DH/SO rants or raves? Put them here!

DolphinLover2002

Just wondering how everyone's husbands/significant others are doing with our pregnancies. Are they being awesome or not helpful at all? Feel free to share your good or bad stories.

karaelaine1991

DH is awesome. He's so excited! He tells me everyday how he wants baby to get here NOW, not X days from now. He's a bit over-protective of us, which can get annoying, but it's out of love so most of the time it makes me smile instead of roll my eyes. For example, my doctor said I should avoid lifting more than 10lbs - so DH says my limit is 6lbs. Makes me feel a bit useless, but at the same time, I'm at the point where bending over is REALLY not fun, and this means I have to do that less frequently, so I listen to him most of the time. He's really big on trying to bond with baby, last night I was laying on my side and he put his hand on my belly where her hand is and she just kept punching him - he was so excited, he kept saying, "She's giving me high fives!" He also loves to read to her and talk to her. He's going to be a great dad!

DolphinLover2002

My DH is amazing! I'm having twins and my pregnancy this time around is super hard. He's been there to support me every day. He goes to our ultrasounds with me to entertain our ds. I've had such extreme back pain this time around. He gives me massages every single night without me even asking. He does most of the cooking and cleaning so I can take it easy and relax. He has done several home improvement projects to make our home better for our family. He's a shoulder to cry on, and he's super supportive. He keeps me calm in times of stress. He's an amazing dad to our 2 and a half year old son. I honestly am one of the luckiest women alive. I couldn't ask for a better husband and father to my children.

bosleyb

Mine is doing ok. I am on hospital bedrest. So him and my mom are tag teaming to take care of our three children and our house. I'm not sure he fully appreciates how much my mom is doing! My mom has been doing laundry at my house during the week. Going over every weekday morning to help finish getting the kids on the bus. And our best friend did a meal train, so Monday thru Friday he has meals ready for him after work. My mom is even setting out the kids clothes every day for him. Plus my mom takes the babies on the weekend so he can come to the hospital with our 5 year old daughter for the weekend. Yet he acts like he's exhausted! Now maybe he will realize how I felt before being hospitalized! My iron was extremely low upon hospitalization which explains my utter exhaustion during my pregnancy.

esampson1983

DH has been totally amazing this whole pregnancy! He was so supportive when I went through morning sickness and was so sick. He encourages me to continue to eat healthy and exercise. He also tells me I am beautiful all the time. The other night my Braxton hicks were really bad in the middle of the night and he helped me problem solve whether it was Braxton hicks or pre term labor. He drew me a bath and walked around the house with me and we figured out quickly it was just Braxton hicks.

He is on high alert after that incident though and any sudden noise he comes running and is like "are you okay?". It gets annoying at times (especially when it interrupts my meditation or yoga) but it's nice to know he cares.

He will make an amazing dad!

Frogger5

Not really a rant or a rave, sort of both: Mine is hyper nesting if that's possible. Last night he brought up the idea of redoing our master bath, like now, before the baby comes. I think I agreed! Someone talk us down, that's insane. He's never done something like this before, and the baby is due in 6 weeks!

HoosOnFirst

Frogger5 said:

Not really a rant or a rave, sort of both: Mine is hyper nesting if that's possible. Last night he brought up the idea of redoing our master bath, like now, before the baby comes. I think I agreed! Someone talk us down, that's insane. He's never done something like this before, and the baby is due in 6 weeks!

Ha. Yes, my DH is hyper nesting too. Not always the important things - but he's wanting to do a ton of house and yardwork.

He's also being very vigilant, more than I am... every noise I make, he's like "are you ok?". (Yep, I just make noises now). He constantly reminds me to eat. After our labor class, I think he was a bit spooked and now he asks me to text him every morning when I get to work to say how I'm feeling. It's cute.

laurendutch

Mine thought it was completely acceptable for me to move a heavy piece of furniture...ugh! I think he's taking this pregnancy a little easy since my last one was twins and I couldn't do much.

katyertl

My sweet husband has been working 60-70 hour work weeks to support us while I'm in nursing school. I do work 2 jobs bar tending and serving but only 3-5 days a week depending. He did say my last semester which is in the fall with the baby I don't have to work which is a fantastic offer since I have school all day 4 days a week.

