Just wanted to say a big Thank You for getting this post pinned and gracefully moderating @ChiccoBeanz. I know it's been controversial, but it's obviously a set of feelings many expecting mothers are experiencing, myself included (to an extent). Although I've repeatedly seen the posts that "this isn't a support group", it's so nice to have some safe space created to just have general discussion without fear of judgement.
Just because you are having a healthy baby (my wish for everyone ) doesn't mean you have to hide it or refrain from talking about any other issues related to it, whether big or small. I do like this thread.
I just found out I'm having another boy, I was secretly hoping for a girl as was my husband and my eldest daughter, we currently have one of each and our daughter has been so easy where our son has been the biggest handful from day 1, imagine this naughty kids on super nanny then double it and that's my son, he is getting better with age, he's now 8 and doesn't have as many fits and tantrums but he does other things that are naughty like today he was asked by his step dad to make a drink so he went and got him water out of the toilet then didn't tell him till he drank it all, then insisted he thought it was a funny prank, now I have a fella that's sulking and wants to leave his family and a kid who's going on and on and on waning his computer back that was taken as a punishment, I never had any of this drama with my girl
I just found out I'm having another boy, I was secretly hoping for a girl as was my husband and my eldest daughter, we currently have one of each and our daughter has been so easy where our son has been the biggest handful from day 1, imagine this naughty kids on super nanny then double it and that's my son, he is getting better with age, he's now 8 and doesn't have as many fits and tantrums but he does other things that are naughty like today he was asked by his step dad to make a drink so he went and got him water out of the toilet then didn't tell him till he drank it all, then insisted he thought it was a funny prank, now I have a fella that's sulking and wants to leave his family and a kid who's going on and on and on waning his computer back that was taken as a punishment, I never had any of this drama with my girl
Sorry you are feeling this way. Just remember every kid is different! The LO you are carrying now of bound to be unique from both his sister and brother.
@littlekick I don't think it's fair to say you have issues with his behavior because he has a penis. Maybe his stepdad should just get his own drinks a girl could just have easily done the same thing. Every child is an individual.
We found out we are having another boy. Im happy that my son will have a best friend for life, but I'm finding myself looking to the future and being sad at all the things I will miss out on not having a daughter. Prom/wedding dress shopping, bonding over makeup and cooking and dress up. Sharing in the birth of her children.... Especially that last one is the hardest to swallow. I have a wonderful relationship with my mom and it was something that I have been looking forward to sharing with a daughter. My husband is firm on not having more kids so this is it. And I'm just left to grieve silently on the future I thought I would always have.
And I mean no disrespect to those who have had troubles and losses. To many of you, my issue is trivial, but for me, in this moment, it is important and very real. Please no hateful remarks.
@meghan0710 I agree with the PP - you have a right to your feelings and what you are feeling is very real and painful. I'm sorry for your inner turmoil. I read an article the other day that I think beautifully expressed the same - very understandable - pain of not having a daughter to experience those mother/daughter moments with. I started down the rabbit hole of reading the comments on the article (something you should really never do, I'm learning...) and while there were some decidedly unhelpful people popping in, there were also a LOT of women commenting with similar sentiments and shared longing.
I'm glad this was not private because if it were I would've missed it completely and I needed to read this thread. I have two lovely girls and we are expecting a third. No one but my husband and I know and we are keeping it a secret. We really wanted a boy...bad. For me the worst part is that when we told people I was expecting ALL I get all day from most people is "oh I hope it's a boy" and "you know your hubby wants a boy". It's rude and depressing. I respond "well we are just hoping for a healthy baby" or "what if it's a girl? Will you still be happy for us?" Just to shut them up. I'm feeling better about it now because we really won't have to buy anything but a crib, doubled stroller and diapers so I'm looking to the bright side.
