~The Ongoing MOTN Check In ~

jaimee2003 · September 2014

As soon as I laid down I felt the telltale post nasal drip, and now sure enough, I have a sore throat. @$&#!! I feel like a bigger baby than the actual baby in the house right now. Waahh.

slippintrippn84 · September 2014

OMG, omg. My LO, who was a fussy, crying nightmare ALL.DAY. yesterday, just slept from 11pm to 5:30am. He's 7 weeks today. Sweet victory sleep.
I did wake up around 3:45am wondering why he was not crying yet, and I thought maybe I should get up and check on him then go pump. Ended up saying eff it and went back to sleep.
Glorious. Now I'm pumping my super heavy engorged tits wondering when we'll have another night like this again.

Dawn5481 · September 2014

Well, as I suspected, FI got home at 9 (30 minutes later than expected). He took a shower, ate, and is currently snoring on the couch. Been with LO by myself since 7am, and she's staring at me right now instead of sleeping. My head is in a vice grip and I'm so exhausted I want to cry.

tamarar5 · September 2014

So. Both DS and DD2 have finally gone back to sleep. At one point, both were screaming at the same time. I should try to get DD2 out of the Moby and go get some editing done, but I'm tired and so hungry, so I don't think I'm going to.

ColeyJ88 · September 2014

Question for those of you who are up all night: how do you know if LO is restless because of hunger or something else? My LO is extremely loud while sleeping and the past few nights I have been waking almost every hour, go to feed him cause I think he is hungry, and he will be fast asleep and not take the boob. I feel like I could be getting so much more sleep! Help!

BabyM82714 · September 2014

Up with LO. She ate. Back to sleep. Alimentum stinks so bad. Ewwwww but hopefully it'll help her belly...she's seeming to have calmed down and takes the bottle well. Although with SO gone this house is lonely. But with my little girl I can't ever be lonely.

BabyM82714 · September 2014

ColeyJ88 said:
Question for those of you who are up all night: how do you know if LO is restless because of hunger or something else? My LO is extremely loud while sleeping and the past few nights I have been waking almost every hour, go to feed him cause I think he is hungry, and he will be fast asleep and not take the boob. I feel like I could be getting so much more sleep! Help!

Not much help but LO is a loud sleeper. I ignore her noises. (Not sure if good orbad) she nay be fgiving me cues as ahwa getting hungry. But I don't get up to feed her until she crys her hungry cry. I've learned to sleep through most evweythibf else

klauke_t13 · September 2014

Holy cow! I fed at 7:30, finally got him down at 9, and just woke up at 1:30 to him starting to grunt but still asleep! Now hopefully he will go down again for another 3-4!

Dawn5481 · September 2014

Finally get a 4 hour stretch, and I could only sleep for 2 of them. I can't win.

jaimee2003 · September 2014

coffee&wine said:
This wonder week not sleeping anywhere but my arms sht is real! This is our worst sleep night yet.

Right there with ya @coffee&wine. It's getting super serious over here, now the little bugger's preferred method of sleep is when my boob is acting as his pillow. I mean I get it, boobs make great pillows! But, this has got to stop...to get through it I tell myself how fun it will be to regale him with stories of him using my boob as a pillow in front of his friends when he is a teenager. Evil Mom? Hey, whatever it takes to get through the nights, amirite??

Edited, tagged wrong poster initially.

Dawn5481 · September 2014

I'm seriously starting to lose it. After 14 hours by myself yesterday, 3 hours of feedings and diaper changes last night, 10 hours by myself today, and 5 minutes of help from FI tonight before LO was handed back to me because she was crying, I'm just done. I've been holding her all day, and I've been trying to get her to sleep since 9. My whole body hurts, and I can literally feel myself inching towards the door to run out of here, drive to a secluded parking lot, and sleep for the next 12 hours.

klauke_t13 · September 2014

Just got little A to sleep in his crib for the first time....and got 4 straight hrs! Now fingers crossed that he'll go back down again!

