Thanks, ladies. I typed out way too long of a response. Basically, DH and I have decided the world is our oyster, now that our stuff is sitting with international movers. So we are on the active hunt for our "dream jobs" (what that is and where that is, tbd), and if we find something, we will take it. And if not, London awaits. Eventually. Meanwhile I scheduled drinks with a big boss tomorrow, so I can casually ask WTF before I meet with my actual boss on Tuesday. Blah blah, promise not to tweet all the drama here for the next 9 months. Ultimately, it's not the worst problem to have...
Thanks, ladies. I typed out way too long of a response. Basically, DH and I have decided the world is our oyster, now that our stuff is sitting with international movers. So we are on the active hunt for our "dream jobs" (what that is and where that is, tbd), and if we find something, we will take it. And if not, London awaits. Eventually. Meanwhile I scheduled drinks with a big boss tomorrow, so I can casually ask WTF before I meet with my actual boss on Tuesday. Blah blah, promise not to tweet all the drama here for the next 9 months. Ultimately, it's not the worst problem to have...
I think that's a really admirable way to look at this! Not very many people seize the opportunity to find their dream job - good luck!
@virginiaunicorn11 Good luck! Most people regret the opportunities they miss, not the ones they take!
I've actually started to consider law school since I don't love my job like I used to. But we can't afford for me not to be working right now. 2 years ago I passed on a great opportunity in Portland because there was nothing for DH and recently I've really started wondering if we could have made it work. I burnt out at my last job a few months after having DS so DH and I agreed no major life decisions until LO is a year old. That was a very long winded way of saying I'm bored at my job. (:|
I still, for the life of me, can't understand how DH doesn't hear the baby when she wakes up, despite being 3 feet closer to her than I am. Not mad, but boggled.
When you get an email from hr that they're turning the air off at noon for repairs, yes, by all means wait till it's hot. Then they go ahead and turn on fans in addition to the air. I guess they want us to either freeze or burn up. Then you go to the car to get a jacket and the hvac van is parked outside, but no one is fixing anything. This building was renovated a year ago and we constantly have heating and cooling issues, plumbing issues, and rain blowing in causing mold and they keep "fixing" it, but are actually too cheap to pay for a permanent solution
Seriously? Another mass shooting? What the hell is wrong with us? What is it about our American culture that makes people who just want to shoot a bunch of other people? [-( (rhetorical question. Willing to discuss if someone wants to, but not expecting an answer or wanting to open a specific debate)
Seriously? Another mass shooting? What the hell is wrong with us? What is it about our American culture that makes people who just want to shoot a bunch of other people? [-( (rhetorical question. Willing to discuss if someone wants to, but not expecting an answer or wanting to open a specific debate)
Aaaand, here's why DH and I are willing to put up with all the nonsense from my employer, in order to get back to a country that doesn't allow this to keep happening. I almost forgot.
Seriously? Another mass shooting? What the hell is wrong with us? What is it about our American culture that makes people who just want to shoot a bunch of other people? [-( (rhetorical question. Willing to discuss if someone wants to, but not expecting an answer or wanting to open a specific debate)
Aaaand, here's why DH and I are willing to put up with all the nonsense from my employer, in order to get back to a country that doesn't allow this to keep happening. I almost forgot.
Exactly. Maybe once DH finishes his service we'll sell every damned thing we own and move to the UK to hang out with our buddy TillDogg (a girl could dream)
I'm really upset about the shooting too. It's getting to the point where the stories only even stick around in the news for a few days, we are so accustomed to mass tragedy here and still nothing changes. Every day I think about the world our babies were born into, I guess we can only hope our generation can change some things..
When my son was born we had the mass shooting in the theater here in Colorado, now this one with LO. It breaks my heart every time. I am afraid of the new norm in our society and I feel the best thing I can do is try and raise well balanced children who know what disappointment, rejection, loss, sadness and heart break feel like so they are able to process all that comes with that and still move forward. I'm a firm believer in keeping score, no participation trophies, being a good sport even when you loose, being humble and forgiveness of self and others. If our kids don't learn how to deal with these emotions and situations as children, adolescents and adulthood are going to be painful and often times deadly. My T&P go out to all the families of the victims and first responders. What a sad, sad day.
You know what, bump? You're technical difficulties are really effing annoying. I have gone thru 3 threads already this morning, and typed my response only to have "There was an error processing your request. Please try again"
My text messages are full of responses waiting for me to be able to copy them into the bump and finally post them. [-( :-w X( ~X(
Last night was rough and I had both kiddos this am with a headache. So I made strong coffee and we actually had a really good morning. I was feeling accomplished and actually felt like I looked good this morning, given the night we had. First thing my manager says to me is "Wow, you look tired. Rough night?"
