I finally extracted the HUGEST booger from lo's nose this morning! That sucker has been trapped up there for weeks despite my best efforts. His breathing is so quiet now!
I never thought I'd be so happy about pulling a booger from someone else's nose... \:D/
We are going to a black tie wedding in two weeks. Can I wear my lace little black dress that is knee length and lets me easily BF? I am a little worried it is not formal enough. Maybe I could dress it up with accessories. Second option, which I like in theory, is to use something like renttherunway.com. My concern is I'm not finding something that seems like it would let me easily BF.
We are going to a black tie wedding in two weeks. Can I wear my lace little black dress that is knee length and lets me easily BF? I am a little worried it is not formal enough. Maybe I could dress it up with accessories. Second option, which I like in theory, is to use something like renttherunway.com. My concern is I'm not finding something that seems like it would let me easily BF.
Tips, thoughts, help?
I would go with your dress and add fancy heels and earrings. Even if it's a little less formal, I like to tell myself that new moms get a pass and everyone will be looking at LO and not me anyway.
@virginiaunicorn11 my sister has used a service where she rents designer dresses (I assume that's what rent the runway is) and she LOVED it. I don't know about bfing, but she does the rent the dress thing once a year and always looks smashing. Re your own LBD, you could maybe add a shawl to dress it up some? I always think a shawl can really class up even a fairly casual dress, if you can find the right shawl. Also a nice up-do with your hair adds to the picture
@virginiaunicorn11 if you know your LBD works with breastfeeding, definitely go with that. You get a new mom pass. I wore a dress to a shower that was not bfing compatible and it was miserable to have to basically undress in a separate room every time she needed to eat.
@virginiaunicorn11 my sister has used a service where she rents designer dresses (I assume that's what rent the runway is) and she LOVED it. I don't know about bfing, but she does the rent the dress thing once a year and always looks smashing. Re your own LBD, you could maybe add a shawl to dress it up some? I always think a shawl can really class up even a fairly casual dress, if you can find the right shawl. Also a nice up-do with your hair adds to the picture
I have rented from rent the runway and it was awesome. Highly recommend!
@upandbelow My husband made me promise to stop googling things that could have upsetting answers because it was freaking me out so badly. So I am allowed to google stuff like "how long does frozen breast milk last" but not "how long does postpartum depression last". I try to stick to this rule because when I google something potentially upsetting, all I find is the worst case scenarios that make the anxiety even worse!
My random: it still shocks me how isolating having a baby is. I had no idea. You would think that starting a family would be the opposite but no. It is so hard to venture out with him that I've literally only done it once by myself.
My random: it still shocks me how isolating having a baby is. I had no idea. You would think that starting a family would be the opposite but no. It is so hard to venture out with him that I've literally only done it once by myself.
I felt that way, but then a "disaster" (unexpected re-routing) on public transportation showed me how many strangers are more than willing to help a mama. (I posted before, but a kind man carried the stroller down four stories to the subway for me!) This made me feel so much better and calmed some nerves.
It is definitely hard. And takes patience. And I have definitely wanted to turn around and go home before even arriving at my destination.
You're a super strong lady. Your self awareness and ability/bravery to admit your feelings is seriously admirable. When you're ready for it, you'll try it again, and the universe will be there to support you. I'm sure of it. Be kind to yourself. Xo
Question...how and how often do you ladies clean the baby's bathtub?
Oh, that's funny! It never occurred to me to wash the tub and I just thought it was one of DH's weird quirks that he rinses it out in the shower... i'm not quite sure what I thought he was doing. Obviously didn't think about it very much!
My hubby is leaving for two nights for work.. And I'm freaking out..why? I have no idea. Baby sleeps through the night, I have no reason to be such a spaz.. But I feel like it's the end of the world that he won't be here. Then I think of how many single mamas there are out there and feel like a piece a crap that I'm throwing a fit over this #-o
@AlwaysSunny1012 the thing that helped me get out of PPD with my first was getting out. (Which, from reading pp, is the opposite of what you feel like doing right now). I needed to change up my routine and get fresh air. I started by going on little walks around my neighborhood and then ventured to other trails around my county. Then I went to the library for baby story time. It was mellow and low involvement with others (introducing LO and myself and his age). We'd sing songs, guided interaction with LO, and a couple of stories. Sometimes I stayed to talk to other moms and sometimes I just kept it simple. Sometimes driving to pick up a red box movie was my outing. Point being...it gave me something to look forward to and even a walk made me feel accomplished. I eventually met a friend at story time and it blossomed from there. It gets easier and the anxiety will subside as you gain confidence and experience.
