I think she loses the right to get all huffy about it when she's the one that brought it up, but then I'm an Aries and it's my nature to be a pain in the ass.
Are you referring to me? If so, get all huffy? How so? Because I said how I can see why she reacted the way she did? I put NOT in caps because I think calling someone a racist is a huge assumption that can be offensive. So if that's me being huffy, I guess so.. And I didn't say anything about the name being black or whatever, I stated MY OPINION on how GHETTO can be taken as a sensitive term.
@lia619 Lia isn't such a strange name (is it pronounced the same as Leah?)!... but if the 619 is part of your name, I couldn't argue with you there.
I know you're not saying a name can ruin someone's life. You're saying it has an impact on people, and I agree with you. I also agree about the unfairness of it all concerning employers. I was originally saying a name can't ruin someone's life, and then you said "So yes, it can have an impact," when I wasn't trying to argue that point at all. Anyway, I think it was just miscommunication on both parts. Hopefully we understand each other now.
I get you
I think the Lia Sophia brand and the unique spelling becoming popular has definitely helped my name be more mainstream! I love my name and wouldn't want it any other way. Also, I'm not advocating for everyone being named john and Sally--that would be boring as hell!
I love the name and spelling of Lia -- I'm trying to talk my DH into considering it if we have a girl! I hope that didn't come off as racist
This whole ghetto/racist stuff is ridiculous. People don't like the name, don't attack their character. Don't ask an opinion if you cannot handle the opinions!
I think she loses the right to get all huffy about it when she's the one that brought it up, but then I'm an Aries and it's my nature to be a pain in the ass.
Are you referring to me? If so, get all huffy? How so? Because I said how I can see why she reacted the way she did? I put NOT in caps because I think calling someone a racist is a huge assumption that can be offensive. So if that's me being huffy, I guess so.. And I didn't say anything about the name being black or whatever, I stated MY OPINION on how GHETTO can be taken as a sensitive term.
No, I'm not saying you're the one that got huffy.
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I didn't know asking which spelling is cutier is the same as asking do you like the name I picked for my child, or if you don't like the spelling tell me everything that's wrong about the name...
I wanted so badly to stay out of this but I'm going to give my two cents, hey I'm a libra it's in my nature to see both sides.. To the OP you name your baby whatever you want and however you decide to spell it after getting all the opinions is going to be great for you. From what I thought you asked the opinion on how to spell the name, not on how people felt about it?? Or maybe after reading 7 pages I forgot.. I do NOT think @andrewsgal is a racist in any form, like a PP stated she gives it to you straight up. But I do have to say this whether ppl understand it or not implying something is ghetto can be very sensitive to someone of African American culture. It's just something deeply rooted that I don't think we should all dig into on this board. Granted her mom stated it and she mentioned it, co-signing with it is like saying too. It was wrong to call @angrewsgal racist and make comments @demodoll but she's apologized like 10 times and in my personal experience if someone says something about me and I know it's not true I don't keep it going or continue to rant and rave about it..
The great thing about names is that once a person is named, I don't think anyone, when being introduced to that person, says to them, "Nice to meet you. I don't like your name." I can honestly say I've never even had the thought of "I don't like their name.' Now, I've met people and thought that they've had weird names, but it has absolutely no bearing on if I want to get to know them or not, what I think of them, or anything important like that. So, name your kid what you want, made up or not. It's not going to ruin their life.
Call me a terrible person...
But I was not friends with a girl in elementary school and I think it all started because her name was Sunshine. Not saying that is the ONLY reason, and she was probably a really nice girl if I ever gave her the chance. I just couldn't get past her stupid name. I feel bad because her name WAS Maria, but her aunt got custody of her and legally changed her name to Sunshine right before she moved to our school. Stupid names CAN make a difference.
@clickactual Well, you were a kid. I don't think anyone would hold that against you. I certainly won't. Hopefully you've grown since then. lol But that's very unfortunate about her aunt changing her name! Bad choice. No one should be named Sunshine after 1968.
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@demodoll confused about being pulled into what? You mean being mentioned because I said she was wrong for the comments she made about you that upset everyone? That she apologized for but it keep being brought up? I didn't know that was pulling you into anything.. Because honestly there's nothing to be pulled into. This is not my post, and I have no ill feeling towards no one on this board.