Thanks for the reminder. So much for looking good. How about next time you just offer to get more coffee?
@Sammy K WHY do people think it's okay to say that stuff to moms! Like do they think they're complimenting our parenting by saying how tired we look? "Oh you clearly didn't let your baby scream all night while you slept, you go glen coco".. I will never understand.
I think people just say crap, not knowing what else to say. I went to the office last week, and a senior person said, "Wow, you don't even look tired! He's a good sleeper, huh?" As I laughed and said goodbye, I literally turned around, bumped into someone who said, "Wow, you look tired. Not sleeping, huh?" Screw them all.
I dropped my phone today and ruined the LCD. I took it to a repair place and it was going to be $180 to fix. So I bought a new phone, but it won't be here until Tuesday. Womp womp. Looks like no pumping and bumping for me until the new phone arrives. How will I survive at work?!
@Sammy K WHY do people think it's okay to say that stuff to moms! Like do they think they're complimenting our parenting by saying how tired we look? "Oh you clearly didn't let your baby scream all night while you slept, you go glen coco".. I will never understand.
Sigh...I'm stewing today and it might be a lengthy vent because...we bought a house over a year ago and have been doing all the renovations ourselves as we go. Obviously there are things that we had to have proof of professionals doing...like plumbing, Hvac etc. we had it all planned out with a contractor and were then guilted into using the business my BIL works for. This was a year ago and I am stewing today as I regret the decision. The owner and his wife are the most obnoxious people I have ever come across in my life. They keep pushing our job to the end of the list because we were a "favor" job. When they first took our job they said that it was such a small job ($8000) that the money wasn't worth waking up for and that it was just toilet paper money to them. I bit my tongue and let it slide because they had already started the work and just remember that we were guilted into using them. A few weeks ago the wife even asked us for free make up (my husband works for a big cosmetics company). Fast forward to the last few weeks...they have been dragging their feet and saying that they are waiting for parts and then said that the part would arrive last Monday. So, I thought the job would be completed last week...come Friday and nothing has been done, so I called the wife (she runs the shebang) and she was SO rude to me even though I was being nice and polite...putting my sour feelings aside. She started telling me that she knows nothing about our job and all of a sudden all these things are not included in the job and that we have to find someone else to do it!!!! She scheduled me for Friday...so now we have to waste yet another week waiting around for them. All I kept thinking was that my money is what she shits on - so she can afford to buy her own damn makeup at full retail price and who the hell does she think she is talking to me like dirt? I always put together baskets of goodies to thank people (like my baby's NICU nurses) but this woman will NOT be getting anything from me. I can't wait for them to get done with their part so that I can move on without them in my life.
@kezdk after living in New Orleans after Hurricane Katrina and in Rockaway, Queens, NY during and after Super storm Sandy, I've definitely seen my share of slack-ass, or crooked-ass, or just plain heartless contractors (not personal experience in those places, just hearing stories from friends, neighbors, co-workers, clients). Then once we moved here I spent a whole summer trying to reach a mason for some very needed repair work and mutha would never call me back! What a bunch of assholes. Sincerely pisses me off. I feel you
When we moved to Germany in summer 2014, a coworker offered to take our lizard for the year. (We aren't Reptile People, we just had a lizard.) It was nice of her, but she was the one who offered.
We were in touch once or twice during the year, and she said her family was enjoying the lizard, and they would keep him as long as we needed them to. When we got back to the States, my uncle died the day we landed, we had a new baby, we had to vacate our apartment, etc. So it was a month before I got in touch with her. I didn't tell her all this because we aren't super close - relatively close at the office, but not IRL.
When we get in touch a week ago (three days before the movers are coming), she says they don't want the lizard... but they know we are moving, so find it a new home before December when they go on vacation. Cool. I told her I would put it on Craigslist, and have someone pick it up. She was fine with that and sent me a photo to use.
Tonight, she calls to say that I've been taking advantage of her, and she is mad she hasn't heard from me. They will keep the lizard, but only because I'm basically sticking them with it and they have no other option. She can't believe I'd skip town without doing something about it... and also she heard I was in the office in my first month back (just to meet with my boss! The day after the funeral, when I was still hosting my cousins!), and she thinks it's devious of me for not telling her or calling her.
So I apologized profusely, said I must have misunderstood but I thought I had til December. I will be back for a few days at the end of this month, and worst case scenario, I can take the lizard then.
She says, "Oh, so now you're coming back? For your visa, and you weren't going to tell me?!" Me: "Um, no... In Jewish tradition, we do an unveiling of the tombstone a year after someone dies, so I have to be here for my grandfather's unveiling. It's not work related."
