@deidremaria your son got exactly the right mommy. You're doing an amazing job, don't let your mind play those tricks on you. True, your babe didn't ask to be here, but you are taking great care of him, and he is blessed to have you for a mother.
you're sweet... thanks I know I should be kinder to myself but it's so hard
Do you do affirmations? They feel silly, but they can help you rewrite the script in your head. Look at yourself in the mirror and repeat: "I am a good mother. I am enough." Affirmations can help replace the untrue, damaging thoughts with true, positive ones.
I've never done this but I will start. I am definitely gonna keep you posted on how it goes
@deidremaria the great thing about babies is that they can't compare notes. My son doesn't know that I don't cloth diaper him or that I probably don't do enough tummy time or that I don't use organic all natural paraben free blood of a virgin baby soap. And your son doesn't know that either. He just knows he's got this mommy that feeds him, snuggles him, and keeps his butt clean. So to him, you earned every single smile.
This. They also don't compare when they go to school no group of kids are standing around comparing bf vs ff or cloth vs disposable.
So apparently the huge thunderstorm we got overnight was very good for my flowers and grass, but not good for my garage door and uverse service. Uverse can't send anyone until between 4 and 8, which we all know means closer to 8. And I'm stuck in the house because I can't get the garage door open. (Pissed at DH who was able to get it manually open so he could leave for work but didn't think to move my car or tell me it didn't work until after he left).
Looks like all that cleaning might actually have to happen today.
@deidremaria your son got exactly the right mommy. You're doing an amazing job, don't let your mind play those tricks on you. True, your babe didn't ask to be here, but you are taking great care of him, and he is blessed to have you for a mother.
you're sweet... thanks I know I should be kinder to myself but it's so hard
Be kind to yourself mama :x
September Siggy Challenge: What I Sing in the Shower: Little Mermaid "Part Of That World"
I've been lurking RTT for a while. All this Michigan talk convinced me to do a quick intro. :-)
My daughter was born April 15, 10 days overdue! I live south of Ann Arbor. I've been teaching elementary school for 6 years. I applied for a principal position 3 days before LO was born, interviewed a month PP, and got the job! I go between excitement at the new position and guilt that I'm focusing on my career with a newborn at home.
I hope to contribute more and lurk less! Here's a pic of my little girl
How much time on an activity mat is too much? I feel like she on it for the majority of the day. I can't really see much wrong with that, but what the hell do I know.
Why do my boobs look so good? Then I peed on a stick...
@mamrotu73 I tried that. I'm a weenie and can't pull the double door. (Back to the gym!) And for some reason only the one door isn't working. We have a 3 car and the single works fine, the double won't work with either remote or on the wall.
And in a effort to fix the uverse I flipped and unplugged everything I could out there. Thankfully, because we just moved in and the house is new it's still under warranty. They are sending a guy out to fix it. Worse case I'll move my car into the single when he opens it.
I think I'm more pissed that uverse tried to tell me they couldn't be out here until Monday. Ummm hell no....
Gah, people suck, @ColleenSwerb! Prayers for your aunt's recovery and health!
Am I some kind of psychotic masochist for haunting the loss board when I'm getting frustrated with DD in an effort to remind myself just how much worse I could have it...? :-S
I'm sure you didn't have any bad intentions posting this, but I don't think it's quite appropriate. Those loss moms are going through something most of us can't even imagine and are posting on TB for support, not to remind us how fortunate we are. I know most of them likely will never read this thread, but we do have loss moms on A14 as well, and it could potentially be hurtful to them to read stuff like that. Just throwing it out there for awareness purposes!
OMG. See, this is why I shouldn't post when I'm frustrated and sleep-deprived. I totally didn't think of it that way, and profusely apologize to anyone I may have hurt with that post! Now I feel like a monumental asshole. #-o
A14 Siggy Challenge (November): Favorite Fall Smell
I'm losing it today. We're in leap 2 so dS2 wants to be held/eat all day and DS1 is super clingy and wants to play all the games that require running around the house and crawling on the floor, which I can't do with DS2 stuck to me. I'm failing them both and it's only 11AM. 9 more hours
This little guy will not nap. Yesterday he got about 30 minutes total throughout the day and had a very ugly bedtime at 7. Today he napped for 30 minutes this morning, but now he's exhausted again and refusing sleep. Ugh. I'm about to just start driving and hope that works.
How much time on an activity mat is too much? I feel like she on it for the majority of the day. I can't really see much wrong with that, but what the hell do I know.
my daughter loves her so as long as shes happy there i let her stay. i figure the activity is help building brain and motor function so unless she seems over stimulated it is ok.
June Siggy Challenge My little Princess BFP#2 7/28/13 EDD 4/9/14 Birthday : 4/10/14 Adalyn Nanette
This little guy will not nap. Yesterday he got about 30 minutes total throughout the day and had a very ugly bedtime at 7. Today he napped for 30 minutes this morning, but now he's exhausted again and refusing sleep. Ugh. I'm about to just start driving and hope that works.
How old is he? This sounds like leap 2 in our house. I could have written that post myself.
Eta - luckily today is better here. LO has been asleep for an hour now, thank goodness. Hope today is better for you, too.
9 weeks. I got him to go down for about 45 minutes now by doing the full-up bedtime routine.
@Xxlilies before and after pics! I love seeing transformations! Also I'm debating whether to go blonde or dark brown right now. Such a tough decision!
I will definitely take pics. I love blonde so much but dark brown looks good too . Wish I was tanner.
@dani+california The RTT thread has magical powers. I actually got a call this afternoon. They called my employer and finalized my claim!! And yes im in the lovely oshawa.