SoSayWeAll · September 2014

I just got DS to sleep in the PNP for 5 hours!

He has been sleeping in his RNP(which is great), but I wanted him used to a flat surface.

BabyM82714 · September 2014

Can babies randomly start colic at like 5 weeks?! LO has started showing signs of it..up until bow the child has been golden. I've barely slept the last 3 days and because BF is out of the house right now I've def had no help.

My life is a shit storm. And I hate to resent LO for being a psycho fuss head. But Damn its like she knows I'm alone and exhausted and emotional so she should just stop sleeping and scream.

slippintrippn84 · September 2014

This has been the worst night feeding we've had in weeks. LO whimpered and fussed a bit while I was changing his diaper like usual. When it came to bottles, that booger would drink for a bit, but then arch his back and straighten and lock his legs, flail his arms and squeal like I wasn't feeding him. On top of it, I get these weirdo sensations in my midsection in the middle of the night that make me feel really restless and that I need to get up and wiggle, so trying to feed a wiggly baby does not help. Well, LO still was fussing when I gave him the bottle so I inspected it under a light and there was a green piece of something lodged in the opening of the nipple blocking it. Weird. It looked like lettuce or spinach. No clue what it was but I ripped it out and gave LO his bottle back. He still fought me a bit after that, but was back asleep within 15 minutes. Our whole night feeding usually takes 30 mins tops and tonight took over a freggin hour. Now I'm pumping so I can go back to sleep. I was in a deeeep sleep too.

abnelsen22 · September 2014

Leskay said:
LO one wakes every 2 to 3 hours to eat (Formula feed). She is one month old and every one makes it seem as though she should definitely be sleeping more. Should I be spacing her bottles out more in the day so she drinks more ounces at one setting? Currently she'll drink between 3 to 4 ounces every 2/3 hours.

Nope. That's about right. My LO is ff and that's how he was/is. He's almost 9 weeks now. He will occasionally give us a 4 hour stretch at night, but not often. And he's up to 5 oz at feedings.

Besides, do you really want to deny your LO food when she's hungry just to try and get her on a better schedule for you?

laurenita8 · September 2014

I feel like a single mother, except madder. DH has been off work for the last two days. I let him sleep until noon and then ran errands for an hour or so yesterday afternoon and then took DS at 4pm. DH went to sleep and I did all the feedings until around 7am. At that point it was botched and I had to step in to get DS to sleep.

We had a night nurse for a week or so and it improved my technique for getting DS back to sleep. I'm really improving though I don't have it as perfected as the night nurses. DH who was initially better with DS than me isn't putting the time in and therefore isn't improving.

Tonight I said I wanted a nap at 630pm since DS was napping too. I encouraged DH to nap too but just after we got into bed DS woke up and somehow I went to him. He was down for the night and the next feeding went well. At 3 ish I woke DH to do the feeding which he once again completely botched so I spent longer fixing than it would have been to do it right the first time.

Here's the night nurse technique. Make a little more formula than you need. We need at least 5oz. DH made 4oz! Feed 2/3 of formula, change diaper. He fed 1/4 and changed so it had to be done again when DS wouldn't settle down as a just in case/it's a little wet. Anyway, after the change I keep feeding and try to swaddle while baby is sleepy and distracted. Burp/back rub and then beddy bye, sometimes with a pacifier.

DH messed up the order which made the whole thing a nightmare. Meanwhile when I walked in because I heard more crying than this requires, he was mid diaper change #1 and DH was incessantly whining about his shoulder hurting due to a surgery/repair done months ago. Suck it up.

I was so mad. I took over and made DH get me things like he was my assistant. Now I'm so riled I'm still up. DH is of course asleep. He is barely helpful, constantly shirking. He wants to visit for an hour here or there, that leaves 22 hours that I'm responsible.

