Guys...on a whim I ordered a $20 white noise machine on amazon last week...game changer. We're coming off a 4 hour block of sleep where even I got to sleep 3+ hours bc I couldn't hear the grunting or DH snoring. Worth. Every. Penny.
What's it called? I am def going out tomorrow to find one but if I don't I was thinking Amazon. My girl is obsessed with stoves fan but I can't stand in there all the time lol
After my 'night off' last night (that only cost me a hysterical breakdown) DH is back to just blithely sleeping while I get up twice in the same hour to change LO, just looking at me when the kid starts to cry cause I have to get up to pee, and just looking at me when I tell him his lack of following my list while at the grocery store yesterday has resulted in a lack of snack foods for breastfeeding. He still has tomorrow off, muthaf*¢ker could have at least changed the damned diapers so I didn't have to get up and destroy my whole pillow support network for breastfeeding (and thus have to rebuild it while my kid screams once we are back from the mid-feed diaper change).
All this of to sit up and ask angrily if I need help swaddling LO once all is said and done and LO is squirming.
I feel really bad for all you ladies that pump in the middle of the night. DH took the first feeding so I'm now pumping. And just about dumped 5 oz on the floor.
I am real stabby too ...... DH had the baby yest so I could take a nap. He said the baby screamed for the entire 3 hours. He was ready to freak out and starting getting really crabby and mean to me..... Wtf dude. Your leaving me for 4 days. I get crabby too! Join the club.
I feel really bad for all you ladies that pump in the middle of the night. DH took the first feeding so I'm now pumping. And just about dumped 5 oz on the floor.
Oh no. Been there, more than once. And I've cried every time. Pumping effin sucks.
I feel really bad for all you ladies that pump in the middle of the night. DH took the first feeding so I'm now pumping. And just about dumped 5 oz on the floor.
There is no worse feeling. I'm sorry!!
Ugh I'm sorry for all your stupid DH's/partners last night. I'm convinced their genetics make them completely unaware of how terrible it is to be home with a crabby baby and then up all night when you just need a freaking rest because of said day with a crabby baby. DH physically does not move a muscle each time I get up at night. I wake up when LO stirs without even making a sound. Why is nature so cruel?!?
TTC: 1/2014
BFP: 9/24
EDD: 6/8/2015
Sorry for the poor man's siggy...ticker won't load regardless of how many tips I read.
Omg it must have been the moon last night...DH was going to help last night but all that consisted of was holding baby once I already put her down and then setting her in the crib... Then slept the rest of the night..thanks a lot for nothing! So this morning let me take a two hour nap but baby screamed the whole time and now DH is grumpy..give me a break ! Ugh
I got up to pump at 1:30am. Couldn't fall back asleep. LO woke at 3:00 to feed. DH decided to bring her to bed to give her a bottle. WTF?! I was just about to fall asleep and now I'm hearing him and her noises. I was so pissed. I just huffed and rolled over and out my earplugs in.
Read this in an article about dream feeding and thought I should share.
'... Recent research has highlighted the beneficial effects of breast feeding at night time; naturally occurring nucleotides that have been previously linked to sleepiness only reach their highest concentration in breast milk that has been expresses at night.
*** So using breast milk that has been expressed during the day may be inadvertently contributing to a sleepless night.***'
Read this in an article about dream feeding and thought I should share.
'... Recent research has highlighted the beneficial effects of breast feeding at night time; naturally occurring nucleotides that have been previously linked to sleepiness only reach their highest concentration in breast milk that has been expresses at night.
*** So using breast milk that has been expressed during the day may be inadvertently contributing to a sleepless night.***'
LO slept most of the day today...about 8am-10:30am and then noon-5pm (with a few wake ups to get changed and fed)...and now we're paying for it. MIL was here telling us that sleep begets sleep and to never wake a sleeping baby...well maybe we should have woken her, because normally she's getting ready to be down for the night by now but instead she's screaming her face off. It's going to be a long night I think. Sigh.
Yes!! A lot of you have said things I've thought for a good while. DH constantly says he's exhausted, but sleeps completely 100% interruption free during the day Bc he works 3rds. Well, that means I handle all the night feedings, diaper changes, etc. Even on the 2 nights off DH has, I end up still taking care of DD, because, well, she gets upset, and won't calm down within a few minutes, so he gets frustrated and says he's done.....boy I wish I could hand her off and say 'here, I'm done, I'm going to bed' :-L
I keep reading about people's SOs Helping during the evening, even if to only go get the LO or change a diaper. My SO doesn't get up at all. Hasn't ever and doubt he will. LO is almost 5 weeks old and I have been getting up to feed and do diaper changes and soothe back to sleep by myself since he was born. Take the little help you can get. At least your getting help.
I keep reading about people's SOs Helping during the evening, even if to only go get the LO or change a diaper. My SO doesn't get up at all. Hasn't ever and doubt he will. LO is almost 5 weeks old and I have been getting up to feed and do diaper changes and soothe back to sleep by myself since he was born. Take the little help you can get. At least your getting help.
