@zuuls_mom OMG that's hilarious and totally something I would do! Good job breaking the cycle! But also there's nothing wrong w/ wearing HP socks until Sept!!!
Hey all. I’ve missed everyone. Without getting into a lot of details, I’m going through some stuff with my husband and have been pretty consumed in it. He made some promises to me several months ago that he has gone back on, and we are now in therapy trying to see if we can make things work. Ive asked him to leave for now, and I’m just trying to sort things out that all came crashing over me (I realized there is something very very wrong and it all of a sudden became clear ☹️). I’m pretty exhausted and terrified from it all, and hoping he will seek the help that he needs.
Ill be jumping back into the conversations in the next couple of days. This is a great group!😊
@blitzybee I'm so sorry that you're having a tough time. I hope you're able to work things out if that is what you really want. We're here when you're ready to talk!
@blitzybee I'm so sorry to hear you're going through that! But, better now than when you're caring for a newborn and running on fumes. My sincerest wishes that you are soon in a good place - whether that is with or without him. We're all here if you want to vent!
@blitzybee So sorry to hear you're going through that! I'm proud of you for sticking to your guns and asking him to leave for the time being. I hope your situation works out for the best, and you're at peace with the outcome. Whenever you're ready to talk we are here to listen!
@blitzybee I'm so sorry to hear that. Sending you lots of love and strength right now. I know it seems scary and overwhelming, but you are doing the right thing by not letting things go. We're here for you!
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Me: 32 │ DH: 35 Married 8/16/13 BFP#1 DS 11/13/16 BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18 BFP# 3 Preemie DD born at 38w (IUGR) on 8/28/19 weighing 5.5lbs. Our little miracle
@blitzybee I'm so sorry you're going through this - echoing the others, thinking of you and wishing you well with whatever path ends up being the right one for you, and we are here for you!
You’ve all brought me to tears-thank you for the support. I think we may have had a positive break through today in therapy. The therapist talked to him very seriously about how unhealthy it is to try to sustain the lifestyle that he is sustaining, and made it very clear that I’m scared and my fears are warranted with the behaviors that have been going on. We are living separately now and trying to reconcile some issues in therapy. Hoping with so much of my heart that we get to a decent place by September. Thank you for all of the love, it’s truly amazing. I know I’ll make it either way, but it’d sure be better with healthy partner in crime!
@blitzybee so sorry you’re going through this. Good to hear that therapy is going well so far. If you ever want to talk, feel free to PM me. DH and I have gone through something (that seems like it might be) similar. ❤️ to you!
Thinking of all of you in Colorado today! Hopefully you are all in the clear from the potential threat in the Denver area and that they get her caught soon!
@duewithpu2 thanks for thinking of us. There’s nothing like getting a phone call at 12:30am saying school is closed and worrying about our little ones. I hate this so so so much. The people that survived columbine are now having so much PTSD in sending their own children to school. ☹️
@duewithpu2 thank you! It's definitely terrifying. Even DS' daycare is on lockout so the doors and windows are locked, they can't go outside and no one can go in or out without an escort. I'm definitely glad for the extra precaution! I really hope they catch her soon and I just feel so terrible for all the people who experienced Columbine and the theater shooting having to relive those horrors.
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Me: 32 │ DH: 35 Married 8/16/13 BFP#1 DS 11/13/16 BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18 BFP# 3 Preemie DD born at 38w (IUGR) on 8/28/19 weighing 5.5lbs. Our little miracle
@duewithpu2@blitzybee@zuuls_mom Thanks, duewithpu2! Yes, this is horribly scary and it's really frustrating that the crazy hauled herself all the way from Florida to share. Our daycare is on lock-down, too, but I wish they were closed. My daycare is humongous and if one was going to be a target, I would think it would be mine. I have half a mind to go get DS and keep him home until this is all over. H thinks I'm being a bit ridiculous. Ugh.
Soooo...what's everyone's thoughts on moving to a private group here in the near future? No drive by posts and more privacy sounds fantastic to me, but I want to get other's opinions as well!