Sammy K

DH is great. He's taken over all of the cooking since I have no energy at the end of the day and he wants to make sure I eat well since my weight gain is low. He insists I take a nap when our toddler does on the weekends. After particularly tough days, he runs out for ice cream while I put our son to bed without me asking. He's already a great dad to our son and I can't wait to see him with our daughter! I don't know if it's the hormones, but I appreciate him so much more this time and every little thing he does makes me love him even more.

CateOfChicago

My DH is lazy lazy lazy. With a toddler and a job, I never stop moving, yet he seems to have time to watch tv and play on the iPad for hours every night. He seems to think that loading the dishwasher and taking dd for an hour here or there so I can run errands makes him husband of the year and gets angry when I don't praise him for it. I remind him that I dont get praise for anything I do and he says its bc its my job, half joking half not. That's what I get for marrying an Italian mamas boy. With that said, I don't have any of the serious issues some of the other mamas have on here (drinking, trust issues, money issues, etc.). I feel for you. I try to remember that when I see him on the couch and want to hit him with a bat. He's a hard worker and makes a good living. He is just lazy at home.

@Frogger5 with my 1st pregnancy, we redid the guest bath. What was supposed to be a 2 week job turned into a 6 week side job for a cousin that went until after the baby was born. It was total stress and kind of ruined my last month of pregnancy. DH has wanted to do the master for years. I told him it was now or never bc I wasn't dealing with it with a toddler and newborn. We hired someone to ensure it wasn't a side job and would be done in 2 weeks. Of course, it still took 6 weeks and lots of stress. I'm glad it is done though and I dont have to deal with it later.

jesscmv

Frogger5 said:

Not really a rant or a rave, sort of both: Mine is hyper nesting if that's possible. Last night he brought up the idea of redoing our master bath, like now, before the baby comes. I think I agreed! Someone talk us down, that's insane. He's never done something like this before, and the baby is due in 6 weeks!

Oh man this must be a nesting trait for men! DH went to lowes and bought new cabinets and a new countertop to put an island in our kitchen. His excuse was that he doesn't want 2 high chairs in the kitchen so we needed a new sturdy counterbar to put those hook chairs on to feed the twins. I just let him go, I hope he knows they are gonna be eating from the boob for quite awhile and this is not an emergency. Oh well I still love him!

shawnaNichloe

My SO has been AMAZING! ! he has helped with everything I could ever imagine and then some.. the other day at the Dr I was down about my weight (I know I'm susposed to gain but ugh I never want to see the scale go up lol) and he hugs me and says "just more of you to love"

HoosOnFirst

jjvanwagner25 said:

Frogger5 said:

Not really a rant or a rave, sort of both: Mine is hyper nesting if that's possible. Last night he brought up the idea of redoing our master bath, like now, before the baby comes. I think I agreed! Someone talk us down, that's insane. He's never done something like this before, and the baby is due in 6 weeks!

Oh man this must be a nesting trait for men! DH went to lowes and bought new cabinets and a new countertop to put an island in our kitchen. His excuse was that he doesn't want 2 high chairs in the kitchen so we needed a new sturdy counterbar to put those hook chairs on to feed the twins. I just let him go, I hope he knows they are gonna be eating from the boob for quite awhile and this is not an emergency. Oh well I still love him!

My husband bought a chain saw today, of all things.

dancegurl1118

Sometimes I just want to give my MIL the biggest hug for raising her children like she did. My husband is just wonderful...and I really have been terrible this pregnancy.