Sorry I've been AWOL the past couple days! DH's dad was really sick so he headed out to North Dakota to be with his parents in the hospital. Things are looking better, but everyone is exhausted, including baby and I. First time I've ever had to be completely alone with him overnight. I seriously don't know how single moms do it, he is coming home on Saturday and I'm already completely wiped out.
But this face makes it all worth it!! And if I have a husband who will drop everything and go home to take care of his parents and their chores, it gives me hope that we will be able to raise a son as selfless/caring as his daddy
@fireflygirl12 I was there yesterday. Hang in there! @purespark I didn't know your DH was a chef. So cool. I wanna come up for a day trip for a little wine tasting.
I don't know how you made it through the day. DS1 just went down for a nap, so hopefully I have a few hours where I'm only dealing with a super needy baby. DH just called and said he has to work late so I'm on my own through bedtimes. I just want to crawl into a corner and cry. I hate feeling like a bad mom to both kids.
@allyandmike24 hey! Jessica is going well! 7.5 weeks, I can't believe how fast its going! Ive got 5 weeks before going back to work, thats going to be so hard.
Hugs and High Fives to my A14 mommies! I simply cannot catch up for the life of me. I have two babies in a wonder week (Lord, I hope). This is me almost every time they are awake. I am catching up because I have one baby asleep in the garage after our hour long walk.. Mom of the year Just one to feed while I pump...
@fireflygirl12 I was there yesterday. Hang in there! @purespark I didn't know your DH was a chef. So cool. I wanna come up for a day trip for a little wine tasting.
Come up! He's a chef at a winery restaurant; actually, both of us work in the wine industry. We get free tastings everywhere, and discounts on purchases. We should go (and get @MrsStanton87 to come too!).
If either of you have the hook up at Rutherford, I'm coming to hang out with you daily...
At least weekly I sincerely ask myself "self, why are you such a moron that you didn't go into the beer/wine/spirits industry straight out of college?" Every week I fail to come up with any answer other than the obvious "because I'm a moron."
If anyone knows of a winery that needs an on-staff attorney, you let me know.
@katiegummow you DO deserve Mom of the Year award! I'm struggling today with toddler/baby and I can't even imagine doing 2 babies all the time! And you're going to be totally ripped carrying those two around all the time. And they are so freaking adorable.
Went to target today, got as far a the family restroom with my screaming baby. Changed his diaper and turned around and left. I really could have used a pick me up today too. Feeling very overwhelmed lately.
Today DH told me how tired he was because he had to wake up early yesterday to go play football. Fuck off dude. You didn't HAVE to do that. Everytime I get time to run out myself I feel like I need to hurry home so my time isn't enjoyed.
I just want to be alone for a while, and I feel guilty for feeling that way.
Thank you but I still think having a baby and a toddler is harder. 2 different developmental stages?! No thanks. Admire me in a couple years if we have another. In the. Mean time you 2+ mommies are my heroes.
Maybe we can just say that all moms (FTM, 2+, single moms, twin moms) rock? This parenting stuff is hard and some days we all just need confirmation that we're doing OK.
Re: Longest Thread EVER! (aka Random Thoughts Thread )
No more babies [-O<
Looks like all that cleaning might actually have to happen today.
Be kind to yourself mama :x
My daughter was born April 15, 10 days overdue! I live south of Ann Arbor. I've been teaching elementary school for 6 years. I applied for a principal position 3 days before LO was born, interviewed a month PP, and got the job! I go between excitement at the new position and guilt that I'm focusing on my career with a newborn at home.
I hope to contribute more and lurk less! Here's a pic of my little girl
Then I peed on a stick...
And in a effort to fix the uverse I flipped and unplugged everything I could out there. Thankfully, because we just moved in and the house is new it's still under warranty. They are sending a guy out to fix it. Worse case I'll move my car into the single when he opens it.
I think I'm more pissed that uverse tried to tell me they couldn't be out here until Monday. Ummm hell no....
She kicks daily affirmations’ ass!!! I can’t wait to get started doing this!
Dancing jiggling boobs. Warm swaddle. Ceiling fan. A nice big fart.
BFP: 7/5/10 EDD: 3/13/11 Miscarriage 8/1/10 at 8 weeks
BFP: 10/30/10 EDD: 7/7/11 Born 7/11//11 7lb12oz, 20 in.
BFP: 7/30/13 EDD: 4/9/14 Born right on time on his due date! 8lb10oz, 21.5 in.
Awesome prophetic fortune cookie: Love is a present that can be given every single day you live
OMG. See, this is why I shouldn't post when I'm frustrated and sleep-deprived. I totally didn't think of it that way, and profusely apologize to anyone I may have hurt with that post! Now I feel like a monumental asshole.
#-o
A14 Siggy Challenge (November): Favorite Fall Smell
Head to Greenville. I'll meet you for coffee!
BFP#2 7/28/13 EDD 4/9/14 Birthday : 4/10/14 Adalyn Nanette
BFP#2 7/28/13 EDD 4/9/14 Birthday : 4/10/14 Adalyn Nanette
But this face makes it all worth it!! And if I have a husband who will drop everything and go home to take care of his parents and their chores, it gives me hope that we will be able to raise a son as selfless/caring as his daddy
Pic of my little cutie..
I am catching up because I have one baby asleep in the garage after our hour long walk.. Mom of the year
Just one to feed while I pump...
If anyone knows of a winery that needs an on-staff attorney, you let me know.
Today DH told me how tired he was because he had to wake up early yesterday to go play football. Fuck off dude. You didn't HAVE to do that. Everytime I get time to run out myself I feel like I need to hurry home so my time isn't enjoyed.
I just want to be alone for a while, and I feel guilty for feeling that way.