Someone asked me the other day how far along I was. I said "17 weeks- with twins". She said "I'm so sorry". WTF! She apologized for the comment after I gave her the hormonal death stare.
Arg!! The one-upmanship thing, its so awkward! My grandma just won't stop going on about how proud she is of my having twins & how I one-upped the whole family by having two at once. I love that she's happy for me, but it makes me feel like such an a-hole in front of my other cousins who all have really lovely families.
This is not directly pg/multiples related, but I thought it fit. When I started my IF treatments I had to tell my boss about it since I had so many appointments. Through the months and months of doctors, drugs, needles, anxiety and praying for a BFP, she said to me several times, "I wish I could get IVF so I could have twins and get it overwith."
She's lucky with all the hormones in me I didn't slap her.
I had a nurse at my OBGYN office this week who was clueless about different kind of twins and how twins are passed down genetically. I admit I didn't know anything about it before learning about my modi girls but still this woman has been around pregnancy for a very long time. I shouldn't be teaching her anything new. It was scary.
Oh, I have a new one and it is a doozy. At the grocery store this morning a woman said to me (while my twins were present!) "I don't know why anyone would ever choose to have twins, I'd rather die". She's lucky she didn't die right there from my wrath. My children are the greatest thing that ever happened to me and as a matter of fact all three of us DID almost die so that was a nice little kick in the stomach. Multiples are the most amazing blessing and anyone who doesn't see that deserves repeated throat punches. F that lady. I just said, "Did you seriously just say that? What is WRONG with you?" and walked away.
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She needs to spend more time talking to all of the "OMG a boy and a girl, you got the perfect family in one go, now you can stop!" crazies... at least their comments are foolishly POSITIVE. lol
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I just said, "Did you seriously just say that? What is WRONG with you?" and walked away.
I'm so glad you said that....she was SO out of line! And, seriously, wtf is wrong w/ some people??
The cashier at the store last night asked if I had twins as she rang up several cans of formula and two big boxes of diapers. My thoughts were....1. this would be kinda awkward if I only had one baby and 2. seriously, when I'm finally out ALONE I still get into random twin conversations with strangers?! It actually turned into a very pleasant conversation, though.
But it really bugs me when people say "you're done!" or "instant family!" As if they only way to be done is if you have one boy and one girl. And we're a perfect family if we have one baby or five, regardless of the gender ratio!
I get that all the time when I'm out with just the twins and I always reply with "Well, I also have a two year old son." Sorry to burst your fantasy bubble there, intrusive stranger.
Today I got "Are they identical? They're sleeping identical!" They were both asleep with their heads tilted to the left, true, but come on now.
Just saw another bumpie post this on another board:
"Our children will be 5and 6 when our new baby is born. Our daughter and son were born 13 months apart and I can only liken them to the most difficult set of twin ever!"
Sigh. Really? I mean.....really????
Lol I can just see it if a bunch of us saw it...she'd get called out REAL quick.
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My dh doesn't get that I find the "oh twins! You look great!" Comments not that nice. I always think- what should my eye be twitching? Have a limp? Be continually crying? At mall today, one baby was in the infant seat screaming and I way wearing the other, who was asleep. We were on our way out, so no point in stitching them, when a family stopped us. The mom was loving the girls but the dad turned to me and asked why I was carrying the quiet one. "Oh, is she your favorite?" Why, yes, I have a favorite 4 month old... So, when I gave him crazy eyes, he realized what was really going on, laughed and then he just looked at his wife and said "aw hell, just let them go honey."
Have we covered this one yet?
"I had a 10 pound baby, and twins usually weigh about 5 pounds each, so I basically had twins."
Um, no, you didn't basically have twins. If you would have had two babies, two sacs, two placentas and 40 inches of baby, then you would have basically had twins!
Oh man, I love reading these! My DH always asks me what I'm giggling about
So, I finally have something to contribute. The other day we were Skyping with the ILs (we do this for DD) and talking about the twins ( I'm 12 weeks with mo/di) when FIL said "well, at least you're not breast feeding." I was caught off guard and told him I was planning on it. He said, "well you will have both hands full." I said there was a chance these babies could be premature so BFing is the best thing I could do for them. What a weird conversation with your FIL. To be fair, I had a lot of challenges with BFing DD, including mastitis twice, so maybe he assumed I wouldn't be giving it another try. IDK but I was really put off.