Suddenly she backs way off. I repeat I will find a home for the thing ASAP and she says, "No, you're misunderstanding me AGAIN. You do have until December. I just thought you weren't coming back. You haven't been straightforward with me this whole time."
I can't figure out what this woman wants. We left things as she would talk to her husband, because if I'm going to put the lizard on Craigslist, maybe they just want to keep it. But I've been taking advantage of her and she just wanted to tell me that.
^^ Yes. I told DH that it feels like HS and someone who had a crush on you offered to do something nice for you... Then got mad that you wouldn't date them in return. (Does that analogy make sense?)
She just texted saying don't put the lizard on Craigslist, they will keep it, but we need to talk. So confused...
@virginiaunicorn11 that's bizarre. I agree that this has got to be based on something a bit deeper. Especially because she offered to take it and I can't imagine it's all that difficult to care for a lizard in the first place...
Ugh.... I know this is petty but every time we have gone to the doctors with Raylen they call him a girl. Is it so hard to read a chart. Anyone else have this issue?
^^ one of the nurses at the hospital kept referring to our son as a girl even though he was in the little bassinet with the big "I'm a boy!" card on it. I chose to believe that LO is just so beautiful and pretty that she thought he had to be a girl.
At church, we haven't been taking LO to the nursery for Sunday school bc the lady in there is old & all she does it rock the baby. It could be screaming it's head off & she's rocking away shooshing it. She's a little crazy. Well we've had about 5 or 6 people tell us it's hurting her feelings that I keep her in my Sunday school class (to which I don't give a flying flip), but last Sunday she was dedicated & she went in there for a bit with her & was okay. This Sunday, she is asleep on the way to church & needs a full nap so I was going to keep her in the service (small southern church, no big deal). This woman walks over to take her & I tell her no she's going to nap. She picks up the carrier and WALKS OFF WITH MY BABY... My DH looked at me like we were going to hurt her. Another woman saw & took the diaper bag & went with her. I go in after church & she hasn't napped... So I tell them she NEEDS to nap (I'm trying to be civil, this is church). Another lady comes to get me 20min into SS because she's crying her head off, still no nap & she's ready to eat. I have to pry her from the woman to feed her & I say, SHE MUST NAP. She plays with her. My poor baby is SCREAMING when I pick her up & this crazy lady is like, "she doesn't like me anymore..." She passed out before I could buckle her in. I complained to our pastor & I refuse to let her near by baby again....... Ughhhh.
Ummmmm that's not okay! I'm a church-going southerner too and heaven literally better help that lady to not die right there in the middle of church! You're a better Christian than I am, I would have probably gone psycho on someone for that... We've had our fair share of annoying church opinions, mostly from my husband's aunt. She is sooo bossy and has told us that we're backsliding for keeping her out of church. We've tried going and keeping her in the service with us, but the music is too loud during worship, and then she's too loud during the sermon. I don't want to take her to the nursery either, I just don't want her out of my sight, I don't know those people well enough..although I don't think it would really make a difference if I did hah. I'm just not ready for that. Soo we are right not just not doing the church thing...flu season is coming and I don't want to risk it, and it's just too hard.
@virginiaunicorn11 wth? This lady... What is she doing? She makes no sense. [-(
@dancegurl1118@AlyLynn07@dalinhardt sorry your LOs keep getting mistaken for the alternate sex! #-o I'm lucky that my little dude looks like a little dude more every day. I haven't had someone call him a girl for a while now
My gripe - I have a Nook ereader, its about 2 years old. I love it. But I've mistreated it badly. Totally my fault. I've dropped it many times, despite the fact I have it on a 'leash'. And I've totally cracked the corner really bad, despite the fact I have it in a case. But even despite all that, its still served me faithfully. Except now its not holding a charge like it used to. I still get some time on it, sure. But basically I'm barely using it, so its in standby mode 95% of the time, but I'm having to charge it almost as often as when I was using it during my commutes in NYC, and on my lunch breaks, which amounted to 3 hours of actual use a day. I keep coming upstairs and starting to read to LO before bed and am shocked to see I have 9% battery. Good thing the kid falls asleep usually around 10 minutes with the new routine. I'm just going to have to get into the habit of charging it every day, I guess. Somehow maybe I'll remember to work that into some kind of daily routine. Maybe. Somehow.
I think my LO looks so much like a girl but still she is constantly called a boy too! (I probably just think she looks like a girl because she IS a girl).. Also one nurse at the ped constantly calls her Cecelia which I knew would happen when I named her Celia but like.. Just read it, only one C. But I'm too polite to correct her soo..
Now I have LOs cold. Wasn't BF supposed to keep her from being sick? Why do my boobs keep letting me down?!
