I'm going to preface this by saying that I've been going back and forth about the epidural thing this whole pregnancy, and I'll probably continue to do so up until baby comes. But after this conversation with my husband, this morning I am bound and determined to try to go without one!
Last night at our prenatal class, the nurse was talking to us about epidurals and what's involved with them. DH leans over and whispers to me, "You'll be getting one of those. You're too fragile and delicate not to have one!" EXCUSE ME?! He realized pretty fast that this wasn't an ok thing to say and quickly added, "and beautiful!" But oh man. All I could do at the time was give him the dirtiest look I could and hiss, "Don't call me fragile and delicate!"
After the class he kept insisting that I'm fragile and delicate (men.are.so.stupid!!!!) and I'm now more determined than ever not to get one, only because I want to prove my lovely husband wrong. I still can't believe he thought that saying that was a good idea...
That is so something I would do! Haha!
DH and I have a bet going on for $500 that I will go down a zip line at Sundance Resort. He doesn't think I will do it because ill be scared...Hell! I'm pretty sure that Robert Redford has it pretty safe considering there's a lot to lose if I die. Can't wait to have $500 extra spending money on a new post pregnancy wardrobe!
@Sammy K I bring up that I like to be told I look nice when I dress up and my DH always says," I did say you looked beautiful" ummmmm I didn't hear you...... Maybe they say it in their head and think it comes out of their mouth?
We have a strict rule that DH cat calls when I'm naked - it sounds like "woo woo woo!". If he forgets, I say, "HellOOOO! I need to be wooed please!" Yeah, maybe it's forced, but 10 years later, it still keeps us going, what can I say.
We need a rule for when I'm clothed, though. He's terrible at that.
Yeah when I actually dress up for work or whatnot DH literally never notices, or at least doesn't say anything. He only notices when I dress like a bum ("So you're going to wear that cat sweatshirt to the grocery store, eh?"). What's that about? I think positive encouragement would make me dress better more
I am having some work drama over insurance and whatnot, and have come home crying every day this week. DH had to give up a dream job to follow me to Germany this year, so my work drama is a real sore point for him.
He has just comforted me and been wonderful all week. But tonight he said it is time to stop working and take maternity leave. All this crying is a sign I'm pushing myself too hard, and I need to chill and get ready for labor.
At first I was mad, but he's so right. I have a few more days I do have to go in, but on Monday I'm going to work out a revised schedule.
@Sammy K I bring up that I like to be told I look nice when I dress up and my DH always says," I did say you looked beautiful" ummmmm I didn't hear you...... Maybe they say it in their head and think it comes out of their mouth?
We have a strict rule that DH cat calls when I'm naked - it sounds like "woo woo woo!". If he forgets, I say, "HellOOOO! I need to be wooed please!" Yeah, maybe it's forced, but 10 years later, it still keeps us going, what can I say.
We need a rule for when I'm clothed, though. He's terrible at that.
I love this! DH says I'm naked all the time ao the novelty is wearing off, but he usually still yells "boobies!"
I am having some work drama over insurance and whatnot, and have come home crying every day this week. DH had to give up a dream job to follow me to Germany this year, so my work drama is a real sore point for him.
He has just comforted me and been wonderful all week. But tonight he said it is time to stop working and take maternity leave. All this crying is a sign I'm pushing myself too hard, and I need to chill and get ready for labor.
At first I was mad, but he's so right. I have a few more days I do have to go in, but on Monday I'm going to work out a revised schedule.
This guy. He's a keeper.
Yeah my husband keeps saying I need to take days off - and it's vacillating between sweet and annoying (like a broken record!)
But on another note, we have an event tomorrow and I wanted to buy something to wear but he insists on me wearing something I already have. When I said "nothing fits. you don't understand you're not pregnant" he replied with "I'm pregnant with emotion!"
Generally my husband is great, but I do have a rant that I want to get off my chest.
