Wow, I can't believe there were so many girls with typically male names. Its funny that you brought this up since we JUST talked about this last night after seeing Star Wars. We love that Ray is a strong female character who can kick ass, but why give her a typically male name? Can't she be feminine AND strong?
Male names on girls is kind of a pet peeve for both of us....
It all worked out though since we found out yesterday we are having a boy, so James it is!
Absolutely agree on the seeming disconnect between "feminine" names and strength. I do still like androgynous names, though, because they go a little ways to destabilize gender norms. As would names like Leslie, Meredith, Julian, or Ariel for a boy.
We're also having a boy, and I really really wanted to name him Jude or Jules or Julian, but DH vetoed them all because baby would get made fun of. So now we're at John, which I actually kind of hate. I am trying to get used to it, but it just doesn't sound like a little boy's name.
FWIW, I had never thought of Rey as a boy's name, because my grandmother, Rachel, was always "Rae." She wasn't a very nice lady, so we don't want to use her name, which is a shame because I do actually love it!
I guess I will participate now lol... it was 100% going to be Lincoln for a boy, buuut we are having a girl.
I love the name Cordelia nn Cora. DH doesn't. I don't seem to really like much else.
I'll have to thoroughly look through all the girl suggestions in this thread!
Are you more attached to the nn Cora? Because you could do Coraline or just Cora as her name.
No, I would actually call her Cordelia. I just know my family would need a nn option lol
Nickname her Delia!!!!!!!!! I love Cordelia as a name, and the two Cordelias I've known have gone by Cordie and Delia for short. I love Delia:)
We are team green, so we have to have two names picked out. My husband and I have had a boy name picked out for years now and we have kept it a secret the entire time, but I cannot take it anymore and I'm sure you gals can keep a secret, the boy name is:
Reuel Thomas
Girl names, we're gonna choose between Nora and Vera I think.
The boy's name is a combination of Edward and Harrison, family names. As for the girl's name I just fell in love with Freya the first time I heard it. :-)
Wow, I can't believe there were so many girls with typically male names. Its funny that you brought this up since we JUST talked about this last night after seeing Star Wars. We love that Ray is a strong female character who can kick ass, but why give her a typically male name? Can't she be feminine AND strong? Male names on girls is kind of a pet peeve for both of us.... It all worked out though since we found out yesterday we are having a boy, so James it is!
Absolutely agree on the seeming disconnect between "feminine" names and strength. I do still like androgynous names, though, because they go a little ways to destabilize gender norms. As would names like Leslie, Meredith, Julian, or Ariel for a boy.
We're also having a boy, and I really really wanted to name him Jude or Jules or Julian, but DH vetoed them all because baby would get made fun of. So now we're at John, which I actually kind of hate. I am trying to get used to it, but it just doesn't sound like a little boy's name.
FWIW, I had never thought of Rey as a boy's name, because my grandmother, Rachel, was always "Rae." She wasn't a very nice lady, so we don't want to use her name, which is a shame because I do actually love it!
I guess I will participate now lol... it was 100% going to be Lincoln for a boy, buuut we are having a girl.
I love the name Cordelia nn Cora. DH doesn't. I don't seem to really like much else.
I'll have to thoroughly look through all the girl suggestions in this thread!
Are you more attached to the nn Cora? Because you could do Coraline or just Cora as her name.
No, I would actually call her Cordelia. I just know my family would need a nn option lol
Nickname her Delia!!!!!!!!! I love Cordelia as a name, and the two Cordelias I've known have gone by Cordie and Delia for short. I love Delia:)
-------QBF---------
We are actually!! It's funny these comments are all quoted together because she will be Cordelia Rae. If people want to call her by a nn, I'm suggesting Delia. & Rae is actually my middle name
Has anyone else reached a standstill with their SO? Dh and I have gone over names and then gone over them all again. We don't have the same taste at all. He has almost 20 years on me so I guess that is to be expected but I always imagined that moment where both parents just have a lightbulb and fall in love with a name and agree that it's "The One!." No matter how many names we add to the list we keep narrowing down to the same two: Lucine Seta and Sierra Kathrine. I like one more and DH likes the other more. How have you guys solved your standoffs? I see so many people have chosen and a few are regularly using their baby's name already! When alone I keep slipping and using my preferred name...I don't want to get too attached to it though
Has anyone else reached a standstill with their SO? Dh and I have gone over names and then gone over them all again. We don't have the same taste at all. He has almost 20 years on me so I guess that is to be expected but I always imagined that moment where both parents just have a lightbulb and fall in love with a name and agree that it's "The One!." No matter how many names we add to the list we keep narrowing down to the same two: Lucine Seta and Sierra Kathrine. I like one more and DH likes the other more. How have you guys solved your standoffs? I see so many people have chosen and a few are regularly using their baby's name already! When alone I keep slipping and using my preferred name...I don't want to get too attached to it though
My suggestion is to just take a break for a while. We had to because we just were not on the same page and it was frustrating. Either something will click or when you see her you will be able to decide.
