I must be blessed with a unique kid... He is breastfed and the last 3 nights he went 5 hours, 5.5 hours, then 6 last night. Followed by a 2-3 hour stretch. I'm probably jinxing myself for tonight by typing this. During the day he eats nonstop. And cluster feeds before bed.
Eta he is 5 weeks 4 days today
^^^ same for me. DH does night routine around 7pm-8pm & she eats & goes down until around 10pm-11pm & eats (may be awake for a bit until 12am) & then gives me a good 4-5 hour stretch. But during the day, it's every 2 hours & cluster feeding around lunch.
I'm pretty much EBFing now, maybe a bottle or two during the week. I'm interested to see if it changes when she takes more bottles during daycare.
Thanks for the love, ladies. Hubs got home and took pity on me, making me breakfast and while we did have stuff to do during most of the day, he did let me nap over an hour just now, so I'm going into the nighttime stretch more rested than I was.
Regarding feedings - I bf and supplement with formula. We give a 2oz bottle literally right before bed (sometimes really closely following a bf session), and get 3 hours usually of LO sleeping. After that, I bf during the night, and usually get 2, sometimes 3 hours between LO waking up again.
Even with a bottle of formula, we have NEVER had more than 3 hours of sleep at one stretch. LO is 4 weeks old
blockquote class="Quote" rel="mills-ape">My LO is EBF and usually does 3 4-hour stretches (which means I only get about 2-3 hours of sleep at a time because it takes about an hour to feed him, change him, and get him back down) from about 7pm on. He then eats every 2 hours like clock work during the day to make up for it. I'll take it though! Has only made it 5 hours once or twice and my boobs huuuurt after that. I thought my LO was eating very frequently but it sounds like there are a lot of babes eating way more often! I stick with the EASY method during the day (Eat, Awake, Sleep, You) so that he sleeps more at night.
This is mine too...although last night it was back to every two hours. Every night is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you're going to get. Lol.
@house86 With DS, he was 3-4 hours consistently by 1 month, 5-6 hours for the first night stretch at 8 weeks, and we sleep trained and at 5 months was sleeping 12 hours straight. With LO, we haven't made it past 2-3 hours and we're at 5 weeks. Obviously, it varies by kid.
Well.... LO has been sleeping 4 hours now.. So use to 2-3 hours that I was staying up till she wakes, i know that as soon as I close my eyes now she will wake up lol
@mellymar I was having a really rough day the other day and ended up in tears while baby was nursing. A few dripped on him and I felt even worse. "I cried on my baby!" But he didn't seem to notice.
First night in the crib. Let's see how this goes. Will report back at a later feeding time.... Why is this making me so emotional? It's right down the hall!!!
LO didn't go down until 10 and ate right up to then. And then we're up at 12:15. Yay. I wish I could be optimistic about the rest of the night, but the first sleep is always the longest.
He's been screaming for the past 3 hrs. Inconsolable unless using boob as pacifier. Extra unfortunate since hubs told me he would do all the soothing so I could just nurse and pass him off--only lasted an hr with the screaming. Now DH is asleep and I'm holding a screaming baby.
LO slept from 920 till 1210 so not even 3 hrs plus the whole time she was grunting like a dinosaur....so no sleep for me and now she has been up every hour
Lo woke up at 2am screaming and grunting. After an hours worth of leg to chest pushes she finlly pooped. Now just finished feeding her and then we gotta wait the damn 30 minutes. These 30 mins are the worst. I just want to go to bed!! But if we don't she spits up like right away
Every. Two. Hours. Tomorrow I'm pumping and making DH take one of the feedings. I don't know how to get this kid to eat enough to stay asleep. What makes me mad is that she'll sleep 3-4 hours during the day. ~X(
She's been whining since she ate 5 hours ago. I tried to feed her two hours in and she wouldn't eat. So I moved her to the Rock n play incase it was reflux. Still sleep-whining. Ugh. At least she's eating now.
