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FrecklesInside · December 2014

luvsponies said:

I seriously need to bump more at night. Missed the LB and FB posts! As usual, M15 has it under control though. Love tits to the lovely admin volunteers and everyone else on the drive-bys/lurker rules. Totally agree.

Now to hope I get into this haggard group!

::side eye:: Who are you? .....

JK JK JK. You are definitely troll material.

lib1974 · December 2014

I would love to join a fb group! It would be a much easier for me for sure. I'll pm one of you guys in the next couple days with the link.

ngolimento · December 2014

I just know requests will come flooding in tomorrow. Just to let everyone know, I am on mobile during the day, so if you PM me your link don't lose hope if I don't respond until evening. I'll take care of you, promise.

happybabe123 · December 2014

Ok, I'm sending a pm over. So nerve racking because I don't know if I'm around enough. . . But I get the reasoning. I'd love to get to know you all a bit better!

cinderella105 · December 2014

I'd love to be a part of this! It would be easier to keep up with you ladies because facebook works way better on my phone than this and I'm only mobile. I hope I qualify to join. ;;)

Lovebeingamomny · December 2014

I am down and agree with the no lurkers. And love the admin choices! I'll have to send mine tomorrow.

JCWhitey · December 2014

Uh... yes. I'm in!

Sorry, can't get through 5 pages with this heartburn (ugh!!) You guys move fast! I'm in Hawaii and way too behind!!

jess412love · December 2014

I'm totally down with the fb group. My laptop is from 1987 (jk, but it's a POS) so I do all my bumping from my phone. Facebook would be a lot more personal and that aspect I would enjoy. But I also wouldn't be super offended if I didn't "make the cut". I understand that there has to be some level recognition involved.

DragonflyDreaming · December 2014

I definitely prefer to not have randoms or lurkers. Facebook is much more 'personal'. I love so many of the ideas that have been proposed. But most specifically I like the idea that anyone that wants to join the group should post on here (maybe a sticky thread?) first. And the mods of the group can use love tits or recognition to decide. (@mangomimosa‌ idea was good!).

I also feel that the mods mentioned are great and would be good at recognizing randoms vs other regs.

Also, @EmpireRecords24 idea of letting them do more action here, before accepting them in yhe group is a good idea. There are so many reasons to lurk, but we've had MANY opportunities for lurkers to show support for hurting mommas or contribute. If they're just using us as their google and personal source of info, then that doesn't seem like the type of group member that would want to bond closer, anyway. They can still get their 'info' from this board.

I guess i don't understand why long time lurkers who haven't posted or participated should suddenly be allowed to join something a bit more private.

Just my thoughts.

PS: I'm glad it doesn't log our love tits that we give. I seriously have love fests for you all and my numbers would be crazy!

jap618 · December 2014

I'm in if you'll have me!! Facebook will be 1000x easier over time.

meowkitten · December 2014

Man I need to start getting on more at night...but I agree with everyone's suggestions regarding no lurkers!

I think FB will be so much easier to keep up with once all the babies are here, and I'm way more comfortable posting pictures there.

jap618 · December 2014

happymamax2 said:

I barely created a new fb a few days ago and don't have any friends or family members on there as I use it for the groups! Would that be an issue for anybody? I would love to join a fb group as it is private and I'd feel more comfortable sharing information about myself on there!

Being 100% honest, yes this is weird to me.

lynndavid6912 · December 2014

DragonflyDreaming said:

PS: I'm glad it doesn't log our love tits that we give. I seriously have love fests for you all and my numbers would be crazy!

This. I hand out love-tits like they're going out of style. I think I have a problem!

almeyer2013 · December 2014

I would love to be apart of the fb group! I haven't been as active on m15 mainly because I have been with some family matters, but I would love to keep in touch with many of you via fb!

ngolimento · December 2014

For anyone that I friended to get you in, feel free to unfriend me if you like. It won't hurt my feelings

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bmstee03 · December 2014

I'm still new so my opinion you can take or leave. I am in a facebook group from thebump I have been in since my son was in cloth diapers. So 3-4 years. They added everyone who wanted an add and the deleted based on lack of activity for the first few months and then periodically thereafter. There is now a tight knit group of women who are all active. People have been added from time to time if they have a member who knows them irl to vouch for them.

FrecklesInside · December 2014

IME, it tends to take some time to become active as people get used to it and figure out who everyone is. It isn't difficult to figure out how to post though. In my other BMB we post anything we want to chat about, have our weekly posts like UO and FFFC. We do a Mommy and Daddy and me Monday with pictures of our kids with parents, a Tiny Tot or now Toddler Tuesday, and we do an SOS or show em off Saturday. That's just how we've developed our picture sharing. But people post pictures or videos whenever they'd like. Over two years later, we still do random GTKY type posts, but in the beginning those made up the majority of our posts.

ngolimento · December 2014

AleWife said:

etoille said:

I don't do facebook (as in I've never had a profile/page) - I keep any and all personal information pretty locked down and on a completely case by case basis for both personal and professional reasons. There's obviously been women I've connected with from here and DH and I met over the internet (gaming) but I have just seen too much shit go haywire over the years. Not only other places on the webs and other parts of TB...but in my own backyard/BMB.

There was a woman who joined J13 right around the time the babies were born. Less than a month ago it was discovered that she tried to open credit cards in another woman from J13's name. She ran sunshine missions, was FB friends with a lot of people, met people offline, had access to names, telephone numbers addresses etc. Personally my radar went off with her almost immediately so I never became friends with her/shared any personal info but it was a pretty big deal for J13 emotionally. She's since been banned; she also was claiming to be pregnant again on May 15 but that was extremely fishy along with a whole bunch of other stuff she said/claimed over the years.

