So this was a completely unplanned/unexpected pregnancy for us. It was difficult to come to terms with at first for both me and DH. However once the first month or two after our BFP passed we both became more prepared and excited about our LO. Well, tonight DH just came home from a bachelor party for a friend and was a little drunk but not crazy over the top drunk. He randomly decides to tell me that he isn't excited about having a baby because this wasn't "his plan". This is the first I'm hearing about this since the first trimester. Every time we talk to people he's always the one saying "We're really happy/ really excited" why wait until I'm 37 weeks to say something like this? He already has one son from a previous relationship when he was 21 and was unplanned and I think maybe the fact that he has another unplanned child coming is weighing on him? (We get his son half the time and he's an awesome dad, so he didn't just run away from it or anything) I know that guys tend to not get the bonding/instincts until after baby is born, but it's got me really depressed now.. He said that he knows he'll be happy when he sees her and holds her, etc. but still. It's very discouraging that he decides to bring this up this late in the game. I'm a FTM and now I feel like my main support system isn't really feeling it and it makes me feel like I'm gonna do this alone.
I'm so sorry you are feeling like this. I wonder if guys go through the emotional roller coaster like we do?! Elated one moment, scared shitless the next. I would only imagine a night out with the guys (especially a bachelor party) made him think of his situation in a different light than when he's cuddled up on the couch with his pregnant wife. Life rarely goes as planned so maybe he's just mourning his old plan and taking it out on you after a night out with his boys. Hopefully he'll come back around again after some sober time to think and time with you. (((Hugs)))
I'd be upset too especially after explaining the great reason why. And my other (personal) concern would be, if he can't limit his intake now, how will he be once LO gets here and you need emotional and physical support?
This is supposed to be a reply to the mom-to-be frustrated SO won't stop at one beer as she is 38 weeks and could go into labor any minute.
@kaila8 I'm sorry he said that. Everyone has diff views on if ppl are actually more honest when drunk or more full of shit..... Either way he needs to realize that what he said was hurtful. Make sure you really communicate to him that it hurt you because men need things spelled out for them. Good luck
@kaila8 that sucks. Im also sorry he said that. I think PP had good advice - I'm sure the guys go thru the same emotional rollercoaster we do where there are times they question the decisions they have made and are scared or frightened and lash out and say something stupid. Also like PP said who knows if he was being more honest because he was sauced or he was full of macho bravado from hanging out with the guys and was repeating what he had been hearing from them all night like a parrot. I would definitely discuss with him that what he said to you was hurtful so that he is aware of how he made you feel and so you guys can face the future together.
@kaila8 - that is heartbreaking, and in my hormonal state, that would be super hard to let go. as an objective outsider, though, I do agree with PPs. I am personally the type that says dumb crap when I am drunk that is not how I feel - I wish I was more of the "in vino veritas" type.
I am a firm believer that actions speak louder than words. Your situation sounds like you do not need to fear being alone, because he is there with you and he has shown that he will be a great father. You are more than allowed to be upset by this. But if you can, for your own sake, see if you can let this go once you talk to him about it.
DH and I weren't trying to prevent pregnancy, but it took some getting used to. I have wanted to have kids since I was two years old, but last week I cried saying I am not sure I can do this, and it is too late to make that decision! I know that I will be a great mom, DH will be a great dad, and once the kid is here, that won't even be a concern. But big life changes are scary as hell, and nothing like a great night out with friends to smack you in the face with that realization.
Hang in there, lady! Sounds like despite a bad slip up, you have a good guy. Wishing you all the best.
DH decides to wake me in the middle of the night (4am) and seduce me right after I had bh contractions and sex makes them worse. but it worked last time for baby so we're hoping it will also this time around. Then he claims I was complaining about contractions in which I wasn't I was telling him the baby felt low and he called his mom worried and then she called me asking all these contraction questions. I can't time my contractions never have never will mine aren't normal mine are one giant back ache that comes and goes. It's a blur. This also isn't the first time he's called her all worried telling her to call me, last time she INSISTED I download a contraction app. SMH. This is my 2nd baby I'm sure I know what labor feels like.
