@btm013 my LO loves vibration too. That's why she loves the car. Doesn't love motion so she's not a fan of her mamRoo or the rocking of the rock n play. We don't have anything with vibration though so I'll have to do some research
TTC: 1/2014
BFP: 9/24
EDD: 6/8/2015
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I've decided now that he's sleeping less morning is worse. I make it through the night using the time tricks mentioned above only to realize I have to get through a whole day of interaction after it. Love it, but it is hard!!
So we avoided the horrific witching hours today by taking LO on a nice long walk in the Moby, feeding him on a bench in a park, then putting him back in the Moby. Was afraid we were only delaying the inevitable, but we came home at the end of his witching hours, changed his diaper, fed him again, and now he's asleep on my chest.
Flame free mom guilt confession: today my bond with him was affected by how stressful yesterday's witching hours were. I hate myself for being "mad" at LO, and it gave me some big baby blues today. DH is being amazing, and LO is adorable, so this will pass. Today is way better than yesterday.
DD's witching hours appear to be noon-5pm. Is it bad that I'm like "well at least if it stays this way, when I go back to work, daycare will have to deal with it?"
Can't wait until she's alert enough to play while she's awake...rather than continually screaming, eating, and pooping.
So the other night DH worked late. DS1, Spitty and I were all snuggled up sleeping peacefully. DH comes home at 3am and decided it was a good idea to move the baby into his crib (which is sidecarred next to the bed) and the LO wakes up screaming and crying. Then the toddler wakes up screaming and crying too.
OMFG! So I made him take care of the toddler in the other room and I had the baby. He didn't settle down until 5am. I know DH was super tired but I didn't care. In that moment I was in raging bitch mode. He was lucky I didn't cut him.
I've been looking forward to going back to work but if I'm going to have nights like this, I don't know how I'll ever function. Since then the toddler started waking up in the middle of the night. If my hair wasn't already shedding I'd be pulling it out by now.
We became reluctant co-sleepers as soon as we were home from the hospital. It unnerves me, and it's not comfortable, but it was the only way to get sleep. For the last two nights, we have actually gotten LO to sleep in his bassinet by using the follow techniques: bolstering him in place with rolled up blankets, tight swaddle, heartbeat sound playing constantly from the white noise app, and pacifier. I wanted to wait until a month for the pacifier, so now I have switched from anxiously googling co-sleeping to anxiously googling nipple confusion.
@KonaCoffeeBean hahaha. If I wasn't so sleep deprived he might've been in actual physical pain.
As for nipple confusion. I was worried about it to and I ended up not having any problems with pacifiers or bottles with my boys. Personally, I think it's a myth.
Jumping over from the July board because baby boy decided to show up 3.5 weeks early. Last night was our first night home and it was ROUGH. It was probably worse because he spent the last two nights at the hospital in the special care nursery with nurses who are much better than Mom and Dad at diapering and swaddling. Anyway, just found this thread and it's both made me feel better (this is normal, we're not alone) and worse (we have so many more nights like this ahead). But today's been a good day, so I know it's worth it.
LO just slept four hours, which was great. but it was 90+ degrees today and he didn't dirty his diaper in those four hours. he only nursed a little and now is back asleep. I wanted more sleep but am awake, paranoid by his diaper and lack of feeding. da*ned if you do or if you don't. this mama business is tough on the nerves!!!!
Bah! Vent: Nighttime sucks when it takes over an hour to rock a very alert LO to sleep. All I can think is this is cutting into our sleep time before her next feeding :-w
LO just slept four hours, which was great. but it was 90+ degrees today and he didn't dirty his diaper in those four hours. he only nursed a little and now is back asleep. I wanted more sleep but am awake, paranoid by his diaper and lack of feeding. da*ned if you do or if you don't. this mama business is tough on the nerves!!!!
It's normal for them to slow down and sometimes not even go in 24 hours (poop) as long as it's soft when he does go no need to worry mama (my LO went from like 8 poops a day to one.. And sometimes skip a day and has a massive blow out the next morning)
So i still have 4 weeks left of maternity leave and my dh is obsessing about a schedule for when I go back to work. Lo will be 8 weeks, am I delusional in thinking maybe we will have lo on a sleep schedule where she only wakes up once? Right now the nighttime is a little rough but it's when I pump and come on the bump. Lol
So happy and jealous for/of you mamas who have LOs sleeping more than 3+ hours. We haven't gotten there quite yet. I think we hit 3 hours last night but it was overshadowed by the following 2 hrs LO was up with gas.