I'm due June 5th. DH had originally booked the whole month off, which is awesome, but it turned out that he was only able to get 3 weeks, starting from my due date. I'm fine with that, I suspect that I'll go late anyway - my mum did with all 5 of her kids. Besides DH works at the local hospital which is only 5 minutes away from us. But I think DH is a bit nervous about me being home alone for that last week.
We live in Australia and our parents live in Ireland. DHs sister also lives in Australia but about 1400km away from us. My FIL and his partner are coming out here for the month of June and will be splitting their time between us and SIL. It's still hasn't been definitively decided how FIL will split his time.
So last week DH started talking about how FIL should come to us from the start of the month so that there's someone there with me just in case. I tried to explain that it made more sense for him to come to us at the end of the month in case I go late so that he's guaranteed that the baby will be here. DH dropped it at the time, but yesterday he started going on about it again. I really think I have a genuine point here, but I don't think he's listening to me at all.
What annoyed me even more is that he started worrying about how he's going to keep them entertained when they're here. Maybe it's a bit selfish of me but one of the reasons why I don't want them coming up here before my due date is because I don't want to have to host them at 9 months pregnant. I get on fine with my FIL but we're not particularly close (we're both quite shy and introverted so it's a bit awkward when it's just the two of us) and I've only met his partner once so whilst she seems very nice, she's essentially a stranger to me. DH works over 12 hours a day, so if they come up before my due date then I have to host them on my own. When I tried to tell DH that last week he completely dismissed my concerns, but when it affects him suddenly it's an issue.
But on another note, we have an event tomorrow and I wanted to buy something to wear but he insists on me wearing something I already have. When I said "nothing fits. you don't understand you're not pregnant" he replied with "I'm pregnant with emotion!"
My husband, ladies. :-??
reading what your husband responded with made me think of the phonebooth scene from anchorman.
DH has been a worrywart over me this whole pregnancy. Annoying sometimes, but overall, cute. He's been pretty witty lately.
DH: Okay, you really need to go upstairs with your dinner, take a bath, and take care of yourself. *pause, then side-eye* Not THAT kind of take care of yourself... B-)
We're sitting here hanging out on the couch and listening to music. My Big Man cat was trying to get all up in my space, meowing and trying to walk on the bump - which is not a problem with Samurai cause he is like 8 pounds. Big Man is 12+, so when he puts his weight on one foot it creates a serious pressure point. Anyway, so I tell DH to give Big Man some cookies from the kitty treat jar. To draw him away from wanting to step on the bump, ya know? So the cat moves toward DH, and DH goes and lays two treats out on the bump shelf of my stomach. Seriously? I'm not sure if this is a rant or a rave.
@mellymar my big man cat does the same thing it's just too much to have him on the bump. But my little Mew I can still tolerate.
I'm going to rave, I've ranted before but I have found DH to be more attentive and worried lately and asking what he can do to make things better if I am uncomfortable or in pain. It's very endearing!
Rant. DH came home after dinner and told me he probably won't help me finish the nursery this weekend because he is on call and we're expecting storms. He's a journeyman/lineman. Okay, so you get to relax and nap and I'm supposed to finish it all myself? Because I don't need to relax after a full week of work? And this whole convo took place with him laying on the couch with his eyes closed. Biggest pet peeve for me is no eye contact when having talks!! And he knows it!
I mentioned last night to my DH that we needed to get our bag packed and ready for the hospital. He agreed, I thought the conversation was finished. This morning before he left for work he proceeded to tell me that we need get the bag packed for the hospital, like it was his f'ing idea to bring up this line of convo. So I started mocking him (mature, I know) until I realized he was serious. Apparently he doesn't remembers bringing it up last night.
Now he's making me watch all these dumb UFO shows on the History Channel...while he sleeps. He has a death grip on the remote.
Rant. DH came home after dinner and told me he probably won't help me finish the nursery this weekend because he is on call and we're expecting storms. He's a journeyman/lineman. Okay, so you get to relax and nap and I'm supposed to finish it all myself? Because I don't need to relax after a full week of work? And this whole convo took place with him laying on the couch with his eyes closed. Biggest pet peeve for me is no eye contact when having talks!! And he knows it!