@kaila8 I'll also play Devil's Advocate here and say that it may be something that was on his mind for a while and the beer gave him the liquid courage to admit something he's felt all along. While I'm sure he feels badly about it now, it's important that he be able to share his feelings with you, whether good or bad. I know it must be disappointing to hear him say it at all, but now that he has, you guys can have a real conversation about it. Good luck!
I slept on it (once I could finally sleep) and woke up to DH cuddling me and rubbing my bump....I asked him if he remembered coming home last night and he said "I remember you heating me up some food. Why? What'd I do?" I told him what he had said and he immediately felt awful and almost started crying. He said that although he is terrified cause it's just not good timing for us, that he definitely wants our daughter and is happy we are having her and that there's no way that I'm gonna have to do any part of this alone (other than the pain cause he said he can't do that for me unfortunately hahah) We have both also had the discussion about whether it's true about being more honest when you're drunk and we've previously determined that that's BS. at least for us. We have realized that both of us just kinda say whatever we want at the moment when we are drunk. And like you all said, his night with the guys got him in a different mindset. Especially since literally every other guy there besides the groom-to-be was single and childless. So all they could think and say to him was how this was his last good night before he's "stuck with baby duties and a hormonal/complaining wife" DH said it also doesn't help that these guys "haven't been laid in ages" so they don't understand the concept of being so happy with one person and they are just sexually frustrated grumpy old men. Hahaha. I'm usually really good at letting things go and just forgetting it, but like @amark11 said these damn hormones were making that near impossible and all I could do was think every worse case scenario in my head all night! Thanks again for the support ladies!!!
DH is a farmer and when he works long hours they are LONG. I do our accounting, cooking, cleaning, work part time and I'll be taking care of the baby. Lately when he's done with a "short" day (8-9 hours) he wants to clean out the shop or garage and I think it's his form of "nesting". We also had the whole weekend together and did get some relaxing in Tonight he woke up while I was sitting on these forums and grabbed my water bottle and said "how are you feeling?" (I'm sick) and went to fill it up for me. I cried - a little emotional He is going to be a great dad. Love him.
DH went to his work to check the schedule to see when he works tomorrow, asked me if i wanted anything and i had jokinly suggested a kit kat bar. he not only bought me one, but he bought me a KING sized one. oh baby.
My DH has been great (he goes to all of the appointments with me, buys my treats that I want, helped with the nursery) but he's getting super stressed with his job and grad school plus our washer broke this weekend and probably because the LO will actually be here in a little over 2 weeks.
He wants to fix our washer but I know it's going to take weeks for him to fix it probably with all of his grad school work that takes up most of his spare time. I suggested to have my sisters FIL come and fix it and thinks I'm doubting his ability to fix it but I'm just trying to get one less thing off of his plate. He has a hard time accepting & asking for help. Plus I don't want it to take weeks to fix because it's not a priority because of grad school and I'm afraid that it won't be fixed before the baby is here, he doesn't see it as a big deal for me to go to the landromat for a few weeks and I'm making a bigger deal then what it is. Then today, I told him we got scheduled for our induction and it was too early in the am for him and it didn't work for his school schedule and wanted me to change it and so I did change it to the following day (which I'm not happy about) because the time that he wanted was not available on the original day.
DH was at the hospital all weekend with his dad and beyond exhausted. I tried to get him to call in sick on Monday and rest but he wanted to get back into a routine. He works for the power company and wound up getting stuck at work and didn't get off till 5 Tuesday morning. By the time he got home, showered,and crawled in bed it was 6 am and almost time for me to get up which means he had been up for over 24 hours. He laid down and snuggled with me, rubbed my back, and talked just because we haven't really seen each other more than a few minutes since Thursday night. Fortunately he was able to rest yesterday and when I got home from work he took me out for hibachi. I had to wake him up this morning to run a cramp out of my calf muscle and he didn't even complain. He drives me crazy, but I love him so much sometimes I think my heart will explode.