I just found out I'm having another boy, I was secretly hoping for a girl as was my husband and my eldest daughter, we currently have one of each and our daughter has been so easy where our son has been the biggest handful from day 1, imagine this naughty kids on super nanny then double it and that's my son, he is getting better with age, he's now 8 and doesn't have as many fits and tantrums but he does other things that are naughty like today he was asked by his step dad to make a drink so he went and got him water out of the toilet then didn't tell him till he drank it all, then insisted he thought it was a funny prank, now I have a fella that's sulking and wants to leave his family and a kid who's going on and on and on waning his computer back that was taken as a punishment, I never had any of this drama with my girl
Your son is not representative of what every boy will be like, the same way not every girl will be like your daufhter
I'm glad this was not private because if it were I would've missed it completely and I needed to read this thread. I have two lovely girls and we are expecting a third. No one but my husband and I know and we are keeping it a secret. We really wanted a boy...bad. For me the worst part is that when we told people I was expecting ALL I get all day from most people is "oh I hope it's a boy" and "you know your hubby wants a boy". It's rude and depressing. I respond "well we are just hoping for a healthy baby" or "what if it's a girl? Will you still be happy for us?" Just to shut them up. I'm feeling better about it now because we really won't have to buy anything but a crib, doubled stroller and diapers so I'm looking to the bright side.
I had some problems with this through the start of this pregnancy. I really wish people would keep their opinions to themselves most times. As soon as people here were have a boy it's "oh I hope you have a girl". They're so hung up on one of each.
I think it would've been nice to have another boy. Then it'd be my boys. All the boy clothes we have would pass down. Plus, this may sound odd, in my family there is very much a trend of one boy then one girl. The only one this doesn't fit with is one cousin has two boys. I think it'd be nice for them if someone else didn't follow that a am trend as well. It would've also been nice to stick it to all the people hoping for us to have a girl.
As I said, it would be nice. Hubby and I have had a strong feeling for a while this one is a girl and we were told with anatomy scan this might be true. I'm happily looking at rag dolls and superhero stuff (why is it so hard to find anything super girl or Batgirl without all the glitter?)
My current pregnancy (I'm 30 weeks) is the result of a sexual assault. Through hard times, counseling, and prayer e and my SO decided to keep this innocent being and raise him/her to be a great person. I wanted a girl, so did SO. We made crazy statistics as to why this should be a girl (my mother having three girls as an example), so when we found out we were having a boy there were mixtures of emotion. Anxiety and fear being a huge part, what if he looked liked him? What if he took after him? What if I couldn't love him the right way? It took me feeling his first strong kick to make me truly feel that I could NEVER not love this baby, that he will take after his parents (me and my SO) and that no matter what he looks like he is a part of me. Someone I already love so very much without even knowing him yet. Some days it's still hard, my SO gets nervous that one day I'll break down. We have each other for mental support though, and our little Jupiter will be here soon.
I'm glad that you turned a terrible situation into something positive and that you felt comfortable enough to share your personal story in this space. I hope it all works out well for you and your little family @blue024
@blue024 you are one strong woman. honestly speaking, i don't know if i could've made the same decision had i been in your shoes. i am so glad your SO is playing a major role as a support system for you. you should be proud of yourself. i can already tell you will be an amazing mother. you are showing signs of being "selfless" by putting your innocent child first.
Oh my. @blue024 I applaud you for being such a strong woman. And your SO for stepping up and supporting you and his willingness to love your baby no matter what the circumstances are. God has given you this little boy for a reason. You and your SO will be amazing parents to him.
@blue024 I am so sorry that that happened to you. You are an incredibly strong woman for making the decision that you did and I have no doubt you will raise a wonderful son. What you and your SO have decided to do is nothing short of amazing.
@blue024 wow, you and your SO are AMAZING!!! You guys have already made such a selfless act of unconditional love towards your baby. You're going to be amazing parents to this little boy, he will definitely take after his parents. You two will be such amazing roll models for him. Best of luck!!