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After seeing some of the short sleep stretches, I feel bad for worrying that my 10 week old twins sleep too much at night? Typically one twin sleeps 5-6ht stretches and the other twin (the bigger twin) sleeps 8-9 hours. I only get up once, usually atound 4-5am to feed the smaller twin. Are these long stretches normal? I guess we're almost at the 3 month mark, and they gain weight like crazy so pedi doesn't seem concerned. Maybe I just have good babies??
Sorry to those who only get 2-3hrs. We were there (With two babies!) and I promise it gets better!
Every two hours as well- she eats for like 5 minutes on just one side then falls asleep. Up 2 hours later. Wish she'd tank up and sleep longer like during the day.
Last night after LO woke up and started squirming and fussing to the point of needing to be re-swaddled and soothed back to near sleep 45 minutes after putting him down for the night, I totally burst into tears because despite my nap I was still really tired and here was an hour of my maximum 3 hour window gone already and who knows how long it would be before he quieted and that was more of my window gone and damnit anytime DH swaddles the kid squirms his way loose and I have to fix it while DH is just laying right there slumbering away, the asshole. So, yeah, I cried. And DH wakes up and is like 'what the hell is going on?' And I'm telling him his swaddle broke down and now we have to re-wrap him and then he will need to be soothed and I had just fallen asleep and now I won't get to sleep at all during this 3 hour window and the windows get shorter every time and wahhh!
He took the kid and told me to take the night off. While I cried it out on my pillow he re-swaddled, and soothed LO. He did end up co sleeping with LO, which I did not approve of cause it sets my not sleeping in the bed training back, but LO slept for almost 5 hours! FIVE HOURS! When he woke up hungry DH changed him and instead of giving him boobs like I usually do for overnight feeds I had DH give him a bottle (he had been too sleepy for his before bed bottle anyway, so he was due to have one). So while I was awake at that time, I didn't have to sit up and deal with nursing in bed. Also a bottle goes quicker than a nursing session does, so when LO was done DH burped and soothed and I rinsed the bottle and went back to sleep after. And that feeding was the only one all night! LO does sleep better when co-sleeping, which really sucks cause it freaks me out so much
Altogether I have had just over 6 hours sleep! Huzzah! And now DH is passed out from all his 'work' overnight while I nurse. Bless the guy for taking one for the team last night... But he has no idea what an easy night he got. I'm still super grateful for it, tho
I ask DH to get up for one feeding this morning at 5 am. He does- comes back to bed at 615. It is now 1015 and he is still sleeping. What the actually eff? I want to hurl something at him right now.
@katyertl we're going through exactly the same thing! Our babe is 5 weeks on Sunday and for roughly a week now he's fussy, crying and screaming, from late afternoon until he goes to bed. He's only happy when he's asleep or feeding, but wakes up or pulls off the boob and returns instantly to upset. He's growing lots so it's likely a combination of a growth spurt but I'm also thinking gas. His little tummy gets so bloated. Gripe water wasn't cutting it, this morning I tried Ovol since he was fussy throughout the night and still this morning. We also are going to start a probiotic called Bio Gaia that lots of other moms have recommended, it's safe and can only potentially make things better. It's so exhausting, mentally and physically, and absolutely heartbreaking
First night in the crib. Let's see how this goes. Will report back at a later feeding time.... Why is this making me so emotional? It's right down the hall!!!
** so apparently I was so tired last night I typed this on my phone & didn't post... So it sat here as a draft. She did well - I on the other hand was anxious laying there listening to the monitor for 30 min before I could fall asleep. I think the key for us was a tight swaddle & an extra feed at 11 to top her off to pass out.
I ask DH to get up for one feeding this morning at 5 am. He does- comes back to bed at 615. It is now 1015 and he is still sleeping. What the actually eff? I want to hurl something at him right now.
Nighttime still sucks. That is all.
Yeah what IS that with DH's thinking a single shift is a legitimate thing? I crossposted this in the rants and raves thread but DH took the 3 am shift and meanwhile I had the 7 am and 10 am as I stared at him sleeping, hoping he'd somehow feel my annoyance and wake up.
