April Randoms

lillywonderland

@kraane It’s just a thread that encourages those who lurk to participate more before we go private - to give them a chance for us to get to know them (since they “know” us already). Once we go PG this board will be more or less a ghost town.

monkeysmom80

I'm ok with going to a private group but agree with @lillywonderland that we should try to get the lurkers to come out and participate.  I know I would participate more, if I knew names and if people weren't just randomly reading our thoughts!

RedBreast35

I'm down for a PG too, whenever everyone else is.  Although I do feel bad, lurking other BMBs is so much fun and I hate to deprive others of our wealth of knowledge and my own personal wealth of poop-talk 

Speaking of poop-talk.... one of my coworkers commented this morning that I look like I've really popped over the past few days.  Didn't have the heart to tell her it's probably because I haven't pooped since Monday.

kaceyallan

As I am a FTM, and this is my first time on the Bump, I don't know much about the protocol of moving to a private group and what that all entails and means. But I am down for whatever! I am also game for a group on here, or FB. 

nda_roxybabe

On my last BMB we waited a bit longer before going private. I think it was shortly before our due dates that we switched to a FB group. We voted on 3-5 admins who vetted anyone getting into the group. I really liked it that way.

I will say, we did have a cat fish-er and it was not found out until we were into the 3rd trimester, so something to keep in mind. 

cheshyre319

Thanks @zuuls_mom!

I've been doing my best to avoid watching the news when possible, it just makes me crazy to see how badly people treat each other. One of the few upsides to being rural is everyone recognizes each other and strangers get noticed quick. 

themadcamel

zuuls_mom said:

I’m totally cool with May/June if the consensus is to wait! I definitely want to weed out people first. I think a tribute pic with face, bump, username and random object is always a good way to go. I know we’ll feel more comfortable in there and get closer so I’m super excited for it! 

I think this is a good way to weed out any catfishers for sure. I've also seen other groups do a voting process. Anyone who requests to join has to have a minimum of a certain number of votes to get it. I guess this is a way to make sure people entering the private group are those who have been active on the original board.

lillywonderland

I prefer going to a PG first, then waiting even longer before going to FB. 

I’m absolutely not okay with going to FB first. I despise it, lol.

septoctkids

I’d be in for a private group! Then we could decide to move to fb from there. I will say that I do sense a cat fisher in here. I don’t get why people do that... odd. Lol. I’ve been lurking on other groups and I saw that they nominated admins too and there was a process to be approved. Maybe we can do a little more research in the near future to see what their process was on approving people.  

zuuls_mom

Yeah, definitely agree on nominating admins and then requiring a certain number of love tits in order to be added to the PG. That's how we did it in my last BMB and it worked really well! I think we required like 30 love tits, but this group is smaller so we may only be able to do 15 or something like that. Either way, as long as I recognize the name, they participate and post a pic when they get added, I'm cool with whoever. 

@septoctkids Ooooh now I am curious to know who's giving you the catfish vibes. 

RedBreast35

@septoctkids @zuuls_mom me too, me too!!

threes_companypu

@septoctkids Now you have me so intrigued! I don't even know what kind of person would have the time or interest in catfishing a pregnancy board!

ternsetc

I'm in for a pg, and agree on the vetting/waiting a bit. This is my first time on the Bump, so like @kaceyallan have no idea about the process. I know I'd be more comfortable in a pg and share/post more, so on the one hand it would be great to move over, but also feel like it might be a little soon. I've mentioned before not being on FB, (deleted it what I just realized is a literal decade ago, lol!) but will face that hurdle when we get there.

mamaber2204

@septoctkids @zuuls_mom @RedBreast35 Me, three!  You should just out them and see what they say!    

swamplass

::grabs popcorn, compulsively refreshes discussion board:: @septoctkids @zuuls_mom @RedBreast35 @mamaber2204

kiddiesandkitties

@phillyftm glad to know I’m not alone 🤣👀👀

zuuls_mom

My range of emotions waiting to find out...

kgg2241

I'm not on FB either, but like ternsetc, I'll figure it out if we decide to do a FB group. 

I haven't gotten catfish vibes yet, but I'm also very gullible. I just don't think we've gotten deep enough in conversation for me to pick up on any lies yet.

lillywonderland

@kgg2241 🤣😜😎😘

bubsalicious

The MOA story is terrifying, that poor little boy. I haven't been able to shake it since I read about it last week.