MrsS728

@Frogger5. If it makes you feel any better, my husband put in hardwood, complete replaced the stairs (there was a huge hole in my house for about a week), painted the family room, completely gutted the 1/2 bath, painted the foyer and built the changing table......in the last 6 1/2 months. The man never sleeps. While I love him for his hard work and desire to make a beautiful home for me and our daughter, he's under strict orders (by me) that he is not allowed to do anything but regular tasks (mowing the lawn, watering the garden, help around the house, etc) while he is on a 2 week paternity leave. I want him to rest and enjoy his daughter and the short time he has home with us before he goes back to work. 

ElRuby

DH complained of having heart burn... I thought about hitting him...

Frogger5

MrsS728 said:

@Frogger5. If it makes you feel any better, my husband put in hardwood, complete replaced the stairs (there was a huge hole in my house for about a week), painted the family room, completely gutted the 1/2 bath, painted the foyer and built the changing table......in the last 6 1/2 months. The man never sleeps. While I love him for his hard work and desire to make a beautiful home for me and our daughter, he's under strict orders (by me) that he is not allowed to do anything but regular tasks (mowing the lawn, watering the garden, help around the house, etc) while he is on a 2 week paternity leave. I want him to rest and enjoy his daughter and the short time he has home with us before he goes back to work. 

Sounds like your husband knows what he's doing, though . . . mine is generally handy, but has never done tiling, serious drywall work, texturing, etc. He's going on the assumption that he can figure it out, which might be true but might not be. We talked about it again today and he agreed it would be better to wait for the fall. So I feel a little more relaxed about it for now!

Emilywooddesign

Frogger5 said:

Not really a rant or a rave, sort of both: Mine is hyper nesting if that's possible. Last night he brought up the idea of redoing our master bath, like now, before the baby comes. I think I agreed! Someone talk us down, that's insane. He's never done something like this before, and the baby is due in 6 weeks!

Don't worry! We are renovating our entire house! The first few months are going to suck anyway with a newborn- what's a littke Reno? lol just get all your stuff lined up and organized and maybe get a jetted tub for yourself

devyns2nd

My rant is DH doesn't understand why it makes cry (yes cry because anger is not in my hormonal range right now) when he says "why haven't you folded those clothes" or "are you going to do ____today" ??!! I care for all five of his kids and his MIL. I cook three giant meals a day and clean the kitchen over and over. I do 3-5 loads of laundry a day. At 8 Freakin months pregnant NO I don't always feel like doing everything like I used too. Our house stays clean. Sometimes I just get a little behind and it kills me when he points it out.

virginiaunicorn11

A few weeks ago, I posted then deleted a FFFC that I wasn't 100% sure I was doing the right thing when I married DH. After our first two years of marriage, I knew it was the right decision. After this pregnancy, I am 1000% positive. I am just trying to be as good a partner to him as he is to me!

BridgetRoche

My hubby had a bit of an upset tummy yesterday and (seriously) told me last night that he doesn't mind because now he understands what my contractions will feel like. Seriously, this is what I'm dealing with ladies!

esampson1983

DH washed both of our cars yesterday AND put the baby seat and base in my car. He rocks!

jesscmv

devyns2nd said:

My rant is DH doesn't understand why it makes cry (yes cry because anger is not in my hormonal range right now) when he says "why haven't you folded those clothes" or "are you going to do ____today" ??!! I care for all five of his kids and his MIL. I cook three giant meals a day and clean the kitchen over and over. I do 3-5 loads of laundry a day. At 8 Freakin months pregnant NO I don't always feel like doing everything like I used too. Our house stays clean. Sometimes I just get a little behind and it kills me when he points it out.

You're tough! I barely have enough energy to get off the sofa to pee!

HoosOnFirst

We stopped at the grocery store on the way home from Target when I mentioned I'd have to go back out to do so and DH knew I wasn't feeling well. He even did the shopping as I sat in the car! I will forgive the fact that I asked him to buy a salad mix and he purchased just a bag of greens (no other veggies in it) and it expired the same day

KaLikeAWind

This weekend hubs did most of my 'honey do' list - cleaning up and treating the yard for bugs, (finally!) taking all his gaming stuff out of what will be the baby's room so I can (finally!) start cleaning in there and putting furniture together, put the back seats back into our car so we can install the car seat - in addition to taking me out for breakfast and almost forcibly making me rest on the couch when I wanted to vacuum the room he just emptied (and then vacuuming it himself). All this in addition to standing behind my chair off and on during our marathon childbirth class and rubbing my neck and shoulders cause he knew I didn't feel well. He procrastinates and it drives me crazy, but whatever it is does get done eventually. He's a good guy. I love him.