My advice to folks is to err on the side of exclusion. Even if someone is 'kind of known' better to let them prove themselves here on a trial basis first than risk mass exposure.

Agreed. I don't have a FB page/profile, either. I was mighty tempted to start a new one to get to know all of you gals. But... alas, I just can't. I'll have to miss out on some of the fun.

You bring up some great points here regarding user-to-user safety; I am also weary of Facebook and its privacy policies as a whole.

Call me paranoid ... it just gives me the heebs!

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People have probably already noticed who joined the group, but I actually have a dummy FB acct that I created years ago to join groups off of The Knot and The Bump. I actually use it more than my 'real' FB acct

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FrecklesInside · December 2014

I've had a request to add another admin to the group, but no nominations. Does anyone want to make nominations?

mariahd43 · December 2014

katydid2014 said:
I think it should be pretty easy to tell who should and shouldn't be excluded. I think if you have participated and posted long enough that your username, avatar, and/or siggy are recognizable then they should be fine. I guess it would be up to whoever is managing the page to make the determination, maybe getting a second opinion from our dutiful mod if there is a questionable applicant.

This!

FrecklesInside · December 2014

Just a reminder that if an admin has sent you a friend request, you need to accept them so they can add you to the group. You can then unfriend them, but the process can't be completed until you've accepted the request and allowed them to add you to the group.

kellbell1982 · December 2014

I just got into the FB group so first and foremost thanks for the add, I'm not sure where we put our FB names and bump names? On FB or on here

FrecklesInside · December 2014

kellbell1982 said:

I just got into the FB group so first and foremost thanks for the add, I'm not sure where we put our FB names and bump names? On FB or on here

There is a document on the FB group.

jaspears0816 · December 2014

Wow, a lot can happen when one attends a rehearsal dinner all night then straight to bed! After the wedding I'll send my request, I'm not a big poster/commenter but I'm here every day

almeyer2013 · December 2014

@FrecklesInside‌ I just sent you a pm message.

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bmstee03 · December 2014

ToasterCat said:

If people want to get in quickly, I am at my computer for the time being Unless you are a creeper. Then there are five passwords and a secret handshake.

How does one 'get in'?

ngolimento · December 2014

bmstee03 said:

ToasterCat said:

If people want to get in quickly, I am at my computer for the time being Unless you are a creeper. Then there are five passwords and a secret handshake.

How does one 'get in'?

PM her

DragonflyDreaming · December 2014

How do we update our screennames/names if on mobile?

ngolimento · December 2014

DragonflyDreaming said:
How do we update our screennames/names if on mobile?

Post in the document thread in the right format, and one of us will add you when we get to our computers.

cinderella105 · December 2014

I got the friend request from an admin but no invite for the group. Am I just ahead of myself? Lol

selena61307 · December 2014

I am permanently mobile but I am already fb friends with more than a Hangul of members from the nightly chat days. Can someone add me? Trying to get my fb link via mobile had proven that I am technically stupid.

cinderella105 · December 2014

Darbie914 said:

cinderella105 said:

I got the friend request from an admin but no invite for the group. Am I just ahead of myself? Lol

You have to accept the friend request first in order to be added to the group.

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I did lol

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lmc929 · December 2014

I hope I am recognizable! I dont post all that often and never had a cool gif/signature

janda426 · December 2014

Can I just say I really hope this doesn't kill the board 2 months before the babies are even here?

I'm holding off on joining for now and it would suck if I come here every day to find tumble weeds rolling around cause everyone moved to FB.

Whitfry · December 2014

ToasterCat said:
If people want to get in quickly, I am at my computer for the time being Unless you are a creeper. Then there are five passwords and a secret handshake.

I think I pm'd you w/ a request last night, but I'm not sure I did everything correctly.

wendyld · December 2014

etoille said:

janda426 said:

Can I just say I really hope this doesn't kill the board 2 months before the babies are even here?

I'm holding off on joining for now and it would suck if I come here every day to find tumble weeds rolling around cause everyone moved to FB.

Eh I don't think it will kill it. I think that it might increase the odds that this is one of the BMB's that fizzles soon after the kids turn one but it won't kill it any time soon.

Frankly (and no one freak out here please and no I'm not part of the super secret cool kids club, I just know that they exist :P), there's already offboard groups/smaller sects that exist on this board. Some of the people in those groups went inactive and only interact with those folks now but the majority still maintain a pretty active presence here as well. So it's just kind of how things go.

Normally I wouldn't mention that fact but the folks in those groups have been pretty unsubtle about it so just citing as anecdotal evidence since I figured that they didn't care if others knew/noticed.

I don't post regularly, but keep up with a handful of people that I got close to offboard. That's not an affront on anyone here, but I had a miscarriage (well, 3 in a row) so all day everyday pregnancy talk was not helping me get through/over that. I also didn't want to abandon friends I made, so I only pop in here sporadically. If people's feelings are hurt by that, I don't know what to say.

FrecklesInside · December 2014

I doubt FB is going to kill the board. It is going to be OK folks. And people who are regular members here who don't want to join now but do want to join later, I don't see why anyone would ever have an issue with that, so everyone should do what they're comfortable with.

I don't think anyone needs to worry or be negative about it.

Also, I am eating a huge bowl of turnips for lunch.