Oh my gosh, this is my life. DH is an "apprentice lineman". He is on track to be a lineman within the year and is on call 24/7. He has to maintain a 50% call in rate and a lot of time when I want to plan something he says "as long as I don't get called in". I get that you're on call dude, but wht can you plan stuff with other people. He also has to be gone every few months for classes and doesn't always know exactly when they'll be until 1-2 weeks before (not his fault, I know, but still). He's already had class out of town 2x since I've been pregnant leaving Monday morning and getting back on Thursday night for 3 weeks in a row. He had to go in December and March. I wound up in the ER in March and had to get MIL to take me. His next one is scheduled for either the first 3 or last 3 weeks of June. I'm due June 27th. When he found out about this in December he told the instructor about the baby and the idiot just told him to let him know in March how things looked.....um they're not going to change my due date. So now we're still waiting to find out when he has class. The guy told him he could miss a day or 2 if he needed but he'd have to come in early or stay late to make up what he missed or else get put a class behind which would put him 6 months to a year behind on becoming a lineman and getting a raise. Sorry for the long rant, but I completely understand what you're going through!
@KarasTwin Yes! You do get it then! And guess who got called out at 4:30am to go replace a broken pole. He still isn't home 4 hours later. So there goes my nesting plans for him to do today......boo..... I'm glad he's past all the training stages and doesn't have to go to out of town classes anymore. That's rough. I remember how annoying it was. But it's all worth it girl! These guys work so hard and risk their lives everyday so I'm proud of them!
DH just suggested I wash windows... It was over the phone so I couldn't punch him... I don't even have motivation to pack my hospital bag but yeah let me wash 20 windows!
Ok rant time: I'm nearly 35 weeks with twins and needless to say sex is just not happening. I'm so sore everywhere and barely have enough energy to get to the end of the day. I know DH's brain is on overdrive thinking how it's been 2 weeks and he's super needing it but....do I have to care? I love him but I do not want to have sex. I want to sleep and have someone rub my feet once in a while. Is it over the top to just want to be the priority for a couple more weeks?!
Ok rant time: I'm nearly 35 weeks with twins and needless to say sex is just not happening. I'm so sore everywhere and barely have enough energy to get to the end of the day. I know DH's brain is on overdrive thinking how it's been 2 weeks and he's super needing it but....do I have to care? I love him but I do not want to have sex. I want to sleep and have someone rub my feet once in a while. Is it over the top to just want to be the priority for a couple more weeks?!
Only 2 weeks? He should feel very happy with that! The only motivation I have for sex is that it might start labor and even then it seems way to daunting!
DH gets mad at me for wanting to talk about what needs done before baby comes before bed tonight......... Doesn't he know how anxious I am? ..... I know it's an inconvenient time but geesh!
DH washed my only white maternity/nursing tank top in warm water with a red blanket tonight because he "didn't notice anything was in the washing machine." Grrr!!!
DH refuses to believe he snores and takes up the entire bed. I got lucky and havent had any heartburn until now but it gets so bad i have a hard time at night. So when i ask him if he could sleep in his side so he wont snore or scoot over, he just tells me to suck it up -_- Then, as i finally found a comfortable position, he starts messing with my belly button, which is one of my pet peeves. I might just push him off the bed tonight.