@blue024 I completely and totally understand, and am happy for the choice you have made. I was in a similar situation 12 years ago. It lead to miscarriage and to this day, everyone tells me it was a "blessing" because of my age and circumstances. A baby is a blessing, losing one no matter the circumstances a loss hurts. I'm happy that you are able to see the good in the horrible moment of your life. I'm here if you ever want to talk. After 12 years
I was finally able to stop listening to my doctors of "you can't have children, it's not possible for you to have children" and just say let's try anyway. The infection I got after the missed miscarriage combined with sever endometriosis and the drugs they put me on to "help" made it a one in a million shot. SO and his family is so upset that I'm having a girl (he already has a daughter) and am not willing to risk mine and a child's life to go through this again, so he's upset he'll never get his boy, but he has 4 nephews who he's played "dad" to.
When did everyone become so sensitive? Why do people have to put their own feelings aside so they don't have to offend others and hurt other people's feelings? When did everyone else become more important that ourselves?
I've suffered a miscarriage last year. Yes it hurt and it still does but never did I once jump into a thread about gender disappointment and shame ladies for being disappointed. "You should be GRATEFUL that your baby is alive and well" etc. That is so disrespectful! Who's to say your feelings are more important than anyone else's? If you are suffering from infertility or miscarriages, why read threads that you know will bother you? Then blame everyone else for you being bothered by it?
Everyone has their own struggles whether it be with gender disappointment or infertility or miscarriage. And all of your feelings are valid surrounding your struggles, but they are NOT more important than anyone else's. We all have a right to feel however we want, but we don't have a right to say our own feelings are more important than anyone else's.
You want to express your feelings, do it on the appropriate thread. I for one am not going to NOT speak about my gender disappointment for fear of upsetting others. You don't want to read about it, you don't agree with it, then what are you doing here?
I am having my third boy. And this is my last child. I had a hard time with it at first, and can relate to all of the ladies who are in a similar situation, about missing out on the typical milestones mothers and daughters share together. I've come to terms with it and I am so excited to meet my son. But I know it will always be at the back of my mind. I am a mom of boys.
Now, me expressing this doesn't mean I am putting my feelings over and above anyone else's, it just means I'm in the right place to express them. I am not putting down anyone with infertility or miscarriage issues, so why is it ok for people with those issues to come in here and put us down?
When did everyone become so sensitive? Why do people have to put their own feelings aside so they don't have to offend others and hurt other people's feelings? When did everyone else become more important that ourselves?
I've suffered a miscarriage last year. Yes it hurt and it still does but never did I once jump into a thread about gender disappointment and shame ladies for being disappointed. "You should be GRATEFUL that your baby is alive and well" etc. That is so disrespectful! Who's to say your feelings are more important than anyone else's? If you are suffering from infertility or miscarriages, why read threads that you know will bother you? Then blame everyone else for you being bothered by it?
Everyone has their own struggles whether it be with gender disappointment or infertility or miscarriage. And all of your feelings are valid surrounding your struggles, but they are NOT more important than anyone else's. We all have a right to feel however we want, but we don't have a right to say our own feelings are more important than anyone else's.
You want to express your feelings, do it on the appropriate thread. I for one am not going to NOT speak about my gender disappointment for fear of upsetting others. You don't want to read about it, you don't agree with it, then what are you doing here?
I am having my third boy. And this is my last child. I had a hard time with it at first, and can relate to all of the ladies who are in a similar situation, about missing out on the typical milestones mothers and daughters share together. I've come to terms with it and I am so excited to meet my son. But I know it will always be at the back of my mind. I am a mom of boys.
Now, me expressing this doesn't mean I am putting my feelings over and above anyone else's, it just means I'm in the right place to express them. I am not putting down anyone with infertility or miscarriage issues, so why is it ok for people with those issues to come in here and put us down?
It's not.
Irony defined.
