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April 2014 Moms
Stupid Questions Thread
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IMO, night weaning at 6-8 months is kinda a receipe for disaster, they start nursing a bit less as they take more solids, so that can make your supply take a hit. Combine this with nightweaning and I think you've got a receipe for supply problems, esp. if you are working.
Honestly, I think a major reason I was able to pump enough to give exclusive BM for the first year was that we bedshared and he nursed a lot at night. This isn't for everyone and it's a very personal in the moment decision, but many of my friends who worked and then sleep trained around this age did struggle with pumping output during the week.
Honestly the night feeds weren't a huge deal at this point because he was very quick at nursing and with bedsharing I frequently fell back asleep while he was nursing. We then used Dr. Jay Gordon's night weaning technique at about 16-17 months with good success but went on nursing until I encouraged weaning at 21 months because we wanted to get pregnant and even 1 session/day was screwing up my cycles.
BFP#2 3/16/11, beta 138; 4/12 Baby/HB DS born 9/10/11 at 29w4d due to partial abruption and PTL
BFP#3 8/19/13 Another boy! 17P, modified bedrest and Nifedipine helped us have a termie! DS2 born 4/19/14 at 38w5d.
as for pumping while driving, I know a lot of ladies do it, but it always seemed a little dangerous to me. Hands-free bra is the way to go, but I never liked them, seemed like I needed to adjust, which defeats the purpose. Probably could have found a better fit to solve the problem. And then driving while pumping wouldn't have seemed like such an undertaking.
I never took a BFing class, and I nursed dd to 13mos. We were lucky she was a natural though.
I have heard about those hand free pumping bras though, seems pretty cool.
Then I peed on a stick...
As far as pumping while driving. I could prop my flanges in my nursing bras and they stayed once the suction started. I would drive out of the busy parking lot, double park a block or two down. Set up everything, get a let down started and then drive home. Honestly, I would have to stop the pump after about 15 mins or I would overflow the bottles. Even just pumping 5-10 mins would save time during your work day. It's definitely not for everyone, but something to consider if it's hard to pump at work.
In many workplaces time off to pump is protected by law or company policy, it's worth looking into. Just remember you save the company money because your baby will be healthier the more BM they get which means less insurance costs and days missed at work.
BFP#2 3/16/11, beta 138; 4/12 Baby/HB DS born 9/10/11 at 29w4d due to partial abruption and PTL
BFP#3 8/19/13 Another boy! 17P, modified bedrest and Nifedipine helped us have a termie! DS2 born 4/19/14 at 38w5d.
BFP#2 3/16/11, beta 138; 4/12 Baby/HB DS born 9/10/11 at 29w4d due to partial abruption and PTL
BFP#3 8/19/13 Another boy! 17P, modified bedrest and Nifedipine helped us have a termie! DS2 born 4/19/14 at 38w5d.
When a dog gets neutered, do they remove the balls completely or just "snip" them like a vasectomy? My dog got neutered yesterday but he still has balls. I'm just confused.
You can request prosthetic nuts, called neuticles, but inserted in the scrotum to replace the missing balls... But I personally don't see the value in making it look like your dog is still intact unless you're a man with a complex.
Baby Girl Born: April 2014
If you ask me what I came to do in this world, I, an artist, I will answer you:
Baby Girl Born: April 2014
If you ask me what I came to do in this world, I, an artist, I will answer you:
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Definitely not. That is much more dangerous. In the event of a car accident your baby is very well protected by the amniotic fluid. Besides that, in a car accident serious enough to do the damage you described and you had the lap band up around your ribs- it's unlikely you would survive. Just a guess.
Obviously I'm not a crash test expert but I've been told by multiple HC providers to wear it at the lap.
ETA: now I'm wondering if you are talking about the lap band or the strap? Either way the lap band should be worn at the lap and the strap should fall across your chest above your belly.
BFP#2 3/16/11, beta 138; 4/12 Baby/HB DS born 9/10/11 at 29w4d due to partial abruption and PTL
BFP#3 8/19/13 Another boy! 17P, modified bedrest and Nifedipine helped us have a termie! DS2 born 4/19/14 at 38w5d.