I keep reading about people's SOs Helping during the evening, even if to only go get the LO or change a diaper. My SO doesn't get up at all. Hasn't ever and doubt he will. LO is almost 5 weeks old and I have been getting up to feed and do diaper changes and soothe back to sleep by myself since he was born. Take the little help you can get. At least your getting help.
Same. Mine doesn't even wake up unless LO is screaming ACTUAL bloody murder. Even then he just groans and rolls over. I'm back at work too buddy!!
I'm up feeding for the first time at 2:00. My LO went down at 9:00...thank you baby!
I might add he screamed before falling asleep, but I think that 5 hour stretch just made it worth it. I hope this bragging doesn't jinx it. Usually we're up every 2-3 hours.
Seriously my LO is 4.5 weeks and is up every hour...what am I doing wrong?!? I swaddle, use white noise, she doesn't take a long nap before bed... What the heck!!! First stretch is only 2.5 hours then 1 hour after all night.. I thought it was going to gradually get longer but nothing is changing !! I am so tired!!!
LO just went 7 hours in between feeds...so glorious. I probably would've let her go longer if I didn't have a giant rock for a left boob.
ETA: welp, then she ate so much she puked and I put her back down wide awake and she started whining like "hey wait a second I want to play" while I pumped 10 oz out of my rocks. She must feel bright eyed and bushy tailed after 6 hours of sleep..
TTC: 1/2014
BFP: 9/24
EDD: 6/8/2015
Sorry for the poor man's siggy...ticker won't load regardless of how many tips I read.
My LO kept playing hide and go sleep with me. He woke up needing a change, so I change him and bring him back to bed and pop his paci in his mouth while I build my pillow fort to feed him. Pillow fort is constructed, and LO is out asleep. OK. Put LO into pack n play. Deconstruct pillow fort. Lay down. Fall asleep. Wake up 10 min later to LO fussing. Pop paci back in. LO goes back to sleep. And wakes up 5 min later. Screw it. Rebuild pillow fort. Stick baby on boob. Bump.
Seriously my LO is 4.5 weeks and is up every hour...what am I doing wrong?!? I swaddle, use white noise, she doesn't take a long nap before bed... What the heck!!! First stretch is only 2.5 hours then 1 hour after all night.. I thought it was going to gradually get longer but nothing is changing !! I am so tired!!!
This is me, too. Except add in the fact that for the past 4 days any time he is not nursing, he is screaming inconsolably. I feel like I'm completely failing at being a mom
Seriously my LO is 4.5 weeks and is up every hour...what am I doing wrong?!? I swaddle, use white noise, she doesn't take a long nap before bed... What the heck!!! First stretch is only 2.5 hours then 1 hour after all night.. I thought it was going to gradually get longer but nothing is changing !! I am so tired!!!
This is me, too. Except add in the fact that for the past 4 days any time he is not nursing, he is screaming inconsolably. I feel like I'm completely failing at being a mom
You're not failing, silly! Babies be babies!! My LO has been up every hour some nights, nursed for hours on end, cried for hours, and giggled in between. Babies have no schedule, no predictability, no reason or logic. And all the experts say it takes THREE MONTHS before any normalcy arrives. So just give all the cuddles, all the love (to yourself as well), and remember this, too, shall pass. Big hugs, it gets better!!
My LO has been having a really rough week, I think with gas. He's also decided sleeping 3-3.5 hours between feedings is unnecessary and wants to eat everybody 1.5-2 hours instead. Poor babes & poor mama.
@charliepepper this has been us as well, I would say that since last Thursday if he's not asleep or nursing he's fussing 50% of the time, screaming and crying 35% of the time and only 15% of the time himself. I was feeling very helpless not knowing how to help him, knowing he was clearly in some type of pain. Gripe water didn't cut it, but Ovol is helping I think. It's not a quick fix but it makes a difference. We're also starting probiotics, check out Bio Gaia. Last night was the first time that he was happy and content again, I cried because it was such a relief. You aren't alone. A baby's digestion isn't running smoothly from the time it's born, it has to work out all the kinks. Sometimes I think our job after everything we have tried to sooth them has failed, is just continuing to hold, cuddle and do out best to console them with our touch and words. Although we can't take away the pain, their receiving the message that they have attentive parents and that their still getting all the love they always get even when things are really tough, mama's not going anywhere.
LO slept for 7 hours straight. Totally makes up for the fact that he screamed for an hour before bedtime. Poor guy gets such gas pains- it's heartbreaking!
Guys, LO slept 9 hours last night. I woke up in a blind panic at 6:30 am when I realized it. I made her eat and play, she seems normal, no fever.
We took her to see relatives yesterday and she didn't nap at all during the day. I hope this was just catch up sleeping?
Which is to say, you can't win in motherhood. I can't even enjoy this because I'm too convinced something is wrong...
ETA she is 8+ weeks now and I read that they can start sleeping through the night soon, so maybe we are headed there? But previously the record was 6 hours so this was a big jump.