I know it can be so frustrating! But she will have a name and you will love it!
@Kurrant Have you both tried either talking about or writing out why you each prefer the name you like (without saying anything about the other name)? I know sometimes standoff conversations can lead to neither person really getting across what they mean because it goes back and forth so quickly.
DH and I went back and forth between two middle names for DS, but when ee did this, DH's reasoning won me over, and once we found out we had a boy, it felt right for me to support his preference. Although I was a little unsure at first, by the time i saw him, i was happy with it. We agreed that mine would be used if we had another boy (which we are this time).
Alternatively, if you're both comfortable with either name, you could hold off on a final decision until she's born.
We have discussed both names. My reasons for Lucine Seta are that they are both Armenian names which is a bit important to me and Seta was my mothers name. Sierra was a name we came across in a book that I liked if we couldn't find a good Armenian name and Kathrine is DH's mother middle name. DH says he doesn't have any actual attachment to Sierra but just likes the way it sounds. The reason he doesn't like lucine is that it would get shortened to Lucy which he thinks is easy to make fun of and it makes him think of a dorky, gangly red head.....
i don't hate Sierra or anything ... I'm just not in love with it. Also my best friend informed me that he thinks Sierra is a stripper name. Ugh. I've known a Sierra and she wasn't a stripper!
@Kurrant I'm sorry you're stressed about names, it's important to me to be able to think of my LO by name too. I ended up turning on our original top two names, after saying them so much and thinking about them so much and hearing too many opinions about them I stopped liking them. After they went out the window I was stressed and it took some time but we did land on one that we both love. Maybe step back from your top two (before they get ruined) and take a break from the name convo for a week or so and see how you feel?
If you haven't already discussed it, could you both maybe compromise with Kathrine Seta or Sierra Lucine instead (or Seta Kathrine/Lucine Sierra)? That way you're either honoring both moms or neither at all, and you're each getting at least one name that you like in there.
If that's already been discussed/isn't an option for either of you, I'd recommend following the same advice as previous posters - just take a step back and take a break for awhile, and see if time gives either of you a new idea or a different perspective on either name.
It is so hard! Not settled on a name at all, but I start to like Leonie for our baby girl. It's very common in Germany (country of my origin), but not very in Australia (where I live now)...not sure about a middle name either-any ideas?
My husband and I are having a girl and from the beginning had a hard time deciding on a girl name! We've chosen Eloise James. Eloise was the first name that we both loved so no special meaning there but James is my little brother's middle name and my mom's maiden name.
I've had 4 names (2 boys & 2 girls) picked since before I can remember. My first girl name however was so special to me and I've been holding onto it literally my entire life. So when we found out we're having a girl I got so excited to be able to use this name that I've told almost NOBODY. Still now, at 7 months only our parents and few select people know. There are 7 ladies in my circle that are all pregnant with girls so the fear of them stealing my name (it's happened before) is real.
@LittleBittmy cousin was like you and kept her name top secret but it kind of backfired. My brother and his wife had twin boys three months before her DS was born and ended up using her name coincidentally. She still used it too but if she'd just mentioned the name to my SIL they would have let her have it.
I've had 4 names (2 boys & 2 girls) picked since before I can remember. My first girl name however was so special to me and I've been holding onto it literally my entire life. So when we found out we're having a girl I got so excited to be able to use this name that I've told almost NOBODY. Still now, at 7 months only our parents and few select people know. There are 7 ladies in my circle that are all pregnant with girls so the fear of them stealing my name (it's happened before) is real.
Am I strange?
How can they steal your name if they don't know it? And even if they did know it..who cares if the babies have the same name?
@LittleBitt you're not strange, we didn't share DS's name and I was worried the entire time that some awful celebrity would use his name and ruin it in our minds. That didn't happen thankfully.
But, and I say this as nicely as possible - people can't "steal" a name they don't know you're using. Unless you disclose the name it's fair game and that's the risk you run keeping it a secret. Maybe just tell the 7 women and keep it quiet otherwise?
