My table my mom got us for Christmas is finally in the house and I am so in love with it! I always forget how much I love getting new furniture and how happy it makes me to make it feel more homey.
@lajoliedreamer I will say if it was us lighting then off I'd be more nervous, but MH's uncle is a licensed pyrotechnic so he knows what he's doing. Our field is also a swamp pretty much all summers and we can't even hay it until the end of August because the tractors would rut it all up.
@pirateduck amazon fsa is amazing because it does filter out exactly what you can get. When I went to try and sirens $500 in fsa funds at the end of our cycle I only picked up things with tags from Walgreens and most of the stuff didn't ring up fsa approved for my fsa card so I went to Amazon because of course I waited until the last possible day to spend the money.
Anyone watched the banned-by-the-oscars Fridamom commercial? I just did. It upsets me that they would label the commercial “inappropriate” and in the same category as “violent and sexual in nature”, it is neither and it creates awareness (just showing enough) of what it is like the days after you give birth.
@queenklau Yeah I don't see anything wrong with the commercial, though I did notice unlike pad commercials that use "blue liquid" on the pads they actually had blood on the pads maybe if it was blue it would have been allowed. You know keep everyone in the dark about what actually happens after having a baby blue goo comes out of the mom.
Today is primary day in NH @shamrocandroll happy primary day. DD wouldn't leave the house with out a Bernie flyer from the mail today, make me a little sad that I didn't take her to vote with me this year because I'm now in the building we vote in so I don't have to leave to vote. I also found out that the majority of my seniors are not old enough to vote yet, we have such a young class this year. Also all the polling people were all very excited we're having another baby, my bump was nicely on display today for them so I wasn't upset when they asked if I was expecting.
If you are on Instagram, a certified pediatric sleep consultant @allthesleeps and certified child passenger safety technician @drivingmomcrazy have swapped pages for the day and are answering questions.
@queenklau I get so ragey that they banned something like that, yet it's totally fine for them to air Viagra commercials and talk freely about erections freely during the day when kids are watching. All of the eye rolls.
@jhysmath Yaaaay! Happy Primary Day! One of the few times all eyes are on New Hampshire, haha!
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Me: 35 | H: 40 Married Sept. 2013 DS1: Nov 11, 2016 MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d) CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d) BFP! 8/24/19 DS2: May 10, 2020
@queenklau I am so angry they banned that commercial. Perhaps periods and postpartum truths would be looked at like normal instead of disgusting, if it was talked about frankly.
They didn't show any parts of her body that are covered by swim suits. And they didn't show the murder scene amount of blood I sometimes saw/caused.
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Me: 33 DH: 32 Married 7/18/15 1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16 Team green turned BLUE! 2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18 Team green turned PINK! Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
@queenklau wow, to ban that commercial is ridiculous. And people wonder why women don't talk about the struggles of postpartum. When did having knowledge of products you might want/need after birth become offensive or whatever the reason for banning this commercial?
It’s fascinating to me that the same people that are oh so conservative about showing blood coming out of a vagina are willing to show all kinds of questionable things to protest abortions.
The thing with the commercial is this, and it's messed up. No pad/tampon commercials show products in use really or bodily fluids. Diaper commercials are pretty tame and just show happy babies crawling around, no struggling parents with a screaming/flailing child, no actual diaper change scenes. Even things like viagra commercials (or for most medicines) don't actually show an erection (or any medical condition). Commercials don't depict the dirty truth of life. Even those for stomach issues, you don't see someone vomit or even run to the toilet at full sprint. We get the horribly filtered view of life. It's messed up. We've all be there. These are all normal things that humans experience, why the need to hide it or make it anything other than what it is? Ugh.
Okay, sorry to change the subject but I have to share - someone I work with has one of those birth/yoga ball chairs in her cubicle. I sat on it and OMG, my back felt amazing instantly. I couldn't believe it. And the best part is, she wasn't using it so she let me take it to my office. I'm so comfortable right now. If you can try one out and maybe get your employer to order you one, do it!!!
@ruby696 somewhere in another thread was a conversation about posture, especially while sitting at a desk job or something. I don't sit on a ball at work, but did get the company to buy me a new chair about a year (maybe two now) ago that is ergonomically correct and can be adjusted in many ways. Wow, does it make a difference in the course of a day. Also look at things like where your computer monitor, keyboard, mouse are positioned, like are you leaning forward (which I am now, shame on me) while you type, or are you sitting up straight with you back against the back of the chair? Are both feet flat on the floor? Are your knees and elbows close to 90 degrees? Would just adjusting the height of your chair make a different in your posture? There's a lot to think about, but a simple web search of good posture while doing x,y,z activities will do you wonders if you can follow the guidelines!