ETA because I just realized that posting with sappy eyes leads to typos
Whenever FI is home he spoils the crap out of our fur baby. Takes him for walks every two hours, feeds him from the table etc. Like, I know he misses him and wants to love on him, but you know what that means for me? That puppy is starting to expect to go out every two hours and begs for food. Not gonna happen when it's just me with a newborn and him- it will probably take an hour just to PREPARE for a walk!
And in typical pregnant lady fashion I am following my rant with a rave. The pregnant would you rather thread got me thinking about my ex. I was with him for 5 years through two deployments and we were supposed to get married when he came back from his last one. Instead he left for sniper school without telling me and we never spoke again.
I am so beyond grateful for my amazing, loving fiancé, who talks to me about everything and constantly puts my feelings as the first priority. And I wouldn't have found him if not for the previous one. I can't imagine a more perfect relationship and our communication is so refreshing. I realized I post a lot of little rants about him, but that's just it. They are small and once I post them here they disappear and don't bother me anymore or come between us. But wanted to give him some credit here as well!
I'm 36 weeks and the baby is frank breech. At my appointment today the OB said we'll do an ultrasound and decide if it's worth giving ECV a try. If not or if it's unsuccessful then we schedule a C-section for 39 weeks. We are not ready at all. Scheduling baby showers was tough so they're not until 2 weeks and 1 week before my due date. I mean, we are not ready for this little human yet. The appointment today just totally freaked me out and has me all anxious. What's my husband doing? Taking a nap. He knows I'm freaking out and is making no effort to offer support. X(
ETA: not ready in the baby gear department, that's why I mentioned the baby showers. we haven't even gotten her car seat yet. Feeling totally comfortable about having our girl here. Bring on little human loving!!
I figured this is the best place for a DS rave. He's 2.5, so not fully aware of what going on but we talk about baby a lot. The other night during thunderstorms, I was trying to get him to sleep and said it's OK to be scared, even the dog and baby are scared of thunder. So I went down the list: It's OK Thor, you're safe with mom. It's OK DS, you're safe with mom. It's OK baby, you're safe with mom. To which DS replied "I love you baby" and put his hand on my belly. I melted. He's going to be such a great brother.
I just have a funny to share. Me- "don't go in that nursery it's overwhelming. Those sacks are full of kitchen stuff for when the baby is a toddler. Where are we going to put it all?! We're going to have to get rid of our booze cabinet." DH - " we'll get rid of you before we get rid of the booze cabinet."
now that i raved yesterday of course something DH is doing today is going to get on my nerves, we decided to do some cleaning today as our place has been getting out of hand. well.. DH likes to just throw things out without even asking me what they are.. and when something is in the wrong room he just tosses it through the door. like yeah its great youre cleaning.. but putting all my stuff in a different area is not helpful.. he always gets all moody and i feel like just avoiding him when we clean the apartment together. at least i still have the other half of my kitkat. need a break from this sheeeet.
I just have a funny to share. Me- "don't go in that nursery it's overwhelming. Those sacks are full of kitchen stuff for when the baby is a toddler. Where are we going to put it all?! We're going to have to get rid of our booze cabinet." DH - " we'll get rid of you before we get rid of the booze cabinet."
Haha! Thanks!!!!
Sounds like my husband! Haha. Although, he turned our booze cabinet into a booze locked refrigerator. We had an old smaller one in the basement that he brought up. It was a good compromise :-)
@klkonwi I laughed out loud. Hilarious! I'm wondering where we are going to put all the toddler stuff too!
My husband has created a space in the garage for himself with a ping pong table, and dart board. He keeps hanging pictures out there, wants to lay a new floor, and possibly put in an AC. I think he might be moving to the garage.
@kaila8 I was going to agree with PPs, but saw your update. So glad you guys talked it out. I'm sure all the men in our lives are on emotional roller coasters too.
