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ashley14598

@bug_hunter oh girl I’m sorry! I have ibs and deal with them somewhat regularly but especially after the birth of my son (from pushing which is very common) and the constipation that came along with it after. I recommend the preparation H wipes they are flushable and will provide relief. They also make a cream that will provide relief especially if they itch. Other than that eat lots of fiber and drink lots of water. If they are very uncomfortable I’ll sit on my sons bobby to keep pressure off of them. They should clear up in a day or two it just depends on how bad it is on how long they take to clear up. 

mamaoftwomonkeys

@bug_hunter I had issues with this earlier in my pregnancy and it mostly cleared up. Definitely constipation was making things worse for me. For me, upping fluids, tucks wipes and hydrocortisone cream, and trying to get more fresh fruit/veg made a big difference! Fingers crossed you feel better soon!

kandos

I have had almost regular constipation and hemorrhoids even before pregnancy. Some tips below help 

1.Warm sitz bath esp after bowel movements for        10-15 mins (really works)
2. Tucks pads (toilet paper bruises it more)
3. Prune juice or 2-3 dried prunes
4. Lots of water
5. 1 colace pill at night ( got Miralax also but have not been regular with it)
6. Ofcourse fiber content in diet (I am not so good with it either)

Other than that it's just annoying and painful at times but you would learn after trying each of above which one works best for you.

scimomma

@mamaoftwomonkeys @kandos @ashley14598 thanks for the suggestions and I'm sorry for those of you that deal with this on a regular basis! I just didn't even understand what was going on at first and was a little surprised to read that it was hemorrhoids. There are some symptoms I anticipated and this was not one of them! 

magr8r

@maggiemadeit I have been feeling those pains too, they just started in the last couple days for me. I'm almost 12 weeks and just started showing a bit in the last week (I'm 5'1 and petite). I came here hoping someone else had asked the same question because it was worrying me a bit. It feels like sore muscles from my belly button to just about an inch or so above it. I went down the google hole and now I'm convinced I'm dying (not really, but you know). A friend of mine, mom of 3, said she felt the same thing when she was pregnant too so I'm hoping all is well. Going to call the Dr. though if it gets any worse, I'm just hoping I can wait until my next appointment next week. 

zionsmama85

I need help guys. My boyfriend is becoming unbearable about what im eating. Everytime i talk about eating something he goes "eat a piece of fruit, eat a salad'...which for the first 8 weeks was very hard due to morning sickness all i was eating was bagels and toast. I lost 4 pounds my first month. i eat reasonably healthy anyway.  So he has mentioned me getting high blood pressure (mind you i have never had it in my life, even 1st pregnancy/nor GD), and then yesterday he brought home some lemonade push popsicles and when i asked for one, he scrutinized the label and told me we can split one since it "had a lot of sugar"...today he just texted me randomly talking about he is looking up pregnancy diet plans...i am overweight...but i have had all my blood work done since and before i was pregnant and i am healthy. my blood sugar is fine, my blood pressure is great, my cholesterol is amazing per my doc. i have no health issues besides being bigger LOL. I am starting to get pissed off and a second away from snapping on him. before i got pregnant he said i was fine and when i talked about losing weight he would say he likes me just as i am...so now i am like...was i only fine when i wasn't pregnant with your baby....or do yall think he is just trying to be helpful and going about it in the wrong way. I want to know how to approach him about this without spazzing bc he is a pretty sensitive person. Thanks for letting me vent, hopefully someone has some tips!

mamakate1616

@zionsmama85 have you complained about the way you look? I’m overweight and occasionally complain about how I look, especially during this in between phase of looking chunky or pregnant. At first my husband kept suggesting I eat different (healthy) things because he thought that was what I wanted (encouragement to change diet). I finally had to tell him it was not helping and I’d prefer him to say nothing if he didn’t have anything “nice” to say. Now that he knows I’m not looking for diet support he focuses more on the reassurance e.g., you look great, you’re growing a baby, etc. 