I'm not huge on the PG's, no matter how far into the pregnancy. I'm also more apt to join a FB group at the end. This makes me a little bummed to be in the minority because there seems to be quite a few people geographically closer to me this time around and I love the idea of a meet up in the far future.

kgg2241

@lillywonderland 😂 IRL I'd probably nicely ask some questions about your "property" so I don't hurt your feelings. This is why I hate mlm's!

zuuls_mom

@bubsalicious curious to know why you don't like PG's? A more secure/private place to get to know each other and share more about ourselves without randos creeping on it is so nice. Especially if you're not opposed to FB at the end which is likely where we'd end up. 

bubsalicious

@zuuls_mom I don't like the way they are set up, and you still have mods watching everything. Also, it's much easier to find this group for when I am able to get on vs the forever it takes me to find one PG. I guess if people wanna creep, let them creep. 

lillywonderland

@bubsalicious Although I agree that it is cumbersome to navigate to the PGs - I see the PG as a way to get to know our members better without the entire internet seeing every move we make. Yes, the BGs can “see” everything still, but that’s not as irksome to me as the BMB basically being a public record for eternity. That’s the main draw for me. It’s a stepping stone to FB (which I’m assuming is the eventual resting place). 

A FB move is too intimate for me right now - I don’t even know your real names or what you look like! 😜

sparkles5275

I think a PG would be nice.  I know I've held back on posting because it is so public.  It would also be easier to keep track of who's who by putting a face to a name/username.

blitzybee

I’m not one for 1 way conversations. If it’s a friendship or a supportive group, everyone involved should take part. Now in real relationships, that ebbs and flows and there will always be more shy and more talkative people. All types are welcome in my book, but if there’s zero participation, it’s not a relationship that I’m all that interested in. That’s my 2 cents🤷🏻‍♀️ 

LJMoon6

I agree. FB is too early. But I would be fine with a PG. I feel like anyone who was going to join has already joined in. But there's probably a few that have been lurking so maybe give them a few more weeks to participate before making the move. Idk.

I have also been getting a catfish feeling. I'm probably completely wrong tho and am being paranoid lol.

themadcamel

I'm dying to know who these mythical catfish are!! I have the perfect gif ready:

threes_companypu

Yinz better start spilling names. I've got 2 more hours at work, and I'm trying to avoid responsibilities lol

cammie0526

Yinz! Haven't heard that since college

RedBreast35

@lillywonderland I sometimes wonder if the BGs just read the PGs for entertainment's sake.  Cuz you know we let it alllll hang out there.
I also don't like FB as much for PGs.  I'd move there eventually, but I get so annoyed with the way FB is set up.  I'm probably in the tiny minority, but I actually like the way TB is set up.

threes_companypu

@cammie0526 Haha I try to curb my western PA lingo, but it comes out when I'm feeling sassy 

mamaber2204

@zuuls_mom The suspense is killing me.  Can you PM those of us on this thread about who the catfishing suspects are?!?  I want to know so I can be suspicious of their every move.    Also, I realized that since I don't post u/s or face photos, I could be a suspect!  Uhoh!  Also, how do you PM people (obviously not tech-savvy enough to be a catfisher)?  

monkeysmom80

I'm curious as to who the suspect is too @septoctkids Also, why would someone catfish a pregnancy board, I just don't understand.

zuuls_mom

@mamaber2204 If you click on someone's picture, it will take you into their profile and you can click "message" and it will open a personal message box! 

COME ON @septoctkids! We're all DYING to know who it is.

mamaber2204

@zuuls_mom Thanks!  Oops, I should have tagged @septoctkids on the "PM us and tell us who it is!!!" 

threes_companypu

I'm excited for the PG and FB group. I didn't bump with DS because I asked one question about the name we had chosen, and got so much hate that I deleted my account. Apparently I'm a horrible person and have destined DS to a life of hate and discrimination. This has been a much better group of ladies.

mamaber2204

@duewithpu2 Now I'm dying to know what your DS's name is!  It can't be that hate-provoking!  Some boards are just so mean!  (and also my mind is racing with all the names I think could be hate-inducing, which I'm sure doesn't include your DS's name).  

threes_companypu

@mamaber2204 lol I guess I should have included that! His name is Cohen. 

mamaber2204

@duewithpu2 I'm admittedly out of the loop on pretty much everything, but I don't get why Cohen would engender any harsh feelings.  Also, it's a beautiful name.