Anyone else have a LO that is super gassy and ferociously tries to poop overnight/early morning? During the day she's totally fine and poops like a champ.
Last night sucked. I think my thrush is interfering with her feeding because she's a terrible eater now. I have to call my OB and her pedi today. Ugh. I'm tired.
TTC: 1/2014
BFP: 9/24
EDD: 6/8/2015
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Overnight sucked for me too. The whole bf, pump, formula schedule takes an hour,and since LO doesn't cue us for feedings anymore we have to set them so we're finishing one at 3 hours from the last. Which means its a 2 hour break in between, and it takes me a while to go back to sleep each time.... Bleh. Daytime ones are easier as I'm solar powered, but that in itself is kinda a curse, as I don't get the urge to nap at all. Dreading when DH goes back on duty, as once he does the small items I've been letting him handle (change the baby, rinse the parts, set up the pump to start) will also be handled by me, cutting my 2 hour downtime between schedules even shorter. Ugh
Overnight sucked for me too. The whole bf, pump, formula schedule takes an hour,and since LO doesn't cue us for feedings anymore we have to set them so we're finishing one at 3 hours from the last. Which means its a 2 hour break in between, and it takes me a while to go back to sleep each time.... Bleh. Daytime ones are easier as I'm solar powered, but that in itself is kinda a curse, as I don't get the urge to nap at all. Dreading when DH goes back on duty, as once he does the small items I've been letting him handle (change the baby, rinse the parts, set up the pump to start) will also be handled by me, cutting my 2 hour downtime between schedules even shorter. Ugh
We've managed to cut our hour feedings down to 40 min at night with a few adjustments.
1. I have the pump set up in one spot, and I get my pump supplies set at the end of the feeding before. I have a tub that I put the flanges, bottles, etc and I set it right next to the pump. (I have 2 sets of flanges, membranes, etc which helps to speed up getting ready between pumps).
2. Breastfeeding didn't work for me, so I EP and bottle feed now. I mentioned the other day maybe just pump at some feeds instead of BF attempt. Maybe that makes sense for overnight. I feed a baby on a Boppy next to me while I pump.
3. I fill the sink with warm soapy water, and when I'm done with the feed I rinse the pump supplies and set myself up for the next feed. Kellymom.com says you can put the supplies in the fridge between feeds if you don't want to wash them each time. (I sanitize using Medela microwave bags once a day, while I'm awake).
4. DH does change the babies and put them back to bed while I clean up, but if I did that on my own it would add 5 minutes to the end of the routine.
I used to take awhile to fall back asleep, but after a week, my head hits the pillow and I'm out like a light. Maybe that will change for you soon.
(And if this has been discussed on previous pages of this thread sorry to bring it up again)
I finally get everything ready to go to try and sleep and I am overcome with anxiety, my mind is running, my back and boobs aches, and then the thoughts of how much sleep I'm losing because I can't fall asleep.
@virginiaunicorn this was me yesterday!we had a docs appt and had to hit up the store so it was a busy day. But LO slept for most of it and barely nursed or pooped! even after a great docs appt I worried all day and then at night, he would have slept through if I let him, and making him wake up to eat was really hard. You're right-its tough on the nerves!
On a positive note: we put LO in the swing in our room and he slept SO MUCH better than in his crib. It was so great after the previous nights' cluster feeding and 1 hour of sleep.
(And if this has been discussed on previous pages of this thread sorry to bring it up again)
I finally get everything ready to go to try and sleep and I am overcome with anxiety, my mind is running, my back and boobs aches, and then the thoughts of how much sleep I'm losing because I can't fall asleep.
It's making me miserable.
Aww, lady! I'm so sorry, that's miserable. I'm usually so tired I can't help but fall asleep. In the beginning I watched shows on my iPad with headphones to distract me from trying to watch him breathe all the time. If I'm worried about something specific (like LO not peeing or pooping last night), I still do that until I can't keep my eyes open. Bump'ing keeps me anxious and awake, because I stay focused on all things baby, so I force myself to stay away when I have anxiety.