Serenamarr

Hubs works a second job at a restaurant for some extra money and usually it's just weekends but it was a special restaurant week in our town so they had him scheduled 60 hours this past week. He worked doubles Friday Saturday and Sunday, so 1030 am to around midnight. I was missing him so much but I know he's doing what he needs to do for our family, but then Saturday he got done around 1130 and called saying he would be home soon. He ended up staying at the restaurant with coworkers watching the fight and then went to a bar and didn't get in until 215! I was torn between being upset and being like well he just worked 13 hours so he can do whatever he wants. I settled on hurt that after barely seeing me all week he would rather stay out with people he's been with all day than come home to me.

Emilywooddesign

My husband is very handy and reliable- if I need him to do anything he will in one second but he is also a total workaholic. He can be a bit of a slave driver because he thinks that because I'm home- the house should be spotless and dinner should be made ( that's what you get for marrying a European man)

He is taking 3 months off this summer to help with the twins so I try not to complain about him not being around so much. Typically he is home by 7:30pm and he works a lot of Games on weekends and goes away a lot (he works in pro sports) it will be nice to spend some time with him once the Babies are here and bond as a family. Thank god I have my beautiful baby dog to keep me company- I'm
Hoping he might slow down a bit once the kids come, my dad was a fantastic father but he worked so much when I was a kid that my mum basically raised my brother and I alone so I'm hoping that doesn't happen to me.

Frogger5

BridgetRoche said:

My hubby had a bit of an upset tummy yesterday and (seriously) told me last night that he doesn't mind because now he understands what my contractions will feel like. Seriously, this is what I'm dealing with ladies!

Oh my goodness, MH said something very similar. He came home from work last Wed. with a stomach ache. He proceeded to actually moan and groan all evening, and took Thursday off (totally unnecessarily IMO, but whatever he has a lot of sick time available). When I got home from work that day, he told me very seriously that now he would be better able to understand what I'm going through when I'm in labor because his poor tummy hurt so bad. Dream on, buddy, there's no way there's any comparison. I guess at least he's trying?

jesscmv

Frogger5 said:

BridgetRoche said:

My hubby had a bit of an upset tummy yesterday and (seriously) told me last night that he doesn't mind because now he understands what my contractions will feel like. Seriously, this is what I'm dealing with ladies!

Oh my goodness, MH said something very similar. He came home from work last Wed. with a stomach ache. He proceeded to actually moan and groan all evening, and took Thursday off (totally unnecessarily IMO, but whatever he has a lot of sick time available). When I got home from work that day, he told me very seriously that now he would be better able to understand what I'm going through when I'm in labor because his poor tummy hurt so bad. Dream on, buddy, there's no way there's any comparison. I guess at least he's trying?

You should show him this! idk if this is really true but definitely different than a stomach ache!

CateOfChicago

@devyns2nd Once I'm done with my DH, I'll be over with my bat to take care if yours. And then, I'll be hitting up all those wonderful husbands bc they are getting on my nerves with their wonderfulness. Bitter, party of 1 right here.