I've been doing my best to be positive about DH, but this morning I have another rant I need to get off my chest. We had a talk about him helping out more around the house. Nothing big, just picking up after himself because it's getting hard for me to bend over and pick up crap off the floor. So last night I spent two hours cleaning getting ready for a play date this morning at 9 for DS. As I go into the kitchen to get DS breakfast I notice there is a trail of dried mud from his work boots throughout the house. I just freaking vacuumed and mopped the floors!!! Arg! So i vacuum again. Then he poured a bowl of cereal this morning only to find out there was no milk and just left it on the counter for me to clean up. I go into the bathroom and his underware and socks are sitting on the floor when we have company coming. SERIOUSLY WHAT PART OF CLEANING UP AFTER YOURSELF DID YOU NOT UNDERSTAND?!?! Apparently now I'll be becoming a mother of three in June instead of two. Rawr!!!!! ~X(
So thankful this thread is here so I can vent instead of starting fights with DH. Thanks ladies.
@lovethatcolosun I swept the floor the other day ... And my DH walked on it in work boots and I about had a coronary. Haha. My DH thinks that clutter is the worst thing ever and ignores the deep clean aspect. I am a deep cleaner and don't mind clutter!
@amccoy129 if he moves into the garage....Bam! Space problem solved !
My DH knows that I can't bend or carry baskets of laundry up and down the stairs... So our house looks like it was hit by a tornado and we are almost out of clean clothes. I have several baskets of dirty clothes upstairs waiting for him to carry them down to the basement. (We live in a 3 level townhouse.). I asked him a week ago today to bring them down for me... Also our living room looks like a disaster zone. There are books and toys everywhere from our toddler. I've asked him to help with cleaning but he has yet to do so. I always try to pick it all up in front of him. I moan and groan so he says "babe! You shouldn't bend over!" Hmmmm, if I can't, then who's going to do it, him??!??!!?? Ha! Seriously, how many times do I have to ask him to help me before he will actually get off his ass??? It's not like I'm even asking him to do very much... Pick up toys and carry baskets of clothes... That's it!! I can sweep, mop, vacuum, dust, do the dishes, and cook!
My DH knows that I can't bend or carry baskets of laundry up and down the stairs... So our house looks like it was hit by a tornado and we are almost out of clean clothes. I have several baskets of dirty clothes upstairs waiting for him to carry them down to the basement. (We live in a 3 level townhouse.). I asked him a week ago today to bring them down for me... Also our living room looks like a disaster zone. There are books and toys everywhere from our toddler. I've asked him to help with cleaning but he has yet to do so. I always try to pick it all up in front of him. I moan and groan so he says "babe! You shouldn't bend over!" Hmmmm, if I can't, then who's going to do it, him??!??!!?? Ha! Seriously, how many times do I have to ask him to help me before he will actually get off his ass??? It's not like I'm even asking him to do very much... Pick up toys and carry baskets of clothes... That's it!! I can sweep, mop, vacuum, dust, do the dishes, and cook!
My husband is the same! He does all the laundry but allllllways leaves every basket we have in the basement. If he's feeling productive, he brings it to the kitchen (it still has one more flight of stairs to go to get to our room dear...)
Oh my husband....I get into the office today to an email from him, he asked if I was feeling better and then said "I think we should get some Castor oil and have some fun tonight". In no world would there be any fun with castor oil! I have no idea what he is thinking.....Then last night he came upstairs to give me a hug while I was organizing the babies closet and he said "hows my cute little hobbit wife" (from a guy who has never seen a lord of the rings movie....). Its like hes trying to be sweet but has no idea how to formulate his thoughts! Needless to say I found both things quite funny
He also does not pick up after himself, and he also does not make his kids clean up after themselves (he just does not notice it) which then makes me feel like the evil step mom since I am always nagging to clean up. Seriously kids, dirty socks do not belong by the FRONT DOOR! Plus I asked him if he could NOT coach baseball for one season (practices started 3 weeks ago and the games end sometime in July, I am due June 7th). I just wanted to make sure I have as much of his free time as possible to help get ready. He totally did not listen to me. The doctor now says I can go any day, and guess who has baseball practice every night this week and double practices this weekend?!?! UGH. I guess what gets me going the most is that when someone wants to come over to visit he starts to throw a fit that our house is so messy. Oh he also decided to gut the kitchen last August, but once we found out we were expecting everything moved to gutting the nursery (plus I am in charge of re-finishing cabinets and I could/still can not be around the fumes). So we have no kitchen and everything that WAS in the kitchen is now piled in our dining room which is the 1st thing you see when you walk in.
