@nursemommy13 I started tearing up when I was reading what your put. I am so sorry you are going through this! I agree with everyone else. He owes you the time to sit and talk about everything. I hope you all can work it out and save your marriage but you know we're all here for you when you need someone to talk to! Keep your head up and what's meant to be will work out. Hugs to you and your family!
34blondie I will. Luckily my work is project based, so my limitations are pretty cut and dry. I just wish the kids could be in school full time and I could be a SAHM...that's the dream
Rabbit: time to yourself this weekend is not optional. Tell DH you already have plans, hand off E and get some you time. I've been through some similar stuff at work and hope that things get better for you.
Nursemommy: I hope you and DH can work through this. You are a strong mommy!
@nursemommy13 I am so sorry to hear that you are going through this. Hugs and hope that he comes to his senses soon. We are here for you if you need us!
@steamboat1679 Oops! One of many to come I'm sure, but I kind of know how you feel. I clipped a big chunk of my son's thumb off when clipping his nails once and we both cried and cried and cried. I felt horrible.
I'm sad for the people going through rough times right now.
@nursemommy13 DH and I have also had a really rough time in our relationship after J was born. The "D" word eas thrown around quite a bit. DH went on a hunting weekend and I didn't talk to him very much but he came back and things have been much better since. I think he had a glimpse of what things would be like without me and J in his life and realized that's not what he wanted. It still takes a lot of work but it's better. Good luck and hope everything turns out for the best!
So for some happier news. I just got off the phone with MIL and mentioned my daycare search woes. She offered to help out with pickups and random days so I could use the in-home daycare I really like. I did not want to ask her for help since she had been volunteered by BIL & SIL to be daycare for their kid in the fall. I still need to do more research on my other options, we would be 100% reliant on other people doing pickup for us if I go with the place I like (because it's only until 5:00).
I just caught up! @funkyphoenix I can so relate to your position and I'm sorry you have to deal with that! My h has only ever gotten up in the MOTN maybe 1x since k was a week old and that was when she was 2 weeks old so it's been a long time!! It sucks always having to be the responsible one, but your cute little man is sooo lucky to have such a dedicated mama. Hang in there and just know I'm with you!! Hugs!! @subliminalrabbit oh man, I can't even imagine the stress you are under right now!! I'm glad you took some time and feel a little bit better. I wish I could be there to take you out for a spa day or something! And I can so relate to feeling like a roommate with your hubs. I've been saying that to my h practically since we got married. Like uhhh where did the romance go?? He blames it on the baby. Seriously. He's bitter that we got pregnant so soon after marriage (3 mo in)... But we dated for 2 years before we got married so its not like we didn't have "us time"! Anyway, that was a tangent.... :P I hope things iron out for you there and with your job and that your sweet boy will be good as new very soon. Giant sloppy uncomfortable stranger danger hugs! @nursemommy13 whew... I don't know what to say but ouch. I can almost feel your pain but obviously not to the degree you can. It sounds like your h definitely needs to do some soul searching... I hope he finds his way back to you. It would suck to split up a family searching for your dreams, when having a family is a dream come true in itself! Hopefully he will see that and turn around. Just remember, whatever he decides, you are worth being loved, and so is M. Big hugs lady. Hang in there.
And now I go die... Jk... I caught the crud so I need to sleep, but had to let you ladies know I care!!!! Let me know if there is anything I can do, or feel free to inbox me if you want to vent more.
I am kicking myself for letting LO take a nap from 5-7 tonight. I thought he needed it because he got shots today but now it's almost midnight and he's not asleep. He's tricked me a couple times but has woken up shortly after falling asleep. And of course SO is no help because "he can't get LO to sleep" ugh!
@samanthaashley93 I know whatcha mean! My fiance and I want another, but we know now Is not the best time. And it sucks because I keep seeing newborns everywhere!
@samanthaashley93 I ended up playing with him for a little bit. He's been in great spirits since his shots and is now asleep in my lap. FX that he stays asleep for a few hours. This momma needs some sleep! FX for everyone else that they get some decent sleep tonight!
Dh spent a good 20 minutes last night complaining about how the train schedule is changing and he's going to have to wake up 10 whole minutes earlier starting next week. I just stared blankly at him. I still bf so I am doing the 2-4 motn wake ups. He gets no sympathy.
I tried to catch up on some words. @nursemommy13 I'm so sorry. You want them to have dreams and be supportive, but you always hope their dreams will include you too. Hopefully he wants to make the effort to work it out and be there for you and that sweet baby girl.