Thanks for providing me an opportunity to rant.

laurenita8 · September 2014

Sorry that was ridiculously long, I'm just so worked up.

rainbowwillow · September 2014

I just don't know why I bother trying to put LO to bed on his bassinett or RnP. I tried from 12-2:30 & he was wide awake or crying the entire time. He comfort nursed on me for 3 minutes & he was out. So he slept on me for the rest of the night, in between feedings of course. At least we both got some sleep.

Dawn5481 · September 2014

@Leskay‌ - See how well my code red went in the DH/SO vent thread

. @BabyM82714‌ - I hope you're holding up ok. Any indication y'all could work things out? Is there anyone that can help you out in the meantime?

BabyM82714 · September 2014

Dawn5481 said:
@BabyM82714‌ - I hope you're holding up ok. Any indication y'all could work things out? Is there anyone that can help you out in the meantime?

I told him he needs to get into therapy. And until the date is set and we actually attend he can't come home. And him coming home is a decision the therapist is going to help makd. My mom and sister are able to help. When I go back to work this weekend they will have LO. I don't want him around. Things got way out of control and I don't feel safe and that makes me child not safe.

Motherhood has given me the extra push to fight for this issues. IF he can learn to cope and deal with his issues and I can try to forget about what has happened. Then maybe things will work. But us together may not be best.

I'm sad for myself in some.ways. but my LO doesn't not deserve this life and I won't let it continue.

Thanks girl! I'm sorry your night went so rough too! Your SO needs a come to Jesus moment too!!!

Dawn5481 · September 2014

Sounds like you have your head on straight. Proud of you. I'm glad you have extra help. That's one of many reasons I wish my mom and dad were still around. They would have been all over this little girl. I'd have to pry her from their hands

raquelynn714 · September 2014

@Leskay‌ I'm feeding the same way as you, but LO is consuming fewer ounces bc he's sleeping through the night. I also feed LO 3-4oz every 2-3 hours. However, he does not eat from 11pm-7am (23oz of breast milk during the hours he's not sleeping). I've read that the # of oz in milk stays approximately the same from 1month to 1 year in breast milk fed babies... Not sure if this is the same for formula fed babies. Hopefully you will find clarity or justification that your LO is sleeping enough.

raquelynn714 · September 2014

Preston is 7 weeks 2days already. We started sleep training at 4weeks. It only took 2days, but may be due to a mommy fail. I think his sleeping through the night is attributed to both nature (lucky with his demeanor) and nurture (conditioning him w dark room / no talking / swaddle / eating all oz before bed time / predictable routines ). I'm not exactly sure why he sleeps 11-7... Honestly, the first night we put him in the crib, our baby monitor ran out of juice bc we forgot to charge it. So I may have inadvertently slept through him crying it out for a whole night. Whoops. I can say he hasn't cried in the MOTN since day 2 of sleep training...

slippintrippn84 · September 2014

Anybody want to contribute to writing a MOTN rule book? I'll start.
Rules in no particular order.
1. Go to the bathroom before responding to LO's cries. It sucks to hold a baby and try to potty then wash hands.
2. DH must share some MOTN duties
3. Snacks at any time are perfectly acceptable.
4. Staying up a little longer to snuggle LO is perfectly fine
5. Falling asleep while holding the snuggly baby happens. Don't judge yourself too hard.

What do you gals have to add?

wandsandwine · September 2014

LO has been doing a midnight feeding and then sleeping until 7am for a week and a half, it's been wonderful. Now he's back to waking again at 430 screaming bloody murder. Why do you hate me when all I do is love you?

sharkmama39 · September 2014

I just had to have SO give K a bottle. She recently has developed this MOTN thing on my right side where she will NOT stay latched. Meanwhile she is flipping out bc I won't give her the boob. I'm like it's literally in your mouth, you just need to eat. I tried everything I could think of to get her to latch to no avail. We both just kept getting more are more frustrated, until finally I was like f*ck it, get a bottle.

