If I didn't take medication while pregnant I wouldn't survive. I am allergic to my fetus and need those meds so I am not covered in hives. I also did a course of steroids for my back and those are class C drugs. Like @BostonBaby1 said benefit to mom outweigh the risks.
I can't stand people who correct grammar of someone else in a conversation it's so rude and unnecessary! DH does this all the time and drives me up the wall! If you understand what I am trying to say than let it go.
If I didn't take medication while pregnant I wouldn't survive. I am allergic to my fetus and need those meds so I am not covered in hives. I also did a course of steroids for my back and those are class C drugs. Like @BostonBaby1 said benefit to mom outweigh the risks.
That is utterly terrifying (being allergic to your fetus). Sorry you are having to worry about that at all. Add this to the list of weird/scary shit I never knew pregnancy could entail.
@Lindsayleigh1989 I am guilty of doing this with my husband, but only when we are alone. I would never want to embarrass him in front of someone else. Also, it's only when he uses a word completely out of context. I will offer the word I think he meant to use, and tell him what the word he used actually means. He really is a smart man, but we excel in completely different things, and language has never been his strong point.
If it helps, I always try to be very gentle about it. I'm never saying it to make him feel bad, I just think if I can correct him instead of someone else it may soften the blow.
@Nerdchild yeah it's one thing if it's gentle but telling me I'm corrected so I don't teach my child poor English ( I have a freaking masters degree I'm not terrible with the spoken language ) is not the way to do it
I was wondering when the circumcision argument would come up and I'm pretty impressed with the "agree to disagree/do you" vibe this board has on this topic, as I've seen it get super ugly on other boards
I find circumcision to be right in line with parenting decisions like formula vs breastfeeding, co-sleeping vs. crib, cry it out vs. no cry it out. There is evidence for and against circumcision, but in my opinion neither side comes out far enough ahead to make it a clear issue (like, for example, vaccinations), so we just have to make the decision we're comfortable with, and live and let live. Plus, the people who have strong opinions on one side or another are not going to change their minds so arguing is completely pointless. I do love the idea of a thread to discuss the pros and cons of each side for those posters who are currently undecided what route they'll take. Information is power!
ETA: Just to clarify as there was a misinterpretation of my post later in this thread - I am 100% pro vaccination and what I meant by the bolded part is that, unlike some parenting decisions (formula vs. breastfeeding, circumcision vs. no circumcision, etc.) which have a lot of pros and cons and come down to personal preference with no blanket right/wrong answer, Vaccines have scientific proof that they are safe and effective, and the outcomes of not vaccinating impact people outside your own family, so there is a clear right answer - to vaccinate.
If I didn't take medication while pregnant I wouldn't survive. I am allergic to my fetus and need those meds so I am not covered in hives. I also did a course of steroids for my back and those are class C drugs. Like @BostonBaby1 said benefit to mom outweigh the risks.
That is utterly terrifying (being allergic to your fetus). Sorry you are having to worry about that at all. Add this to the list of weird/scary shit I never knew pregnancy could entail.
Yea it is super rare and goes away within hours of delivery. My allergist thinks it is the coolest. It is one of the ways I knew I was pregnant.
I can't stand people who correct grammar of someone else in a conversation it's so rude and unnecessary! DH does this all the time and drives me up the wall! If you understand what I am trying to say than let it go.
I agree 100% I was in a meeting a few years ago when I first started at the police department with about 8 detectives. I made the comment "well me and Amy are going to that training..." My sergeant cut me off mid sentence and said "you mean "Amy and I..." I was so embarrassed and pissed about it... It was a completely informal monthly meeting and made me feel like such an idiot. I suppose there's a time and a place to correct someone but we're all grown adults and I didn't need the School House Rock grammar lesson.
Wow @PinkLady2015, that's really unprofessional! I would be pissed too!
Edited to add; 'Me and Amy' vs. 'Amy and I' still conveys they same freaking point. Grammatical mistakes (written or spoken) that still do the basic job of language-conveying meaning-are just short cuts the brain naturally takes because the brain likes to be smart about how it expends energy. It's how we get linguistic change. Old English wifman (wife of man) becomes wimman which becomes woman because it is physically easier for our mouths to transition between those sounds. Laziness breeds innovation.
Now, saying 'The sky was obtuse today' when you want to say 'The sky was chartreuse today', those don't convey the same meaning. That, I feel, is okay to 'politely' correct because it allows for clarification between speaker/hearer.
Crimmeny, who knew that one Linguistic Anthro course I forced myself to take would help me get so fired up on a message board nearly a decade later. Haha.