A lot like other women on here I've been switching between the 'madly in love can't wait to have a family with my SO' to 'OMG I hate you, get out of this house right now you careless idiot' - it's been a bit of a rocky road but mostly fuelled by my hormones, admittedly I've had my cray cray moments 8-} I think what irks me the most is him expecting me to be exactly the same person with the same level of strength & energy now at 38 weeks as I had pre pregnancy when I've gained like 50lbs and on my 5ft 3" body is seriously slowing me down that in addition to having SPD makes me a groaning mess most of the time but I'm still managing to keep the house tidy, do all the prep for baby and cook dinner, bake, make his work lunches and do all the laundry and ironing. I've been told I moan too much about my back and pelvic pain with a half joking warning that if i don't quit my whining he won't let me get pregnant again... like excuse me, I'm the one with the pain. Atm my issue is pretty simple in my eyes - SO likes to drink a few beers in the house on a night after work to relax, I've asked him to only have one from 37 weeks as I could go into labour at any moment and I don't want him to be over the limit driving me to the hospital or even if we got a taxi I don't want him tipsy or drunk while I'm delivering our first child. Initially he agreed with me saying it makes sense but now at 38 weeks he's yet to stick to the one limit drink. When he came back from the store with another crate of bud last night I asked if he could just have one and he snapped at me saying I'm always nagging him and nothing he ever does is good enough for me as he'd just put a shelf up and repainted the kitchen walls for me that afternoon. I said it was unrelated and if he didn't understand why it was important for him not to get over the limit at this stage of my pregnancy then he is an idiot. Does anyone else think this is unreasonable? i don't want to argue with him this close to labour but if he can't take me to the hospital or falls asleep in the delivery room i will hit the effing roof!!
DH gets mad at me for wanting to talk about what needs done before baby comes before bed tonight......... Doesn't he know how anxious I am? ..... I know it's an inconvenient time but geesh!
Mine gets annoyed at me for this. I feel like it's the only time the tv isn't going or he's not distracted and I just want to talk before bed. What's the problem, dude?
My DH is amazing. He has taken the lead on selling our old house, buying and renovating a new one and getting us moved in pretty much on his own the past four months. He's so excited about the LO and couldn't be more supportive, he also gets points for putting up with all my craziness and keeping a smile on his face.
Although he has been complaining about being tired when the cat wakes him up in the morning to be fed and he has to try to fall back asleep. This makes me giggle because I'm already easily awake every 2-3 hours at night with pregnancy stuff. If one interruption of his sleep is tough, this newborn is going to turn his happy sleep world upside down! Sorry love... But soak up and enjoy your once a night interruptions while they last. Soon you'll be missing them!
@Sundaygirl200 I'm kinda with you, kinda not. My hubs likes to enjoy an adult beverage or 3 when he is done for the day, and I have considered the what if I go into labor scenario. In the end, I realized that most of us are more likely to spend quite some time laboring at home (a couple of hours, half a day, or more!) so even if hubs had had a few I would still have some time to be like - wait a minute, here. I think I'm having contractions, but they're pretty short and kinda far apart at this point. My drs office says to follow the 511 rule - 5 minutes apart, 1 minute long, within 1 hour - so I'll probably be at home for hours knowing I am laboring before I get to that point. At least long enough for DH to drink some water, get a shower, walk off a buzz. But also, my hospital is literally 5 minutes away by tiny neighborhood roads. In my situation, worst comes to worst, I'm not worried about driving myself. If a contraction comes while I'm driving and I can't drive while its going on, I'll just stop right there in the road until it passes and then move on.
But I don't think it will come to that. Those super fast labors happen to some people, but I've read way more birth stories where moms were laboring at home for quite some time before heading into the hospital. I think we are much more likely to have sufficient warning to lay off the beverages. Maybe one of the nurses could shed some light on this, the odds of having a labor that comes on so fast that you won't have enough warning to tell your guy to stop drinking and sober up
@mellymar Thanks for giving me a more logical thought process on this, I'm definitely just exercising my anxieties on 'what ifs' as opposed to what's most likely going to happen. It's not like he's this massive drinker who goes on daily benders, I guess I'm just trying to control as much as I can at the moment and I should go easier on the man, he works hard and deserves a beer or two. Again thanks for the reality check, at this stage in the game I think I need one from time to time!
My mother-in-law hosted a baby shower for me yesterday and SO didn't want to stay for it, which is fine. So he said he was going to a movie with his friend to pass the time, also fine. However, the shower ended at 6:30pm and he didn't get home until WAY AFTER I went to bed because he went to a 10:15pm showing. I'm really upset because I feel like I never get to spend time with him because of his new job and I don't appreciate him being gone all Saturday evening. I haven't even gotten to show him the beautiful things we were given at the shower yet.
