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PinkPuffyHeart2

Holy crap, I just got my babes to bed in her crib in less than a half an hour. That has to be a record. She nursed and I considered stopping her to wean from nursing to sleep (or see how bad it would be)... But she stopped on her own so I stood up and bounced her. She fell asleep. I walked to her crib, bounced a few times and set her down. She was whining but didn't stop after 1 minute and I didn't want her to wake up more and escalate so I picked her up and she immediately settled. So then I walked around bouncing for 5 minutes and laid her in her crib. She fussed so I shooshed and patted her butt and she immediately stopped. She has whined 2-3x for like a second but then has fallen back asleep on her own. I'm almost in disbelief but if every night could be this easy I would be such a happy mommy!

PinkPuffyHeart2

Blarg. And she's up! Ack

numbersgirl08

@JANCANDANCE I noticed your Calvin Johnson reference and meant to comment on it. Big GT fans here - hubby and I both went there. What's the good word?

PinkPuffyHeart2

If it makes you feel any better @subliminalrabbit my h won't even try

PinkPuffyHeart2

I tested my h today cause I'm a sneaky b. I always nag him to spend time with dd and help me with her and stop watching so much tv and ignoring dd, etc... Tonight, I decided I would not ask him to do anything and just see what he does. Because all my nagging does is make him mad and we've been fighting a lot lately. So when he got home from work I made dinner while he watched tv and ate some leftovers as an appetizer. Dd stayed in the kitchen with me playing on the floor with the doggies (see earlier pics)... Normally I might yell something sarcastic like "thanks for watching k while I make dinnerrr!!!" And he would huff and puff out of the tv room to get her and take her in to watch tv with him cause yknow, that's all he ever does. But I held my tongue. I made dinner. I served it. We sat to eat.. I fed her, fed myself (kinda) and said I was going to make fried rice after dinner for tomorrow. After we ate he put his plate in the dishwasher (he never does that, always puts it in the sink, so that was good)... Then he washed the pan I needed to make the fried rice without me asking. Then he asked whiningly while I made fried rice if dd could watch tv with him. I said "do whatever you feel is best for her as her father". He was like "no really can she watch tv with me"... Then yelled with a stifled laugh "Tell me what to do!" (Lololol) I didn't tell him what to do. Finished the fried rice and then made him a lunch for tomorrow which I never do and he was pleasantly surprised. All the while, dd was either with me or hanging out on the floor in the tv room. He picked her up once I think or twice for like 5 min... Then I nursed her in the tv room, she took a nap. Then I let her play more and played with het. Then I told her I was getting her ready for bed. (I've asked DH to be involved with bedtime routine every night but tonight I left it up to him and he chose not to be involved)... So from about 9pm till now (midnight) h has been watching tv and did not even say goodnight to his daughter. He's actually had the tv on since he got home at 5pm. He has 3 days of double shifts ahead and will be gone from essentially 9am till 11pm so he will not see dd awake until maybe Thursday. His loss... I'm just amazed by his selfishness. He did seem in a better mood and have me a hug and kiss. ....so some positive stuff but I'm still disappointed that he chose tv over spending time with his child.

ETA: oh yeah and, no point to this post. Thoughts??? (((<~~ sarcasm)))

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WasNotWas

Well, one roadblock to sleep is having your big brother come in your room, turn the lights on, and climb into your crib...FML

WasNotWas

@subliminalrabbit said:

Oh man @wasnotwas. I hope it was out of affection?

It always is, but we took a huge step back last night in our sleep training. Fed him 3x after trying to calm him for an hour each time...fingers crossed it's just a fluke and not teething/illness/growth spurt/wonder week/the devil possessing my sweet boys body

WasNotWas

Steamboat1679 said:

We tries a version of CIO last night and let DD cry for 7 minutes. She got freaking hives! They were all over her face poor thing.

Ty did too!! When I heard him crying upstairs, over the GGs, while my POS husband slept...I went in and he was all splotchy and snot coming out of his nose...I cuddled him for longer than I should have

Cricket81

Crap... Alex is consistently ready for a nap 2 hours after he wakes up. Today he woke up at 7:15 and his 6 month appointment is at 9:30. This should be fun.