Also, last night a friend asked if identical twins were always the same sex... I had to bite my tongue and just reply, "yes".
When I mentioned to my MIL a few months ago that I was getting a twin breastfeeding pillow she said, "Is that even possible?"
I can understand an expression of surprise from her (she wasn't able to breastfeed DH for more than a month or two and DH says it makes her feel weird breastfeeding), but the way she said it really rubbed me the wrong way. I mean, seriously--of course it's possible. Thanks for the vote of confidence.
Have we covered this one yet?
"I had a 10 pound baby, and twins usually weigh about 5 pounds each, so I basically had twins."
Um, no, you didn't basically have twins. If you would have had two babies, two sacs, two placentas and 40 inches of baby, then you would have basically had twins!
Ha! I hope I hear this one someday, because I had a ten pound baby and THEN had twins. I'd love to put that person in their place .
When I mentioned to my MIL a few months ago that I was getting a twin breastfeeding pillow she said, "Is that even possible?"
I can understand an expression of surprise from her (she wasn't able to breastfeed DH for more than a month or two and DH says it makes her feel weird breastfeeding), but the way she said it really rubbed me the wrong way. I mean, seriously--of course it's possible. Thanks for the vote of confidence.
This sounds like my MIL. She was talking about the price of formula one day and I told her that was just one reason to BF again. Her response? "Well, you're not going to be able to do that with twins.". Umm....pretty sure it's been done before . I also think BF makes her uncomfortable, plus she and FIL seemed to think I was keeping DS away from DH by BF. That kind of support is exactly the reason why you will not be the person to stay with us and help out when the twins are born.
People are idiots when it comes to BFing. IDIOTS. That is all.
SFIL was so weird about BFing....I never nursed the babies while he was in the room, but he couldn't even say the word "nursing"....it actually made it much creepier that he was so weird about it, even though he thought he was being respectful. One time we were over at ILs and he asked "Are you still....you know, feeding them?" Me: "Yes, I am still feeding my babies....thanks for checking." Weirdo.
Have we covered this one yet?
"I had a 10 pound baby, and twins usually weigh about 5 pounds each, so I basically had twins."
Um, no, you didn't basically have twins. If you would have had two babies, two sacs, two placentas and 40 inches of baby, then you would have basically had twins!
My own MOTHER pulled this one on me when I was pregnant, because my sister was a 10+lb-er. I held my tongue, and as I got further and further into the pregnancy, and the boys kept getting bigger and bigger, she finally couldn't use that excuse anymore when they were estimated at 7 lbs 1oz and 6 lbs 13 oz before birth!
This isn't really twin related, but still slap-worthy.
My mom came with me to help out for my boys' 6 month appointment. Just as they were being called in, a woman in the waiting room asked how old the twins were. When I answered her, she looked back and forth between me and my mother. Then she asked who the mother was. When I said I am their mother, she turned away and said, "Great. There's another kid just draining the system."
F-YOU lady! I'm 36, not 16. My mom was flattered though. After the appointment she kept saying, "I still look young enough to have babies!"
Right Now: despite being told their names (CALEB AND JOHN) I'm asked oh one boy and one girl? no..
Or everyoen assumes they are my Mom's (she mid/late 50s. I'm 27)
@katiebenes Maybe they think you're saying "Kayla?" People don't listen, I notice. People think I' saying "Adam" instead of "Autumn" sometimes. Not really sure how, but yeah. Also, people think we have three boys....... um what? You put a hoodie on them and it's all out the window haha
That's our big theory. its annoying
Eat your food people. You are pregnant, not made of glass. ~PrimRoseMama
This isn't really twin related, but still slap-worthy.
My mom came with me to help out for my boys' 6 month appointment. Just as they were being called in, a woman in the waiting room asked how old the twins were. When I answered her, she looked back and forth between me and my mother. Then she asked who the mother was. When I said I am their mother, she turned away and said, "Great. There's another kid just draining the system."