I have to say my husband is being amazing. He is so kind and calm and understanding. (and no this isn't him writing this lol!) He's really been my rock and I couldn't ask for a better husband or father. Just putting it out there, I'm grateful.
Time for a DH rave! My hubby took DS to the mountains today for a visit with grandpa. I have the house to myself!!!! I'm also going to see Pitch Perfect 2 with my girlfriends! I needed a break, which has been quite obvious lately with my short fuse and all, so he was happy to let me have a day to myself. Ahhhh...love that man. ❤️
Time for a DH rave! My hubby took DS to the mountains today for a visit with grandpa. I have the house to myself!!!! I'm also going to see Pitch Perfect 2 with my girlfriends! I needed a break, which has been quite obvious lately with my short fuse and all, so he was happy to let me have a day to myself. Ahhhh...love that man. ❤️
@lovethatcolosun my DH did the same thing! He took DD and his dad out to breakfast this morning before I woke up and then they all went back to my in laws house and they're going to be there for a while so I've had the house to myself this whole morning and afternoon! While I love them both dearly it's so nice to be able to do whatever I want and I can actually get things done without them here
I think DH is doing my nesting, too! He's been hammering out the chores this week. I told him about dad nesting, and he was like "oh my gosh, that is totally what's happening."
Over the last couple days he's been a total rock star and rearranged the nursery furniture a good 10 times, so we could figure out the best configuration.
Plus, a bunch of times I've gotten up to pee in the last week, I've woken to find him rubbing or patting my leg or back in his sleep. So sweet!
Me-37, DH-38
Married in 2006, TTC #1 since Jan 2012
Baby Boy born June 1, 2015
He settles her in her home as a happy mother of children, praise the Lord! (Psalms 113:9)
And the peace of God, which surpasses all understand, will guard your heart and mind in Jesus Christ (Philippians 4:7)
My husband had his first full day off in months. He has 2 jobs and for the longest time, when he has had off from one he still has to work the other one. Today we got so much done. We went to get baby things and cleaning things and basically scrubbed our apartment top to bottom. They're showing our apartment tomorrow and he was great about picking up and hanging up pictures that have been leaning against the wall for weeks. I'm so thankful and smitten :x :x
First night home from the hospital and DH is sick... Ugh! I just had a c- section and can't do a ton. My MIL is staying which is very sweet but ugh I could really is DH right now!
First night home from the hospital and DH is sick... Ugh! I just had a c- section and can't do a ton. My MIL is staying which is very sweet but ugh I could really is DH right now!
My mom makes me mad. I understand she s happy she is going to be a first time grandma , but it irritates me how she always wants to touch my stomach always make future choices for MY child!!! I tell her straight up how I feel about it and she gets mad and says it her baby. I'm done. Idk what to do..
@esampson1983 that sucks! Hope he feels better soon! Men are such wussies when they are sick! Hopefully its a 1 day thing with a quick turn around
@rodriyessi94 its 'her' baby? :-S I've seen some other ladies say their moms have said this and it boggles my mind every time. YOU are her baby. THIS is your baby. Even now that we are adults parents *still* just don't seem to get it, do they? And just think - we get to repeat the pattern down the road! Try to look at the bright side - mom can make a decision re: your baby, but you don't have to implement it. I struggle with some different kinds of parental boundaries... Good luck with your mom! Hopefully after a while she'll get into the proper groove
SO rave, even though he's been going through his own emotional freak out moments, he's really attentive and calm when I need him. I've had off the whole weekend, planned to get more baby & household stuff done, did nothing but sleep. He came over, rubbed my legs & feet, continued to tell me I'm sexy (I feel like a whale) and assured me that everything will be okay and get done in time. Sometimes I need to hear that I don't need to be superwoman.
