking lot and started eating my sandwich. It was way too spicy so I thought of the obvious solution. Yep, just got back in the drive thru line and this time I'm ordering a grilled chicken cool wrap... Plus a milk shake. I'm not messing around.
DD1 6.2011 DD2 4.2013 - vbac DS1 9.2016 - vbac, team green Baby #4 due 9.2018
@TheTamedShrew DANG I am so annoyed after reading your post. My first thought was to ask her to do the stuff you want her to do. Make her work "for you" if that makes sense Since she loves it so much. For free though. Always for free.
I hit up chick-fil-a drive thru on my way home from work. I was hungry so I sat in the parking lot and started eating my sandwich. It was way too spicy so I thought of the obvious solution. Yep, just got back in the drive thru line and this time I'm ordering a grilled chicken cool wrap... Plus a milk shake. I'm not messing around.
I hit up chick-fil-a drive thru on my way home from work. I was hungry so I sat in the parking lot and started eating my sandwich. It was way too spicy so I thought of the obvious solution. Yep, just got back in the drive thru line and this time I'm ordering a grilled chicken cool wrap... Plus a milk shake. I'm not messing around.
Update: I just finished the milkshake (still in the parking lot) and there is no way I'm going to be able to eat the wrap. I'm just wasting chicken over here. I should probably stop bumping from the parking lot and go home to my husband and kids.
DD1 6.2011 DD2 4.2013 - vbac DS1 9.2016 - vbac, team green Baby #4 due 9.2018
I'm sitting here hacking up a lung with a horrible chest cold. I'm not usually such a baby about being sick but combining it with pregnancy symptoms and this is putting me through the ringer. At least I had a snow day today to just wallow in my own misery, but I'm dreading trying to sleep without some serious meds. Also, all of the talk of chocolate milk and milkshakes on here, and that's all I can think about now!
@crispy11 that sounds amazing. Mmmmmmmmmm milkshakes...
Long pointless rant: I'm so irritated. I was looking forward to today because it's my daughter's favorite day (ballet class), the bachelor, and finally don't have to babysit. So, first I go pick up the new backpack I had embroidered for DS's bday. It was hard for me to choose a font for it because they didn't have the options I had in mind. I spent like 5 minutes with the girl, telling her my concerns and finally making up my mind. The font in all caps, because otherwise it would look unsymmetrical and bother me. I told her all of this. We talked about placement where I wanted the name. And then I pick it up...it's exactly how I didn't want it. And in the wrong spot. Not a big deal in the grand scheme but come on!! Ugh! I could have gone elsewhere. Then, before I even left the house I checked to make sure her ballet was still on because we have snow in the forecast. So, instead of going to Target beforehand like planned, DD fell asleep. I decided to let her sleep in the car for a bit so we sat in the parking lot for 45 minutes, while I had to entertain DS in the front seat. Then go inside and it's freaking canceled. They must have updated it right after I checked. So in the end, we went to Target and Chick fil A.. A balloon artist was there, so that was cool. Had to drive home in bad weather and DH is OOT tonight. Shitty night! At least I am now home, warm, watching my guilty pleasure show.
My cube neighbor and a couple other coworkers were talking about one of them wanting to get pregnant. She was debating on when she should stop the pill. They both told her to be ready to get pregnant right away because that is what happened with both of them so of course it will happen to her. Of course she should be prepared because it could happen. They were saying that they stopped the pill figured out when the were fertile and just like that were pregnant. Being the bump TTGP graduate that I am I so wanted to jump in and drop some TTC knowledge but no one knows we were trying or that I'm pregnant and o figured that would give me away.
@blondie080300 Sorry your friend was being stupid. You didn't deserve it. People get sick, it happens. No need to make you feel terrible about it. Perhaps you were the last in a series of people to back out, and got all the frustration? Doesn't make it right, but could provide some context regarding why sparked your friend going off?
@Mom2aDoodle My "morning" sickness likes to kick in at about 10:00 at night. Just when I lay down to go to sleep. Ugh.
My random thought/question for others -- do you tell people your baby's due date? My MIL has a strict "no one should know the due date" rule that she INSISTS we must abide by.
Is that a thing?
I had never heard of it before her, but she insists that you shouldn't tell people because as your due date approaches/passes, people annoyingly ask you how you're feeling and offering advice. I heard about it a zillion times with my SIL's two pregnancies (which we were not allowed to know the due date for), and even then she was telling me how I "better not tell anyone" whenever we have kids.