Please follow TOU. You will find it listed (pinned) at the top of each board. It is requested that you do not voice your grievances with the community or specific members. If you have any questions you can contact @BumpAdmin@BumpTara@BumpCaitlin ... And as for what we are all doing here, we are a part of a community. Please don't try to be exclusive to certain members of the community. This is an inclusive environment and again, you are violating TOU by creating an unelcoming environment for others, specifically the "what are you doing here?" question to women who do not like sex disappointment threads. It would be as if those same women asked somebody that had sex disappointment what they were doing in this community.
Also, it was asked that you not instigate on this thread. So you are detracting from people such as yourself, who are suffering from sex disappointment, being able to have a place that is safe for them to discuss. Posting something intentionally to elicit a reaction from a certain group of people or person is called trolling. Yet another violation of TOU.
When did everyone become so sensitive? Why do people have to put their own feelings aside so they don't have to offend others and hurt other people's feelings? When did everyone else become more important that ourselves?
I've suffered a miscarriage last year. Yes it hurt and it still does but never did I once jump into a thread about gender disappointment and shame ladies for being disappointed. "You should be GRATEFUL that your baby is alive and well" etc. That is so disrespectful! Who's to say your feelings are more important than anyone else's? If you are suffering from infertility or miscarriages, why read threads that you know will bother you? Then blame everyone else for you being bothered by it?
Everyone has their own struggles whether it be with gender disappointment or infertility or miscarriage. And all of your feelings are valid surrounding your struggles, but they are NOT more important than anyone else's. We all have a right to feel however we want, but we don't have a right to say our own feelings are more important than anyone else's.
You want to express your feelings, do it on the appropriate thread. I for one am not going to NOT speak about my gender disappointment for fear of upsetting others. You don't want to read about it, you don't agree with it, then what are you doing here?
I am having my third boy. And this is my last child. I had a hard time with it at first, and can relate to all of the ladies who are in a similar situation, about missing out on the typical milestones mothers and daughters share together. I've come to terms with it and I am so excited to meet my son. But I know it will always be at the back of my mind. I am a mom of boys.
Now, me expressing this doesn't mean I am putting my feelings over and above anyone else's, it just means I'm in the right place to express them. I am not putting down anyone with infertility or miscarriage issues, so why is it ok for people with those issues to come in here and put us down?
"Trolling" ??? Wow. I am not being "exclusive" it is a community but why is what I said offensive while people are blatantly shaming others for their feelings. The topic of this particular thread is gender disappointment yet people come in here and try to shame everyone of their gender disappointment feeling. Why do people insist on coming in here and adding salt to THEIR OWN wounds then get mad at everyone for the way the self-inflicted pain hurts them?
It doesn't take a genius to figure out that you don't venture into territory that you know will cause you heartache. It's self-inflicted harm. That is the point which you obviously missed. You can't run your finger along a blade someone else is holding them blame THEM for the cut on your finger. I'm not asking what others are doing in the community I'm asking WHY people jump in threads that they know will hurt them and try to shame the people in the threads for having feelings.
I have feelings that I wish to express, and I do so. I shouldn't have to keep my mouth shut for fear of upsetting someone else. That's why I stick to the appropriate threads that relate to my feelings. Other people have feelings too, and they have just as much a right to express them as me. But if feeling/opinions/views are opposite, so be it, you're entitled to your own but it's not right to shame.
Violation of TOU. violation of TOU lol perfect example of how everyone is so sensitive. You can't speak out without someone getting offended. And by speaking out, I mean expressing your feelings openly, NOT attacking and shaming someone for theirs. Which is exactly what you're doing.
When did everyone become so sensitive? Why do people have to put their own feelings aside so they don't have to offend others and hurt other people's feelings? When did everyone else become more important that ourselves?