He also slept like butt last night. We tried apples for the first time yesterday and he was so so gassy. Fun times.

lioness13

@pinkpuffyheart2 - I know you're not asking for advice but here it is. I have no idea what you've already done either. I think your best bet would be to make your DH in charge of something, after discussing it of course. Can he be in charge if bedtime bath and story time when he's home? That could be a good start. Don't stress about how he does it, because they never do it how we do. Is that possible?

HeartLikeMine3

Aww, @nykkolaughs I'm so sorry poor Ella. Have you called your pedi? HUGS

HeartLikeMine3

I'm so sorry for all the sick LO's I'm so ready for winter to be OVER!

phishgirl29

Hug @nikkolaughs. I hope Ella feels better soon!

PinkPuffyHeart2

@lioness13

Thanks for the advice. The one thing I have been specific with him about is being involved in her bedtime routine. Every night I still have to ask him if he would help get her ready for bed and most nights he drags his feet and says he really doesn't want to, but he will. (Who says that, btw? It's your freaking kid. Whatever.) Anyway if I don't solicit him to help (like last night) he won't do anything. I understand how people are saying he will be involved more when she is older and stuff, but I have a few problems with that. One, he does nothing with her. Nothing. (Except watch tv) Unless I ask. That is not acceptable. And two, because of his health (heart), we are not guaranteed years with him. Statistically, he has less than a 50/50 chance of survival till the end of this year. He is doing really well so I'm trying not to think about the statistics, but that obviously scares me... I want him to get in as much quality time with her as possible. My belief is that he will beat the odds and live many more years. But I have to always be aware of the possibilities. It sucks. Anyway, hope that makes sense. I am still going to back off and see what happens for awhile.

ColieAnn31

I hope all the sick little babies get better soon!!!

Grayson slept from 9 pm to 8:30 am with only 2 wake ups! I'm jumping for joy this morning!

phishgirl29

GiggleJiggle said:

@subliminalrabbit hotbox... Hehe.

Ded//

phishgirl29

My FIL was thrown out of Yankee.stadium once for hot boxing the bathroom.

phishgirl29

So if you remember that on Christmas morning my moterola video monitor broke. Well, I finally got its replacement today, and they sent me one with 2 cameras!!!

I go online, and yeah, I didn't get a deal. It's on sale for the same price as the single camera one (which is now on sale for a cheaper price).

I better start working on baby#2 now so I can put that other camera to use before this unit breaks as well :P

TheTamedShrew

@ChicagoChic82, that's basically what happened with us too. She just stopped wanting to settle on the boob, so I knew I had to do something. The first two nights sucked, but last night there was no screaming and she slept 11 hours straight! I just went with my gut, stuck to my guns, and it was the right time. We had run out of options and she was becoming chronically sleep deprived.

TheTamedShrew

Hugs to the all the mamas with sick & sleepless babies! Hope things improve soon and you ladies get some rest 

needanustart

WasNotWas said:

Well, one roadblock to sleep is having your big brother come in your room, turn the lights on, and climb into your crib...FML

Ugh all the time here too. We gated DS1's room and he figured out how to reach over the top and take the gate down. So now we are double stacking gates so he can't reach the top. DS1 always needs a book from DS2's bookshelf, not his. He also must announce at full volume the book of his choice INSIDE the room with the sleeping baby. He does love his baby brother though so I'm trying to just be thankful for that!

DS1 has also taken to holding his poop all day and then calling into the monitor 20 minutes after bedtime that he has to go poop. And he always does go so we can't just be like, "no kid, guess you have to crap the bed because we know you're intentionally using your sphincter to f with mom and dad!" 

HeartLikeMine3

@calikat80 I'm dying! )

lioness13

@pinkpuffyheart2 - ((hugs) I just want to fix this for you so bad! Has your DH expressed why he feels this way?  My DH is helpful but I often feel like he's annoyed to have to do things for DD. I just ignore his attitude. I hand him the baby and walk away.