DH gets mad at me for wanting to talk about what needs done before baby comes before bed tonight......... Doesn't he know how anxious I am? ..... I know it's an inconvenient time but geesh!
My husband said to me yesterday (when I started reviewing my list), "why don't I let you know when I've finished MY list, and you can give me more ideas?" Well, mostly because I don't think your list is real, first of all ("it's in my head"), and second, you don't even know what needs to be done, so wtf? He says, "I have some ideas." So we'll see what happens today! I'm highly skeptical anything useful will get done.
@ksancha I've taken to just shoving him over onto his side of the bed while he's sleeping. He ends up in the middle of the bed and I'm cramped on the edge trying to get comfortable which is already impossible. He's also been elbowing me in the face a lot while he sleeps. I just laugh and make him pay for it during his waking hours.
@Sundaygirl200 I picked FI up from work last night around 1230 and he had had a few drinks after his shift which I am fine with as long as he doesn't come home much more than an hour after he gets off work. When we got back to the house I had a few Braxton Hicks which he has never been present for before, and he started panicking. He decided on his own he is no longer drinking the rest of the pregnancy in case he has to drive me to the hospital! It was actually kind of cute-- now every time I twinge or touch my belly he's like "is it time??"
My husband is accident prone. Always has been. There's always something he's ailing from, always. So Friday at work a hydraulic line blows on the tractor and shoots him in the face, then the next morning while being funny decides to jump onto he bed and catches the iPad on the side of his nose and cheek on the same side as where he got blasted in the face the day before. The week before that he tweaked his back getting off the tractor in the rain and jammed his shoulder. The list could go on. So this morning after my DS slipped off his toy box and smacked his face on the table and he finally calmed down and now has a tiny shiner I say, "you boys need to be more careful!" Now I'm getting attitude because he is tired of my snark. I just walked away....
Internal thought: if I gave a detailed history of all the injuries, surgeries from injuries, kidney stones from not drinking enough water, behaving like you still have a 20 yr olds body, etc to a therapist they'd probably suggest living in a bubble. The attitude you give me when you injured is nothing compared to my mood swings while pregnant. I'm sorry is me being pregnant and uncomfortable taking away attention from you ramming your face into a f'ing iPad? Does your face hurt? MY WHOLE DAMN BODY HURTS!!!
F'ing men!!!! I'd seriously move out if my husband had to be the one caring the pregnancy. I don't think I would handle prison that well. X(
My DH is amazing. He has taken the lead on selling our old house, buying and renovating a new one and getting us moved in pretty much on his own the past four months. He's so excited about the LO and couldn't be more supportive, he also gets points for putting up with all my craziness and keeping a smile on his face.
Although he has been complaining about being tired when the cat wakes him up in the morning to be fed and he has to try to fall back asleep. This makes me giggle because I'm already easily awake every 2-3 hours at night with pregnancy stuff. If one interruption of his sleep is tough, this newborn is going to turn his happy sleep world upside down! Sorry love... But soak up and enjoy your once a night interruptions while they last. Soon you'll be missing them!
DH assembled the stroller tonight! When he was done, I told him I had one more project for him (assemble the bouncer), but if he wanted to wait till another night that would be fine. He said, "I'll just do it... I think when you tell me you want me to do something at some point, you usually mean now." HE'S FINALLY CATCHING ON!!!!
Anyway, both stroller and bouncer are put together and look great - yay DH! So happy with him tonight!
So this was a completely unplanned/unexpected pregnancy for us. It was difficult to come to terms with at first for both me and DH. However once the first month or two after our BFP passed we both became more prepared and excited about our LO. Well, tonight DH just came home from a bachelor party for a friend and was a little drunk but not crazy over the top drunk. He randomly decides to tell me that he isn't excited about having a baby because this wasn't "his plan". This is the first I'm hearing about this since the first trimester. Every time we talk to people he's always the one saying "We're really happy/ really excited" why wait until I'm 37 weeks to say something like this? He already has one son from a previous relationship when he was 21 and was unplanned and I think maybe the fact that he has another unplanned child coming is weighing on him? (We get his son half the time and he's an awesome dad, so he didn't just run away from it or anything) I know that guys tend to not get the bonding/instincts until after baby is born, but it's got me really depressed now.. He said that he knows he'll be happy when he sees her and holds her, etc. but still. It's very discouraging that he decides to bring this up this late in the game. I'm a FTM and now I feel like my main support system isn't really feeling it and it makes me feel like I'm gonna do this alone.
