So, DH and I aren't terrible parents for seriously considering going to an alefest tomorrow, and bringing LO, are we? LO likes to be out and about, its going to be a perfect fall day (temps right around 60), and the event is outside in a park. And... There's beer. :-\" (I scrutinized the photos from last year and saw in one the corner of someone carrying a carseat, so...)
As you might know from my previous dilema, I am considering bringing LO to a beer garden, so I'm all for it! DH and I are going to a beer fest in Manhattan in a month, but my mom is watching DD then (kids aren't allowed). But if the weather is nice and it's outdoors, I say go for it.
After reading others posts about pumping at work, I am so grateful to the women that have come before me and demanded to be treated better. My company has multiple lactation rooms and a culture that is supportive of pumping. We can take as many 30 min breaks (unpaid) as needed. There are also multiple options to work part time or reduced full time hours for parents. And I work in an engineering firm, which is 85% male. I wish all moms had my options.
So, DH and I aren't terrible parents for seriously considering going to an alefest tomorrow, and bringing LO, are we? LO likes to be out and about, its going to be a perfect fall day (temps right around 60), and the event is outside in a park. And... There's beer. :-\" (I scrutinized the photos from last year and saw in one the corner of someone carrying a carseat, so...)
As you might know from my previous dilema, I am considering bringing LO to a beer garden, so I'm all for it! DH and I are going to a beer fest in Manhattan in a month, but my mom is watching DD then (kids aren't allowed). But if the weather is nice and it's outdoors, I say go for it.
@mellymar I'm considering going to an Oktoberfest with LO tomorrow. In all fairness they do have kids activities during the day. I just want to dance some polka with him
Edited to say it's an hour away which is the only reason I'm considering not going
@janit368 I don't know about you, but my LO loves the car. I have a mirror hanging over the back seat so she can see herself. So she starts off smiling at the baby in the mirror and then falls right to sleep. The hour in the car would be a bonus cuz if your LO is the same as mine, he could sleep the whole way there and get a good nap in. Followed by a feeding, it could be a great day for you.
Just turned on a random afternoon talk show, and one of the hosts is pregnant. She was raving about some app she has, called Baby Bump, that tracks her pregnancy and has a community. All I could think was "bet it isn't as good as the J15 bump". You ladies are all awesome.
@janit368 our LO does the same as @cait7425 - loves the car. Except I'd move the feeding to before we go, as once we are out and about he will actually usually run over his 'usual' feeding time. I'd probably end up having to feed him again after having been there awhile so I don't have cranky baby on the way home, but yeah... You don't know till you try it!
@virginiaunicorn11 THANK YOU for unsticky-ing those threads. Back to the nether pages with you, anatomy scan results!
So, DH and I aren't terrible parents for seriously considering going to an alefest tomorrow, and bringing LO, are we? LO likes to be out and about, its going to be a perfect fall day (temps right around 60), and the event is outside in a park. And... There's beer. :-\" (I scrutinized the photos from last year and saw in one the corner of someone carrying a carseat, so...)
Dude, you live in Wisconsin, where it is actually legal for you to serve your LO beer at that alefest, if you so choose.
So, DH and I aren't terrible parents for seriously considering going to an alefest tomorrow, and bringing LO, are we? LO likes to be out and about, its going to be a perfect fall day (temps right around 60), and the event is outside in a park. And... There's beer. :-\" (I scrutinized the photos from last year and saw in one the corner of someone carrying a carseat, so...)
Dude, you live in Wisconsin, where it is actually legal for you to serve your LO beer at that alefest, if you so choose.
Long story short, I talked to my boss today, who I adore. She'd previously been pressuring me to return October 1. Today she surprised me by saying I can do whatever I want, but she thinks October 12 is more reasonable, and so is part-time through November.
It's up to me (DH and I need to crunch numbers), but having the option feels great!
LOL went to sleep at 6:45 last night and is still sleeping! I did check to make sure she was OK since 7 hours had been her longest stretch. I feel fantastic this morning, other than rock hard boobs.
@Sammy K so jealous! Mine is waking up once during the night and wakes up at 6:15 like clockwork! Now the weather is cooling down (it's like 80 in the morning), so I'd be happy to wake up early if I could get a jog in, but I had to suck at walking!
@mellymar sounds like you've made up your mind, but I'd totally go! We were trying to get a group together to go to Octoberfest. It's 3 hours away, and none of our friends wanted to stay the whole weekend. This is the time to take them places...at least that's what those with toddlers keep telling me.
