Randoms!

KaLikeAWind

Considering our last random thread expired on the 12th and its now the 19th and we're still using the old one, I figured I'd start a new one. And not set a close date... We can create a new one whenever this one gets unwieldy

KaLikeAWind

I'll start. My mom is here visiting and earlier today she suggested we go to target for some shopping therapy this afternoon to get out of the heat, into someplace with AC, and to stock up on some clothes for me, as I've been wearing the same button up shirt for 4 days. In my defense, I slacked on the nursing tank situation and this shirt offers easy boob access. Anyway, since she suggested it, she's been sleeping all day. #-o

rrcameron21

I've been wearing the same strapless black dress for 4 days. It doubles as a nightgown and you can't see all the various stains. Plus I can whip out the milk machines at a moments notice.

I think I'm going to order some nursing attire on zulily. Whenever I plan to leave the house it never happens!

KaLikeAWind

Also, I placed my Amazon baby registry completion discount order on Friday, and got basically everything left on my registry, so, a fair amount of stuff. Now I've been impatient all weekend long as next week I have like 6 boxes coming over the course of the week with all kinds of stuff I'm excited to try and use. Next week is like Xmas in July for me. Waiting thru the weekend for all that stuff to begin its journey is a total drag :-<

mindaa

DH and I went out to a reunion last night, so I did full hair and makeup. This morning I got up at dawn to drive him to the airport, then to church.
So, Last night I skipped a shower and slept in my makeup so this morning I could just throw the same dress on, brush my hair and go. New mom hack

mindaa

Oh, and I was looking at maternity photos today and so glad I got them because wow, that already feels like so long ago.

katyqv

I need a pedicure. Like, really, really badly.

virginiaunicorn11

@mellymar I'm with you in the one button down shirt. At 4 weeks, I finally got nursing bras so at least the under-the-shirt situation got sorted. I'm the worst at taking care of myself, in terms of spending money on new clothes (I didn't pay for a single pregnancy item of clothing - stretched what I had or wore ill fitting hand-me-downs). If this was a friend, i'd have bought her 10 shirts by now. WTF is wrong with me?!

Wake that lady up and make her take you to Target! She can ride one of the wheelchairs.

dancegurl1118

I hate that whatever I choose to wear I have to consider boob access. I have a very limited wardrobe.

Also LO has started this new thing where she screeches at the top of her lungs as soon as she starts crying. This drama queen...

krystleshel

dancegurl1118 said:

I hate that whatever I choose to wear I have to consider boob access. I have a very limited wardrobe.

I spent 20 minutes before church trying on tops to see if I could get my boob out. Ugh. I don't know what I'm going to do when school starts back (pumping). Most of these tops show some serious cleavage & I teach middle school.

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MaliKaela

I'm worried about booby access when we go visit my family in August. I pretty much just yank off my shirt right now... not so great around the brother and stepdad.

KaLikeAWind

She eventually did wake up and we went. I got two nursing tanks and a regular tank that buttons up the front, and a pj shirt that also buttons up the front. So I'm decently covered for nursing gear now. And, 2 pairs of shorts that fit my newer, larger mommy ass so I'm not still wearing maternity gear everywhere. Yay, clothes that fit

And I also ended up doing my first changing the baby outside of my home, as LO ended up pooping right after we got there.

ksimo6

My kid shit on me today and I'm hungover from a bachelorette party last night. The end.

JessHeppell

i feel bad putting LO in a seat or swing when he is awake. DH does it all the time, and idk if i should pick him up and interact with him or leave him in the chair

mindaa

mcknzzee said:

I'm worried about booby access when we go visit my family in August. I pretty much just yank off my shirt right now... not so great around the brother and stepdad.

I pretty much just nurse in my room, even when its just family around. Kinda overkill, but i Just can't be bothered with the cover for days at a time. And it's just reality that everyone's eyes follow the baby, wherever he is, including the boob. Sometimes I feel like I'm missing out on things, but I also like the excuse to get some down time during visits.

katyertl

JessHeppell said:

i feel bad putting LO in a seat or swing when he is awake. DH does it all the time, and idk if i should pick him up and interact with him or leave him in the chair

I feel the exact same way!!! Hubby does it all the time and I feel so guilty thinking I should interact with her too. Especially if she's awake AND not crying lol

seesea

So I was looking through my Instagram feed and saw all these cute baby pics. Then I see one with a baby girl wearing a crop top midriff and another one wearing a tube top. For some reason, it felt kinda inappropriate to me. I mean, there's pictures of babies in just diapers all the time so it shouldn't bother me right? There were all these comments gushing on and on about how cute or adorable the outfits are. I try not to pass judgement but I just don't get it and it doesn't sit well with me seeing these baby girls in such "grown up" outfits.

Ugh. Maybe I'm just old. An old cranky lady. That's why I don't get it.

Serenamarr

CillyMama said:

So I was looking through my Instagram feed and saw all these cute baby pics. Then I see one with a baby girl wearing a crop top midriff and another one wearing a tube top. For some reason, it felt kinda inappropriate to me. I mean, there's pictures of babies in just diapers all the time so it shouldn't bother me right? There were all these comments gushing on and on about how cute or adorable the outfits are. I try not to pass judgement but I just don't get it and it doesn't sit well with me seeing these baby girls in such "grown up" outfits.

