Longest Thread EVER! (aka Random Thoughts Thread )

Medic99 · January 2014

@BiggerinRealLife, did she participate in the exchange? I think it was you in charge of that. If I am mistaken, forgive me.

Mamamonzo · January 2014

We connected in the high risk thread. I will give you my address and everything could be sent here and I could ship it to her. I know they were at a hospital in Boston. @Mamafantastic aren't you kind of close? Is it something you would be willing to take to her if she didnt do the exchange? I guess you would have to be ok with everyone sending stuff to you as well. Either way I'm willing to if no one else's wants to

KatieGummow · January 2014

If her buddy doesn't feel comfortable doing it, I could. I have been doing check-ins with her and am also on the multiple board with her, so she would recognize my name. I copied MamaFrantastic who said,

"Beth.... there are no words to make this even a teeny bit ok. I am heartbroken for you. Surely precious Isla is being cradled by angels at this very moment. I'm deeply sorry for your loss, mama... it's a horrific burden no woman should ever have to bear. If you feel comfortable doing so, please PM me your temporary address. I really would be honored to send a dinner your way from a local place. I'm sure food is the last thing on your mind now, which is why I want to help in this way. It's the only thing I can think to do. If not a meal now, perhaps sending someone to your home down the road for a massage or a house cleaning? Anything, please. I really want to help you by meeting a practical need."

and offered to do the same if she felt comfortable. But I don't want to forcefully reach out to try to get her address from her.

KatieGummow · January 2014

I am overly affected by this and can't believe people can post other topics today. I should probably GBCB for the day...

kateleestar · January 2014

We could always paypal one person, whoever gets/has her info. Aw. Praying for them tonight!

Mamamonzo · January 2014

@Katiegummow

Hugs I feel the same xoxoxoxox

TallaB · January 2014

KatieGummow said:

I am overly affected by this and can't believe people can post other topics today. I should probably GBCB for the day...

I don't love that you are overly affected by this. I just think its strange to read beth's post and then turn around and post a thread "Waahh, my shower is lame" or whatever. Some perspective people. No one cares about your shower.

snmetz7 · January 2014

I think we should def do something, I like the necklace, maybe sending her a meal or two as well. if someone had her address. My heart hearts for her and her family.

thomas930 · January 2014

I would love to send them a card.

BiggerinRealLife · January 2014

Paging @Serenla to the RTT. She had some ideas about something for Beth. I just can't. I think I'm gonna go edit my A14 milestone post. Keeping the original wording doesn't feel right now.

katieharpiceland · January 2014

Wow...that is so sad. :-( I think I'm checking out for the night too.

eireyes · January 2014

toothpastechica said:

kateleestar said:

We could always paypal one person, whoever gets/has her info. Aw. Praying for them tonight!

I like this idea. I would be willing to contribute something.

This. However I can contribute, I'd like to help.

Serenla · January 2014

Vinny424 said:

Vinny424 said:

I wish I could do something for MaiTaiBeth... Or we could. Ugh. Besides prayers and thoughts, and uplifting words for little Fiona tomorrow.
The pgal board just did something in December for someone who had a later loss called the sunshine mission I don't see why we can't do it for her.

We should do something. We could get her a necklace from Etsy and maybe send in a meal. I love the idea of doing something for her. I would contribute.
before it was a collection site for a memorialand one woman gave her address for personal things and cards that were sent. Ad she sent it all in one big box. Does anyone close with her want to organize this? I not I will I just dont think I'm anyone she would recognize username wise.

Thanks BIRL, yes I was in the middle of setting up a sunshine mission. I was just trying to figure out the logistics of making this work. So far I was about to set up a paypal account to accept donations and then a couple of us were going to organize food to be sent, personal items that you mentioned, cards, flowers, and such.

If anyone has her address please PM me, I will post a link to the board to accept sunshine donations.

Edit, I am in Boston so if someone knows which hospital she is staying at I could have things sent there.

Emily041285 · January 2014

@serenla she is at MGH

Serenla · January 2014

Emily041285 said:

@serenla she is at MGH

Perfect.

jennypenny1014 · January 2014

TMI sorry, but I wish I had some sort of consistent pattern in what food this child is willing to allow me to ingest vs kick out immediately...this makes the 4th full meal in the last month or so that I've had that she's let me finish the entire meal, only to throw it all back up 5 minutes later...and vomiting food that is essentially still solid is fucking awful.

I thought I had it down since the first 3 times it happened, what I had eaten was a bit on the greasy side...but this time it was spaghetti...I just don't get it!

BiggerinRealLife · January 2014

I wish we could put, like, a black shroud over our board or something. Grieving sucks but for some reason it helps me to have some kind of outward appearance of grieving. Something visible on the board itself, not just a thread to let Beth know that we are all with her and thinking of her would be awesome. Anyone know how to hack The Bump?

jennypenny1014 · January 2014

Well shit. I posted that before catching up on the entire thread. Now I feel like an asshole. X_X

Megczapla · January 2014

I just pray that Fiona stays strong and fights through this. To lose one daughter is devastating, never mind the other having difficulty. Gosh, I'm just in shock. Hits so close to home.

KatieGummow · January 2014

jennypenny1014 said:

Well shit. I posted that before catching up on the entire thread. Now I feel like an asshole. X_X

Hehe, it's ok

kseccomb17 · January 2014

All other things seem so insignificant tonight. I feel guilty for bitching about such stupid stuff, and I hate that it takes something like this to knock me down a peg. I can't begin to imagine what she's going through, and I hate that this hurt is forever for she and her family. I truly an grateful for each of you ladies, your support for her is amazing.