LOL went to sleep at 6:45 last night and is still sleeping! I did check to make sure she was OK since 7 hours had been her longest stretch. I feel fantastic this morning, other than rock hard boobs.
So jealous of you right now, the last 3 nights I'm lucky if I've had 6hrs total.
@BabsTheBunny@amccoy129 Up until last night, she's been waking up every 4-6 hours, and then every hour after 5am. So this was probably a one time thing, but it was glorious. She slept 12.5 hours straight and I swear I can tell she grew overnight. DH and I joked she was going to wake up and be able to talk after such a big sleep!
@Sammy K I am so excited for you!!!! I remember you posting about your struggles in the previous months and I'm just so happy that things have finally shifted for you. Gives me all the feels.
I just RSVPed for my first new mom meet up. I'm really nervous...like first day of school nervous or something. I know it's not a big deal. But it is! What do I wear? What does LO wear? Do I bring a bottle? Oh my gosh. I want mom friends. :-c [-O< ;;)
@Sammy K I am so excited for you!!!! I remember you posting about your struggles in the previous months and I'm just so happy that things have finally shifted for you. Gives me all the feels.
I feel the same way @Sammy K! So happy LO is doing better and hoping you get to start adding some foods back in soon!
I just RSVPed for my first new mom meet up. I'm really nervous...like first day of school nervous or something. I know it's not a big deal. But it is! What do I wear? What does LO wear? Do I bring a bottle? Oh my gosh. I want mom friends. :-c [-O< ;;)
Me too. I'm all will he be the youngest one there and the other moms think I'm weird? I may chicken out but I paid $80 for all the mommy and me classes.
I have been pumping and dumping now for over two weeks while on meds for ppd. I am trying to decide if I should continue to do this or give up so I can just focus on my recovery. I am already down to just pumping 2x a day because it was upsetting me so much to pump and throw my milk out. There is really know way to know how long I will need to be on meds so I might need to continue to do this for months but what if it is only a few weeks?! Doc also said that stopping BFing could actually help me recover because my hormones would regulate on their own once my milk dries up. I feel totally unable to make a decision so I just keep pumping since stopping would mean being done forever.
I have been pumping and dumping now for over two weeks while on meds for ppd. I am trying to decide if I should continue to do this or give up so I can just focus on my recovery. I am already down to just pumping 2x a day because it was upsetting me so much to pump and throw my milk out. There is really know way to know how long I will need to be on meds so I might need to continue to do this for months but what if it is only a few weeks?! Doc also said that stopping BFing could actually help me recover because my hormones would regulate on their own once my milk dries up. I feel totally unable to make a decision so I just keep pumping since stopping would mean being done forever.
There are safe ppd meds to take while bfing.. I'm just wondering why if you were bfing any doc would give you something not safe.. And I've never heard of a doc recommending stopping bfing. Ppd is easily and safely treated while breastfeeding, please get a second opinion
I have been pumping and dumping now for over two weeks while on meds for ppd. I am trying to decide if I should continue to do this or give up so I can just focus on my recovery. I am already down to just pumping 2x a day because it was upsetting me so much to pump and throw my milk out. There is really know way to know how long I will need to be on meds so I might need to continue to do this for months but what if it is only a few weeks?! Doc also said that stopping BFing could actually help me recover because my hormones would regulate on their own once my milk dries up. I feel totally unable to make a decision so I just keep pumping since stopping would mean being done forever.
It sounds like breastfeeding is important to you. While I think it is most important for you to treat your ppd I agree with @hayesrn13 that a second opinion might be in order. If giving up bf is something you are going to regret than I would try to find a doctor who will work with you on safe meds. As I have probably mentioned, I'm being treated for depression, anxiety, and fibromyalgia and my baby is absolutely fine. I was extremely careful in introducing any new drugs, and did so under doctor's supervision (obviously), and we haven't noticed a difference in his behavior (sedation, irritability, etc.) ever. So, it can be done!
That being said, if you feel like you are just done with it, then you need to be done with it. You can't continue to have this worry/guilt/all that stuff going on in the back of your mind while you try to tackle the fallout of an emotional breakdown. Like others have said, formula is an option. An option we should all be grateful for.
I wish you luck and encourage you to talk to SO and/or family/friends and try to make the best decision for you and your family ASAP. 2 weeks is a long time to be living with uncertainty while you throw away that white gold.
@Sammy K I am so excited for you!!!! I remember you posting about your struggles in the previous months and I'm just so happy that things have finally shifted for you. Gives me all the feels.