Then we had you.
Now we are complete.
BFP#2 3/16/11, beta 138; 4/12 Baby/HB DS born 9/10/11 at 29w4d due to partial abruption and PTL
BFP#3 8/19/13 Another boy! 17P, modified bedrest and Nifedipine helped us have a termie! DS2 born 4/19/14 at 38w5d.
For 'smaller' issues that are truly parenting style: if I'm there, I'm the mom, and it's my kid. Especially if we're at my house. Tonight we were at the ILs and MIL gave her a cookie before dinner. I told DD we don't eat cookies before dinner, but since we're at Nanna's house and Nanna gave it to you, that's okay. It's not like that's a daily (or even monthy) occurrence. I think kids get it when you break the rules on special occasions.
This was me! With DS my water broke at home, but contractions dint even start til 30 mins later, and were immediately 2-3 mins apart. I was dilated to 3cm when I got there, then 2½ hours later when they went to put the internal monitor on his head cause they couldn't get the HB well enough from the outside, I was 10cm and his head was making its way into the birth canal. Had they not had to do the monitor, he would've slipped out before the OB could even be called.
1. Some things we just let go if we're not present (like if DD spends the night). Sometimes I hate having to pick my battles, but her ridiculousness forces us to. Example: MIL loooooves frilly ruffly crap. If she wants to spend her money on clothes that we hate and keep them at her house for DD to wear once before she grows out of them, whatever (humorously enough, DD hates most of these things so she doesn't end up wearing most of it anyway -- try and put a tutu on my kid and she will scream her head off!). And if she gets 3 cookies when she spends the night when we would only give her one or none, so be it -- chalk it up to "special grandparent treats" and call it a day. (Now, when she was under a year, we were WAY strict about what they could give her to eat -- no, you may not "spoil" my 7 mo old with a cupcake, psycho.)
2. Some things we take a hard line on and we use "BECAUSE SCIENCE" to back us up. Examples: screen time and BFing. My MIL cannot understand why we have strict screen time rules and hated that I EBFed ("but I want to feed the baaaaaybeeeee"). We deflect some of her flack on things like that with the whole "experts say this is the best" excuse. Bonus Points if we could find Dr Oz on record taking our side (eye.fucking.roll).
3. Some things we take a hard line on and we just have to stand our ground because it's best for our family. These are our roughest battles, and, unfortunately, they are the ones that come up over and over again. It's tiring, but if it's on issues that are really important to you (a big one for us is not going totally overboard on presents at Christmas), you just have to stick to your guns. We've already decided that next year we won't let DD come in their home to celebrate Christmas until they've whittled their present pile down to 4 or 5 gifts. That may seem extreme, but we've tried every other way to tell her to please tone it down, and she just won't listen. She'll pout and probably blame it all on me, but at least my child won't grow up thinking Christmas = STUFF STUFF STUFF!
Yay! I wrote you a novel!
Anywho...
Ok! Car seat protectors? Are they safe? Are the necessary? I'm talking about like the cover that goes on the seat of your car and then the car seat goes on top? I know as infants kids aren't throwing Cheerios or whatever, I'm just curious.
Oh no! I didn't realize this. I got one to protect my leather seats...
Baby Girl Born: April 2014
If you ask me what I came to do in this world, I, an artist, I will answer you:
I go back to Boundaries, by John Townsend and Henry Cloud. (Highly, highly recommend you get this book and read it if having hard conversations about your parenting preferences makes you anxious. Actually, I recommend it to everyone. It's absolute gold.) You can only control your actions and choices, not the actions and choirs of others. But you can let others feel the consequences of their actions and choirs by setting a boundary and what will happen if they cross that boundary. Ex: you don't want them feeding your child cookies before dinner. If they do, your child won't be able to have unsupervised visits with them anymore.
Also a great book: How to Have That Difficult Conversation You've Been Avoiding. I think it's by the same people, or at least one of them.
Baby Girl Born: April 2014
If you ask me what I came to do in this world, I, an artist, I will answer you:
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At first I thought it was poorly fitted bras but turns out that wasn't the case. I'm just carrying high and the slightest lean forward makes boob/belly connection.