Nix55

@pinkpuffyheart2, I agree with Lioness. I think you guys need to have a talk. Have him pick which activities/duties that he would like to do with LO. I think that if he watches T.V. with her while you make dinner for 45 min., have him pull over a bucket of toys so that he can "play" with her at the same time. I know this isn't ideal, but he may need a little downtime right when he gets him from work. BUT...he doesn't need hours and hours and hours of it. Then he should pick something else like bath or story time. Good luck.

lioness13

((Hugs)) @kdc2007

needanustart

Booo! Sorry @kdc2007! That sounds terrible. 

lioness13

For all the mommies that need it:

lioness13

I know that some of you have issues with Chick-fil-A but religious and political beliefs aside, they have awesome customer service!!! Today, I realized I left my wallet at home as I was placing my order and the rep said it was on him and I didn't have to pay. I was so thankful and hungry I could cry. I really had to hold back tears. I am so thankful. I will send thank you notes to the rep and the store manager. I'll also be looking for the opportunity to bless someone so I can pass it on. It's a small thing but it really made my day. I don't feel stressed about not having my wallet. I just feel thankful that my stomach is full

KellenHi21

catching up on this thread this morning made me so sad! I hope all the wonderful babes feel better ASAP!

momofcatan

Just turned on food factory and they are showing how baby food pouches are made.

momofcatan

Speaking of pouches. @wasnotwas my mom picked up some plum organics pouches for me when she was in the states and I was so excited because you had recommended them. I was disappointed that they were so watery/runny. I'm hoping when I try the stage 2 ones they will be a little better. So far I'm more impressed with my Heinz ones.

PinkPuffyHeart2

Ugh hope all the sick babies are on the mend soon!!



@vasc thanks for the ideas! Yup toys are in the tv room. He will sit her with them and ignore her to watch tv 80% of the time and will hit buttons to make the toys light up and talk if she starts fussing.

@nix55 thanks for the input! I have been talking to him about this stuff since she was 3 months old, in tears, with a moderator (his mom)... the problem is he doesn't want to do anything with her. Not because he doesn't love her, but because he says he is always tired and just wants to relax.

@lioness thanks for caring! mainly it's "I'm tired"... Or "overwhelmed"... He feels stressed...so he doesn't want to think about his responsibilities. He says tv relaxes him. I want him to relax too but he takes it too far. I have definitely plopped her on his lap and walked away. :P I didn't think he would be this way when we got married. He was waaaay different when we dated. It's like he's giving up on life. He is depressed. I told him he needs to see a dr or counselor if he is really feeling this way but he basically refuses to go. I'm about to call his mother cause I don't know what else to do, and I'm concerned about him.

WasNotWas

@araziza said:

Speaking of pouches. @wasnotwas my mom picked up some plum organics pouches for me when she was in the states and I was so excited because you had recommended them. I was disappointed that they were so watery/runny. I'm hoping when I try the stage 2 ones they will be a little better. So far I'm more impressed with my Heinz ones.

Yeah. I thicken everything with oatmeal, trying to get to real foods as quickly as possible! I think the Sprout ones are the thickest

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momofcatan

@majwv8 I wish my DD was chilled enough to take her to a hockey game, if you think she can handle it then do it! I would only worry about the noise so make sure you have earplugs or muffs. I had to send DH to a leafs game with a freind because I'm too scared to mess with DD's bed time if she were less crazy I would have gone the 3 of us.

tttwalters

I donate breastmilk to a June baby as the mom was diagnosed with breast cancer in August. She is having a double mastectomy this afternoon after 5 months of chemo to shrink the tumours. Please keep her in your thoughts, and remember to do self exams once and awhile.

HeartLikeMine3

@tttwalters you are an amazing woman! I will be praying for her

tttwalters

thanks @heartlikemine3 and @nikkiP15, I could not imagine having to go through everything while caring for a baby. When she asked for milk, it was the least I could do. I was blessed with an oversupply and I like to think that's the reason why!