KatieGummow · January 2014

poru said:

KatieGummow said:

I am overly affected by this and can't believe people can post other topics today. I should probably GBCB for the day...

I feel like there will always be one loss that affects each of us really personally. When I was pregnant with DS, I was fairly active (well major lurker and semi-active) for awhile on my BMB. And then one of the more prominent posters lost her her LO at about 20 weeks. For some reason it REALLY affected me. I think I was still naive enough at the point that I thought we had all gotten through the worst of it with first tri being way behind us. I cried for days, and basically dropped off of my BMB since I was so overwhelmed. DH actually was a little concerned. But the world truly is mysterious -- that same person is currently an A14er with twins on the way (which will be her first take home babies after she experienced a second later term loss). I barely know this girl and didn't have any personal relationship with her, yet her experiences over the last couple years have given me a new understanding of realism and a new appreciation for life that I never had before.

Very powerful words, @poru. Thank you for sharing. I just couldn't imagine...

J&NL · January 2014

I would love to help too! I love that we are already getting close enough to want to help out fellow bumpies. It reminds me a lot of how my old bmb was and I still talk to several of those girls.

Medic99 · January 2014

I am out for the night. I am too hormonal and angry right now to be useful or even humorous. I would love to send anything I can for Beth. I will check back tomorrow. Much love to you all and to Beth as well.

BiggerinRealLife · January 2014

I keep thinking about Fiona. Little baby girl who will never know her sister. I just can't. I don't wanna bump, per se, but it feels better to read all the comments and love than to be sitting home just thinking about it all myself.

Serenla · January 2014

celticlullaby said:

Thanks, @serenla, I'd love to contribute.

We are working on it, it will take a few days to get the donation account set up. Updates from me or @mamamonzo will come through the sticky thread on the board. It is heartwarming to see support from everyone!

Medic99 · January 2014

My SIL lost one of her twins in a similar but not identical situation. It is hitting me really hard. I wish there was more we could do. Please forgive my grammar or spelling I am ugly crying now.

Serenla · January 2014

Medic99 said:

My SIL lost one of her twins in a similar but not identical situation. It is hitting me really hard. I wish there was more we could do. Please forgive my grammar or spelling I am ugly crying now.

((hugs)) Take a break if you need, or come by for more hugs.

Krispix78 · January 2014

What happened to Beth could've happened to any one of us and its that vulnerability and fragility of life that is precious but frightening at the same time. I keep thinking about Fiona and how she'll never know her sister but may feel a void for the rest of her life (from what I've read of similar twin losses). So so sad. And then I think of Beth and the unbelievable sadness she is experiencing while at the same time trying to be strong for her daughter in the midst of her own physical challenges. Huge reminder never to take our own good fortunes for granted.

tamaraaaa · January 2014

Krispix78 said:

What happened to Beth could've happened to any one of us and its that vulnerability and fragility of life that is precious but frightening at the same time. I keep thinking about Fiona and how she'll never know her sister but may feel a void for the rest of her life (from what I've read of similar twin losses). So so sad. And then I think of Beth and the unbelievable sadness she is experiencing while at the same time trying to be strong for her daughter in the midst of her own physical challenges. Huge reminder never to take our own good fortunes for granted.

THIS. This is exactly how I feel... It's just so surreal. I can't even imagine what they are dealing with right, and how you even begin to cope.

Bluebird2318 · January 2014

@KatieGummow

I'm right there with you. After reading Beth's update, I have tried to open unrelated threads and I just can't. I get a few sentences in and my eyes glaze over and I can't even finish reading, let alone respond to anything else. My heart is just so broken for her and I can't even comprehend her pain and grief. I just wanted her to take both her little girls home.

MamaFantastic · January 2014

i never post here anymore (no good reason not to... just busy, i suppose) but i was tagged and read the past 2 pages. i totally agree with the pallor of sadness and reality tonight.

i'm about an hour outside boston, so i'm not super duper close, but beth and i have PMed a bit in the past so i guess you could say i know her a tiny bit. i know no details about her location or personal contact info, though, so i'm no help there.

it goes without saying i'm in for whatever the board arranges, and will participate accordingly.

RocksInTheWater · January 2014

I would love to participate in anything that the board decides for Beth. Do you think there will be a way to send personal cards too?

Mamamonzo · January 2014

LoriMc12 said:
I would love to participate in anything that the board decides for Beth. Do you think there will be a way to send personal cards too?

Send me a pm if you want to send her a card. I will send you my address and you can mail it to me. I'm going to mail one big package at the end of the month.

MegJ17 · January 2014

And now I'm crying again. Hit home hard being pregnant with twin girls. I think it's awesome that so many people are willing to come together for Beth!

mrscrcalli · January 2014

took forever to catch up tonight after all day at work! ((BETH))

mrscrcalli · January 2014

@Mamamonzo YGPM about Beth! thanks for heading this up!

heart hugs to her all day

>:D<

jennypenny1014 · January 2014

aviola329 said:

Like it was said earlier, wish there was some way to shroud the bump tonight. Here's my effort. I'm making this my avatar for a while, you're all welcome to do the same. My heart goes out to Beth.

I've added it to my siggy instead...thanks for the badge!

Mamamonzo · January 2014

mrscrcalli said:
@Mamamonzo YGPM about Beth! thanks for heading this up!
heart hugs to her all day
>:D<

You have one too!

sarlimes34 · January 2014

i had a difficult time sleeping last night. i kept thinking about beth and everything her and her family are going through. keeping their entire family in my thoughts and prayers

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