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Me: 32 │ DH: 35 Married 8/16/13 BFP#1 DS 11/13/16 BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18 BFP# 3 Preemie DD born at 38w (IUGR) on 8/28/19 weighing 5.5lbs. Our little miracle
PG sounds good to me! Maybe we move in late May/June? I’m just thinking that so we can have a vetting process set up to try and weed out the catfish with bump pics (and your screenname? I dunno how we should do that) and I know some FTMs don’t have much of a bump yet.
And we haven’t done the come out lurkers post yet!!
I'm good with a pg. I would feel a lot more comfortable. I have found myself posting things lately and then regretting it because I feel like it might have been too much personal info. I would agree that we should wait another month or so. We haven't quite weeded out the crazies yet. We need to start a controversial thread and see who comes out of the woodwork first lol.
I would so be down with going to a private group. Is that something here or on the book of face or what? And give it a few more weeks to hopefully weed out the weird and drive by people?
@blitzybee sending you so much love and hoping that you guys are able to find peace and happiness however it may come!
And omg with all the Colorado news today--I lived a couple miles from Columbine and went into lockdown when all of that happened, and actually knew many of the staff and students there, along with actually having met the killers as they were good friends with my neighbor (awful....) so the whole drama of today was just so much! Then last week there was a horrific incident here at Mall of America with a child (you can google at your own risk if you don't know) but there's just so much evil in the world and it's been consuming my mind. Ugh.... awful, awful craziness! Some days it makes me want to be a crazy helicopter parent... and then that gets exhausting after five minutes.
@zuuls_mom I'd totally be down for a PG soon! I had actually been thinking about it the last week or so because I feel like there's a pretty consistent group of regulars and then anyone who becomes a regular we could always ask to join as the months go by. But this board is either dead from lack of participation or filled with so many randoms that I feel like if we had a smaller group we'd keep it a little more lively!
@sunshine2417 I cannot believe what happened at the Mall of America. It literally makes me sick. I'm not a parent yet, but situations like that make me think I'll struggle with the not being a helicopter parent. Ugh.
And I've been busy the last couple of days, but I'm so sorry for the scare all you CO peeps went through. I am so glad they found her, but I cannot imagine how frightening that must have been!
@kgg2241 right?!?!?! And this was TOTALLY random! Like, the guy didn't know the woman or her kid, has no connection, and was just mad because he had been turned down by women at the mall previously. Our "Nextdoor" app and local moms groups keep flipping out over creepy men at playgrounds and trucks stalking them and such and I'm like just call the police! Alerting me that you got weird vibes from a 40-ish year old white male wearing blue jeans at the playground narrows my search down to a couple tens of thousands of 40-ish year old white males wearing blue jeans who have been to that playground this year!
@lillywonderland what does the ‘come out lurkers post’ entail? There are so many crazy people in the world. I just read up on Colorado and Mall of America incidents. It’s definitely hard not to be a helicopter parent 😳
I’m totally cool with May/June if the consensus is to wait! I definitely want to weed out people first. I think a tribute pic with face, bump, username and random object is always a good way to go. I know we’ll feel more comfortable in there and get closer so I’m super excited for it!
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Me: 32 │ DH: 35 Married 8/16/13 BFP#1 DS 11/13/16 BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18 BFP# 3 Preemie DD born at 38w (IUGR) on 8/28/19 weighing 5.5lbs. Our little miracle
Also, I definitely like the idea of vetting and only letting someone into the PG if we recognize the username and they’ve been decently active. That’ll help keep it to people who don’t just lurk and it’s fair.
@cheshyre319 the PG is on the bump! We’ll probably move to FB closer to delivery (if that’s what the group decides).
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Me: 32 │ DH: 35 Married 8/16/13 BFP#1 DS 11/13/16 BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18 BFP# 3 Preemie DD born at 38w (IUGR) on 8/28/19 weighing 5.5lbs. Our little miracle
@sunshine2417 I didn't realize you are in Minnesota too. *Wave* Hi! The MOA incident shook me so bad! We go to the mall all the time and one of my best friends has a little boy. I could actually imagine this being us there and that little boy being her little boy. It's so frightening. I had to call her right away to make sure she wasn't at the mall that day.