I made a pedicure appt for 1 pm and at 12:45 woke him up, handed him a cranky baby and was like "I'm headed out". Downside is that now I feel like a mean terrible wife. I am not sure any of our spousal interactions this week have been anything but passive aggressive. Sigh. I'm just tired of this whole vicious cycle.
Well to make u ladies feel a bit better DH doesn't help at all unless it's the weekend so I stare at him all night every night thinking of what I would like to do to him
My husband doesn't help out with night feedings either unless it's the 10:00 one. He's in charge of DS. Putting him to bed and if he wakes up in the middle of the night. Yes there are times I wish he could/would feed her, but I've just taken ownership of that time. It's all a choice and I choose not to have a grumpy husband who swears he doesn't get any sleep. Well he says that anyway many times and I just give him the side eye.
That's exactly what I do when my hubs says he's exhausted ...like whaaaa ?!?!!!?
Does he then say "you can sleep all day" when you remind him that he got at least twice as much sleep as you did? Mine used to. And then one day last week while he was at work, LO decided she didn't want to nap for 5 hours straight, and just screamed instead, and I called him hysterical and moments from losing my mind. He feels bad about it now... I never sleep during the day. The rare 20 minutes I gave to myself is usually spent either cramming food down my throat or doing laundry.
I have one good twin and one " not so good" twin. Naomi will sleep so peacefully and happily swaddled in the crib and Julian grunts like a motherfucker and then starts whining this terrible half cry starting at around 4 am becuase he wants to get up. They are doing 3-4 hour stretches so I guess It's okay but I can't keep starting my days at 4 am I'm hoping the grunting stops soon
That's exactly what I do when my hubs says he's exhausted ...like whaaaa ?!?!!!?
Does he then say "you can sleep all day" when you remind him that he got at least twice as much sleep as you did? Mine used to. And then one day last week while he was at work, LO decided she didn't want to nap for 5 hours straight, and just screamed instead, and I called him hysterical and moments from losing my mind. He feels bad about it now... I never sleep during the day. The rare 20 minutes I gave to myself is usually spent either cramming food down my throat or doing laundry.
Yes! He always says "you can nap" I'm like r u effing kidding me? I don't even have time to go to the bathroom during the day! Ugh men !!
I have one good twin and one " not so good" twin. Naomi will sleep so peacefully and happily swaddled in the crib and Julian grunts like a motherfucker and then starts whining this terrible half cry starting at around 4 am becuase he wants to get up. They are doing 3-4 hour stretches so I guess It's okay but I can't keep starting my days at 4 am I'm hoping the grunting stops soon
I wish mine started grunting at 4 am ..mine does it allll night long it drives me crazy
No joke. They have some set. I was like wow in the last four weeks I've asked you to get up twice. Thanks for sleeping for an additional four hours on top of the first five/six hour stretch. I haven't slept more than three hours at a clip in over a month.
&& if I hear "sleep when the baby sleeps" one more time while he's at work I might cut him. I guess I shouldn't eat, shower, do laundry, cook dinner or anything else.
I think it's not worth asking for help on the night feedings since clearly I've wasted a lot of energy being angry about this.
&&&&& now....nighttime is upon us. lo is on the boob the third time this hour....
I think I would be nervous witth earplugs :-?? But I am thinking in a few weeks switching her to her own room with the monitor she's only 4 weeks so maybe by 7 or 8 weeks. Who would have thought babies could be so strangely loud
Guys...on a whim I ordered a $20 white noise machine on amazon last week...game changer. We're coming off a 4 hour block of sleep where even I got to sleep 3+ hours bc I couldn't hear the grunting or DH snoring. Worth. Every. Penny.
I deal with LO's 3-4 hour witching hours. In that time, DH makes dinner. And leaves the kitchen for me to clean. I go to bed two hours before him because LO won't sleep unless I'm in there.
He changes one diaper at midnight then wakes up at 7:30, can't understand why I'm annoyed or exhausted. And every. morning. In a very defensive tone, he says, "Well, I changed him when I came to bed!" Ok, dude. There have been 4 more feedings and six more diapers since then. MEN!!