I'm sorry you're both sick. It really makes MOTN feeds extra miserable. I'm EBF and have found that while it doesn't necessarily prevent her from being sick, she recovers faster or gets a less severe case of what I have. DS has had back to back colds (after starting preschool) and she only caught one of them. Hope you both feel better soon!
Re: The Daily Gripe
Basically, DH and I have decided the world is our oyster, now that our stuff is sitting with international movers. So we are on the active hunt for our "dream jobs" (what that is and where that is, tbd), and if we find something, we will take it. And if not, London awaits. Eventually.
Meanwhile I scheduled drinks with a big boss tomorrow, so I can casually ask WTF before I meet with my actual boss on Tuesday.
Blah blah, promise not to tweet all the drama here for the next 9 months. Ultimately, it's not the worst problem to have...
I've actually started to consider law school since I don't love my job like I used to. But we can't afford for me not to be working right now. 2 years ago I passed on a great opportunity in Portland because there was nothing for DH and recently I've really started wondering if we could have made it work. I burnt out at my last job a few months after having DS so DH and I agreed no major life decisions until LO is a year old. That was a very long winded way of saying I'm bored at my job. (:|
Edited, stupid spelling
My text messages are full of responses waiting for me to be able to copy them into the bump and finally post them. [-( :-w X( ~X(
Thanks for the reminder. So much for looking good. How about next time you just offer to get more coffee?
Screw them all.
What a bunch of assholes. Sincerely pisses me off. I feel you
When we moved to Germany in summer 2014, a coworker offered to take our lizard for the year. (We aren't Reptile People, we just had a lizard.) It was nice of her, but she was the one who offered.
We were in touch once or twice during the year, and she said her family was enjoying the lizard, and they would keep him as long as we needed them to. When we got back to the States, my uncle died the day we landed, we had a new baby, we had to vacate our apartment, etc. So it was a month before I got in touch with her. I didn't tell her all this because we aren't super close - relatively close at the office, but not IRL.
When we get in touch a week ago (three days before the movers are coming), she says they don't want the lizard... but they know we are moving, so find it a new home before December when they go on vacation. Cool. I told her I would put it on Craigslist, and have someone pick it up. She was fine with that and sent me a photo to use.
Tonight, she calls to say that I've been taking advantage of her, and she is mad she hasn't heard from me. They will keep the lizard, but only because I'm basically sticking them with it and they have no other option. She can't believe I'd skip town without doing something about it... and also she heard I was in the office in my first month back (just to meet with my boss! The day after the funeral, when I was still hosting my cousins!), and she thinks it's devious of me for not telling her or calling her.
So I apologized profusely, said I must have misunderstood but I thought I had til December. I will be back for a few days at the end of this month, and worst case scenario, I can take the lizard then.
She says, "Oh, so now you're coming back? For your visa, and you weren't going to tell me?!"
Me: "Um, no... In Jewish tradition, we do an unveiling of the tombstone a year after someone dies, so I have to be here for my grandfather's unveiling. It's not work related."
Suddenly she backs way off. I repeat I will find a home for the thing ASAP and she says, "No, you're misunderstanding me AGAIN. You do have until December. I just thought you weren't coming back. You haven't been straightforward with me this whole time."
I can't figure out what this woman wants. We left things as she would talk to her husband, because if I'm going to put the lizard on Craigslist, maybe they just want to keep it. But I've been taking advantage of her and she just wanted to tell me that.
I'm so confused. And embarrassed and hurt.
She just texted saying don't put the lizard on Craigslist, they will keep it, but we need to talk. So confused...
@dancegurl1118 @AlyLynn07 @dalinhardt sorry your LOs keep getting mistaken for the alternate sex! #-o I'm lucky that my little dude looks like a little dude more every day. I haven't had someone call him a girl for a while now
My gripe - I have a Nook ereader, its about 2 years old. I love it. But I've mistreated it badly. Totally my fault. I've dropped it many times, despite the fact I have it on a 'leash'. And I've totally cracked the corner really bad, despite the fact I have it in a case. But even despite all that, its still served me faithfully. Except now its not holding a charge like it used to. I still get some time on it, sure. But basically I'm barely using it, so its in standby mode 95% of the time, but I'm having to charge it almost as often as when I was using it during my commutes in NYC, and on my lunch breaks, which amounted to 3 hours of actual use a day. I keep coming upstairs and starting to read to LO before bed and am shocked to see I have 9% battery. Good thing the kid falls asleep usually around 10 minutes with the new routine. I'm just going to have to get into the habit of charging it every day, I guess. Somehow maybe I'll remember to work that into some kind of daily routine. Maybe. Somehow.