Also, I work with abused women who are often 100% cut off from the finances when/if they decide to leave. This includes women (previously) in high income brackets... They leave the relationship with their designer hand bags and fancy phones and then have nothing. So the next time you see someone using food stamps carrying an iPhone and a coach bag, maybe check your ridiculous judgement and consider she just escaped a deadly relationship. Sheesh.
I didn't mean to imply that everyone on assistance is squandering their money on frivolous things, so I'm sorry if that's how it came across. I understand that there are many people in terrible situations and people who just need some extra help to get by until they can get back on their feet. I respect those people and they are the reason the system exists. However, I think we all know that there are people who abuse the system. There are people that think that have a right to whatever lifestyle they want, regardless of whether or not they can afford it. I am a person who believes in living within your means (assuming you have the means to provide yourself with food, shelter, and necessities.)
I get that the way I described it sounds like I'm judging anyone with nice things and government assistance and I apologize for that. Really, it's the people that take advantage of the system that really frustrate me.
Stop being such a stick in the mud The last comment made was only a couple above mine, and I have this weird feeling that its not the end of discussion in here.
Mine today is that I don't care if someone is family. If they are toxic and make you feel bad you can kick their sorry asses to the curb. Blood means nothing if that person hurts you constantly.
Also that celery is like the tastiest thing lately.
Mine today is that I don't care if someone is family. If they are toxic and make you feel bad you can kick their sorry asses to the curb. Blood means nothing if that person hurts you constantly.
Alright @thebigoaktree, you said foreskin and popcorn in the same sentence and my messed up brain amalgamated the two. Popcorn; ruined.
OMG
This reminds me, I have a man pulling his foreskin back and popcorn falling out gif. I'll do you the favor and not post it. Now. When the big debate thread is started all bets are off.
@tm14 yes yes and yes. My sister for the first time is experiencing our mothers narcissistic rage and struggling with it. I've always been the scapegoat of the family so I'm used to it and went low contact five years ago. Sometimes you have to cut someone off regardless of familial ties.
My FFFC is that I'm super craving chocolate, but we have no candy, cookies, etc. in the house. So I found a can of chocolate icing and grabbed a spoon. Not sorry.
My FFFC is that I'm super craving chocolate, but we have no candy, cookies, etc. in the house. So I found a can of chocolate icing and grabbed a spoon. Not sorry.
Put it on saltines (if you have some handy) weirdly tasty
My FFFC is that I'm super craving chocolate, but we have no candy, cookies, etc. in the house. So I found a can of chocolate icing and grabbed a spoon. Not sorry.
Put it on saltines (if you have some handy) weirdly tasty
Hmmm... I don't have any, but I'll have to add them to the grocery list for tomorrow!
I don't get arguing over choices people make for their own family/children. You do you. If somebody wants to know how I intend to feed my infant/vaccinate/Circumcision/CIO/ discipline/etc I will tell them, but I won't shove my decisions down anybody's throat. Again, you do you.
@soberkfell And then put the chocolate (or honey + peanut butter) on the unsalted side and eat them salt side down. I promise, it's so good.
I already know where I fall on the circumcision if this baby turns out to be a boy, but I am SO in for the puns and gifs. Penis puns are always funny.
As for EBT, some people game the system, but most don't. And there are many reasons someone might be getting assistance, from hard times to fostering a child. We can all probably agree that the system needs reformation, but it does a lot of good for a lot of families that need the help.
My FFFC - I don't care whether or not our children go to college. As a college counselor (mental health NOT academic counselor) I see plenty of kids that were pressured to go to college either before they were ready, or without knowing what they want to do, or knowing that they don't want to get the degree they are working towards. They hate it and spend a lot of time in my office lamenting their misery and the fact that they cannot talk to their parents about it "because this is all my parents want me to do" (read: this is extremely isolating for them). This is made worse for the ones that are incurring debt (student loans) to go to school because though their parents want them to have a degree, they are not paying for college (I fully understand not everyone has the money or ability to pay for their kids college but if your kid doesn't want to go and you want them to, maybe you should help out).
Also, my husband got a "useless" degree that he didn't need because of familial pressure. Without that degree, he would be in the same position he is now and making just as much money. In fact, it's debatable as to whether he might be further in his career if he hadn't had to schedule days off to go to school. He is proud of his degree now but mostly because he said he doesn't want to "look stupid" next to me with my two Masters degrees. IMO, not a good enough reason to get a degree.
All that being said, I fully want my children to find something they are passionate about and make a life/career out of it. If it's a skilled trade that requires trade school, apprenticeship, etc. that's fine. If it's college and grad school, that's fine too. I'm also okay if they decide they want to travel and work odd jobs for a while until they find out what they want to do - this is all okay as long as they are working hard and making a living and they are happy.
