Nighttimes suck! Every night is different, sometimes the girls sleep all day and then want to party all night and then other days I can find a good rhythm and they sleep ok. Last night they were on totally separate schedules and I was feeding one after the other all night long! About a week ago yhe hubby slept right through the crying and I told him that was not happening again when we woke up (I mean his alarm went off and he stumbled into the shower as I was feeding babies) and he gave me some excuse. I think my eyes saw the back of my skull that's how hard I rolled them lol. Now he takes and baby and I take a baby and we just switch every night. I felt bad in the beginning because he worked but with a toddler and twins at home, I think I'm busier than him during the day! I think we can both survive being sleep deprived...
I hope it gets better for all of us! To be honest, I'm really scared for teething, crawling, viruses, and night terrors because those all can screw up sleep schedules. How is this going to work?! Lol
We have a friend visiting and dh has been sleeping in the other room during the work week so tonight he is sleeping with me and lo and we are gonna see how it goes. Normally she only wakes up 2-3 times at night but she has been sleeping most of today so im not sure how well this is gonna go over...
It's crazy for some reason I can only do side lying on the left.. My boobs are the same! Drives me nuts because when it's time to switch I have to get up anyway because I can't side lye on the right.. But it's great sleeping while LO nurses
Love this thread. Tonight is night 2 at home. Hoping bassinet sleeping goes better once we have fewer visitors and she can learn to nap in there vs being held all the time.
Currently listening to DH change her in other room and she's screaming away. Baby girl hates being changed!
Love this thread. Tonight is night 2 at home. Hoping bassinet sleeping goes better once we have fewer visitors and she can learn to nap in there vs being held all the time.
Currently listening to DH change her in other room and she's screaming away. Baby girl hates being changed!
My boy hated being changed until we started undressing him or making whatever wardrobe adjustments BEFORE we got to the changing table. Now he's pretty chill about changings. But if I unsnap him on the changing table? Ohhhh, hell no, he says!
Love this thread. Tonight is night 2 at home. Hoping bassinet sleeping goes better once we have fewer visitors and she can learn to nap in there vs being held all the time.
Currently listening to DH change her in other room and she's screaming away. Baby girl hates being changed!
My boy hated being changed until we started undressing him or making whatever wardrobe adjustments BEFORE we got to the changing table. Now he's pretty chill about changings. But if I unsnap him on the changing table? Ohhhh, hell no, he says!
I think my LO would prefer to lie in his own filth than be changed!
@virginiaunicorn11 exactly! DH just said "how come I have the the job she hates the most?" Sorry dude!
Also, anyone getting night sweats? I'm cold wearing long pj pants yet they're soaked and my chest is sweating. I know it's hormones but dang.
Yup, I've been soaking my bed every night. Apparently it lasts longer if you breastfeed, but I don't know how long. I guess it's a fun preview of menopause!
@virginiaunicorn11 exactly! DH just said "how come I have the the job she hates the most?" Sorry dude!
Also, anyone getting night sweats? I'm cold wearing long pj pants yet they're soaked and my chest is sweating. I know it's hormones but dang.
My man gave me the same gripe. He gets LO when we wake up in the morning, and all cuddle and take some LO pictures in bed every morning. So when DH whines about changings, I have at least one nice block of time he's had with LO that I can point to.
DH made a big show of getting up for the changings last night, which was really nice. But this morning he's "sooo tired" and being a total ass. Why do these guys think we should just handle it, but when they do a quarter of what we are doing, it's too much for them?!
Normally my DH is dreamy so I don't mean to complain, he's allowed an off day... But sheesh!
I don't live with my boyfriend, so I don't know, I'd be grateful for even ONE break. Does that make me sound like a bitter bitch? ;;) It's been hard feeling sorta resentful toward him too. I don't want to say it to him, but I feel like a single mom lots of times.
Also super frustrated because LO has been up all night the past two nights, so tonight, even though I'm super exhausted, I CAN'T SLEEP. It's 3 AM and I'm super frustrated. 5 weeks today. When does the sleep start lasting longer than 2 hours...ugh.
^^i would say living alone you def can call yourself a single mom.. As far as taking care of your LO. My DH is great and so much help and I still get overwhelmed.. So props to you!
I cannot stay awake during nighttime feedings. I find myself waking up with a baby still attached to my boob. Any advice for staying awake would be so helpful!
When I'm that tired, I do side lying and go ahead and fall asleep while LO nurses. Would that position work for you?
