*Possible TW* Well, just received an email from my principal that one of our 4th graders fell through the ice today and was in the water for about an hour before being pulled out. He was air lifted to a bigger hospital for treatment. We have no idea what kind of condition he’s in. I have no idea how to handle this with my kids tomorrow. If you are the praying type, I’d really appreciate it, for the kiddo, the family, and our students and staff.
@mrskoz428 I’m so so sorry. There is actually a movie coming out called Breakthrough that is about this exact scenario. It’s based on a true story and the boy survives because of prayer or at least that is how the trailer slants. It’s a super TW, the trailer is heart wrenching to watch, but because of the outcome, I thought I would mention it to you. It may give you a bit of hope. Sending good thoughts your way!
Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers. Update in the spoiler (TW):
After some Facebook investigation, it appears that he did not make it. I am terrified for today. My PTSD and anxiety don’t allow me to handle these situations well. Continued prayers please!
Thank you, all. We have counselors from all the elementary schools and the intermediate and middle school in hand. Lots of tears shed, from staff and students alike. This was so much harder than I ever imagined. I don’t even know how to continue teaching.
I can't begin to imagine how hard that is on his parents and siblings I am so sorry, @mrskoz428 - being a teacher and handling the fallout from that type of incident is a tremendous challenge. Being strong for the kids while handling the grief yourself must be incredibly taxing. I hope you can find some time for self-care through this.
Well, today went as well as it possibly could. We did our best to keep it as normal as possible while supporting the students that needed it. I am just amazed at their resilience and strength. Again, thank you all for the thoughts and prayers. The kids are certainly not through the woods but each day is another day closer to normal.
On a less depressing note, I’m making tacos and I’m so happy.
My husband has the man flu, so he stayed home from work. Managed to get all my housework done but then crashed for a 2 hour nap.
Exciting news, my cousin (I keep wanting to call her my baby cousin, but she's literally 4 months younger than me, I'm just emotional 😂) just had her first baby, a boy ♥️
Sending you love, @mrskoz428. I've had a couple of students killed/murdered while I was teaching (outside of the school, but enrolled in my classes). It takes a while, but things do eventually get back to "normal". I've found it important to remind students that everyone grieves differently, so they should not judge how sad or not someone is based on their outward behavior.
@liliumstargazer13 I kept reminding them many times today that some will cry now, some may cry in two weeks, and some may never cry. I cried in front of them as I shared the news and that allowed a lot of them to express the emotions they were feeling. It’s a large grade, about 225 of them, so not all the kids knew who he was but he had many siblings in the district so it’s affected just about every building in our district.
Today was a lot for me, we were out most of the day but it was a good day. I was really emotional because ************TW************ a woman in a parent support group I'm in for other parents dealing with similar conditions to DS, shared her son passed away due to a repeat of this condition. It seriously messed with me and I spent most of the night crying and I wouldn't tell H why. I emailed one of DS's doctor's explaining why I was upset and what could I expect in the future and she assured me his medical history is much different and I don't need to worry about that worst case scenario any more than any other parent. As he grows there are certain precautions we'll take but nothing that requires extra monitoring. It was so relieving to hear. After I got that email I told H why I'd been upset because I knew it would make him sad and worry and he had to go to work today so i didn't want to do that to him. I also had therapy today and it was sort of heavy. I asked when she usually sees patients with PTSD from their birth experience move past it and she basically said a long time and I didn't do myself any favors by getting pregnant again so quickly. She was very kind about it but I guess I'm going to therapy for the foreseeable future.
@DuchessOfCambridge I am so so glad your doctor reassured you that you have nothing to worry about.
Also I love that your son picked out an outfit. I have to get my son (few months older than yours) to do the same! Pretty sure he won’t understand what’s happening until the new baby arrives though, womp womp.
@alexva2017 to be fair, I picked out two outfits I liked but decided I shouldn't buy both so I held them up to him and asked which he liked, and he touched one. I think probably he went with the one closer to him bc he has no idea what's happening 😂
@DuchessOfCambridge I didn’t do myself any favors either by getting pregnant so soon after my 2nd loss. It was extremely traumatic and I suffered major PTSD and depression during that pregnancy. But I got through it and DD was worth everything I went through and you will get through the PTSD you are dealing with as you get closer to giving birth. I swear our hormones make is forget how bad it all was to trick us into getting pregnant again.
I can’t imagine how triggering it all was for you to hear that story. Certain things will trigger me as well.
TW Tomorrow I go back to the MFM into the u/s room where I learned my 2nd pregnancy wasn’t going to make it bc she had severe chromosomal abnormalities incompatible with life and I was held down while the MFM stuck a needle in my uterus for my CVS. It was seriously the most traumatic experience of my life. But it’s also where we got the happy news that DDs 20 week u/s was normal almost a year later. So I’m trying to focus on that. As you get closer to giving birth, it will probably hit you harder at times. But be kind to yourself and keep talking about your worries and triggers.
Everyone is dealing with some heavy stuff today. Hugs to all.
Abrupt subject change in 3...2...1. Anybody do curly girl method? I kind of loosely followed it but just found out some of my products are not compatible. So I did a clarifying shampoo and am sitting around with a towel on my head deep conditioning with honey, olive oil and sauve naturals. My hair better be soft as a baby’s honey after al this trouble!
@lovelybabybumpz I have straight hair that would not work with the curly girl method, but I did do No Poo for about a year and a half. It helped repair my hair and I went from having super oily hair that had to be washed every day to now I can go every three days. I still use products that kinda fit, but I don't do no poo anymore. It got to be too much of a hassle of trial and error.
@lovelybabybumpz I have naturally curly hair and would say I follow it when I wear my hair curly. I have a bunch of the DevaCurl products that I love. I keep telling myself I'm going to do a deep condition on it but have yet to do so. What clarifying shampoo did you use?
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Tw: We are dealing with an unexpected loss in the family today as well and there just isn't anything good to say. End Tw
Grief is such a strange thing and we all move through it so differently. So creepy internet hugs to you.
On a less depressing note, I’m making tacos and I’m so happy.
Exciting news, my cousin (I keep wanting to call her my baby cousin, but she's literally 4 months younger than me, I'm just emotional 😂) just had her first baby, a boy ♥️
@bumbly_b I am so sorry for your loss, too. Man, what a junky Monday.
Also I love that your son picked out an outfit. I have to get my son (few months older than yours) to do the same! Pretty sure he won’t understand what’s happening until the new baby arrives though, womp womp.
I can’t imagine how triggering it all was for you to hear that story. Certain things will trigger me as well.
TW Tomorrow I go back to the MFM into the u/s room where I learned my 2nd pregnancy wasn’t going to make it bc she had severe chromosomal abnormalities incompatible with life and I was held down while the MFM stuck a needle in my uterus for my CVS. It was seriously the most traumatic experience of my life. But it’s also where we got the happy news that DDs 20 week u/s was normal almost a year later. So I’m trying to focus on that. As you get closer to giving birth, it will probably hit you harder at times. But be kind to yourself and keep talking about your worries and triggers.
Abrupt subject change in 3...2...1. Anybody do curly girl method? I kind of loosely followed it but just found out some of my products are not compatible. So I did a clarifying shampoo and am sitting around with a towel on my head deep conditioning with honey, olive oil and sauve naturals. My hair better be soft as a baby’s honey after al this trouble!
BFP: 8/20/2018 - EDD 5/4/2019