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DH and I have a bet going on for $500 that I will go down a zip line at Sundance Resort. He doesn't think I will do it because ill be scared...Hell! I'm pretty sure that Robert Redford has it pretty safe considering there's a lot to lose if I die. Can't wait to have $500 extra spending money on a new post pregnancy wardrobe!
We have a strict rule that DH cat calls when I'm naked - it sounds like "woo woo woo!". If he forgets, I say, "HellOOOO! I need to be wooed please!" Yeah, maybe it's forced, but 10 years later, it still keeps us going, what can I say.
We need a rule for when I'm clothed, though. He's terrible at that.
He has just comforted me and been wonderful all week. But tonight he said it is time to stop working and take maternity leave. All this crying is a sign I'm pushing myself too hard, and I need to chill and get ready for labor.
At first I was mad, but he's so right. I have a few more days I do have to go in, but on Monday I'm going to work out a revised schedule.
This guy. He's a keeper.
But on another note, we have an event tomorrow and I wanted to buy something to wear but he insists on me wearing something I already have. When I said "nothing fits. you don't understand you're not pregnant" he replied with "I'm pregnant with emotion!"
My husband, ladies. :-??
I'm due June 5th. DH had originally booked the whole month off, which is awesome, but it turned out that he was only able to get 3 weeks, starting from my due date. I'm fine with that, I suspect that I'll go late anyway - my mum did with all 5 of her kids. Besides DH works at the local hospital which is only 5 minutes away from us. But I think DH is a bit nervous about me being home alone for that last week.
We live in Australia and our parents live in Ireland. DHs sister also lives in Australia but about 1400km away from us. My FIL and his partner are coming out here for the month of June and will be splitting their time between us and SIL. It's still hasn't been definitively decided how FIL will split his time.
So last week DH started talking about how FIL should come to us from the start of the month so that there's someone there with me just in case. I tried to explain that it made more sense for him to come to us at the end of the month in case I go late so that he's guaranteed that the baby will be here. DH dropped it at the time, but yesterday he started going on about it again. I really think I have a genuine point here, but I don't think he's listening to me at all.
What annoyed me even more is that he started worrying about how he's going to keep them entertained when they're here. Maybe it's a bit selfish of me but one of the reasons why I don't want them coming up here before my due date is because I don't want to have to host them at 9 months pregnant. I get on fine with my FIL but we're not particularly close (we're both quite shy and introverted so it's a bit awkward when it's just the two of us) and I've only met his partner once so whilst she seems very nice, she's essentially a stranger to me. DH works over 12 hours a day, so if they come up before my due date then I have to host them on my own. When I tried to tell DH that last week he completely dismissed my concerns, but when it affects him suddenly it's an issue.
DH: Okay, you really need to go upstairs with your dinner, take a bath, and take care of yourself.
*pause, then side-eye*
Not THAT kind of take care of yourself...
B-)
My hubs is so witty.
I'm not sure if this is a rant or a rave.
I'm going to rave, I've ranted before but I have found DH to be more attentive and worried lately and asking what he can do to make things better if I am uncomfortable or in pain. It's very endearing!
DH came home after dinner and told me he probably won't help me finish the nursery this weekend because he is on call and we're expecting storms. He's a journeyman/lineman. Okay, so you get to relax and nap and I'm supposed to finish it all myself? Because I don't need to relax after a full week of work? And this whole convo took place with him laying on the couch with his eyes closed. Biggest pet peeve for me is no eye contact when having talks!! And he knows it!
Now he's making me watch all these dumb UFO shows on the History Channel...while he sleeps. He has a death grip on the remote.