I use max lite green ear plugs. They are soft enough that I can hear her whining but it blocks out most of the grunting. I was super nervous at first but she grunts all morning long so I had to do it.
Of course I woke up 35 min before she did to eat..and then laid in bed contemplating getting something to drink but not wanting to make noise. And then she went back to only eating on one side and being too sleepy to take the other. Maybe sleeping through the night is upon us? God I hope so...
TTC: 1/2014
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Re: Nighttime sucks. That is all.
I'm pretty much EBFing now, maybe a bottle or two during the week. I'm interested to see if it changes when she takes more bottles during daycare.
Regarding feedings - I bf and supplement with formula. We give a 2oz bottle literally right before bed (sometimes really closely following a bf session), and get 3 hours usually of LO sleeping. After that, I bf during the night, and usually get 2, sometimes 3 hours between LO waking up again.
Even with a bottle of formula, we have NEVER had more than 3 hours of sleep at one stretch. LO is 4 weeks old
This is mine too...although last night it was back to every two hours. Every night is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you're going to get. Lol.
ETA: not sure what happened with the quote box...
Why is this making me so emotional? It's right down the hall!!!
So just a regular night.
Sorry to those who only get 2-3hrs. We were there (With two babies!) and I promise it gets better!
So why do I feel so crappy with all that sleep?
He took the kid and told me to take the night off. While I cried it out on my pillow he re-swaddled, and soothed LO. He did end up co sleeping with LO, which I did not approve of cause it sets my not sleeping in the bed training back, but LO slept for almost 5 hours! FIVE HOURS! When he woke up hungry DH changed him and instead of giving him boobs like I usually do for overnight feeds I had DH give him a bottle (he had been too sleepy for his before bed bottle anyway, so he was due to have one). So while I was awake at that time, I didn't have to sit up and deal with nursing in bed. Also a bottle goes quicker than a nursing session does, so when LO was done DH burped and soothed and I rinsed the bottle and went back to sleep after. And that feeding was the only one all night! LO does sleep better when co-sleeping, which really sucks cause it freaks me out so much
Altogether I have had just over 6 hours sleep! Huzzah! And now DH is passed out from all his 'work' overnight while I nurse. Bless the guy for taking one for the team last night... But he has no idea what an easy night he got. I'm still super grateful for it, tho
Edited cause my phone sucks
Nighttime still sucks. That is all.
Why is this making me so emotional? It's right down the hall!!!
** so apparently I was so tired last night I typed this on my phone & didn't post... So it sat here as a draft. She did well - I on the other hand was anxious laying there listening to the monitor for 30 min before I could fall asleep. I think the key for us was a tight swaddle & an extra feed at 11 to top her off to pass out.
I made a pedicure appt for 1 pm and at 12:45 woke him up, handed him a cranky baby and was like "I'm headed out". Downside is that now I feel like a mean terrible wife. I am not sure any of our spousal interactions this week have been anything but passive aggressive. Sigh. I'm just tired of this whole vicious cycle.
Eta: gif issues
No joke. They have some set. I was like wow in the last four weeks I've asked you to get up twice. Thanks for sleeping for an additional four hours on top of the first five/six hour stretch. I haven't slept more than three hours at a clip in over a month.
&& if I hear "sleep when the baby sleeps" one more time while he's at work I might cut him. I guess I shouldn't eat, shower, do laundry, cook dinner or anything else.
I think it's not worth asking for help on the night feedings since clearly I've wasted a lot of energy being angry about this.
&&&&& now....nighttime is upon us. lo is on the boob the third time this hour....
May the odds be ever in your favor.
He changes one diaper at midnight then wakes up at 7:30, can't understand why I'm annoyed or exhausted. And every. morning. In a very defensive tone, he says, "Well, I changed him when I came to bed!" Ok, dude. There have been 4 more feedings and six more diapers since then. MEN!!
Of course I woke up 35 min before she did to eat..and then laid in bed contemplating getting something to drink but not wanting to make noise. And then she went back to only eating on one side and being too sleepy to take the other. Maybe sleeping through the night is upon us? God I hope so...