Do you think you have baby blues or PPD, or just regular anxiety? Can you talk to your partner or a friend about it?
LO finally to to the side laying position last night to BF. It was great in that, A) I was way more comfortable, I didn't have to pump and feed her by bottle then BF because she was calmer and could go on and off as she needed. I'm hoping to be able to stay awake or wake up when she's done feeding because I don't want to get her use to co-sleeping (she currently sleeps in a bassinet next to the bed). She ended up sleeping in our bed all night. I think I just finally reached exhaustion level and needed sleep no matter what.
@virginiaunicorn11 thanks for the suggestions. I was using my iPad to fall asleep before baby got here. And now we're only 6 days in and my husband knows I'm panicking and way overtired. I'm going to try and schedule a bottle feed with him so I mentally know I can get more sleep and my Dr ok-Ed me taking a Unisom to fall asleep. We'll see if that helps.
But I'm really weepy when anything doesn't go my way. I know I'm overtired. I told my DH that if I feel like it goes beyond that I would tell him. I'm fine when I'm with my LO, watching her breastfeed and cuddling with her. It's just when I'm trying to sleep and I'm not "in control" of the situation and waiting for the next feed/change/cry.
@virginiaunicorn11 thanks for the suggestions. I was using my iPad to fall asleep before baby got here. And now we're only 6 days in and my husband knows I'm panicking and way overtired. I'm going to try and schedule a bottle feed with him so I mentally know I can get more sleep and my Dr ok-Ed me taking a Unisom to fall asleep. We'll see if that helps.
But I'm really weepy when anything doesn't go my way. I know I'm overtired. I told my DH that if I feel like it goes beyond that I would tell him. I'm fine when I'm with my LO, watching her breastfeed and cuddling with her. It's just when I'm trying to sleep and I'm not "in control" of the situation and waiting for the next feed/change/cry.
The first few days for me, I heard every sound my babies made during the night and it kept me up. I was worrying about spit up, breathing, hunger, etc. Everything.
I made DH take a "night shift" between feedings, where I knew he would check on, rock, soothe the babies. (We alternated shifts). We actually slept in different rooms for 3 weeks so that when I was on shift, I was in the room with the babies, and when I was off shift, I was in my bedroom alone. I figured this plan out when we'd been home 2 nights, so the babes would have been 6 days old.
I slept WAY better when I knew he was in charge of babies. I got to where I would sleep pretty good while I was on shift, but I was still sleeping better when I knew he was.
We're now 4 weeks old, and we're all sleeping in the same room, and I'm sleeping really well between feeds.
Last week I would have bragged on my husband and his help at night time. Now I just want to punch him. I just told him "You know what's worse than a husband sleeping through diaper changes and feedings and rocking back to sleep?? Is a husband who is actually awake on his freaking phone but doesn't offer to help when you see me struggling." Grrrr
This child is such a noisy sleeper. I've been up for an hour before her because she just makes noises the whole night. While I love being in tune to her needs for right now, let me just say I cannot wait to get her into her own room when we move in a month.
TTC: 1/2014
BFP: 9/24
EDD: 6/8/2015
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DH has a tummy ache and it appears he thinks he gets a night off in the guest room. Really? Do you want a list of aches and pains I've had over the last 44ish weeks of pregnancy + PP!? None of us ladies get to press the pause button! :-w
Last week I would have bragged on my husband and his help at night time. Now I just want to punch him. I just told him "You know what's worse than a husband sleeping through diaper changes and feedings and rocking back to sleep?? Is a husband who is actually awake on his freaking phone but doesn't offer to help when you see me struggling." Grrrr
This was my whole hospital experience. Boh of these. Ughh
This child is such a noisy sleeper. I've been up for an hour before her because she just makes noises the whole night. While I love being in tune to her needs for right now, let me just say I cannot wait to get her into her own room when we move in a month.
We have a one bedroom duplex for the next few months still and LO has been sleeping in the living room for this exact reason. Her grunts I can still hear but not loud enough where it keeps me up and I end up waking up still just in time before she starts full blown cryibg
Not a very restful evening. DD woke up late for her feeding and was famished. Had to pump and feed first and now we're BF. Now I'm hungry. Donuts sound good. Mmmm....donuts!!!!