I've suffered a miscarriage last year. Yes it hurt and it still does but never did I once jump into a thread about gender disappointment and shame ladies for being disappointed. "You should be GRATEFUL that your baby is alive and well" etc. That is so disrespectful! Who's to say your feelings are more important than anyone else's? If you are suffering from infertility or miscarriages, why read threads that you know will bother you? Then blame everyone else for you being bothered by it?
Everyone has their own struggles whether it be with gender disappointment or infertility or miscarriage. And all of your feelings are valid surrounding your struggles, but they are NOT more important than anyone else's. We all have a right to feel however we want, but we don't have a right to say our own feelings are more important than anyone else's.
You want to express your feelings, do it on the appropriate thread. I for one am not going to NOT speak about my gender disappointment for fear of upsetting others. You don't want to read about it, you don't agree with it, then what are you doing here?
I am having my third boy. And this is my last child. I had a hard time with it at first, and can relate to all of the ladies who are in a similar situation, about missing out on the typical milestones mothers and daughters share together. I've come to terms with it and I am so excited to meet my son. But I know it will always be at the back of my mind. I am a mom of boys.
Now, me expressing this doesn't mean I am putting my feelings over and above anyone else's, it just means I'm in the right place to express them. I am not putting down anyone with infertility or miscarriage issues, so why is it ok for people with those issues to come in here and put us down?
It's not.
Do you even go here?
Lol no I don't. I don't live on these boards and that was my first post. Is this not a "violation of TOU " by attacking me and basically saying I'm not welcome here? Hahaha. Where's admin to enforce TOU here?
@QueenBing For some reason the app will not let me quote you… But just to be clear, nobody ever said that you had to keep your mouth shut. That would also be a violation of TOU. Perhaps you should familiarize yourself with the rules better. Also, I would suggest googling the definition of trolling.
Well this is a great way to get this thread shut down
**if you can't tell I'm annoyed
Which is infuriating because this thread was created for those with gender disappointments to express their feelings without clogging up the board with multiple threads on this topic. This is also ridiculous because even though a lot of us don't "approve" of this topic, we all put our big girl panties on and came up with a solution to this continuous problem.
Lol no I don't. I don't live on these boards and that was my first post. Is this not a "violation of TOU " by attacking me and basically saying I'm not welcome here? Hahaha. Where's admin to enforce TOU here?
Your first post meaning that you have absolutely NO idea how big of an issue this was almost 15 weeks ago when people were finding out the sex of their unborn child and either being elated or disappointed. Also meaning that you have NO idea exactly HOW many threads there were posted about the exact same feeling of disappointment all in a row because posting in a thread already created seemed like too difficult a task for many of the "fly-by" posters. Nobody said you weren't welcome here, however, making your first post a grievance about a thread that members of this birth month board found to be a decent compromise is most certainly not a way to introduce yourself. Just saying.
I'd just like to point out that the users who have come on this thread and shamed people are not from this bmb. They also have not come back in a long time. Although I understand and can appreciate your sentiments @queenbing I'm not sure if how you have chosen to express your feelings is translating. Personal feelings aside, this forum is a community and it's own culture. Please review the TOU and lurk around a bit more to get a feel for it. I'd hate for you to no longer have the space and community to share your feelings, opinions and advice because of this negative incident. Also, the women who have responded to you thus far are some of the women that helped me create this thread for the women like yourself who needed the safe space. Please heed their words and responses and don't take them as attacks. They are not meant to be. We just want to keep this space safe, welcoming and positive.
Sorry, deleting and changing my response now that I went back a re-read the whole thread.... there are TWO posters that were upset about this thread. And those two people have both been kicked out of the bump- so two people who clearly did not follow TOU, and were not part of the community. Why is this can of worms being reopened for that?
"I for one am not going to NOT speak about my gender disappointment for fear of upsetting others."
Where did the grammar police go? Isn't anybody going to mention how this is a double negative?
I think the double negative was a conscious choice made to emphasize that she wasn't going to hold her tongue.