I did the side lying position with DS1 when he was a little older--much more comfortable. My issue now is I don't want to fall asleep. But I will do this in a few when DS2 is sleeping for longer stretches.
@virginiaunicorn11 exactly! DH just said "how come I have the the job she hates the most?" Sorry dude!
Also, anyone getting night sweats? I'm cold wearing long pj pants yet they're soaked and my chest is sweating. I know it's hormones but dang.
My man gave me the same gripe. He gets LO when we wake up in the morning, and all cuddle and take some LO pictures in bed every morning. So when DH whines about changings, I have at least one nice block of time he's had with LO that I can point to.
DH made a big show of getting up for the changings last night, which was really nice. But this morning he's "sooo tired" and being a total ass. Why do these guys think we should just handle it, but when they do a quarter of what we are doing, it's too much for them?!
Normally my DH is dreamy so I don't mean to complain, he's allowed an off day... But sheesh!
Yes--the night sweats are the worst!! It is your hormones. Remember this is really the 4th trimester. Things don't settle for awhile.
My husband sleeps through all the feedings. This is our 3rd so I knew this going in. Our first week home he had to help bc I had a csection but since nothing. It is ok-he does a lot of housework and I usually nap during the day.
DH and I are trying new approaches tonight. He already his shift at 'watch' and now it's mine. I did get 2 hours of sleep during his watch so I'm more alert now, but also better positioned should I fall asleep while holding LO (thanks to @virginiaunicorn11 and her laid back idea). Right now the m just hanging out enjoying the snuggles as LO sleeps against my tummy with the aid of the hippy, but I have to pee so soon here its time to re-wrap LO and try to place him safely in the pack n play till the next feeding time. Fingers crossed!
LO just let me sleep for 3-4 hours between feedings last night!!! Idk what happened or what changed that but I hope it continues to stay that way and continue to get longer between feedings
Night time does suck. It's past 6am and I haven't slept a wink. She slept great until 3am, but I couldn't fall asleep myself, and now she's been up since 3. I think I'm having a hard time sleeping because my husband went back to work full time yesterday so I'm getting anxious about doing nights by myself. He can't help at night at all because he works at 4am, so he's already barely getting any sleep. I think my mom is goon to come pick her up for a few hours so I can sleep a little though. I'm sad though because I know it will just happen again tonight and I can't keep relying on my mom to watch LO.
LO gives me a 3.5 hour stretch and then a 2.5 hour stretch overnight. For some reason I'm wide awake and fine during those feedings and then 6am hits and she starts whining and I feel like a 16 year old who can't get up for school (cannot keep my eyes open). Literally I'm getting 6 hours of sleep which is what I used to get, just broken up, and I'm having so much trouble at 6 am! Poor girl, mom lies in bed praying the whining will stop...
TTC: 1/2014
BFP: 9/24
EDD: 6/8/2015
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We had a rough last 2 nights... Twin growth spurts are so incredibly hard to keep up with. Just when you have both fed and you think you're in the clear, someone starts crying that they're hungry again.
I kindof lashed out on hubby the past two nights and had some baby blues breakdowns. So far today is much better. They've been peacefully sleeping for 3 hrs now which is quite the accomplishment from the past two days! PRAY FOR ME that today is better, I can't take another day/ night like that!
We had a rough last 2 nights... Twin growth spurts are so incredibly hard to keep up with. Just when you have both fed and you think you're in the clear, someone starts crying that they're hungry again.
I kindof lashed out on hubby the past two nights and had some baby blues breakdowns. So far today is much better. They've been peacefully sleeping for 3 hrs now which is quite the accomplishment from the past two days! PRAY FOR ME that today is better, I can't take another day/ night like that!
I can't imagine how hard twins must be! I hope tonight is better for you. Hang in there, you're doing great!
LO went to bed around 11, up at 12:30, 2, 5, & now again at 9. I'm so tired.
11, 1, 3, 5, 7, and 9 over here. Plus it takes LO 35-45 min to eat. We are almost 6 weeks in and I am praying for longer stretches soon!
Hang in there, ladies!
Yes she eats and then just wants to hang out! Then I have to rock her to sleep! We are 3 weeks in. I still have a ways to go to a more normal schedule :-/
I think we had 1030, 245, 445 and 700. Luckily DH covered 1030 pm. We kinda agreed he'd cover until 11 pm then he goes to bed for work. I keep praying every night she wakes for a pre-11 feed and diaper change! The 245 and 445 span sucked because there was only an hour in between them after I was done feeding. Ugh why are babies so random?