F-YOU lady! I'm 36, not 16. My mom was flattered though. After the appointment she kept saying, "I still look young enough to have babies!"
that is ONE time I would have come unglued on someone! Some people are surprised that I'm 37, for some reason, so I can somewhat understand that part, but, REALLY?!?! I get stares A LOT because of my "tribe" but no one has dared say something like that to me. That is just terrible. I understand your mom was flattered, but why didn't she say something?
Not crazy, but in the same vein as recent comments: my sister takes care of the twins while I'm at work. She was at Target recently and a woman approached her to compliment the stroller (joovy twin roo stroller frame) and asked how old they were. When she told her 4.5months, the lady says "well you look fantastic!" and my sister says "oh, they're not mine. They're my sister's" and the lady says "well you cheated!"
Cheated what, I'm not sure. But she and I had a laugh about it.
This isn't really twin related, but still slap-worthy.
My mom came with me to help out for my boys' 6 month appointment. Just as they were being called in, a woman in the waiting room asked how old the twins were. When I answered her, she looked back and forth between me and my mother. Then she asked who the mother was. When I said I am their mother, she turned away and said, "Great. There's another kid just draining the system."
F-YOU lady! I'm 36, not 16. My mom was flattered though. After the appointment she kept saying, "I still look young enough to have babies!"
that is ONE time I would have come unglued on someone! Some people are surprised that I'm 37, for some reason, so I can somewhat understand that part, but, REALLY?!?! I get stares A LOT because of my "tribe" but no one has dared say something like that to me. That is just terrible. I understand your mom was flattered, but why didn't she say something?
It's kind of my fault that she didn't say anything. She totally snapped at a guy a few days earlier who thought it was funny to lean half way in my stroller and say, "Was it a 2 for 1 sale?" She's been getting frustrated with people making a fuss or saying stupid things about my boys, so I had a talk with her about ignoring them.
A conversation between my father and I when I found out I was pregnant with identical twins for the second time.
"That's so great that you're having identicals again. Are you shooting for a boy and a girl this time?" "Well, no. They are identical, so one sperm, one egg and they split. Kind of like clones." "Well that doesn't mean they won't be opposite gender." "Dad, did you PASS science?"
Not a crazy comment, but I got my first "Are they identical?" in many months... they look so different now that people just don't ask that... they're more likely to not even realize they're twins at all LOL
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*Spontaneous* OHSS diagnosed 08.06.2012 Right ovary removed 09.04.2012 via vertical laparotomy Essure implant placed on remaining tube 06.13.2013; successful followup scan 09.30.2013
I had a strange conversation, but I'm not so sure it belongs in the crazy comments thread, just thought I'd share here. I recently met an elderly woman who has 40 year old ID twin daughters. She told me she didn't know she was having twins until the very end. She went to the hospital thinking she was in labor, but they tried to stop the labor since it was a bit early (she didn't say how early). She said she went into the bathroom, flushed the medicine and jumped up and down because she wanted them out! The woman was trying to be funny, but I was sort of horrified! Turns out they were healthy, four pound girls, but still. Not cool, in my book. I just smiled and shrugged, didn't know what to say.
@happy_yahoo_personaler don't feel bad for formula feeding you did the best that you could do. People often ask me if I plan on breastfeeding and I tell them If I can I will if not then formula it is I'm not putting pressure on myself. I guess the way I see it is I was a formula fed baby and I think I am fabulous!
This ones not crazy per, but I thought it was funny. DH tells me he was talking to his mom and she said baby A looks just like my DD did in her ultrasound pic. He politely told his mom that all babies look like that in their ultrasound pic. I told him he should have told her that actually, baby A looks JUST like baby b... Given that they are identical twins... Lol! What a weird comment.
I pump at work and tandem BF at home and you would not believe (well, actually I'm sure you all would) the comments I get about it. My office is small and nothing goes unnoticed:
IT guy: so, you're doing that! (while taking his hands over his boobs and squeezing a bit - I had my pump on my shoulder). My wife did that for a year!
Office Admin: are you pumping for those babies? Where? You know, I did that for a couple months w each kid. Until 3 months or so, when you know, they get all hard and then you can't anymore.
Re: CRAZY COMMENTS
She's lucky with all the hormones in me I didn't slap her.