I am officially sick. I can't breathe out of my nose and my throat is sore... And I have a headache so I can't sleep. We are supposed to drive 6 hrs to nj tomorrow for h's aunt's birthday party this weekend. I'm going to say... Uh no.
So I ordered Jillian Michaels 30 day shred and bought some hand weights yesterday. I plan on starting my work out either today or tomorrow depending on when my amazon order gets here. If I get my body toned back up I am buying myself a new bikini!
And not to take away from y'all's bad days... But I think my marriage is over. I'm fairly private so this is hard to type/say out loud. And I haven't talked to anyone and I just wanted to talk here.
We've had a rough patch for a little bit now. I just thought it was adjusting to a new baby, the thoughts of buying a house, paying off debt...etc. Boy was I wrong.
Background: my hubby has always had dreams of being an actor. He's done short, local films but nothing major. He eventually got a full time job, talked about moving up, we got married, he wanted kids, talks of a house...etc.
Now he's saying that I don't support him and that he feels "trapped" here. This isn't where he wanted to live (Texas-- he wants to be in LA). I always knew he talked about it, but when we started settling down, I figured he was giving that up for a family life here. He says I don't support him (which I always have) and he just doesn't know what to do. He says he loves me but when I flat out ask him if he wants a divorce he just cries and says "but I don't want to hurt you." Too late buddy. Then he says he's worried that M will hate him cause I will make her hate him. I told him he better not be staying with me because of her.
He left to "run errands" and "think." He asked me for a hug and told me he loves me before he left. I don't know what to do. I've been with him for 10 years. He's the love of my life. I never pictured this for me, us, our daughter. My heart hurts that she won't have a family together growing up.
Anyways.... Sorry for the vent. I'm just sad. And lost. M is taking a nap now and I'm letting out all the tears I held in while she was up. Thanks for listening.
I just wanted to say that I'm sending you positive thoughts, I'm so sorry you're having such a hard time right now.
@nikkip15 omg how scary! Nothing like that happened. My epidural went in great and worked like a charm but ever since I have just had constant back pain that gets worse throughout the day from lifting my little piggy up. At my 6 week check up I asked my doctor and he said my back hurt because they had to stick a huge needle through a bunch of muscle. Made sense to me. But it's been 7 months now and it stil hurts. Went to a different doctor and they say my muscles contracted when the needle went it which is causing all my pain. So now they have me doing stretches for my back. It's been a long 7 months with a sore back
I just read all the words after being so behind. I just found out in hosting a bridal shower in 4 weeks.
Hugs @nursemommy13. Hope you guys talk and work it out.
So does this 30 day shred really get you bikini ready in just 30 days. I have a destination wedding to go to in may but I wouldn't want to start too early.
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@steamboat1679 Oops! One of many to come I'm sure, but I kind of know how you feel. I clipped a big chunk of my son's thumb off when clipping his nails once and we both cried and cried and cried. I felt horrible.
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@subliminalrabbit oh man, I can't even imagine the stress you are under right now!! I'm glad you took some time and feel a little bit better. I wish I could be there to take you out for a spa day or something! And I can so relate to feeling like a roommate with your hubs. I've been saying that to my h practically since we got married. Like uhhh where did the romance go?? He blames it on the baby. Seriously. He's bitter that we got pregnant so soon after marriage (3 mo in)... But we dated for 2 years before we got married so its not like we didn't have "us time"! Anyway, that was a tangent.... :P I hope things iron out for you there and with your job and that your sweet boy will be good as new very soon. Giant sloppy uncomfortable stranger danger hugs!
@nursemommy13 whew... I don't know what to say but ouch. I can almost feel your pain but obviously not to the degree you can. It sounds like your h definitely needs to do some soul searching... I hope he finds his way back to you. It would suck to split up a family searching for your dreams, when having a family is a dream come true in itself! Hopefully he will see that and turn around. Just remember, whatever he decides, you are worth being loved, and so is M. Big hugs lady. Hang in there.
And now I go die... Jk... I caught the crud so I need to sleep, but had to let you ladies know I care!!!! Let me know if there is anything I can do, or feel free to inbox me if you want to vent more.
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We are flying today for the first time and I think I overpacked.
I'm so excited to introduce my brother to O. My brother is a paraplegic so traveling is hard for him.
Hugs @nursemommy13. Hope you guys talk and work it out.
So does this 30 day shred really get you bikini ready in just 30 days. I have a destination wedding to go to in may but I wouldn't want to start too early.