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March 2014 Moms
Donniesgrrl
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W W M14 D ?? Doctor Vent
Donniesgrrl
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Need some help Ladies!
I had my 37 week appointment last night, and I brought my Birth plan to go over it with the Doctor, first let me start by saying I am not a crazy person who expects my Birth plan to go perfectly, this is #3 for us, I fully realize that it may go completely out the window, within, minutes/hours, etc. With that being said, I feel completely unsupported by my Doctor. He spent 2 minutes looking at it, then said well we don't use the tub, which the hospital offers, and is explained to you on the tour (no explanation why) and you have to be monitored constantly (again no explanation why ) even though I questioned him. I am not High risk, I have had a fairly easy pregnancy, etc.
With that being said, When I first started going to him I felt like he supported my want for a med free hypno birth and now, I feel like he can barely be bothered to tell me what the hell is going on with me. I asked him to check babys position since he was breech at my last appointment, and he said we won't worry about that until next week, which of course will be too late to really get him to spin if we can, and I feel like I will be forced into a c section. I also feel like he thinks I am silly and stupid. I have done my research and am an informed patient, I know what kind of birth I want, my MIL and Husband are fully prepared to help me achieve that as long as it is medically safe for Baby and I and I feel absolutely no support from my doctor. He mentioned induction when he checked me yesterday since I am still high and thick (I am 37 weeks) there is no reason to even discuss induction until 42 weeks, especially since my son came on his own and easily at 39 weeks. He also said he would break my water if he felt it was medically necessary, again, my bag broke on its own, and I know that the baby can be born in the caul and it is fine.
I realize that it is too late to switch practitioners, and there is another Doctor in the Practice, who I feel listens to me when I talk to him about things and actually spends time with me when I am there if I have questions, etc., but it is the luck of the draw on who I will get when I go into labor. I Talked to my MIL who is a nurse and she said well they can't do anything to you unless you let them, and That at this point it is too late to switch, she said sadly the nurses have to follow the Doctors instructions even though sometimes they may not agree with them.
I guess I just need some thoughts, suggestions, etc. Feeling very frustrated, and upset about all of this.
I had my 37 week appointment last night, and I brought my Birth plan to go over it with the Doctor, first let me start by saying I am not a crazy person who expects my Birth plan to go perfectly, this is #3 for us, I fully realize that it may go completely out the window, within, minutes/hours, etc. With that being said, I feel completely unsupported by my Doctor. He spent 2 minutes looking at it, then said well we don't use the tub, which the hospital offers, and is explained to you on the tour (no explanation why) and you have to be monitored constantly (again no explanation why ) even though I questioned him. I am not High risk, I have had a fairly easy pregnancy, etc.
With that being said, When I first started going to him I felt like he supported my want for a med free hypno birth and now, I feel like he can barely be bothered to tell me what the hell is going on with me. I asked him to check babys position since he was breech at my last appointment, and he said we won't worry about that until next week, which of course will be too late to really get him to spin if we can, and I feel like I will be forced into a c section. I also feel like he thinks I am silly and stupid. I have done my research and am an informed patient, I know what kind of birth I want, my MIL and Husband are fully prepared to help me achieve that as long as it is medically safe for Baby and I and I feel absolutely no support from my doctor. He mentioned induction when he checked me yesterday since I am still high and thick (I am 37 weeks) there is no reason to even discuss induction until 42 weeks, especially since my son came on his own and easily at 39 weeks. He also said he would break my water if he felt it was medically necessary, again, my bag broke on its own, and I know that the baby can be born in the caul and it is fine.
I realize that it is too late to switch practitioners, and there is another Doctor in the Practice, who I feel listens to me when I talk to him about things and actually spends time with me when I am there if I have questions, etc., but it is the luck of the draw on who I will get when I go into labor. I Talked to my MIL who is a nurse and she said well they can't do anything to you unless you let them, and That at this point it is too late to switch, she said sadly the nurses have to follow the Doctors instructions even though sometimes they may not agree with them.
I guess I just need some thoughts, suggestions, etc. Feeling very frustrated, and upset about all of this.
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Re: W W M14 D ?? Doctor Vent
RIP Dr. Irving Fishman - 10/1/19-7/25/10 - thank you for holding on for me.
You made my wedding day complete.
I'm so sorry you have to deal with this at this stage in your pregnancy! It was probably very frustrating and overwhelming hearing all of his "newly" unsupportive opinions - Definitely take time to process it and then maybe get yourself ready for your next appointment to ask those questions again, and keep asking until you get an answer?
Also maybe decline cervix checks (unless you really want them) - it sounds like he might "accidentally" strip your membranes during a check if he feels so inclined...
Hope things turn out more in the direction you're hoping they go! Labor at home as long as possible (and as long as you're comfortable with, with it being #3).
I would demand answers about why he doesn't use the tub and why you would have to be monitored constantly. I would also ask him to define 'constantly.'
I wouldn't worry too much about the breaking water thing, because it sounds like he would only do it if it was medically necessary which would have no relation to your past labors. And unless he specifically said induction prior to 42 weeks, I wouldn't worry that he mentioned induction either. He was probably just telling you what might happen down the road if you stayed high and thick.
I'm not sure about the possibility of switching doctors... maybe call around and see if it would be possible?
I am calling This morning when they open to see if I can get in with him, I have my appointment Scheduled with the same Doctor right now, But I am going to use the excuse that I have only seen the other doctor 2 times my whole pregnancy and I really would like to see him again so that I feel comfortable if he is delivering me.
I called the Charge nurse in labor and Delivery and she said if the Doctor does not allow for it, they can't let me use it, again this was something that was never mentioned when we asked the nurse who gave us the tour of L &D and I am really upset that it was offered as a choice, we have been preparing to use it and now am finding out we can't. The fact that I have to be constantly monitored also is bugging me out, because he won't let me use telemetry because in his words "it doesn't work well" I know it is BS my BFF just delivered there a month ago and used telemetry the whole time and it was fine! So I have to be attached to this damn machine, which will really hinder my ability to move, use the shower, and get into positions to help with the pain. UGGH I am so frustrated.
1.) Demand an explanation for his policy on laboring in the tub (as distinct from birthing in the tub).
2.) Do a PubMed search and bring in some of the articles on continuous monitoring (and its total lack of edficacy) and demand an explanation as to why he requires it.
3.) It's last-minute, but see if you can hire a doula to help advocate for you in labor. Even in the worst-case scenario where you end up hooked up to monitors, a good doula can help you position.
4.) Realize that you can refuse any intervention. You. Can. Refuse.
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