A helpful tip for night feedings. Using a red lightbulb instead of a white or clear one will give you enough vision to do what you need to do to feed, while still keeping the tone for sleep after you're done.
DD slept from 10:30-2:30 and then 3:15-6:00 last night. I am so happy she's gaining well and we have the all clear to not wake her to feed anymore. Even though I had to add a brief pump after each feed (she will only take one Boob so when she goes that long I have to pump the non-feeding Boob about 5 min to get comfortable again), so the feeding cycle for me is about an hour, these stretches of sleep are amazing enough that they almost make up for the Afternoon Screamy Time from noon to 6 every day (when she'll sleep for maybe a combined broken 90 minutes -2 hours).
My mom was kind enough to watch the baby for the night for me. I went to bed around 11 and slept until 6 this morning...I knocked out and didn't wake up once. Luckily the baby slept all night too (except to feed at 3 am) so I didn't feel that bad that my mom watched her for me because she was able to sleep too. I'm so glad we decided to stay at my parents for a little while longer, it's nice to have the extra help. I feel like a new person after having 7 hours of uninterrupted sleep and it was amazing to actually sleep in my bed. Now back to reality @-)
I was so happy when my husband said he would do all of the night feedings last night so I could get some rest. Well he did one, & ended up waking me up because LO wouldn't go to sleep & now guess who's up at the next feeding. Yupp, me! I guess I'll just stay exhausted.
Dear Diary, the last two night LO has done two four hour stretches! Which means only two feedings at 2 and 6! Please lord let this continue - although I'm under no illusions.
DH and I had a "cranky-off" last night though. He had to work late, which I had mentally prepared for. But 6 pm turned into 9 pm. And then when he got home he had to continue to work. I put LO down at 9 and went to bed around 10. LO wakes up at 2 am and I decide to let DH get her since I had done every session for 28 hours at that point. It takes him over an hour to get her back down (I'm quicker since I do it more often now but I decide not to micromanage even though I want to since she's been screaming for 45 minutes at that point). At 3:15 he comes to bed, I say thank you and "love you". He says, "If you loved me you would have let me go to sleep after finishing work at 1:30 am". Dude, we both had rough days. And obviously I'd then take the following two shifts at 6 am and 10 am to let you sleep in. Don't be pissy. (PS yep LO woke up at 6 am and here I am, still up at 8 am!)
Ugh so hubby said he would feed her the next feeding after 8. Well she slept until 11 then woke to feed. He had a hard time getting the dr brown bottle put together while she was screaming in his arms then she wanted more after her 2oz so he had difficulty getting that extra ready then she was just fussy and wouldn't sleep after. Well he wakes me up asking if I can take her because he's falling asleep. Mind you this is after he INSISTS he take the next feeding after 8 to let me sleep. Ugh so annoyed. I'm with her all day what do you think I do?! Deal with it dude! He was upset she wouldn't fall back to asleep right away. Well try to calm her down then.
My hubby was pretty well useless last night... I've been cutting him a break on work days and letting him sometimes sleep in the guest room while I handle the girls. Usually it's fine. Well he doesn't work today so he stayed in the room with us, and didn't lift a finger. Now, I'm sitting here pumping while one baby is spastic in her bassinet and what does he do? Goes out to sleep in the living room! Seriously dude?? I didn't wake you once for help, I was the one awake all night and you think you get to go sleep on the couch?? Once I'm done with pumping he has another thing coming
Edit: he just came in and took the crying baby. He must have felt the daggers coming out all the way in the living room
Re: Nighttime Sucks (But it gets better!) - A support thread
Flame free mom guilt confession: today my bond with him was affected by how stressful yesterday's witching hours were. I hate myself for being "mad" at LO, and it gave me some big baby blues today. DH is being amazing, and LO is adorable, so this will pass. Today is way better than yesterday.
Can't wait until she's alert enough to play while she's awake...rather than continually screaming, eating, and pooping.
OMFG! So I made him take care of the toddler in the other room and I had the baby. He didn't settle down until 5am. I know DH was super tired but I didn't care. In that moment I was in raging bitch mode. He was lucky I didn't cut him.