Ugh. Maybe I'm just old. An old cranky lady. That's why I don't get it.

Dressing babies in adult clothes is just weird to me. Like baby boys in bow ties and suspenders kind of thing. Even polos are pushing it. Might just be me, but it makes them look like odd tiny old Benjamin Buttons.

I know I'm going to come off terribly in this whinefest so I'm apologizing in advance, and also let me just say how horribly I feel for all you ladies with milk supply issues and I would never compare my troubles to yours, but...my boobs need to just calm down. I am now pumping exclusively and I'm down to only 4 sessions a day and STILL producing 10-15 ounces per pump. Our freezer is already full, we are going to have to buy a separate freezer (and we have no where to put it) because I just don't know what to do with the stuff. My boobs are constantly full and painful, and my nipples are ravaged and cracked and I just can't wait until I build up enough of a supply to stop pumping all together, which at this rate shouldn't take long. These puppies are so huge and because they are constantly full of milk, I basically look like this.

Anjelyk2

I have not posted anything on here since the birth announcement but I still read when I get the chance. That nighttime thread got me through a few "is this supposed to happen?" moments. Just dropping a line

HoosOnFirst

JessHeppell said:

i feel bad putting LO in a seat or swing when he is awake. DH does it all the time, and idk if i should pick him up and interact with him or leave him in the chair

THIS! DH is not used to LO having developed the last two weeks into "awake not hungry" mode where she wants to hang out and be interacted with. Not his fault, he's been back at work since this happened so I see the change the most since I have her all day. I don't want to micromanage him but when he's home I feel like he doesn't hold her enough. (He loves the crap out of her, but I think our philosophies are about 10% off from one another). He tries hard to keep our lives "normal" and I think he sometimes thinks things can be the same as pre-baby while I am too far the other direction. He's staying home with her from weeks 13-14 when I go back to work, that should be illuminating!

On another topic, I'm struggling with whether to buy new clothes or just stuff myself into my old clothes. I'm within 2 sizes of pre-pregnancy weight (not trying to brag, it's just the truth) so it's close enough where I really don't want to spend money. If I were a little further away from pp weight it would be a no brainer and I'd spend the money but I'm such a cheapskate when it comes to myself. And work clothes (office attire) is stupid expensive. I'm not convinced I'll drop the remaining weight though (frankly I'm not big into working out and this is not a big goal of mine) so maybe I just face reality and enjoy the shopping spree excuse?

JessHeppell

so many boob milk spots/not quite stains. X_X

edit: spelling

HoosOnFirst

Has anyone else NOT sent printed birth announcements? Are we just bad parents for not getting professional photos done to print and mail them to friends and family? It kind of escaped us in the aftermath of labor and delivery. I feel like it's too late now and I don't want the spend the money...

virginiaunicorn11

hoodoll82 said:

Has anyone else NOT sent printed birth announcements? Are we just bad parents for not getting professional photos done to print and mail them to friends and family? It kind of escaped us in the aftermath of labor and delivery. I feel like it's too late now and I don't want the spend the money...

I've not had professional photos done. I've not sent paper announcements. I'm probably not going to. People like my grandmother have gotten a Postagram post card and loved it. If you still want to, I've had cousins do it as late as six months. And they did not always use a professional photo.
I can't tell you how much I hate this type of keeping up with the Joneses, but that's just me. (I like when people do it because they want to, but I don't like feeling like I then have to. It was the same when we got married and didn't want a traditional, fancy wedding.)

@Serenamarr I'm having some oversupply issues, too, that I haven't mentioned. I'm not pumping so poor LO basically gets sprayed in the face most feeds, when he's choking and pulling off the boob to take a breath. It's like a hose - on or off. I've tried hand expressing but I'm not doing it right and it leaves me really sore. Pumping is futile because we have no freezer and I'm not ready to give LO bottles yet.
There are definitely worse "problems" to have, but being soaking wet alllll the time isn't super fun, either. I can't go without showering a single day or I smell like rotten milk!

mypower610

hoodoll82 said:

Has anyone else NOT sent printed birth announcements? Are we just bad parents for not getting professional photos done to print and mail them to friends and family? It kind of escaped us in the aftermath of labor and delivery. I feel like it's too late now and I don't want the spend the money...

We didn't either. We just thought with FB, text, & email why bother? If someone hasn't seen her we'll send a picture (1 uncle in a nursing home).

Not sure if I should get rid of the shoes that don't fit me anymore (1/2 size up now) or if they'll go back. But it's been 6 weeks. I think I'm just sad to get rid of a lot of shoes!

kkdb14

Just had pp sex for the first time. Twice. 8 weeks and counting. Wasn't dry and didn't hurt amazingly. However, I was stupid and now I'm freaking out. Had unprotected pull and pray sex 8 days after starting birth control pills. How terrified should I be? #-o I'm freaking out.

dancegurl1118

@kkdb14 it only says to use backup for 7 days so you should be fine

kkdb14

@dancegurl1118 right, which helps with the anxiety, but the nurse said to wait a month. Why are there conflicting lengths of time? Shouldn't health care professionals base their advice off of the product information?

cheriep3

Since we moved LO to his crib, he has started wiggling around so much that he basically crawls around his crib. I put him at the very end and woke up with him all the way at the top with his head on the frame. I know most don't encourage bumpers but what other options do I have? Any ideas?