Obviously, that's really a decision for my husband and I to make, and if she doesn't like it she can deal. I don't let her tell me how to live my life. But I'm trying to understand where she's coming from and be sensitive to my husband's family's "traditions". My thought is that if you just leave it vague, you're going to get questions and comments all month long.
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Me: 31+ H: 32 TTC Since 11/2015 #1 - MMC 6.5 weeks (2/16); #2 - MC due to cystic hygroma at 20 weeks (10/16); #3 CP (2/17); #4 - Due 12.16.17
Thanks for the support @Tennis11785, @JennM205, @SarahMConnors, @prof=mom, @SLou24!!! I finally feel better about it and will just hope this whole thing blows over. Although she does have me wanting to raise an eyebrow about being in her wedding in Nov. (see earlier thread for that dilemma lol).
@JennM205, I am sorry your co-worker dynamic has changed. I can see why it would be disappointing to not be able to share your news and baby progression with other like-minded women. Btw, did you every post what DH planned for your birthday? I must have missed it or maybe it was disappointing?
@Slou24, I hope you feel better soon! And I want a chocolate milkshake now too.
@TNgoldengirl, I am sorry you had such a disappointing night! I hope tomorrow is better!
Married: 3/21/15 First time mom to a human but have been a puppy mamma for over 12 years
@Tennis11785 I've never heard of not saying your due date. Does she suggest saying "First week of September" or just leaving it very general? I'm curious now!
@mom2adoodle - she thinks you should just say "september." In my mind, then you get questions from late august until whenever. If you give people a date, at least it narrows it down to like a week or so!
Oh and for the record - SHE should be able to know the exact due date. It's just other people who shouldn't. :-)
** December BMB Siggy Challenge - Animals in Pools **
Me: 31+ H: 32 TTC Since 11/2015 #1 - MMC 6.5 weeks (2/16); #2 - MC due to cystic hygroma at 20 weeks (10/16); #3 CP (2/17); #4 - Due 12.16.17
People are going to ask you endless questions regardless of if they know you're due date. One of the many joys of pregnancy - being two months away from your due date, looking like a whale, and people thinking you're ready to pop.
My U/S is Thursday. I was soo excited happy but now I'm very nervous scared. My SIL (technically H's SIL) was yesterday and it went well, so happy for them. We are going back to our hometown to tell his parents this weekend. Now for a not rant but confused. I will admit I liked the idea of a double reveal but never suggested it. She did and I said yes, then later she said she really wants to do it separately (they wanted to get a big brother shirt for their dog) but at the same dinner. I thought that would be odd. Then while H and I were talking last night we realized they wanted to do it Sunday night, well we are getting into town Friday late afternoon and leaving early Monday morning. It would be nice to tell them when we first get there and not for the last two hours before bedtime and leaving. H talked to his brother and said we would prefer Friday and so now we are going to tell them just H and I. I thought the only reason we were going in was so we could tell them at the same time and now I'd rather do it over the phone and wait till 2nd tri to drive all the way in and visit. I'm confused on how it all went down and hope no one's feelings are hurt. I think we are all damned if we do and damned if we don't. Should I say or do anything now?
A friend of mine at work has been TTC. Just took 7 days of progesterone to kick start a period (after multiple negative pregnancy tests). Finished progesterone 3 days ago, no period, felt weird - 5 BFPs last night! She's heading into her doctor this morning to get some blood drawn and see what's going on. I've been one of her biggest supporters during her TTC journey and I'm super nervous/excited for her. Maybe if I can focus on her pregnancy I can get through these last couple weeks of my first trimester without so much worry!
My cube neighbor and a couple other coworkers were talking about one of them wanting to get pregnant. She was debating on when she should stop the pill. They both told her to be ready to get pregnant right away because that is what happened with both of them so of course it will happen to her. Of course she should be prepared because it could happen. They were saying that they stopped the pill figured out when the were fertile and just like that were pregnant. Being the bump TTGP graduate that I am I so wanted to jump in and drop some TTC knowledge but no one knows we were trying or that I'm pregnant and o figured that would give me away.