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Me:32 DH:31 Married: 8/2015
TTC #1: 4/2017 Testing: HSG, U/S, BW, and DH's SA all normal DX: Unexplained 8/2018: Clomid + TI = BFN 9/2018: Clomid + TI + Progesterone = BFN 11/2018: Clomid + IUI + Progesterone = BFN 12/2018: Letrozole + IUI + Progesterone \\ Cancelled due to cyst 1/2019: Letrozole + IUI + Progesterone = BFP! \\ EDD Sept 30th, 2019 10/7/2019: Healthy baby boy!
Re: April Randoms
Married 8/16/13
BFP#1 DS 11/13/16
BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18
BFP# 3 Preemie DD born at 38w (IUGR) on 8/28/19 weighing 5.5lbs. Our little miracle
Ill be jumping back into the conversations in the next couple of days. This is a great group!😊
Married 8/16/13
BFP#1 DS 11/13/16
BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18
BFP# 3 Preemie DD born at 38w (IUGR) on 8/28/19 weighing 5.5lbs. Our little miracle
Married 8/16/13
BFP#1 DS 11/13/16
BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18
BFP# 3 Preemie DD born at 38w (IUGR) on 8/28/19 weighing 5.5lbs. Our little miracle
Married 8/16/13
BFP#1 DS 11/13/16
BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18
BFP# 3 Preemie DD born at 38w (IUGR) on 8/28/19 weighing 5.5lbs. Our little miracle
Married 8/16/13
BFP#1 DS 11/13/16
BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18
BFP# 3 Preemie DD born at 38w (IUGR) on 8/28/19 weighing 5.5lbs. Our little miracle
And we haven’t done the come out lurkers post yet!!
And give it a few more weeks to hopefully weed out the weird and drive by people?
And omg with all the Colorado news today--I lived a couple miles from Columbine and went into lockdown when all of that happened, and actually knew many of the staff and students there, along with actually having met the killers as they were good friends with my neighbor (awful....) so the whole drama of today was just so much! Then last week there was a horrific incident here at Mall of America with a child (you can google at your own risk if you don't know) but there's just so much evil in the world and it's been consuming my mind. Ugh.... awful, awful craziness! Some days it makes me want to be a crazy helicopter parent... and then that gets exhausting after five minutes.
@zuuls_mom I'd totally be down for a PG soon! I had actually been thinking about it the last week or so because I feel like there's a pretty consistent group of regulars and then anyone who becomes a regular we could always ask to join as the months go by. But this board is either dead from lack of participation or filled with so many randoms that I feel like if we had a smaller group we'd keep it a little more lively!
And I've been busy the last couple of days, but I'm so sorry for the scare all you CO peeps went through. I am so glad they found her, but I cannot imagine how frightening that must have been!
There are so many crazy people in the world. I just read up on Colorado and Mall of America incidents. It’s definitely hard not to be a helicopter parent 😳
Married 8/16/13
BFP#1 DS 11/13/16
BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18
BFP# 3 Preemie DD born at 38w (IUGR) on 8/28/19 weighing 5.5lbs. Our little miracle
@cheshyre319 the PG is on the bump! We’ll probably move to FB closer to delivery (if that’s what the group decides).
Married 8/16/13
BFP#1 DS 11/13/16
BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18
BFP# 3 Preemie DD born at 38w (IUGR) on 8/28/19 weighing 5.5lbs. Our little miracle
Married: 8/2015
TTC #1: 4/2017
Testing: HSG, U/S, BW, and DH's SA all normal
DX: Unexplained
8/2018: Clomid + TI = BFN
9/2018: Clomid + TI + Progesterone = BFN
11/2018: Clomid + IUI + Progesterone = BFN
12/2018: Letrozole + IUI + Progesterone \\ Cancelled due to cyst
1/2019: Letrozole + IUI + Progesterone = BFP! \\ EDD Sept 30th, 2019
10/7/2019: Healthy baby boy!
TTC #2: 12/2020
2/2021: Letrozole + TI = BFN
3/2021: Letrozole + TI = BFN
4/2021: Surprise! Natural BFP! \\ EDD Jan 6th, 2022 \\ Chemical, betas not rising
8/2021: Letrozole + IUI + Progesterone = BFN
9/2021: Letrozole + IUI + Progesterone = BFN
10/2021: Letrozole + IUI + Progesterone = BFN
11/2021: Letrozole + IUI + Progesterone = BFP! \\ EDD July 29th, 2022