I suppose that's always a possibility, but I highly doubt that. I use Siri for dictation which is notoriously unreliable. Considering that there are three grammatical errors in the first paragraph of the initial post alone, I believe the double negative to be unintentional.
*eta- Not that I care about grammatical errors as long as the post is not a tedious read. I'm not the grammar police. I was just surprised that nobody jumped on to mention it. -autocorrect fail, coincidentally
"I for one am not going to NOT speak about my gender disappointment for fear of upsetting others."
Where did the grammar police go? Isn't anybody going to mention how this is a double negative?
I think the double negative was a conscious choice made to emphasize that she wasn't going to hold her tongue.
I suppose that's always a possibility, but I highly doubt that. I use Siri for dictation which is notoriously unreliable. Considering that there are three grammatical errors in the first paragraph of the initial post alone, I believe the double negative to be unintentional.
*eta- Not that I care about grammatical errors as long as the post is not a tedious read. I'm not the grammar police. I was just surprised that nobody jumped on to mention it.
-autocorrect fail, coincidentally
I also read it as intentional: "I am not going to not talk about = I am not going to be quiet about it."
"I for one am not going to NOT speak about my gender disappointment for fear of upsetting others."
Where did the grammar police go? Isn't anybody going to mention how this is a double negative?
I think the double negative was a conscious choice made to emphasize that she wasn't going to hold her tongue.
I suppose that's always a possibility, but I highly doubt that. I use Siri for dictation which is notoriously unreliable. Considering that there are three grammatical errors in the first paragraph of the initial post alone, I believe the double negative to be unintentional.
*eta- Not that I care about grammatical errors as long as the post is not a tedious read. I'm not the grammar police. I was just surprised that nobody jumped on to mention it. -autocorrect fail, coincidentally
I also read it as intentional: "I am not going to not talk about = I am not going to be quiet about it."
Re: Centralized Thread for Gender/Sex Disappointment Discussion *Reasoning Updated*
And I mean no disrespect to those who have had troubles and losses. To many of you, my issue is trivial, but for me, in this moment, it is important and very real. Please no hateful remarks.
I have two lovely girls and we are expecting a third. No one but my husband and I know and we are keeping it a secret. We really wanted a boy...bad.
For me the worst part is that when we told people I was expecting ALL I get all day from most people is "oh I hope it's a boy" and "you know your hubby wants a boy". It's rude and depressing. I respond "well we are just hoping for a healthy baby" or "what if it's a girl? Will you still be happy for us?" Just to shut them up.
I'm feeling better about it now because we really won't have to buy anything but a crib, doubled stroller and diapers so I'm looking to the bright side.
I think it would've been nice to have another boy. Then it'd be my boys. All the boy clothes we have would pass down. Plus, this may sound odd, in my family there is very much a trend of one boy then one girl. The only one this doesn't fit with is one cousin has two boys. I think it'd be nice for them if someone else didn't follow that a am trend as well. It would've also been nice to stick it to all the people hoping for us to have a girl.
As I said, it would be nice. Hubby and I have had a strong feeling for a while this one is a girl and we were told with anatomy scan this might be true. I'm happily looking at rag dolls and superhero stuff (why is it so hard to find anything super girl or Batgirl without all the glitter?)
Edit* lurker from N15
I was finally able to stop listening to my doctors of "you can't have children, it's not possible for you to have children" and just say let's try anyway. The infection I got after the missed miscarriage combined with sever endometriosis and the drugs they put me on to "help" made it a one in a million shot. SO and his family is so upset that I'm having a girl (he already has a daughter) and am not willing to risk mine and a child's life to go through this again, so he's upset he'll never get his boy, but he has 4 nephews who he's played "dad" to.
I've suffered a miscarriage last year. Yes it hurt and it still does but never did I once jump into a thread about gender disappointment and shame ladies for being disappointed. "You should be GRATEFUL that your baby is alive and well" etc. That is so disrespectful! Who's to say your feelings are more important than anyone else's? If you are suffering from infertility or miscarriages, why read threads that you know will bother you? Then blame everyone else for you being bothered by it?