My dad and DH have been outside for 3 straight days building DS a swing set... It's amazing that he is doing this and my son is so excited (and me too!) but it makes for one cranky man when he calls it a day!
Re: DH/SO rants or raves? Put them here!
This is supposed to be a reply to the mom-to-be frustrated SO won't stop at one beer as she is 38 weeks and could go into labor any minute.
@kaila8 - that is heartbreaking, and in my hormonal state, that would be super hard to let go. as an objective outsider, though, I do agree with PPs. I am personally the type that says dumb crap when I am drunk that is not how I feel - I wish I was more of the "in vino veritas" type.
I am a firm believer that actions speak louder than words. Your situation sounds like you do not need to fear being alone, because he is there with you and he has shown that he will be a great father. You are more than allowed to be upset by this. But if you can, for your own sake, see if you can let this go once you talk to him about it.
DH and I weren't trying to prevent pregnancy, but it took some getting used to. I have wanted to have kids since I was two years old, but last week I cried saying I am not sure I can do this, and it is too late to make that decision! I know that I will be a great mom, DH will be a great dad, and once the kid is here, that won't even be a concern. But big life changes are scary as hell, and nothing like a great night out with friends to smack you in the face with that realization.
Hang in there, lady! Sounds like despite a bad slip up, you have a good guy. Wishing you all the best.
Then he claims I was complaining about contractions in which I wasn't I was telling him the baby felt low and he called his mom worried and then she called me asking all these contraction questions.
I can't time my contractions never have never will mine aren't normal mine are one giant back ache that comes and goes. It's a blur.
This also isn't the first time he's called her all worried telling her to call me, last time she INSISTED I download a contraction app.
SMH. This is my 2nd baby I'm sure I know what labor feels like.
I slept on it (once I could finally sleep) and woke up to DH cuddling me and rubbing my bump....I asked him if he remembered coming home last night and he said "I remember you heating me up some food. Why? What'd I do?" I told him what he had said and he immediately felt awful and almost started crying. He said that although he is terrified cause it's just not good timing for us, that he definitely wants our daughter and is happy we are having her and that there's no way that I'm gonna have to do any part of this alone (other than the pain cause he said he can't do that for me unfortunately hahah)
We have both also had the discussion about whether it's true about being more honest when you're drunk and we've previously determined that that's BS. at least for us. We have realized that both of us just kinda say whatever we want at the moment when we are drunk. And like you all said, his night with the guys got him in a different mindset. Especially since literally every other guy there besides the groom-to-be was single and childless. So all they could think and say to him was how this was his last good night before he's "stuck with baby duties and a hormonal/complaining wife" DH said it also doesn't help that these guys "haven't been laid in ages" so they don't understand the concept of being so happy with one person and they are just sexually frustrated grumpy old men. Hahaha.
I'm usually really good at letting things go and just forgetting it, but like @amark11 said these damn hormones were making that near impossible and all I could do was think every worse case scenario in my head all night! Thanks again for the support ladies!!!
He wants to fix our washer but I know it's going to take weeks for him to fix it probably with all of his grad school work that takes up most of his spare time. I suggested to have my sisters FIL come and fix it and thinks I'm doubting his ability to fix it but I'm just trying to get one less thing off of his plate. He has a hard time accepting & asking for help. Plus I don't want it to take weeks to fix because it's not a priority because of grad school and I'm afraid that it won't be fixed before the baby is here, he doesn't see it as a big deal for me to go to the landromat for a few weeks and I'm making a bigger deal then what it is. Then today, I told him we got scheduled for our induction and it was too early in the am for him and it didn't work for his school schedule and wanted me to change it and so I did change it to the following day (which I'm not happy about) because the time that he wanted was not available on the original day.