It is so interesting how nervous people get about "stealing" names. I just found out a coworker is 15 wks pregnant (wow, seems like a lifetime ago, huh?!) and she was asking if we had names picked out. I don't want to say so I just said we have a list and are considering our options. She burst out "Oh, I have known since forever that if I have a girl she will be Audrey!" and I said, politely, "That is such a lovely name!" She immediately got a terrified look in her eyes and said "Well, please don't steal it!" How could I nicely say that Audrey is just NMS and there was no danger of me "stealing" it after I had just complimented her on it? So I said, "No, my little girl is probably going to be blonde and Audrey is a dark-haired name." It was one of the dumbest things I think I have ever said, but she breathed a sigh of relief, knowing her name was "safe".
Working at a school, I know that in one grade you can have 5 Paytons, 4 kids named Lucas, 6 Harpers and 3 Williams. That is just how it goes. There are only so many names and there is a possibility that someone you know will pick a similar or even the same name. If you really don't want people close to you to "steal" your name, you need to be honest and tell them "Hey, this name is mine, b*tches!" Otherwise, if you have similar styles or family names etc, it could happen that in your group of friends or family there are 2 cousins named Olivia and 2 best friends, Brady M and Brady K.
@LittleBitt DH and I have had names picked out since we found out I was pregnant. My best friend is due in April so I made sure we didn't have matching names, but to our surprise DH's cousin just had a girl and used the name we have chosen. If we have a girl we will also use the name. There is no way I will change my mind and I would never demand or expect them to change for me so we might end up using cute nicknames at family parties if DH and I have a girl. I was really sad when I found out, but now I'm totally fine. We still aren't revealing the name until the birth so there is potential for some minor family drama but nothing we can't handle.
We're currently stuck in a rut with boy names. We had the girl name solidly chosen, but little biscuit is a boy. Our last name is tricky bc it's one syllable, starts with S. Kinda similar to "stench".
Our front runners are: - Henry Weston (but I'm ehh with the repeating "en" sounds?) - Samuel ? - Westley ?
Argh this is hard. We're not religious, and are not interested in any of the biblical names (one of my struggles with Samuel). Husband prefers classic names though. Any ideas welcome...
So far my husband and I have both been good at just walking away from names we suggest that the other isn't on board with for whatever reason. No matter how much I love a name, I would hate to think that my daughter's father was unhappy with it from the start. Luckily we have pretty similar taste, but I've had to let go of some names I really like because he knew someone that gave him a negative association with it.
Judgment question for the group: MH and I both really like the name Charles (to be nn Charlie), however, my aunt is married to a Charlie (we only see them maybe once every two years) and I'm afraid it would be weird if anyone thought we named our son after him. Charles is also a name on MH's side (his grandfather's brother). Thoughts?
Has anyone else reached a standstill with their SO? Dh and I have gone over names and then gone over them all again. We don't have the same taste at all. He has almost 20 years on me so I guess that is to be expected but I always imagined that moment where both parents just have a lightbulb and fall in love with a name and agree that it's "The One!." No matter how many names we add to the list we keep narrowing down to the same two: Lucine Seta and Sierra Kathrine. I like one more and DH likes the other more. How have you guys solved your standoffs? I see so many people have chosen and a few are regularly using their baby's name already! When alone I keep slipping and using my preferred name...I don't want to get too attached to it though
We have different tastes in names, too. If it doesn't resolve itself, I plan on using the ultimate 'trump card.' You know the one..."I carried this baby, so I'm going to make the final choice."
I"m still hoping DH will come around to my choice, but I'm also trying to stay open. That being said, we don't each have a name we are both really attached to, so I don't feel like we're at a standoff...yet!
Thanks everyone for the responses and feedback. Our baby girl name is just something so special and a play on family names. I don't know anyone else with it and have searched the baby name lists and not seen it come up, so I think we're safe. We'll probably start announcing it more vocally closer to my baby shower next month.
We are having a girl and sort of have 3 names.... Last name starts with a P, 3 syllables.
Peyton Irene..... Nn. Pip. However I am concerned if we have a boy next our name is Ganton. Do you think the "ton" for both is too much?
Rory Evelyn.... I only just realized that this is pretty much my moms name Lori Evelyn with only a couple letters changed. I was ok with having the middle name after her but am worried how close the whole thing is now...