@pirateduck We're lucky enough to get ergonomic evals where I work and I just had one last year. So my chair, keyboard, desk, etc are all good. But I self sabotage because I slouch, sit with my feet up, and basically act like a teenager on a couch. The yoga ball doesn't allow me to do any of those things. I'm really hoping it helps with my back and core over the next couple of months.
@ruby696 I also self-sabotage. Glad the yoga ball is doing the trick right now! Also, that's really neat your workplace does ergonomic evals, maybe I'm just unfamiliar with those type of work environments but that seems great!
@ruby696 I'm with you on the horrible posture as well. I usually sit with one leg crossed under me and alternate them through the day. Sometimes I put them up on a little foot rest I have under my desk, but 99% of the time I'm sitting on my legs, leaning forward etc and doing all these no-no's. Maybe if I was better about it I wouldn't be having back pain right now. Oops.
@ruby696 I've been told I need to get a yoga ball to sit on at the office! I actually just put a table on top of my desk so I can stand up more frequently vs. sitting most of the day. I also have a tendancy to cross my legs (indian style) and slouch when I'm in my chair. Standing up is making a difference, but the yoga ball would be a great solution for these aches and pains.
I got a simple eval once but my small office had no solutions! Once you got my chair down low enough for feet flat on floor (there was only one in the entire office that went low enough) elbows at 90 wasn't an option, my elbows had to go out to the sides to get my hands on the desk. So when we put chair up high enough to get upper body correct, then I would need some sort of added on step/stool for feet, but it would need to be homemade/custom, because it needed to be pretty much right over the chair feet/wheels. And only one chair front to back let me use back rest without the front of the seat bottom pushing uncomfortably into the back of my calves. Either all our desks were high, most of our chairs were huge, or I'm just tiny, except I'm 5'4" and have a 29" inseam, so I don't think I'm terribly short/small on average.
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Me: 33 DH: 32 Married 7/18/15 1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16 Team green turned BLUE! 2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18 Team green turned PINK! Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
@pourmeanothermocktail something I found at my old desk that helped was an adjustable keyboard tray. If you can't get the chair perfect, sometimes you can get a tray that lowers down and can be adjusted to your chair level and get things to work the other way around!
@pourmeanothermocktail I'm 5'0" so I'm sure I was a project. 😂 One thing that was suggested to me was installing a lift to bring my desk down two inches since I insist on having my keyboard on top of my desk - I can't stand keyboard trays. I declined, that was way too much effort.
@queenklau Thank you for sharing, I had no idea this commercial existed and it was banned. Great commercial and the people who banned it can suck it (I'm obviously upset).
@pirateduck I saw one of those on amazon and thought it to be a good solution. I ordered one, but in the interim putting a smaller table on my desk is doing the trick haha
@pourmeanothermocktail something I found at my old desk that helped was an adjustable keyboard tray. If you can't get the chair perfect, sometimes you can get a tray that lowers down and can be adjusted to your chair level and get things to work the other way around!
Well, I'm no longer working, so problem solved, but at the time there was no keyboard tray option, and I used my mouse so much I'm not sure it would have worked well anyway I rigged up a cardboard box for under my seat, but it kinda sucked. then I switched out for a chair with no arm rests so I could sit faux cross legged.That is what many traditional Asian cultures do instead of chairs. It kept my back straight and hips comfy, but it wasn't stacking my ankles so it worked for me.
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Me: 33 DH: 32 Married 7/18/15 1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16 Team green turned BLUE! 2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18 Team green turned PINK! Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
@queenklau I also didn’t know this commercial existed and was banned. It makes me sad that our society is supposed to be advanced but we still can’t honestly talk about bodily functions. Also makes me extra glad I added one of their post partum recovery kits to my registry this weekend!
Ah! Guys! I have so much to catch up on here and will try my best, but just wanted to drop a note and say I'm traveling all week on the west coast for work and I'm so exhausted by meetings and the time change i haven't even had a spare moment to relax. I promise I'll catch up with you all on Friday! Hope everyone is having a good week
Ugh BIL is here for MH's birthday. I was excited to see him, but now my anxiety is going off because he wants to know my due date (which only MH and I know) because he wants to fly MIL out for the birth. I've already fought with MH on this that I don't want her staying with us and I don't want anyone "waiting around" for me to give birth. If I say anything about it to MH it's going to start another fight and I just don't want to. I also don't want her there period and I feel BIL will drop her off at our place again and mh will be responsible for driving her 4 hours to the airport again. I just can't right now 😬
@jhysmath how'd you respond? That really is stressful. Can you be candid with your BIL about not wanting MIL there until (long)after the birth? Or tell him the dates can change so much that you don't want MIL to come early and waste time if the baby is late.
Good luck!