I want to smack people that give advice like that. BCP always f'ed up my cycles when I went off of it. It took us 18 months to get pregnant for DD from the time I stopped the pill. And that was was temping and charting! I mean, good for them that it happened quick, but we aren't all so lucky.
Re: Randoms Thread-February
(that was a really horrifying commercial!)
I'm also a Dorito-holic.
Doritos for lyfe during pregnancy. I found a Doritos-like chip that's "all natural" so "healthy".
They've done everything the "cookie-cutter" way and it just pisses me the hell off. They were fortunate enough to have their parents cover student loans, so that expense isn't haunting them. They make about the same as me and DH, but they must spend every drop or max out the credit cards. Their home is decorated with every last piece from Raymour and Flanagan (down to the suggested drapes) and it was previously owned by a doctor (which they often mention). They recently re-did their basement and half of it is dedicated to their child's toys. I feel as though they're always in competition with us and it's so suffocating!! There have been SEVERAL instances where they've "one-uped" us and I can't help but feel discouraged. As pp's have stated though, there must be some underlying issue for which they're compensating to feel so insecure to resort to material things. In the meantime, I'll drive my older model SUV, cut my veggies on a Formica counter top, and "deprive" my son from the latest ninja turtle toy.
But there I go making comparisons again. I have to let her be her, and appreciate that she is just better at different things than I am.
DD2 4.2013 - vbac
DS1 9.2016 - vbac, team green
Baby #4 due 9.2018
DD2 4.2013 - vbac
DS1 9.2016 - vbac, team green
Baby #4 due 9.2018
also, bought a treadmill in the hopes of being more active. Instead, I just ate a aero bar. Doh!
@crispy11 that sounds amazing. Mmmmmmmmmm milkshakes...
Then, before I even left the house I checked to make sure her ballet was still on because we have snow in the forecast. So, instead of going to Target beforehand like planned, DD fell asleep. I decided to let her sleep in the car for a bit so we sat in the parking lot for 45 minutes, while I had to entertain DS in the front seat. Then go inside and it's freaking canceled. They must have updated it right after I checked.
So in the end, we went to Target and Chick fil A.. A balloon artist was there, so that was cool. Had to drive home in bad weather and DH is OOT tonight. Shitty night! At least I am now home, warm, watching my guilty pleasure show.
DS1 -- 9/30/2016
@Mom2aDoodle My "morning" sickness likes to kick in at about 10:00 at night. Just when I lay down to go to sleep. Ugh.
My random thought/question for others -- do you tell people your baby's due date? My MIL has a strict "no one should know the due date" rule that she INSISTS we must abide by.
Is that a thing?
I had never heard of it before her, but she insists that you shouldn't tell people because as your due date approaches/passes, people annoyingly ask you how you're feeling and offering advice. I heard about it a zillion times with my SIL's two pregnancies (which we were not allowed to know the due date for), and even then she was telling me how I "better not tell anyone" whenever we have kids.
Obviously, that's really a decision for my husband and I to make, and if she doesn't like it she can deal. I don't let her tell me how to live my life. But I'm trying to understand where she's coming from and be sensitive to my husband's family's "traditions". My thought is that if you just leave it vague, you're going to get questions and comments all month long.
** December BMB Siggy Challenge - Animals in Pools **
Me: 31+ H: 32
TTC Since 11/2015
#1 - MMC 6.5 weeks (2/16); #2 - MC due to cystic hygroma at 20 weeks (10/16); #3 CP (2/17); #4 - Due 12.16.17
@lovelylauren86 but once it was in, I did not want that thing to come out.
@JennM205, I am sorry your co-worker dynamic has changed. I can see why it would be disappointing to not be able to share your news and baby progression with other like-minded women. Btw, did you every post what DH planned for your birthday? I must have missed it or maybe it was disappointing?
@Slou24, I hope you feel better soon! And I want a chocolate milkshake now too.
@TNgoldengirl, I am sorry you had such a disappointing night! I hope tomorrow is better!
First time mom to a human but have been a puppy mamma for over 12 years
Oh and for the record - SHE should be able to know the exact due date. It's just other people who shouldn't. :-)
** December BMB Siggy Challenge - Animals in Pools **
Me: 31+ H: 32
TTC Since 11/2015
#1 - MMC 6.5 weeks (2/16); #2 - MC due to cystic hygroma at 20 weeks (10/16); #3 CP (2/17); #4 - Due 12.16.17