You might also try shifting you Internet searches to only positive things for a while. Like, fun things to do with a 12 week old baby, ways to beat PPD, baby friendly restaurants or coffee shops, local parks, etc. Sometimes ignorance really is bliss.
Sending you prayers for good sleep, happy thoughts, and a restored confidence. One day at a time.
I must say... I'm very OCD when it comes to being clean. Then I find out someone is concerned with how many times you clean a 2.5x1.5 plastic container that only comes in contact with soap and water... And then rinsed well... Hmmm=mind blown
I rinse out the tub with hot water after I dump the soapy water. ..I consider this clean :-?
If you are not used to it, having hubby go away seems scary, but you totally got it and you don't have to share cuddles. My husband left for 2 weeks at the end of august for army national guard drill, I was really nervous at first but we found our groove and I cherished the alone time
I rinse out the tub with hot water after I dump the soapy water. ..I consider this clean :-?
If you are not used to it, having hubby go away seems scary, but you totally got it and you don't have to share cuddles. My husband left for 2 weeks at the end of august for army national guard drill, I was really nervous at first but we found our groove and I cherished the alone time
So the reason mine has to leave is because he is a Master Sergeant in the National Guard and has to train some Joes.. It was suppose to be for a week but since he's the boss so to speak he got it down to two days.. Where are you from and where does your DH serve?
@HayesRN13 I would totally have a hard time alone for the night with baby. DH gets home tonight at 11:30 and I am totally worried so I understand how you feel.
I must say... I'm very OCD when it comes to being clean. Then I find out someone is concerned with how many times you clean a 2.5x1.5 plastic container that only comes in contact with soap and water... And then rinsed well... Hmmm=mind blown
I guess I'm glad this is the consensus...I haven't cleaned it beyond the rinsing it out either but then he pees in there I think I should maybe actually clean it next time (though it hasn't happened yet:))
I think when LO inevitably poops in the tub, it will be cleaned
I hope this comes across the way I mean it to, but it sounds like a lot of us are pretty chill moms - like even those of us who are FTMs are acting like we've done this before and uh.... Not caring about minor crap.
Like, sometimes I worry I'm too lazy or not maternal enough... And then I read the posts here and feel better. What I mean by that is, because we all seem to be keeping it together without acting nuts. Practical parenting FTW!
I finally invited Will's mom (AKA Kim) over for coffee and they're going to come over next weekend! I even specifically invited her for coffee and didn't use a play date as the invitation, even though that is implied. Hopefully we hit it off! I'm stupidly excited about this.
One thing I think has become obvious is that most moms would like more mom friends, as we've all talked about. So if you meet a nice mom, take a leap of faith! You most likely won't be rejected!
There are way more exclamation points in this post than I would normally find acceptable. But I'm excited!!!
I wish I could reason with LO. Like, hey... You're tired, I'm tired, let's watch Netflix and sleep all day. But nooooo he has to fight sleep and make me work for my naps.
There are way more exclamation points in this post than I would normally find acceptable. But I'm excited!!!
I started getting all excited-tense (you know, when you start to get amped up with joy, like when your friend tells you she got asked out by the guy she likes) reading your post and then got to this part and laughed out loud. Huzzah!
And @BabsTheBunny@MaliKaela sorry, ladies! I didn't mean to be the poster of nice but make one cry stuff. I post it half for myself, cause a lot of times I don't stop to enjoy the moment with LO, even tho I'm usually an enjoy the moment type of person. I just need to remind myself that even tho I'm frustrated and tired, and just want to make it thru the day so we can go to bed just to repeat the whole thing again tomorrow - that I need to stop and live the moment. Its always right now, but will never be right now again.
There are way more exclamation points in this post than I would normally find acceptable. But I'm excited!!!
I started getting all excited-tense (you know, when you start to get amped up with joy, like when your friend tells you she got asked out by the guy she likes) reading your post and then got to this part and laughed out loud. Huzzah!
And @BabsTheBunny@MaliKaela sorry, ladies! I didn't mean to be the poster of nice but make one cry stuff. I post it half for myself, cause a lot of times I don't stop to enjoy the moment with LO, even tho I'm usually an enjoy the moment type of person. I just need to remind myself that even tho I'm frustrated and tired, and just want to make it thru the day so we can go to bed just to repeat the whole thing again tomorrow - that I need to stop and live the moment. Its always right now, but will never be right now again.