After looking at the Furbaby thread here is my unapologetic FFFC- fur babies are way cuter than human babies. I gush way more over pooches and kitties than I do their people counterpart. Sue me.
Re: FFFC
If it helps, I always try to be very gentle about it. I'm never saying it to make him feel bad, I just think if I can correct him instead of someone else it may soften the blow.
I find circumcision to be right in line with parenting decisions like formula vs breastfeeding, co-sleeping vs. crib, cry it out vs. no cry it out. There is evidence for and against circumcision, but in my opinion neither side comes out far enough ahead to make it a clear issue (like, for example, vaccinations), so we just have to make the decision we're comfortable with, and live and let live. Plus, the people who have strong opinions on one side or another are not going to change their minds so arguing is completely pointless. I do love the idea of a thread to discuss the pros and cons of each side for those posters who are currently undecided what route they'll take. Information is power!
ETA: Just to clarify as there was a misinterpretation of my post later in this thread - I am 100% pro vaccination and what I meant by the bolded part is that, unlike some parenting decisions (formula vs. breastfeeding, circumcision vs. no circumcision, etc.) which have a lot of pros and cons and come down to personal preference with no blanket right/wrong answer, Vaccines have scientific proof that they are safe and effective, and the outcomes of not vaccinating impact people outside your own family, so there is a clear right answer - to vaccinate.
I was in a meeting a few years ago when I first started at the police department with about 8 detectives. I made the comment "well me and Amy are going to that training..." My sergeant cut me off mid sentence and said "you mean "Amy and I..."
I was so embarrassed and pissed about it... It was a completely informal monthly meeting and made me feel like such an idiot.
I suppose there's a time and a place to correct someone but we're all grown adults and I didn't need the School House Rock grammar lesson.
Edited to add; 'Me and Amy' vs. 'Amy and I' still conveys they same freaking point. Grammatical mistakes (written or spoken) that still do the basic job of language-conveying meaning-are just short cuts the brain naturally takes because the brain likes to be smart about how it expends energy. It's how we get linguistic change. Old English wifman (wife of man) becomes wimman which becomes woman because it is physically easier for our mouths to transition between those sounds. Laziness breeds innovation.
Now, saying 'The sky was obtuse today' when you want to say 'The sky was chartreuse today', those don't convey the same meaning. That, I feel, is okay to 'politely' correct because it allows for clarification between speaker/hearer.
Crimmeny, who knew that one Linguistic Anthro course I forced myself to take would help me get so fired up on a message board nearly a decade later. Haha.
I get that the way I described it sounds like I'm judging anyone with nice things and government assistance and I apologize for that. Really, it's the people that take advantage of the system that really frustrate me.
Married: May 16th 2015
Stop being such a stick in the mud
The last comment made was only a couple above mine, and I have this weird feeling that its not the end of discussion in here.
Married: May 16th 2015
Well I was just trying to give posters a SNIPpet of adive.
I'm feelin' your pun.
Married: May 16th 2015
Also that celery is like the tastiest thing lately.
Married: May 16th 2015
Edit to add gif.
Married: May 16th 2015
This reminds me, I have a man pulling his foreskin back and popcorn falling out gif. I'll do you the favor and not post it. Now. When the big debate thread is started all bets are off.
If somebody wants to know how I intend to feed my infant/vaccinate/Circumcision/CIO/ discipline/etc I will tell them, but I won't shove my decisions down anybody's throat. Again, you do you.
I already know where I fall on the circumcision if this baby turns out to be a boy, but I am SO in for the puns and gifs. Penis puns are always funny.
As for EBT, some people game the system, but most don't. And there are many reasons someone might be getting assistance, from hard times to fostering a child. We can all probably agree that the system needs reformation, but it does a lot of good for a lot of families that need the help.
Also, my husband got a "useless" degree that he didn't need because of familial pressure. Without that degree, he would be in the same position he is now and making just as much money. In fact, it's debatable as to whether he might be further in his career if he hadn't had to schedule days off to go to school. He is proud of his degree now but mostly because he said he doesn't want to "look stupid" next to me with my two Masters degrees. IMO, not a good enough reason to get a degree.
All that being said, I fully want my children to find something they are passionate about and make a life/career out of it. If it's a skilled trade that requires trade school, apprenticeship, etc. that's fine. If it's college and grad school, that's fine too. I'm also okay if they decide they want to travel and work odd jobs for a while until they find out what they want to do - this is all okay as long as they are working hard and making a living and they are happy.
ETA: Words are hard - fixed some typos.
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