All the hubs does is in the night is change her diapers then gives to me for feeding then I basically feed her and put her back down. Not sure if that's what we should do but oh well!
Just broke the cardinal rule of not waking to feed. It had been 5 hours (4 since she fell asleep in her blaze of screaming glory which was the theme of yesterday) and I knew as soon as I got up and pumped she'd want to eat. Oh well.
TTC: 1/2014
BFP: 9/24
EDD: 6/8/2015
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So at the risk of sounding Little Miss Positive all the time (though maybe you saw my breakdown post last night), I read something that made me feel better about night time (from the Pregnant Chicken's What the Cluck newsletter, I think).
If you go to bed yourself at 10:00 or 11:00 and wake up at 7:00 am, there are basically three night feedings in between. And somehow just thinking of "three night feedings" vs. "up all night feeding" helped me turn the corner on my Groundhog Day despair.
First night at home and its e very two hours for us even though I had to wake to feed yesterday at hospital every four. He also took each side twice last time . my nips want rest!
I am falling asleep typing with lo sucking away...
Just broke the cardinal rule of not waking to feed. It had been 5 hours (4 since she fell asleep in her blaze of screaming glory which was the theme of yesterday) and I knew as soon as I got up and pumped she'd want to eat. Oh well.
I'm terrible, I've done this all too many times. I knew if I didn't my girls would scream bloody murder justttt as I got set up to pump. No harm, they fall back asleep no problem!
I can't imagine how hard twins must be! I hope tonight is better for you. Hang in there, you're doing great!
Thank you!! It's tough and very overwhelming at times, but ladies can I get an AMEN the growth spurts seems to be over and we survived! Back to sleeping in 4hr stretches!
Well I've been able to get some sleep between feedings tonight but its a mixed blessing because those breaks are due mostly to the curse of the sleepy baby. He goes to sleep well after feeding, but he also goes to sleep well during a feeding, too. There are a lot of stops and starts with him sucking for a minute then pulling off cause he s moving his head around, and once we finally get him dialed in (even tho each stop and start prior was a good latch) and he doesn't pull off in his sleep haze, he falls alseep on the boob within 2 min or less. Thus follws a feeding session punctuated by repeated attempts to stimluate baby while on the boob (tickling feet / chin / back, pumping / moving legs and arms, blowing in the face, etc). It probably takes at least 20-25 minutes to get 10 minutes worth of action out of this kid. So 10-15 minutes per breast becomes an hour long or more ordeal, what with having to spend time in between boobs to wake him up enough to go to work on the other side, and as it is, he usually only spends half the time on the 2nd boob before falling asleep so deeply its a lost cause.
So anyway, despite sleeping between feedings, I'm still up ALOT. Its fricking annoying. At least he's sleeping better off of the boob now, tho
@mellymar you're a champ for persevering! Keep up the good work, I know it's hard. Really F'ing hard. Did I already tell you that undressing my dude was what would wake him up to feed in the beginning? Ugh, just wishing I could actually help you. Hang in there!!!
@mellymar you're a champ for persevering! Keep up the good work, I know it's hard. Really F'ing hard. Did I already tell you that undressing my dude was what would wake him up to feed in the beginning? Ugh, just wishing I could actually help you. Hang in there!!!
Yeah I read that. I do start out with him unswaddled and his T-shirt loose, so I can reach various places on him to poke or prod to wake him up. I start the other side that way as well, and then usually end up taking him off after 5-6 min (or less) to reswaddle because I just need to wake him up. Might as well because otherwise he won't wake enough to suck, and I have to rewrap him before putting him 'to bed' anyway. At least if I do it right then I might wake him enough to get an additional 5 min of comfort nursing into him. [-(
So at the risk of sounding Little Miss Positive all the time (though maybe you saw my breakdown post last night), I read something that made me feel better about night time (from the Pregnant Chicken's What the Cluck newsletter, I think).
If you go to bed yourself at 10:00 or 11:00 and wake up at 7:00 am, there are basically three night feedings in between. And somehow just thinking of "three night feedings" vs. "up all night feeding" helped me turn the corner on my Groundhog Day despair.