I have been pumping and dumping now for over two weeks while on meds for ppd. I am trying to decide if I should continue to do this or give up so I can just focus on my recovery. I am already down to just pumping 2x a day because it was upsetting me so much to pump and throw my milk out. There is really know way to know how long I will need to be on meds so I might need to continue to do this for months but what if it is only a few weeks?! Doc also said that stopping BFing could actually help me recover because my hormones would regulate on their own once my milk dries up. I feel totally unable to make a decision so I just keep pumping since stopping would mean being done forever.
There are safe ppd meds to take while bfing.. I'm just wondering why if you were bfing any doc would give you something not safe.. And I've never heard of a doc recommending stopping bfing. Ppd is easily and safely treated while breastfeeding, please get a second opinion
I believe it was the depth of AlwaysSunny's PPD / anxiety that made her doc prescribe these particular meds. Hadn't slept in almost 4 or 5 days (or more?), if I recall? Never hurts to seek a 2nd opinion, for sure, but while I am absolutely supportive of bfing (especially since I've struggled to provide even some breastmilk even tho I have very low supply), I also want mom to get the help she needs and not feel guilty about switching to formula so she can focus on getting herself better. Not saying you aren't, with this post, just wanted @AlwaysSunny1012 to hear that if she decides to use formula going forward because of her meds, its all good.
LO is sleeping in her crib for the first time tonight. I never thought I would be one of those moms, but I'm on the verge of tears knowing that she won't be next to me in her pack n play tonight. I have this irrational fear that if someone were to break into our house, that I wouldn't be able to get to her fast enough. Hopefully we will all get better sleep tonight, and it will all be worth it.
LO is sleeping in her crib for the first time tonight. I never thought I would be one of those moms, but I'm on the verge of tears knowing that she won't be next to me in her pack n play tonight. I have this irrational fear that if someone were to break into our house, that I wouldn't be able to get to her fast enough. Hopefully we will all get better sleep tonight, and it will all be worth it.
I hear ya. I actually did cry the first night DS1 was in his own room and cried the other night just thinking about moving this little guy... I guess I just get sad thinking about how this phase in his life will be over and we'll never get it back. I feel like I'm not usually this emotional and unreasonable about things! We really want to soon, but I make up some lame excuse every night about why we shouldn't. Gotta bite the bullet and git 'er done.
@cait7425 I felt the exact same way. I couldn't cut the cord. I was so upset to move her to her crib...aaaaand then that first night she slept through the night and I was like K BYE. You got this mama, and if it doesn't feel right, move her back to the pack n play! It is what it is! There's no rules that say they have to sleep away from you.
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I'm also going to my first moms group event on Wed! It's a trivia night though, and I'm worried because trivia bring out the ... Best slash worst in me. Gotta suppress that sh*t!
I start working from home one day per week next week and I chose that day to start so I can pick LO up from daycare, get a few hours of quality time in and then not feel guilty putting DH on daddy duty!
After a 12.5 hour sleep Friday night, I decided it was finally time to put LO flat on her back, unswaddled, in her crib. She's been swaddled in her bouncy seat because of reflux and a cold. So I put her down at 7pm. She woke up at 4 to eat, again at 6 but I think she was cold, and slept until almost 8. Best part was that she made noise twice between 7 and 4 but put herself back to sleep with no help from me!
We're at 13.5 weeks and I think we've finally turned the corner. Once we get through the 4 mo sleep regression, I'm hoping for smooth sailing!
I have been pumping and dumping now for over two weeks while on meds for ppd. I am trying to decide if I should continue to do this or give up so I can just focus on my recovery. I am already down to just pumping 2x a day because it was upsetting me so much to pump and throw my milk out. There is really know way to know how long I will need to be on meds so I might need to continue to do this for months but what if it is only a few weeks?! Doc also said that stopping BFing could actually help me recover because my hormones would regulate on their own once my milk dries up. I feel totally unable to make a decision so I just keep pumping since stopping would mean being done forever.
There are safe ppd meds to take while bfing.. I'm just wondering why if you were bfing any doc would give you something not safe.. And I've never heard of a doc recommending stopping bfing. Ppd is easily and safely treated while breastfeeding, please get a second opinion
I believe it was the depth of AlwaysSunny's PPD / anxiety that made her doc prescribe these particular meds. Hadn't slept in almost 4 or 5 days (or more?), if I recall? Never hurts to seek a 2nd opinion, for sure, but while I am absolutely supportive of bfing (especially since I've struggled to provide even some breastmilk even tho I have very low supply), I also want mom to get the help she needs and not feel guilty about switching to formula so she can focus on getting herself better. Not saying you aren't, with this post, just wanted @AlwaysSunny1012 to hear that if she decides to use formula going forward because of her meds, its all good.