@demodoll confused about being pulled into what? You mean being mentioned because I said she was wrong for the comments she made about you that upset everyone? That she apologized for but it keep being brought up? I didn't know that was pulling you into anything.. Because honestly there's nothing to be pulled into. This is not my post, and I have no ill feeling towards no one on this board.
Ok it makes sense when you explain it that way. Before, you had me in a run on sentence and I was clumped into the racist sentence so I was just really confused. Now I see the light, lol.
Holy crap. Usually when I see that a post has exploded to 5+ pages so quickly, it isn't worth the read. This thread, however, kept my eyes rolling and my jaw dropping. Thank you ladies for the entertainment!
Isn't this the second person she's called a bitch in this thread? Do I feel a gbcb coming on?
She's been kinda rude in other posts without throwing out the B word. I thought maybe I just took her wrong or was being sensitive, now after seeing this, I'll think my first thought was right. Plus the getting all worked up and the saying 'We are good, right' is odd to me too.
@demodoll confused about being pulled into what? You mean being mentioned because I said she was wrong for the comments she made about you that upset everyone? That she apologized for but it keep being brought up? I didn't know that was pulling you into anything.. Because honestly there's nothing to be pulled into. This is not my post, and I have no ill feeling towards no one on this board.
@nijay714 if you look back at my conversation with mskitty, after she called me a bitch and said my F'ing face hurts her eyes, I wanted to make things civil so I apologized for hurting her feelings. She replied with "yeah we are good, but that make me mad." She never apologized at all for any of it so if people continue to attack her for that I don't see why it's wrong when she never said sorry or that she didn't mean it.
@demodoll I thought she did, so my mistake for thinking she did if she didnt.. I said she was wrong for her comments and in me thinking she apologized and saying she did, that wasn't me justifying her actions either. I thought she apologized so that why I said why keep it going, especially if you know it's not true. I'm not ms kitty's advocate and I have nothing against you nor @andrewsgal. This whole post flipped and turned into something ugly. I just felt a little bad for her because all she asked from the start was which way to spell her LO's name then it turned from a health debate on the best way to spell it into how ugly everyone thought it was..
Wow. It's not racist to say that your name will have some affect on your life. It's the world we live in and she was just being honest. I want to be understanding but aggressive attitude is disgusting. For what it's worth I don't think the name is ghetto. But I went to school with Sha'niqua Caramalique la'keesha shantelle sparkle etc. These girls were my friends. So don't throw the race card when it's not warranted
Um, lurking here but "Shantelle/ Chantelle is a French name meaning " to sing". So don't put it in the made up names category.
Hey! I'm a Chantal too! (obs spelled differently) My mom read it in a dirty romance novel and loved it. I dont mind it or love it, its just my name.
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I know this is very much off topic and nobody probably remembers, this but on these controversial threads (or the ones that shouldn't be controversial but are) I get WAY more offended by people assuming that someone who writes terribly and has a bad attitude is young than the so called "race assumptions". Maybe this is because I'm 22 and pregnant with my first child. All I know is it really grinds my gears when someone is labelled as young because they don't know how to tactfully respond to something or because they misspelled something..... Proceed
Re: Which spelling is cuter?!
>:/
By the way OP that wasn't me being rasist just my song quoting skills!
News flash: Ghetto doesn't have a color.
No, I'm not saying you're the one that got huffy.
I'm so confused how I got pulled into this?
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What are your first two children named? Just curious.
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Anthony and some way to spell "Asia" that doesn't even remotely resemble Asia.
Anthony and some way to spell "Asia" that doesn't even remotely resemble Asia.
I edited my comment because I saw her other kid's name 8-}
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spasticfantastic was here.
I'm cool with cadrienne.
Don't like the spelling of the middle.
I'm almost 100% sure andrewsgal had no idea what OPs race was and probably could care less.
I've seen aijah in a few of my Asian circle of friends. It's pretty to hear but confusing to read- probably not for them though.
There were some 0 to 60 moments tonight- makes me want to watch American Psycho.
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