zionsmama85

@mamakate1616 i complained, or at least made comments more before i was pregnant. i haven't said much now, because, honestly i enjoyed being pregnant and getting bigger before LOL. Probably because i already have a tummy, so i have not said much about my appearance, because i actually feel ok right now. The only thing thats bothering me is a bad bout of melasma. I agree he may be trying to be helpful but he is actually making me feel more subconscious about my weight than anything else, especially since i am already so conscious of trying to "eat right for baby'...doc has already told me i am limited to 11-20lbs of weight gain. At the weight i am, there is a definite number i am not trying to cross anyway LOL. 

mamakate1616

Haha gotcha. @mayoduck shared something on the why my SO is a #%^*< thread that probably makes sense for your question too.

indigoheightsblog

@zionsmama85 - try seeing it as him offering up help for a little while. explain that it's easier said than done, and that when you're pregnant your body really "knows what it wants"... but that you're going to try to eat a bit healthier too. it's hard for men to understand but hopefully he means well and the gentle reassurance will make him feel like he's helping. if it gets really bad, of course then you need to address his intentions... but for now, to keep stress at bay for your growing little one, i'd say try to give him the benefit of the doubt  

3rdtime_charmed

@zionsmama85 I would seriously lose it!! Being pregnant is so hard and men don’t have to deal with any of it. Anything that is less than 1000% supportive and I would be so mad.

indigoheightsblog

i've got a bit of a rant (slash question of opinion) - not sure if this is the best place for this but i figure i may get a few responses.

i've mentioned this in a previous thread, but my GYN requires that all first time pregnancies go through NJ PeriNatal which is a "high risk" center for genetic testing & counseling. NT scan looked great, no chromosomal abnormalities... however after doing some genetic testing on ME, i came back as a carrier for SMA (spinal muscular atrophy). the next step is to do genetic testing on the father to see if he is also a carrier (which is extremely rare). my husband got tested 8 business days ago. the results are available after "10 to 14 business days". on the day that i received my results (over the phone while i was in italy) the genetic counselor suggested i make a follow up appointment right away since they book up quickly. i was on vacation and not sure what to make of that so i just scheduled one. the appointment would be tomorrow (9/11). today i called to ask what exactly it would be for, if we were to be read results, etc.... 

this place is expensive, and if my husband is not a carrier (less than 1% chance he is ALSO a carrier) then this is a moot point. the counselor proceeded to tell me that "since the testing is only 98% accurate, they like to counsel you anyway to make sure you understand that they are not liable if your baby happens to still be born with a genetic condition". so i have to pay money to ensure THEY are not liable and to still leave without results. 

i cancelled tomorrow's appointment and told her to call me when she has the results. if we need to worry THEN we will worry and THEN we will come in to discuss. i was fuming... i feel to have me in there to talk about a hypothetical problem and "liability" is insensitive and fear-mongering and money hungry. am i being irrational or is this completely uncalled for? 

*end rant* 

3rdtime_charmed

@indigoheightsblog the whole thing seems strange to me. Like they are all super worried about liability. Why be so worrried about FTM being high-risk? I’m AMA with twins, and some interesting history (like prior liver tumor among other things) and my doc is still not considering me high risk. I only have to meet the MFM once and they haven’t even told me to schedule yet...

indigoheightsblog

@3rdtime_charmed AGREED!!! so crazy! just seems like a "partnership" between my GYN and this high risk center to honestly squeeze more money out of me. and i'm not usually a penny pincher (i actually LOVE spending money lol especially when it comes to my first unborn child)..... i just find this to be really ridiculous on so many levels. we have done SO MUCH testing and my parents, aunts, even older cousins NEVER had to do this stuff. this is some major 2018 nonsense and part of me is grateful that we have so much advanced technology now but part of me is also really bothered that i need to be scared sh*tless over a hypothetical, meanwhile my parents (one of whom HAS to also be a carrier for SMA) never ever had to deal with it. all three of their kids are fine, and there is not one genetic condition in my entire family. 

zionsmama85

@indigoheightsblog nope! i'm with you on that one! all of these things can already be expensive, so to add an additional appointment that's going to cost, and not even do anything to help you is a waste. I agree, just wait for the results and then cross that battle. the fact that they want to go over liability is pretty infuriating. We already have so much to worry about, to add that is kind of crazy. 