At this point, DH and I have a list of names we can both agree on, but when I try to imagine having a little girl who we will call this name for the rest of her life... I just can't. The names I really love DH hates (says they are old lady names, asked if I went to the nursing home to pick them out). FTR, my top name is Miriam. We could call her Mira, Miri, I know a family with a Miriam who call her Mimmy, or Mimzy... maybe this is dorky, but before I got pregnant I just loved the idea of calling her the Whimsy Mimzy. That nickname also fits in with the nicknames DH and I have for each other (again, dorky, but we call each other things like honzer, honzee, bunzer).
DH seems totally against giving her a more formal name and calling her by a nickname, which honestly I would prefer. Like, Nora is fine, but Eleanor is not. He also doesn't want to name her anything close to any of his relatives, which would be fine, except where our relatives have similar names. My two grandmothers are Kathryn and Julia. Again, this is a formal name vs nickname situation, because if those are the formal names I have no problem calling her a nickname. BUT, DH has an Aunt Kathy (Kathleen, and we would not be calling her Kathy anyway), and an Aunt Julie (my nickname suggestions were Jules or Jude).
At this point, DH and I have a list of names we can both agree on, but when I try to imagine having a little girl who we will call this name for the rest of her life... I just can't. The names I really love DH hates (says they are old lady names, asked if I went to the nursing home to pick them out). FTR, my top name is Miriam. We could call her Mira, Miri, I know a family with a Miriam who call her Mimmy, or Mimzy... maybe this is dorky, but before I got pregnant I just loved the idea of calling her the Whimsy Mimzy. That nickname also fits in with the nicknames DH and I have for each other (again, dorky, but we call each other things like honzer, honzee, bunzer).
DH seems totally against giving her a more formal name and calling her by a nickname, which honestly I would prefer. Like, Nora is fine, but Eleanor is not. He also doesn't want to name her anything close to any of his relatives, which would be fine, except where our relatives have similar names. My two grandmothers are Kathryn and Julia. Again, this is a formal name vs nickname situation, because if those are the formal names I have no problem calling her a nickname. BUT, DH has an Aunt Kathy (Kathleen, and we would not be calling her Kathy anyway), and an Aunt Julie (my nickname suggestions were Jules or Jude).
Sorry for the novel.
I was having the same issue with DH. He thinks most of the names i like are granny names and a lot of the rest he either likes the nick name or the formal name but not both. It took a long time and a lot of back and forth to finally agree to a name. The ladies here made some great suggestions to break the cycle but in the end what worked was both of us using the various names when talking about her to see what actually stuck and what we liked the sound of.
Our little lady will be Brynn Marie. I have liked the name since circa 2002 when I heard it on the Real World Las Vegas (it just took a LOT for me to admit that). Luckily, DH likes it too! He has a little pre-teen cousin named Brynlee and she was so excited when she heard that Brynn's name was so close to hers. If we have a boy in the future, he will be named after DH's best friend that was killed in an accident almost 2 years ago...Jason Lee.
Re: Baby names?
We're also having a boy, and I really really wanted to name him Jude or Jules or Julian, but DH vetoed them all because baby would get made fun of. So now we're at John, which I actually kind of hate. I am trying to get used to it, but it just doesn't sound like a little boy's name.
FWIW, I had never thought of Rey as a boy's name, because my grandmother, Rachel, was always "Rae." She wasn't a very nice lady, so we don't want to use her name, which is a shame because I do actually love it! Nickname her Delia!!!!!!!!! I love Cordelia as a name, and the two Cordelias I've known have gone by Cordie and Delia for short. I love Delia:)
Reuel Thomas
Girl names, we're gonna choose between
Nora and Vera I think.
Boy - Edison ?
The boy's name is a combination of Edward and Harrison, family names. As for the girl's name I just fell in love with Freya the first time I heard it. :-)
We're also having a boy, and I really really wanted to name him Jude or Jules or Julian, but DH vetoed them all because baby would get made fun of. So now we're at John, which I actually kind of hate. I am trying to get used to it, but it just doesn't sound like a little boy's name.
FWIW, I had never thought of Rey as a boy's name, because my grandmother, Rachel, was always "Rae." She wasn't a very nice lady, so we don't want to use her name, which is a shame because I do actually love it! Are you more attached to the nn Cora? Because you could do Coraline or just Cora as her name.