I'm glad he's past all the training stages and doesn't have to go to out of town classes anymore. That's rough. I remember how annoying it was. But it's all worth it girl! These guys work so hard and risk their lives everyday so I'm proud of them!
I'm nearly 35 weeks with twins and needless to say sex is just not happening. I'm so sore everywhere and barely have enough energy to get to the end of the day. I know DH's brain is on overdrive thinking how it's been 2 weeks and he's super needing it but....do I have to care? I love him but I do not want to have sex. I want to sleep and have someone rub my feet once in a while. Is it over the top to just want to be the priority for a couple more weeks?!
I think what irks me the most is him expecting me to be exactly the same person with the same level of strength & energy now at 38 weeks as I had pre pregnancy when I've gained like 50lbs and on my 5ft 3" body is seriously slowing me down that in addition to having SPD makes me a groaning mess most of the time but I'm still managing to keep the house tidy, do all the prep for baby and cook dinner, bake, make his work lunches and do all the laundry and ironing.
I've been told I moan too much about my back and pelvic pain with a half joking warning that if i don't quit my whining he won't let me get pregnant again... like excuse me, I'm the one with the pain.
Atm my issue is pretty simple in my eyes - SO likes to drink a few beers in the house on a night after work to relax, I've asked him to only have one from 37 weeks as I could go into labour at any moment and I don't want him to be over the limit driving me to the hospital or even if we got a taxi I don't want him tipsy or drunk while I'm delivering our first child. Initially he agreed with me saying it makes sense but now at 38 weeks he's yet to stick to the one limit drink. When he came back from the store with another crate of bud last night I asked if he could just have one and he snapped at me saying I'm always nagging him and nothing he ever does is good enough for me as he'd just put a shelf up and repainted the kitchen walls for me that afternoon. I said it was unrelated and if he didn't understand why it was important for him not to get over the limit at this stage of my pregnancy then he is an idiot.
Does anyone else think this is unreasonable?
i don't want to argue with him this close to labour but if he can't take me to the hospital or falls asleep in the delivery room i will hit the effing roof!!
Sorry for rant.
Although he has been complaining about being tired when the cat wakes him up in the morning to be fed and he has to try to fall back asleep. This makes me giggle because I'm already easily awake every 2-3 hours at night with pregnancy stuff. If one interruption of his sleep is tough, this newborn is going to turn his happy sleep world upside down! Sorry love... But soak up and enjoy your once a night interruptions while they last. Soon you'll be missing them!
But I don't think it will come to that. Those super fast labors happen to some people, but I've read way more birth stories where moms were laboring at home for quite some time before heading into the hospital. I think we are much more likely to have sufficient warning to lay off the beverages. Maybe one of the nurses could shed some light on this, the odds of having a labor that comes on so fast that you won't have enough warning to tell your guy to stop drinking and sober up
Again thanks for the reality check, at this stage in the game I think I need one from time to time!
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@Sundaygirl200 I picked FI up from work last night around 1230 and he had had a few drinks after his shift which I am fine with as long as he doesn't come home much more than an hour after he gets off work. When we got back to the house I had a few Braxton Hicks which he has never been present for before, and he started panicking. He decided on his own he is no longer drinking the rest of the pregnancy in case he has to drive me to the hospital! It was actually kind of cute-- now every time I twinge or touch my belly he's like "is it time??"
Internal thought: if I gave a detailed history of all the injuries, surgeries from injuries, kidney stones from not drinking enough water, behaving like you still have a 20 yr olds body, etc to a therapist they'd probably suggest living in a bubble. The attitude you give me when you injured is nothing compared to my mood swings while pregnant. I'm sorry is me being pregnant and uncomfortable taking away attention from you ramming your face into a f'ing iPad? Does your face hurt? MY WHOLE DAMN BODY HURTS!!!
F'ing men!!!! I'd seriously move out if my husband had to be the one caring the pregnancy. I don't think I would handle prison that well. X(
Anyway, both stroller and bouncer are put together and look great - yay DH! So happy with him tonight!