ETA because I just realized that posting with sappy eyes leads to typos
I am so beyond grateful for my amazing, loving fiancé, who talks to me about everything and constantly puts my feelings as the first priority. And I wouldn't have found him if not for the previous one. I can't imagine a more perfect relationship and our communication is so refreshing. I realized I post a lot of little rants about him, but that's just it. They are small and once I post them here they disappear and don't bother me anymore or come between us. But wanted to give him some credit here as well!
ETA: not ready in the baby gear department, that's why I mentioned the baby showers. we haven't even gotten her car seat yet. Feeling totally comfortable about having our girl here. Bring on little human loving!!
Me- "don't go in that nursery it's overwhelming. Those sacks are full of kitchen stuff for when the baby is a toddler. Where are we going to put it all?! We're going to have to get rid of our booze cabinet."
DH - " we'll get rid of you before we get rid of the booze cabinet."
Haha! Thanks!!!!
Sounds like my husband! Haha. Although, he turned our booze cabinet into a booze locked refrigerator. We had an old smaller one in the basement that he brought up. It was a good compromise :-)
My husband has created a space in the garage for himself with a ping pong table, and dart board. He keeps hanging pictures out there, wants to lay a new floor, and possibly put in an AC. I think he might be moving to the garage.
@kaila8 I was going to agree with PPs, but saw your update. So glad you guys talked it out. I'm sure all the men in our lives are on emotional roller coasters too.
So thankful this thread is here so I can vent instead of starting fights with DH. Thanks ladies.
My DH thinks that clutter is the worst thing ever and ignores the deep clean aspect.
I am a deep cleaner and don't mind clutter!
@amccoy129 if he moves into the garage....Bam! Space problem solved !
Also our living room looks like a disaster zone. There are books and toys everywhere from our toddler. I've asked him to help with cleaning but he has yet to do so. I always try to pick it all up in front of him. I moan and groan so he says "babe! You shouldn't bend over!" Hmmmm, if I can't, then who's going to do it, him??!??!!?? Ha! Seriously, how many times do I have to ask him to help me before he will actually get off his ass??? It's not like I'm even asking him to do very much... Pick up toys and carry baskets of clothes... That's it!! I can sweep, mop, vacuum, dust, do the dishes, and cook!
He also does not pick up after himself, and he also does not make his kids clean up after themselves (he just does not notice it) which then makes me feel like the evil step mom since I am always nagging to clean up. Seriously kids, dirty socks do not belong by the FRONT DOOR! Plus I asked him if he could NOT coach baseball for one season (practices started 3 weeks ago and the games end sometime in July, I am due June 7th). I just wanted to make sure I have as much of his free time as possible to help get ready. He totally did not listen to me. The doctor now says I can go any day, and guess who has baseball practice every night this week and double practices this weekend?!?! UGH. I guess what gets me going the most is that when someone wants to come over to visit he starts to throw a fit that our house is so messy. Oh he also decided to gut the kitchen last August, but once we found out we were expecting everything moved to gutting the nursery (plus I am in charge of re-finishing cabinets and I could/still can not be around the fumes). So we have no kitchen and everything that WAS in the kitchen is now piled in our dining room which is the 1st thing you see when you walk in.
I just need a vacation
@rodriyessi94 its 'her' baby? :-S I've seen some other ladies say their moms have said this and it boggles my mind every time. YOU are her baby. THIS is your baby. Even now that we are adults parents *still* just don't seem to get it, do they? And just think - we get to repeat the pattern down the road! Try to look at the bright side - mom can make a decision re: your baby, but you don't have to implement it. I struggle with some different kinds of parental boundaries... Good luck with your mom! Hopefully after a while she'll get into the proper groove
Have bugged my hubby for the past 30 minutes to pack up from our in-laws' place and go. Finally just looked at him and whispered, "mistletoe".
Anyone else have a code word?