No, I would actually call her Cordelia. I just know my family would need a nn option lol
Nickname her Delia!!!!!!!!! I love Cordelia as a name, and the two Cordelias I've known have gone by Cordie and Delia for short. I love Delia:)
-------QBF---------
We are actually!! It's funny these comments are all quoted together because she will be Cordelia Rae. If people want to call her by a nn, I'm suggesting Delia. & Rae is actually my middle name
I know it can be so frustrating! But she will have a name and you will love it!
DH and I went back and forth between two middle names for DS, but when ee did this, DH's reasoning won me over, and once we found out we had a boy, it felt right for me to support his preference. Although I was a little unsure at first, by the time i saw him, i was happy with it. We agreed that mine would be used if we had another boy (which we are this time).
Alternatively, if you're both comfortable with either name, you could hold off on a final decision until she's born.
i don't hate Sierra or anything ... I'm just not in love with it. Also my best friend informed me that he thinks Sierra is a stripper name. Ugh. I've known a Sierra and she wasn't a stripper!
If that's already been discussed/isn't an option for either of you, I'd recommend following the same advice as previous posters - just take a step back and take a break for awhile, and see if time gives either of you a new idea or a different perspective on either name.
(Edited because autocorrect)
I've had 4 names (2 boys & 2 girls) picked since before I can remember. My first girl name however was so special to me and I've been holding onto it literally my entire life. So when we found out we're having a girl I got so excited to be able to use this name that I've told almost NOBODY. Still now, at 7 months only our parents and few select people know. There are 7 ladies in my circle that are all pregnant with girls so the fear of them stealing my name (it's happened before) is real.
Am I strange?
But, and I say this as nicely as possible - people can't "steal" a name they don't know you're using. Unless you disclose the name it's fair game and that's the risk you run keeping it a secret. Maybe just tell the 7 women and keep it quiet otherwise?
Working at a school, I know that in one grade you can have 5 Paytons, 4 kids named Lucas, 6 Harpers and 3 Williams. That is just how it goes. There are only so many names and there is a possibility that someone you know will pick a similar or even the same name. If you really don't want people close to you to "steal" your name, you need to be honest and tell them "Hey, this name is mine, b*tches!" Otherwise, if you have similar styles or family names etc, it could happen that in your group of friends or family there are 2 cousins named Olivia and 2 best friends, Brady M and Brady K.
Boys names I like : Henry or Benjamin
Girls names: Frances, Audrey and Charlotte (however our son is George)
Our front runners are:
- Henry Weston (but I'm ehh with the repeating "en" sounds?)
- Samuel ?
- Westley ?
Argh this is hard. We're not religious, and are not interested in any of the biblical names (one of my struggles with Samuel). Husband prefers classic names though. Any ideas welcome...
I"m still hoping DH will come around to my choice, but I'm also trying to stay open. That being said, we don't each have a name we are both really attached to, so I don't feel like we're at a standoff...yet!
DS: Born 5-17-16
Elizabeth Rose (middle names of both of our sisters) nn Ellie.
Lillian Grace nn Lilly
Thoughts?
Riley Nicole
i bought letters for the wall so it's official right?! Lolol
If you don't like Riley Nicole you can go with Colleyn Irie or Cilien Royel
(everything in this post blamed on today's Mondayness)
Love it. This was one of our top choices! (Still is, really, because we never make up our minds. Poor girl's name has changed weekly.)
Thanks everyone for the responses and feedback. Our baby girl name is just something so special and a play on family names. I don't know anyone else with it and have searched the baby name lists and not seen it come up, so I think we're safe. We'll probably start announcing it more vocally closer to my baby shower next month.
Peyton Irene..... Nn. Pip. However I am concerned if we have a boy next our name is Ganton. Do you think the "ton" for both is too much?
Rory Evelyn.... I only just realized that this is pretty much my moms name Lori Evelyn with only a couple letters changed. I was ok with having the middle name after her but am worried how close the whole thing is now...
And
Wren.... Not sure on middle name.
Thoughts? I need opinions please!
DH seems totally against giving her a more formal name and calling her by a nickname, which honestly I would prefer. Like, Nora is fine, but Eleanor is not. He also doesn't want to name her anything close to any of his relatives, which would be fine, except where our relatives have similar names. My two grandmothers are Kathryn and Julia. Again, this is a formal name vs nickname situation, because if those are the formal names I have no problem calling her a nickname. BUT, DH has an Aunt Kathy (Kathleen, and we would not be calling her Kathy anyway), and an Aunt Julie (my nickname suggestions were Jules or Jude).
Sorry for the novel.