Sammy K

cheriep3 said:

Since we moved LO to his crib, he has started wiggling around so much that he basically crawls around his crib. I put him at the very end and woke up with him all the way at the top with his head on the frame. I know most don't encourage bumpers but what other options do I have? Any ideas?

If he can move that much, he can wiggle away if needed. It doesn't sound like he was caught in the slats or hurt. I don't see a reason for bumpers.

HoosOnFirst

Related we used to use swaddle blankets but I'm done with that after I found LO wriggled out of it and blanket was inexplicably up by her head. Nope nope nope! Sleep sacks going forward!

HoosOnFirst

kkdb14 said:

@dancegurl1118 right, which helps with the anxiety, but the nurse said to wait a month. Why are there conflicting lengths of time? Shouldn't health care professionals base their advice off of the product information?

I've never heard a month! Are you maybe on the mini pill? I've only ever been on the regular pill and a week sounds right to me for that.

kkdb14

@hoodoll82 definitely NOT the mini pill. I feel better hearing that you were told a week. I think we'll just go the BCP + condom route for the rest of the month to ease my nerves.

laurendutch

mypower610 said:

hoodoll82 said:

Has anyone else NOT sent printed birth announcements? Are we just bad parents for not getting professional photos done to print and mail them to friends and family? It kind of escaped us in the aftermath of labor and delivery. I feel like it's too late now and I don't want the spend the money...

We didn't either. We just thought with FB, text, & email why bother? If someone hasn't seen her we'll send a picture (1 uncle in a nursing home).

Not sure if I should get rid of the shoes that don't fit me anymore (1/2 size up now) or if they'll go back. But it's been 6 weeks. I think I'm just sad to get rid of a lot of shoes!

My feet have grown with each pregnancy and they have remained the new size.

krystleshel

Anyone else's DH want another right away? We're first time parents and he wants them close together. Like within 2 years. His reasoning was that we will do the newborn/sleeping stage all at once. I'm thinking toddler & newborn at once. Plus I feel like I'd miss out on a lot with this LO bc I'd be tired from pregnancy & a new LO. We're having an open discussion right now.

Serenamarr

krystleshel said:

Anyone else's DH want another right away? We're first time parents and he wants them close together. Like within 2 years. His reasoning was that we will do the newborn/sleeping stage all at once. I'm thinking toddler & newborn at once. Plus I feel like I'd miss out on a lot with this LO bc I'd be tired from pregnancy & a new LO. We're having an open discussion right now.

nope nope nope. i cant imagine taking care of a toddler and an infant. so much poop! fi also wants close together because he and his brother are 2 years apart, but i said i need at least 4 years. enough to be able to begin to reason with/explain things to the older child. my brother and i are 7 years apart and i feel that was too much because he had serious feelings of neglect when i was born since he was past the age of convincing him that he was "such a big help!"

seesea

krystleshel said:

Anyone else's DH want another right away? We're first time parents and he wants them close together. Like within 2 years. His reasoning was that we will do the newborn/sleeping stage all at once. I'm thinking toddler & newborn at once. Plus I feel like I'd miss out on a lot with this LO bc I'd be tired from pregnancy & a new LO. We're having an open discussion right now.

My boys are about 19 months apart. It's not really newborn/ sleeping stage all at once. Honestly, DH and I forgot what the newborn stage was like until LO got here. I guess we wanted to wipe that away from our memories! Now it's toddler and newborn at once. It's definitely challenging in so many ways and I'm hoping that someday it'll pay off having them close in age.

Ideally I would've wanted to wait a bit longer between both babes. It just so happens that DH and I are in our mid to late thirties and we wanted more than one kid. So we couldn't wait that long. If you can I'd wait it out until your first one is at least fully potty trained.

LolaMarley23

DH forced me out of the house Saturday to have a girls day with my mom and he also wanted alone time with LO. It was wonderful! I finally felt like a human again. I had my first beer since having LO and it was amazing. I also decided to splurge a bit and buy some clothes since I can't fit into any of my non maternity pants yet. (3 weeks PP) I focused on dresses, rompers and maxi skirts that will transition well into fall so I don't feel too guilty about spending the money!

klkonwi

^^^^^ you go girl. Spoil yourself you deserve it. We all deserve it.

dancegurl1118

Poor pup is in so much pain. I'm crying at the vet now while they examine him. And the stupid other vet didn't get an X-ray of his tail or back legs so they have to take more..bye $300. Ugh the sound of his yelping is heart breaking. It's so stressful when they can't tell you what hurts.

mvargas12

@dancegurl1118 so sorry your pup isn't feeling better. Good call going to a different vet. Hopefully this one sees something the other didn't and your pup can get better!

KarasTwin

I'm so sad about Blake Shelton and Miranda Lambert.