TheEA

***WARNING!!! This is disgusting!***
OMG! This morning when my DH was rushing down the stairs to leave for work (he has been sleeping in lately so he's always in a rush to get ready and leave on time arg) he said I'm so sorry but I have to leave now or I'll be late!! I asked why he was sorry. As he was grabbing the breakfast, coffee, and lunch I made for him he said I'm sorry because I clogged the toilet and when I tried to fix it it overflowed and now there's disgusting poop water all over the bathroom floor. He said sorry, but I have to leave now or I'll get stuck in traffic. So he just left the bathroom a gigantic poopy mess for me to clean up...
REALLY!!??!? I just deep cleaned the bathroom yesterday!!! OMG I can't deal with this!!!

karaelaine1991

TheEA said:

***WARNING!!! This is disgusting!***
OMG! This morning when my DH was rushing down the stairs to leave for work (he has been sleeping in lately so he's always in a rush to get ready and leave on time arg) he said I'm so sorry but I have to leave now or I'll be late!! I asked why he was sorry. As he was grabbing the breakfast, coffee, and lunch I made for him he said I'm sorry because I clogged the toilet and when I tried to fix it it overflowed and now there's disgusting poop water all over the bathroom floor. He said sorry, but I have to leave now or I'll get stuck in traffic. So he just left the bathroom a gigantic poopy mess for me to clean up...
REALLY!!??!? I just deep cleaned the bathroom yesterday!!! OMG I can't deal with this!!!

Omg my husband would be in soooo much trouble! Yours better be ready to spoil you tonight after that!

KaLikeAWind

@TheEA OH HELL NO. I'm so sorry this happened to you. Next time physically block the door with your body and belly and that homie is going into work LATE!

MrsWiggleWaggle

@theEA That would be grounds for a hotel stay for me and my kitty!! 

Came here to rant, I was so excited to tell DH that I have my hospital bag packed (except for the LED candles....I feel like I have to get them now!) I told him I was going to put together the baby's bag. He was all, "Oh yeah I have some shorts and tshirts in my drawer you haven't put in." AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAh! I told him to make his own bag and he was HORRIFIED at the idea that we would take 3 (THREE!) bags to the hospital! The conversation included gems such as "How can you not have any extra room for my stuff!" Umm...obviously I need room for the candles!

MrsWiggleWaggle

Coming back to say he just looked over the list I emailed him weeks ago and requested sour gummy worms and Reese's pieces for "snacks". Le sigh....what are you gonna do? #-o

Sammy K

So after raving about my hubby, he pulls this: I left for a yoga class to meet a doula. I came home late, really wanting to talk and he had gotten drunk with the neighbors while DS slept. He left the windows in the house open and we had storms so I had to clean up water everywhere, he left food out, never took out the trash and did I mention drunk while watching our son? On top of that, he let the dog loose in a thunderstorm, so I had to chase him at 10:30 at night. Then the dog puked when we got back and DS woke up scared from the thunder and refused to sleep in his bed. I spent until almost 1am trying to get DS to sleep while DH ('damn husband' at this point) was passed out. I'll let you all guess what kind of mood I'm in today.

LaurenAnn0405

@MrsWiggleWaggle my DH fully expects a separate bag of "Daddy snacks" :-$ this might be partly my fault because when DD was born I packed him a bag of snacks because I was being induced at 10 pm and I knew the cafeteria wouldn't be open and I wasn't sure how long we were going to be there.  Now though he seems to think this is the "norm" and is asking me what I plan on buying for him-sigh

mommawhitson

Mine hubby has been off and on when it comes to the pregnancy. One day he demands I stop going in to my office because he cares about our health, and the next he's so engrossed in the TV that I spent all night trying to get the chores done, and when he finally emerges from the couch, he fusses at me for doing the laundry. Who else is going to do it, huh??

TheEA

Oh, I'm expecting cookies that I don't have to share. Plus he will be doing th dishes after dinner, giving DS a bath, and putting him to bed while I relax with my cookies.

karaelaine1991

LaurenCearfoss said:

@MrsWiggleWaggle my DH fully expects a separate bag of "Daddy snacks" :-$ this might be partly my fault because when DD was born I packed him a bag of snacks because I was being induced at 10 pm and I knew the cafeteria wouldn't be open and I wasn't sure how long we were going to be there.  Now though he seems to think this is the "norm" and is asking me what I plan on buying for him-sigh

I'm absolutely getting "daddy snacks" - that way I won't have to share mine!