I loved it. I'm house bound since I fractured my driving foot, but I'm trying to look at the positive. I was probably running around WAY too much with LO. Now I'm forced to stay home, and hopefully he'll get on better napping schedule. Plus, my aunt who lives in Oklahoma is coming down on Sunday to meet the baby and help out. We became close when my mom was sick, and she is so much like my mom, it's like having a piece of her with me when I'm with my aunt. I'm so excited to see her!
I wish I could reason with LO. Like, hey... You're tired, I'm tired, let's watch Netflix and sleep all day. But nooooo he has to fight sleep and make me work for my naps.
Hate to be the bearer of bad news but 4 years in and I'm still waiting for that day.
@mellymar I'm a sucker for sweet but makes you cry things, and I understand about slowing down and appriciating the little things. After that post my mom had sent me a YouTube link to a garth brooks song "mama" and made me bawl and while I was crying LO looks up at me and places his had on my cheek then gives me the biggest grin. I of course cried more but it's definitely one of those moments I will cherish. Edit for spelling
It's too hot to sleep but I'm tired and I don't wanna get up and go all the way downstairs to the thermostat and I have to leave for preschool pickup in 15 minutes. I need someone to come to my house and turn down the air conditioning. If you do you can go ahead and grab one of my secret cookies as a thank you.
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I never thought I'd be so happy about pulling a booger from someone else's nose... \:D/
We are going to a black tie wedding in two weeks. Can I wear my lace little black dress that is knee length and lets me easily BF? I am a little worried it is not formal enough. Maybe I could dress it up with accessories.
Second option, which I like in theory, is to use something like renttherunway.com. My concern is I'm not finding something that seems like it would let me easily BF.
Tips, thoughts, help?
@virginiaunicorn11 if you know your LBD works with breastfeeding, definitely go with that. You get a new mom pass. I wore a dress to a shower that was not bfing compatible and it was miserable to have to basically undress in a separate room every time she needed to eat.
I never clean mine, or have ever thought about it. It doesn't really get dirty.
It is definitely hard. And takes patience. And I have definitely wanted to turn around and go home before even arriving at my destination.
You're a super strong lady. Your self awareness and ability/bravery to admit your feelings is seriously admirable. When you're ready for it, you'll try it again, and the universe will be there to support you. I'm sure of it. Be kind to yourself. Xo
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You might also try shifting you Internet searches to only positive things for a while. Like, fun things to do with a 12 week old baby, ways to beat PPD, baby friendly restaurants or coffee shops, local parks, etc. Sometimes ignorance really is bliss.
Sending you prayers for good sleep, happy thoughts, and a restored confidence. One day at a time.
If you are not used to it, having hubby go away seems scary, but you totally got it and you don't have to share cuddles. My husband left for 2 weeks at the end of august for army national guard drill, I was really nervous at first but we found our groove and I cherished the alone time
I hope this comes across the way I mean it to, but it sounds like a lot of us are pretty chill moms - like even those of us who are FTMs are acting like we've done this before and uh.... Not caring about minor crap.
Like, sometimes I worry I'm too lazy or not maternal enough... And then I read the posts here and feel better. What I mean by that is, because we all seem to be keeping it together without acting nuts. Practical parenting FTW!
I finally invited Will's mom (AKA Kim) over for coffee and they're going to come over next weekend! I even specifically invited her for coffee and didn't use a play date as the invitation, even though that is implied. Hopefully we hit it off! I'm stupidly excited about this.
One thing I think has become obvious is that most moms would like more mom friends, as we've all talked about. So if you meet a nice mom, take a leap of faith! You most likely won't be rejected!
There are way more exclamation points in this post than I would normally find acceptable. But I'm excited!!!
And @BabsTheBunny @MaliKaela sorry, ladies! I didn't mean to be the poster of nice but make one cry stuff. I post it half for myself, cause a lot of times I don't stop to enjoy the moment with LO, even tho I'm usually an enjoy the moment type of person. I just need to remind myself that even tho I'm frustrated and tired, and just want to make it thru the day so we can go to bed just to repeat the whole thing again tomorrow - that I need to stop and live the moment. Its always right now, but will never be right now again.
Edit for spelling