@mellymar That was exactly it. The type of med I needed to be on is not ok for breastfeeding. I am feeling better so I don't want to rock the boat and get on something else. I know he will be perfectly fine on formula...it's just my own sadness about not BFing anymore. I think I'm just going to continue to pump and dump for now and just see what happens. I'm not ready to give up on it yet.
LO is sleeping in her crib for the first time tonight. I never thought I would be one of those moms, but I'm on the verge of tears knowing that she won't be next to me in her pack n play tonight. I have this irrational fear that if someone were to break into our house, that I wouldn't be able to get to her fast enough. Hopefully we will all get better sleep tonight, and it will all be worth it.
I hear ya. I actually did cry the first night DS1 was in his own room and cried the other night just thinking about moving this little guy... I guess I just get sad thinking about how this phase in his life will be over and we'll never get it back. I feel like I'm not usually this emotional and unreasonable about things! We really want to soon, but I make up some lame excuse every night about why we shouldn't. Gotta bite the bullet and git 'er done.
Trying the crib for the first time tonight... Wish us luck!!
LO is sleeping in her crib for the first time tonight. I never thought I would be one of those moms, but I'm on the verge of tears knowing that she won't be next to me in her pack n play tonight. I have this irrational fear that if someone were to break into our house, that I wouldn't be able to get to her fast enough. Hopefully we will all get better sleep tonight, and it will all be worth it.
I hear ya. I actually did cry the first night DS1 was in his own room and cried the other night just thinking about moving this little guy... I guess I just get sad thinking about how this phase in his life will be over and we'll never get it back. I feel like I'm not usually this emotional and unreasonable about things! We really want to soon, but I make up some lame excuse every night about why we shouldn't. Gotta bite the bullet and git 'er done.
Trying the crib for the first time tonight... Wish us luck!!
Ours went really well! LO did great. I on the other hand was so nervous I kept waking up to look at the monitor. By 5am I decided to turn the volume off so I didn't hear her moving as much. That definitely helped. She woke up once around 2 for a feeding, and then again at 5, but it was more scutching. I turned the sound off, and watched her. Within a minute she was fast asleep again, whereas I would normally take it as hunger and feed her. She woke up for good at 7am. Tonight is our second night.
I don't know how you are planning on setting it up, but we closed her door and left ours open so we could hear it if she really cried. Plus the dog who normally sleeps in our room could roam. We found her sleeping in front of LOs door this morning ❤️. I love my fur baby.
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Edited to say it's an hour away which is the only reason I'm considering not going
@virginiaunicorn11 THANK YOU for unsticky-ing those threads. Back to the nether pages with you, anatomy scan results!
Edited--spelling is hard
It's up to me (DH and I need to crunch numbers), but having the option feels great!
@mellymar sounds like you've made up your mind, but I'd totally go! We were trying to get a group together to go to Octoberfest. It's 3 hours away, and none of our friends wanted to stay the whole weekend. This is the time to take them places...at least that's what those with toddlers keep telling me.
For the record, DS was no meds and LO was ALL the meds. No judgment, just thought it was funny. I might put this up in my cubicle.
Hopefully we will all get better sleep tonight, and it will all be worth it.
I start working from home one day per week next week and I chose that day to start so I can pick LO up from daycare, get a few hours of quality time in and then not feel guilty putting DH on daddy duty!
It is a truth universally acknowledged that a woman in possession of a baby must be in want of a mom friend.
We're at 13.5 weeks and I think we've finally turned the corner. Once we get through the 4 mo sleep regression, I'm hoping for smooth sailing!
Ours went really well! LO did great. I on the other hand was so nervous I kept waking up to look at the monitor. By 5am I decided to turn the volume off so I didn't hear her moving as much. That definitely helped. She woke up once around 2 for a feeding, and then again at 5, but it was more scutching. I turned the sound off, and watched her. Within a minute she was fast asleep again, whereas I would normally take it as hunger and feed her. She woke up for good at 7am. Tonight is our second night.
I don't know how you are planning on setting it up, but we closed her door and left ours open so we could hear it if she really cried. Plus the dog who normally sleeps in our room could roam. We found her sleeping in front of LOs door this morning ❤️. I love my fur baby.