Everyone has their own struggles whether it be with gender disappointment or infertility or miscarriage. And all of your feelings are valid surrounding your struggles, but they are NOT more important than anyone else's. We all have a right to feel however we want, but we don't have a right to say our own feelings are more important than anyone else's.
You want to express your feelings, do it on the appropriate thread. I for one am not going to NOT speak about my gender disappointment for fear of upsetting others. You don't want to read about it, you don't agree with it, then what are you doing here?
I am having my third boy. And this is my last child. I had a hard time with it at first, and can relate to all of the ladies who are in a similar situation, about missing out on the typical milestones mothers and daughters share together. I've come to terms with it and I am so excited to meet my son. But I know it will always be at the back of my mind. I am a mom of boys.
Now, me expressing this doesn't mean I am putting my feelings over and above anyone else's, it just means I'm in the right place to express them. I am not putting down anyone with infertility or miscarriage issues, so why is it ok for people with those issues to come in here and put us down?
It's not.
Please follow TOU. You will find it listed (pinned) at the top of each board. It is requested that you do not voice your grievances with the community or specific members. If you have any questions you can contact @BumpAdmin @BumpTara @BumpCaitlin ... And as for what we are all doing here, we are a part of a community. Please don't try to be exclusive to certain members of the community. This is an inclusive environment and again, you are violating TOU by creating an unelcoming environment for others, specifically the "what are you doing here?" question to women who do not like sex disappointment threads. It would be as if those same women asked somebody that had sex disappointment what they were doing in this community.
Also, it was asked that you not instigate on this thread. So you are detracting from people such as yourself, who are suffering from sex disappointment, being able to have a place that is safe for them to discuss. Posting something intentionally to elicit a reaction from a certain group of people or person is called trolling. Yet another violation of TOU.
*edited for Siri autocorrect fails
It doesn't take a genius to figure out that you don't venture into territory that you know will cause you heartache. It's self-inflicted harm. That is the point which you obviously missed. You can't run your finger along a blade someone else is holding them blame THEM for the cut on your finger. I'm not asking what others are doing in the community I'm asking WHY people jump in threads that they know will hurt them and try to shame the people in the threads for having feelings.
I have feelings that I wish to express, and I do so. I shouldn't have to keep my mouth shut for fear of upsetting someone else. That's why I stick to the appropriate threads that relate to my feelings. Other people have feelings too, and they have just as much a right to express them as me. But if feeling/opinions/views are opposite, so be it, you're entitled to your own but it's not right to shame.
Violation of TOU. violation of TOU lol perfect example of how everyone is so sensitive. You can't speak out without someone getting offended. And by speaking out, I mean expressing your feelings openly, NOT attacking and shaming someone for theirs. Which is exactly what you're doing.
**if you can't tell I'm annoyed
@QueenBing For some reason the app will not let me quote you… But just to be clear, nobody ever said that you had to keep your mouth shut. That would also be a violation of TOU. Perhaps you should familiarize yourself with the rules better. Also, I would suggest googling the definition of trolling.
Where did the grammar police go? Isn't anybody going to mention how this is a double negative?
Sorry, deleting and changing my response now that I went back a re-read the whole thread.... there are TWO posters that were upset about this thread. And those two people have both been kicked out of the bump- so two people who clearly did not follow TOU, and were not part of the community. Why is this can of worms being reopened for that?
*eta- Not that I care about grammatical errors as long as the post is not a tedious read. I'm not the grammar police. I was just surprised that nobody jumped on to mention it.
-autocorrect fail, coincidentally
I also read it as intentional: "I am not going to not talk about = I am not going to be quiet about it."
Jamie
I also read it as intentional: "I am not going to not talk about = I am not going to be quiet about it."
It's still erroneous.
A double negative is not always an error.
Jamie