I feel incredibly blessed with this LO, especially compared to DD when she was a baby. For the first few weeks she would eat at 11 and again between 2-3 and again at 6. Now she's asleep by 10 pm and sleeps till 6. Even when she wakes at 6 she doesn't want to eat she just wants to fart. When DD was a baby she didn't STTN till she was 10 months old.
In some ways LO is easier at night than during the day. During the day he eats every 2 hours and because he's so greedy he tends to get gas and can get quite fussy. Whereas at night he's sleepier so I think he eats more slowly and doesn't get as much gas and has been giving me a 4-4.5 hour stretch of sleep. I really hope he keeps this up. DH works really long hours so he doesn't get up to help at night.
My mum has been staying with us for the past few weeks and she's been brilliant. LO won't stay in his bassinet after 7am even if he's still sleepy so she takes him for a cuddle and a nap in her arms every morning, leaving me to sleep or eat and shower. Also she sets up the nursery for me at night - water next to my chair, spare burp cloths and onesies at hand -and when I'm feeding in the morning she'll bring me a cup of tea which is awesome. She leaves on Wednesday so I must train DH to do the same.
She's been amazing, I'm going to miss her so much when she goes home - we live in Australia and she lives in Ireland so I won't see her again until December. DH and Ibhave gotten her a pearl and diamond pendant (her and LOs birthstones) as a thank you, going to give it to her before she goes.
@aliciaspinnet right there with you on loving mom's help! I've been staying with my parents for a few days and my mom hears when LO wakes up in the middle of the night, comes over, waits for me to be done feeding baby then takes her and I go back to sleep. She'll burp the baby and put her down. I may never leave 8->
I've also been loving my moms help this month. DH was home for two weeks after LO was born and then my mom came for 3-4 days during the week after he went back to work. This will be her fourth and final week helping us out. She lives 4 hours away so it's not the easiest drive over two mountain passes. She's always got a project going and loves to clean so it's been awesome having her help. DS also loves having his "Nina" around to play and give him attention. I feel so blessed to have her help.
Re: Nighttime sucks. That is all.
All this of to sit up and ask angrily if I need help swaddling LO once all is said and done and LO is squirming.
Stabby.
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It's the My Baby Soundspa Portable. My LO loves the stove fan during the day too.
He said the baby screamed for the entire 3 hours. He was ready to freak out and starting getting really crabby and mean to me..... Wtf dude. Your leaving me for 4 days. I get crabby too! Join the club.
Ugh I'm sorry for all your stupid DH's/partners last night. I'm convinced their genetics make them completely unaware of how terrible it is to be home with a crabby baby and then up all night when you just need a freaking rest because of said day with a crabby baby. DH physically does not move a muscle each time I get up at night. I wake up when LO stirs without even making a sound. Why is nature so cruel?!?
'... Recent research has highlighted the beneficial effects of breast feeding at night time; naturally occurring nucleotides that have been previously linked to sleepiness only reach their highest concentration in breast milk that has been expresses at night.
*** So using breast milk that has been expressed during the day may be inadvertently contributing to a sleepless night.***'
https://www.netmums.com/baby/sleep/dream-feeds-the-pros-and-cons
I feel ya 100%!!
I might add he screamed before falling asleep, but I think that 5 hour stretch just made it worth it. I hope this bragging doesn't jinx it. Usually we're up every 2-3 hours.
ETA: welp, then she ate so much she puked and I put her back down wide awake and she started whining like "hey wait a second I want to play" while I pumped 10 oz out of my rocks. She must feel bright eyed and bushy tailed after 6 hours of sleep..
@charliepepper this has been us as well, I would say that since last Thursday if he's not asleep or nursing he's fussing 50% of the time, screaming and crying 35% of the time and only 15% of the time himself. I was feeling very helpless not knowing how to help him, knowing he was clearly in some type of pain. Gripe water didn't cut it, but Ovol is helping I think. It's not a quick fix but it makes a difference. We're also starting probiotics, check out Bio Gaia. Last night was the first time that he was happy and content again, I cried because it was such a relief. You aren't alone. A baby's digestion isn't running smoothly from the time it's born, it has to work out all the kinks. Sometimes I think our job after everything we have tried to sooth them has failed, is just continuing to hold, cuddle and do out best to console them with our touch and words. Although we can't take away the pain, their receiving the message that they have attentive parents and that their still getting all the love they always get even when things are really tough, mama's not going anywhere.
We took her to see relatives yesterday and she didn't nap at all during the day. I hope this was just catch up sleeping?
Which is to say, you can't win in motherhood. I can't even enjoy this because I'm too convinced something is wrong...
ETA she is 8+ weeks now and I read that they can start sleeping through the night soon, so maybe we are headed there? But previously the record was 6 hours so this was a big jump.
My mum has been staying with us for the past few weeks and she's been brilliant. LO won't stay in his bassinet after 7am even if he's still sleepy so she takes him for a cuddle and a nap in her arms every morning, leaving me to sleep or eat and shower. Also she sets up the nursery for me at night - water next to my chair, spare burp cloths and onesies at hand -and when I'm feeding in the morning she'll bring me a cup of tea which is awesome. She leaves on Wednesday so I must train DH to do the same.
I'm so jealous