This is so much better than my version of it... Go to bed super late and then there are only 2 night feedings lol
@mellymar for the first 3 weeks this LO would suck vigorously for 1.5 minutes and then I spent the remaining 13.5 (on each side) trying to rouse her. I'd mostly hand express into her mouth with her on the nipple which forced her to swallow which would get a few more meaningful sucks every time. She has to be totally down to her diaper and I do a full burp and diaper change and switch sides. She's been a lot better these past few days and sucks vigorously for a long time, I also let down twice so that helps. There's hope! (I even would use a wet washcloth to make her mad from time to time)
TTC: 1/2014
BFP: 9/24
EDD: 6/8/2015
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@virginiaunicorn11 I've started to think this way too. We seem to be somewhat on a 1030 pm, 130 am, 430 am and 730 am "schedule" so really only 2 "overnight". The 430 is the hardest one by far! It also doesn't help when this is the thanks I get (pic from this morning attached).
Ps she does this all the time. She's even flipping the bird in her 20 week ultrasound pic!
^that is hilarious. So cute. Like your schedule you're on.
Ours is so sporadic- we do about 4-5 feelings but I feel it's not consistent yet. Could be an hour after beg of last feeding when it feels like I slept for 2! Or could be 3 hours.
She finally slept a bit more while using the rock n play- thinking about sending DH to get the one that automatically rocks
Oooh I just figured out LO loves vibration. I thought he liked the elevation of the rock n play but its the vibrating feature. When he was fussy I put him down in the pack n play and turned on the vibrator (there's no way to not make that sound sexual!) but he loved it. So, after a quick google search I found this: https://www.walmart.com/ip/Munchkin-Lulla-Vibe-Vibrating-Mattress-Pad/23258645
We have been trying to get LO acclimated to the crib at night and this did the trick!! Im going to cross post this on two other threads. I hope it helps others.
Re: Nighttime Sucks (But it gets better!) - A support thread
I hope it gets better for all of us! To be honest, I'm really scared for teething, crawling, viruses, and night terrors because those all can screw up sleep schedules. How is this going to work?! Lol
Currently listening to DH change her in other room and she's screaming away. Baby girl hates being changed!
Also, anyone getting night sweats? I'm cold wearing long pj pants yet they're soaked and my chest is sweating. I know it's hormones but dang.
DH made a big show of getting up for the changings last night, which was really nice. But this morning he's "sooo tired" and being a total ass. Why do these guys think we should just handle it, but when they do a quarter of what we are doing, it's too much for them?!
Normally my DH is dreamy so I don't mean to complain, he's allowed an off day... But sheesh!
My husband sleeps through all the feedings. This is our 3rd so I knew this going in. Our first week home he had to help bc I had a csection but since nothing. It is ok-he does a lot of housework and I usually nap during the day.
Bleh. Practice makes perfect, I guess
I kindof lashed out on hubby the past two nights and had some baby blues breakdowns. So far today is much better. They've been peacefully sleeping for 3 hrs now which is quite the accomplishment from the past two days! PRAY FOR ME that today is better, I can't take another day/ night like that!
Hang in there, ladies!
If you go to bed yourself at 10:00 or 11:00 and wake up at 7:00 am, there are basically three night feedings in between. And somehow just thinking of "three night feedings" vs. "up all night feeding" helped me turn the corner on my Groundhog Day despair.
I am falling asleep typing with lo sucking away...
Edit;
Thank you!! It's tough and very overwhelming at times, but ladies can I get an AMEN the growth spurts seems to be over and we survived! Back to sleeping in 4hr stretches!
So anyway, despite sleeping between feedings, I'm still up ALOT. Its fricking annoying. At least he's sleeping better off of the boob now, tho
Edited, autocorrect fail
Did I already tell you that undressing my dude was what would wake him up to feed in the beginning?
Ugh, just wishing I could actually help you. Hang in there!!!
[-(
Ps she does this all the time. She's even flipping the bird in her 20 week ultrasound pic!
Ours is so sporadic- we do about 4-5 feelings but I feel it's not consistent yet. Could be an hour after beg of last feeding when it feels like I slept for 2! Or could be 3 hours.
She finally slept a bit more while using the rock n play- thinking about sending DH to get the one that automatically rocks
Oooh I just figured out LO loves vibration. I thought he liked the elevation of the rock n play but its the vibrating feature. When he was fussy I put him down in the pack n play and turned on the vibrator (there's no way to not make that sound sexual!) but he loved it. So, after a quick google search I found this: https://www.walmart.com/ip/Munchkin-Lulla-Vibe-Vibrating-Mattress-Pad/23258645
We have been trying to get LO acclimated to the crib at night and this did the trick!! Im going to cross post this on two other threads. I hope it helps others.