@slippintrippn84‌
I'd add:
6. giving a bottle when you're at your wits end is perfectly acceptable.

klauke_t13 · September 2014

jzalinski said:
I just had to have SO give K a bottle. She recently has developed this MOTN thing on my right side where she will NOT stay latched. Meanwhile she is flipping out bc I won't give her the boob. I'm like it's literally in your mouth, you just need to eat. I tried everything I could think of to get her to latch to no avail. We both just kept getting more are more frustrated, until finally I was like f*ck it, get a bottle.

^this has been happening at our house for the last couple of days too. So frustrating!
*stuck in box.

SoSayWeAll · September 2014

@slippintrippn84‌
7. Do not watch Forensic Files in the MOTN when you are up alone with LO.
8. Always have a burp cloth handy when you sit down to nurse LO, otherwise milk sprays everywhere.

gahorseygal · September 2014

LO has been sleeping so well and tonight she is a hungry hippo. According to wonder weeks its her second leap and this lasts two weeks. Um I cant handle two weeks of little sleep!

cachoque · September 2014

Decided to try sleeping in the nursery crib tonight after a semi successful nap in it earlier today. We're normally in the bassinet in our bedroom... Ugh! So now I'm going back and forth all night since he wont go more than 20min without waking himself. And my help from DH has all but vanished now that I'm not nursing next to him on our bed! Wtf was I thinking!

slippintrippn84 · September 2014

@cachoque Don't get discouraged!! It sucked for the first couple nights but it gets better!!

BabyM82714 · September 2014

I just clearly have no direction happening in my life. Not a whole lot makes sense. In trying to see if BF and I have a salvageable relationship I'm loosing my mind and myself. We just have totally different views on life and most things in general. I just don't see how we will ever function as a team the way I want us to be able to do.

I love him. But I don't think we can be happy forever. And I really don't want to put myself through a shitty marriage and be even more bound to the relationship. I don't think we are healthy together. We used to have a ball before we got serious, moved together, joined money, and got pregnant.

Its really hard to be a human with a heart when I need to just be heartless and stick with what I know is right. It hurts so bad and its so hard. And permantely being a single mom terrifies me. But deep down that's just what's going to happen and I know it. I need to be strong and embrace and except it.

Sorry a bit of a MOTN rant/self pep talk.

MC03 · September 2014

@BabyM82714‌ I'm sorry you are going through this. It's tough but it really sounds like you know what is the right thing for you and LO. You have so many years ahead of you and you never know what wonderful surprises life has in store for you.

Dawn5481 · September 2014

@BabyM82714‌ Ugh, my heart aches for you. Mainly because I've had the same feelings as you have before. I think above all else, your LO needs you to be happy. You're young, and you never know what/who lies ahead of you. It sounds like you have an awesome support system with your mom and sister, so be brave and do what your heart and gut tell you is right. You and your LO will be better off for it.

marathonmommy82 · September 2014

Motherfvucking gas

Dawn5481 · September 2014

hmctagg01 said:

My lunatic 4 week old was up for two 5 hour stretches yesterday with a bull shit 45 minute nap in between. We had a hell of a time putting her down and now I'm sitting here with her sleeping on my chest after our feeding because I'm terrified she'll wake up when I put her in the RnP. How can 10lbs be so scary?!

My kid is pulling this crap too. Whoever said babies sleep a lot was full of shit. She could be unconscious, and the second I put her down, her eyes pop open like she's been shot in the ass.

BabyM82714 · October 2014

You ladies rock and make me smile

even if its 2 am

slippintrippn84 · October 2014

LO woke up an hour earlier than usual. Is that a bad thing...so far no. I'll be back in bed in a minute and I might get another 4 hour stretch if all of the stars and planets have aligned.

lynds002 · October 2014

He keeps waking up screaming! What is going on? I thought it might be the growth spurt, but if I feed him, he spits up. Reflux? I am clueless; he usually sleeps so well. Today's my birthday and I had these beautiful visions of him giving me five hours of sleep as a present... guess not.

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