I've been looking forward to going back to work but if I'm going to have nights like this, I don't know how I'll ever function. Since then the toddler started waking up in the middle of the night. If my hair wasn't already shedding I'd be pulling it out by now.
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2nd round exp 8/20/18.
2nd round exp 8/20/18.
As for nipple confusion. I was worried about it to and I ended up not having any problems with pacifiers or bottles with my boys. Personally, I think it's a myth.
I wanted more sleep but am awake, paranoid by his diaper and lack of feeding. da*ned if you do or if you don't. this mama business is tough on the nerves!!!!
Long days = selfish mommy!
Anyone else have a LO that is super gassy and ferociously tries to poop overnight/early morning? During the day she's totally fine and poops like a champ.
1. I have the pump set up in one spot, and I get my pump supplies set at the end of the feeding before. I have a tub that I put the flanges, bottles, etc and I set it right next to the pump. (I have 2 sets of flanges, membranes, etc which helps to speed up getting ready between pumps).
2. Breastfeeding didn't work for me, so I EP and bottle feed now. I mentioned the other day maybe just pump at some feeds instead of BF attempt. Maybe that makes sense for overnight. I feed a baby on a Boppy next to me while I pump.
3. I fill the sink with warm soapy water, and when I'm done with the feed I rinse the pump supplies and set myself up for the next feed. Kellymom.com says you can put the supplies in the fridge between feeds if you don't want to wash them each time. (I sanitize using Medela microwave bags once a day, while I'm awake).
4. DH does change the babies and put them back to bed while I clean up, but if I did that on my own it would add 5 minutes to the end of the routine.
I used to take awhile to fall back asleep, but after a week, my head hits the pillow and I'm out like a light. Maybe that will change for you soon.
Good luck! Hang in there!!!
(And if this has been discussed on previous pages of this thread sorry to bring it up again)
I finally get everything ready to go to try and sleep and I am overcome with anxiety, my mind is running, my back and boobs aches, and then the thoughts of how much sleep I'm losing because I can't fall asleep.
It's making me miserable.
Do you think you have baby blues or PPD, or just regular anxiety? Can you talk to your partner or a friend about it?
But I'm really weepy when anything doesn't go my way. I know I'm overtired. I told my DH that if I feel like it goes beyond that I would tell him. I'm fine when I'm with my LO, watching her breastfeed and cuddling with her. It's just when I'm trying to sleep and I'm not "in control" of the situation and waiting for the next feed/change/cry.
I made DH take a "night shift" between feedings, where I knew he would check on, rock, soothe the babies. (We alternated shifts). We actually slept in different rooms for 3 weeks so that when I was on shift, I was in the room with the babies, and when I was off shift, I was in my bedroom alone. I figured this plan out when we'd been home 2 nights, so the babes would have been 6 days old.
I slept WAY better when I knew he was in charge of babies. I got to where I would sleep pretty good while I was on shift, but I was still sleeping better when I knew he was.
We're now 4 weeks old, and we're all sleeping in the same room, and I'm sleeping really well between feeds.
That's what worked for us. Hang in there!
A helpful tip for night feedings. Using a red lightbulb instead of a white or clear one will give you enough vision to do what you need to do to feed, while still keeping the tone for sleep after you're done.
DH and I had a "cranky-off" last night though. He had to work late, which I had mentally prepared for. But 6 pm turned into 9 pm. And then when he got home he had to continue to work. I put LO down at 9 and went to bed around 10. LO wakes up at 2 am and I decide to let DH get her since I had done every session for 28 hours at that point. It takes him over an hour to get her back down (I'm quicker since I do it more often now but I decide not to micromanage even though I want to since she's been screaming for 45 minutes at that point). At 3:15 he comes to bed, I say thank you and "love you". He says, "If you loved me you would have let me go to sleep after finishing work at 1:30 am". Dude, we both had rough days. And obviously I'd then take the following two shifts at 6 am and 10 am to let you sleep in. Don't be pissy. (PS yep LO woke up at 6 am and here I am, still up at 8 am!)
Edit: he just came in and took the crying baby. He must have felt the daggers coming out all the way in the living room