Me: 30 | H: 34 Married July 2018 First-Time Mom EDD: 5/1/20 *please stick, baby*
@tj_2 I told him we don't give out due dates because they're just estimates, and he said well I need an estimate to know when to book the flight. I think I'll text him later this week to explain it, he is rather level headed and I think that will go better.
@jhysmath I don't know if he'll accept the answer, but I'd probably say the baby is due sometime in May and we will be having visitors anytime after x date, so you should book your flight for then.
@jhysmath I like @pirateduck's approach of providing a date after which you'd be comfortable with visitors. You can always pretend you went into labor earlier if there's issues about you keeping the grandchild away for X weeks. 🙄
Me: 30 | H: 34 Married July 2018 First-Time Mom EDD: 5/1/20 *please stick, baby*
@pirateduck I give June as my due date without a date . I'm due 5/28 and I don't want people asking all of May why I haven't had a baby yet. We will also be back in NY after the baby has its 1 month appointment so I don't know why MIL can't wait until we're back there for the whole effing summer. It's bad enough I have to see her all summer long I don't need her in my space here too.
@jhysmath what @pirateduck said. If she is too stressful for you then I think your H needs to respect that, like really respect it. DF and I already decided that his mom is not coming, even on her best day she pisses me off so I am not doing it, I gave in with DS1 and let her stay in the room but this go around I don't even want her at the hospital which he agrees with because he knows how she is (she drives him nuts too).
@mamaj1220 MH is the epitome of a mama's boy even at 45 so it's awful. I'm sure if he could have it his way she'd be standing in my vagina when I gave birth. Half the time I swear he wanted to have children to give them to his mother its awful. He grew up with a his single mom living with his grandparents and he feels grandparents should be almost equal raising a child. We saw grandparents maybe once a month (my moms parents) and a couple times a year (my fathers parents lived in Florida) so it's two completely different outlooks on how grandparents should be involved.
@jhysmath ahh yeah, DF and I agree on how my mom and step dad (who I call my dad) and his dad and step mom should be involved (DS pretty much spends the night with one or the other every other weekend and in the summer spends almost a week with each and my family still does family dinners at least once a week). We aren't as easy going about my biodad (he has a history) and his mom just because she makes us both crazy.
also though thank you for reminding me that yes it is sweet to have a mama's boy but that they need to learn to be independent of me as well, as much as I love my DS I want him to have a life that doesn't revolve around me someday!
@jhysmath I LOLed about the standing in your vagina part. Ugh Mama's boys situations can be rough. I'm sorry you're dealing with that. I think it makes sense to stretch the dates and maybe set a firm no visitors until after X date rule (if they'll listen).
Oh and about that commercial. Yea that pissed me off and Busy Phillips had a great comment about how simply being a women is still controversial and needs to be hidden in our society. Men and their ED commercials need to F off and let's start showing real, normal, every day stuff that people need to know about! Grrr
Re: Randoms (2/1 - 2/29)
@pirateduck amazon fsa is amazing because it does filter out exactly what you can get. When I went to try and sirens $500 in fsa funds at the end of our cycle I only picked up things with tags from Walgreens and most of the stuff didn't ring up fsa approved for my fsa card so I went to Amazon because of course I waited until the last possible day to spend the money.
what do you guys think?
BFP1 04/24/2015 EDD Dec 2015 MMC 10W5d;
BFP 2 09/25/2015 EDD June 2016 MMC 9wks;
BFP 3 03/22/2016 EDD Dec 6th 2016
Today is primary day in NH @shamrocandroll happy primary day. DD wouldn't leave the house with out a Bernie flyer from the mail today, make me a little sad that I didn't take her to vote with me this year because I'm now in the building we vote in so I don't have to leave to vote. I also found out that the majority of my seniors are not old enough to vote yet, we have such a young class this year. Also all the polling people were all very excited we're having another baby, my bump was nicely on display today for them so I wasn't upset when they asked if I was expecting.
@jhysmath Yaaaay! Happy Primary Day! One of the few times all eyes are on New Hampshire, haha!
Married Sept. 2013
DS1: Nov 11, 2016
MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d)
CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d)
BFP! 8/24/19
DS2: May 10, 2020
They didn't show any parts of her body that are covered by swim suits. And they didn't show the murder scene amount of blood I sometimes saw/caused.
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
DD #2: May 2020
Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
FTM
BFP 08/25/19, EDD 05/04/20
DH: 32
Married 7/18/15
1st born at 35+4 on 6/6/16
Team green turned BLUE!
2nd born at 38+6 on 8/30/18
Team green turned PINK!
Due with #3 on 6/6/20 Team Green
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Good luck!
Married July 2018
First-Time Mom
EDD: 5/1/20 *please stick, baby*
Married July 2018
First-Time Mom
EDD: 5/1/20 *please stick, baby*