Baby Boy #1 born 1/15/2010
Babies #2 & #3 arriving Spring 2014 (EDD June 18)
Right ovary removed 09.04.2012 via vertical laparotomy
Essure implant placed on remaining tube 06.13.2013; successful followup scan 09.30.2013
Right ovary removed 09.04.2012 via vertical laparotomy
Essure implant placed on remaining tube 06.13.2013; successful followup scan 09.30.2013
The cashier at the store last night asked if I had twins as she rang up several cans of formula and two big boxes of diapers. My thoughts were....1. this would be kinda awkward if I only had one baby and 2. seriously, when I'm finally out ALONE I still get into random twin conversations with strangers?! It actually turned into a very pleasant conversation, though.
At mall today, one baby was in the infant seat screaming and I way wearing the other, who was asleep. We were on our way out, so no point in stitching them, when a family stopped us. The mom was loving the girls but the dad turned to me and asked why I was carrying the quiet one. "Oh, is she your favorite?"
Why, yes, I have a favorite 4 month old... So, when I gave him crazy eyes, he realized what was really going on, laughed and then he just looked at his wife and said "aw hell, just let them go honey."
So, I finally have something to contribute. The other day we were Skyping with the ILs (we do this for DD) and talking about the twins ( I'm 12 weeks with mo/di) when FIL said "well, at least you're not breast feeding." I was caught off guard and told him I was planning on it. He said, "well you will have both hands full." I said there was a chance these babies could be premature so BFing is the best thing I could do for them. What a weird conversation with your FIL. To be fair, I had a lot of challenges with BFing DD, including mastitis twice, so maybe he assumed I wouldn't be giving it another try. IDK but I was really put off.
Also, last night a friend asked if identical twins were always the same sex... I had to bite my tongue and just reply, "yes".
This isn't really twin related, but still slap-worthy.
My mom came with me to help out for my boys' 6 month appointment. Just as they were being called in, a woman in the waiting room asked how old the twins were. When I answered her, she looked back and forth between me and my mother. Then she asked who the mother was. When I said I am their mother, she turned away and said, "Great. There's another kid just draining the system."
F-YOU lady! I'm 36, not 16. My mom was flattered though. After the appointment she kept saying, "I still look young enough to have babies!"
I get stares A LOT because of my "tribe" but no one has dared say something like that to me. That is just terrible. I understand your mom was flattered, but why didn't she say something?
Cheated what, I'm not sure. But she and I had a laugh about it.
A conversation between my father and I when I found out I was pregnant with identical twins for the second time.
"That's so great that you're having identicals again. Are you shooting for a boy and a girl this time?"
"Well, no. They are identical, so one sperm, one egg and they split. Kind of like clones."
"Well that doesn't mean they won't be opposite gender."
"Dad, did you PASS science?"
Right ovary removed 09.04.2012 via vertical laparotomy
Essure implant placed on remaining tube 06.13.2013; successful followup scan 09.30.2013
Me: "Yes, they're identical twin boys."
Cashier: "I love twins! I'm a twin myself."
@kjkarats03... that is terrible!! What do you say in a situation like that??
I had a strange conversation, but I'm not so sure it belongs in the crazy comments thread, just thought I'd share here. I recently met an elderly woman who has 40 year old ID twin daughters. She told me she didn't know she was having twins until the very end. She went to the hospital thinking she was in labor, but they tried to stop the labor since it was a bit early (she didn't say how early). She said she went into the bathroom, flushed the medicine and jumped up and down because she wanted them out! The woman was trying to be funny, but I was sort of horrified! Turns out they were healthy, four pound girls, but still. Not cool, in my book. I just smiled and shrugged, didn't know what to say.
I pump at work and tandem BF at home and you would not believe (well, actually I'm sure you all would) the comments I get about it. My office is small and nothing goes unnoticed:
IT guy: so, you're doing that! (while taking his hands over his boobs and squeezing a bit - I had my pump on my shoulder). My wife did that for a year!
Office Admin: are you pumping for those babies? Where? You know, I did that for a couple months w each kid. Until 3 months or so, when you know, they get all hard and then you can't anymore.
I can't even sometimes. Haha.