BuckeyeNut05

Oh @zionsmama85 I would lose it. My first pregnancy when I was so, so sick I had a full on ugly-cry meltdown in the Kool-Aid aisle of Wal Mart because my husband just suggested I drink something healthier. I got my Kool Aid and that did not happen again!

babya422

@zionsmama85 I wonder if you could get him to “diet” with you. Like suggest it would help you if he ate what you were eating. Perhaps that would stop him from bringing home sweet treats that he then shaming you for wanting some!  And it might make him see the “easier said than done” perspective. You said he’s the sensitive type, so if it works, he might just realize himself how hard he’s being on you and you won’t have to have that uncomfortable conversation. 

hummingbird35

@zionsmama85 can you just talk to him and tell him it's making you feel uncomfortable? MH tried to do something similar with my last pregnancy but I get preg-rage and I nipped that in the bud. I gained like 70 lbs last time though. He helped make sure I was still eating healthy things in addition to the pizza and brownies I gorged on by making me healthy salads for lunch to take to work. This time I haven't gained any weight and I've been eating really healthy and he's been trying to get me to splurge on stuff. They're never satisfied.  

ashley14598

@indigoheightsblog That is completely ridiculous!! I don’t understand the whole counseling before there is a problem! That is ridiculous I don’t blame you for canceling the appointment. The first time I met with the OB about my first pregnancy he did not feel the need at all for me to do the early genetic testing so we didn’t. I was nervous about not doing it but he assured me that if any major problems were to occur we would know at the 20 week ultrasound so I just trusted him. This time I’m meeting with my midwife (I also used her last pregnancy after the first appointment). She actually suggested I do it but we decided against it because we didn’t with the first one. I always get nervous like what if something was wrong we wouldn’t know it. But honestly like you said so many things that “could be” wrong are very rare and what’s more we will come to what we come when we get there. Like you say no reason to “worry” about something that may or may not be a worry. 

lovesclimbing

Indigo, that just seems crazy to me. I'd be annoyed too. Don't you sign paperwork when you first get testing that you understand it's not 100% accurate? That just seems crazy overkill. Why do they need a whole appointment when it could be taken care of with a few lines on the initial forms?

And the fact that your providers automatically start with assuming you are high risk until proven otherwise is complete foreign and crazy to me. I better not get started because I'll never stop ranting about how backwards it is to treat pregnancy as if it's a medical problem until proven otherwise instead of treating it like the normal, natural part of life it is until a problem arises, and why I eschew the current way in which we treat pregnancy in this country. 

indigoheightsblog

@lovesclimbing i am so with you!!!! i just did what they said because it's my first pregnancy ever.... but honestly it just doesn't seem right to me. it's added unnecessary stress and "what ifs" - pregnancy comes with ENOUGH what ifs to begin with!!! ugh i am so annoyed. i really let her have it on the phone. results should be in tomorrow or wednesday. i refuse to worry until i have to. 

sejica

@zionsmama85 , I agree with @jesiannv about getting him to help. Our partners can feel left out of the pregnancy part of having a baby, so it's sweet that they do research, even if we'd rather they didn't. I'd have my H wait on me and fix me food if he was that hot on 'contributing' -- albeit with some direction. And mostly I'd just have him bring me some of whatever he's having, so if he wants to eat a salad, great, we'll both have some. And then we'll both have pizza when he realizes that's not gonna cut it for either of you.

You could also redirect his research energies into something else like pregnancy pillows, 529 savings plans, monitors, anything you'd rather him be working on than diet.

KatieJo1205

@indigoheightsblog - It is completely insane to me that your OB requires genetic counseling.  I've never heard of that before, even from my last doctor who was completely crazy with the high risk pregnancy stuff.  I'd take issue with your OB requiring things like that - that is your decision to make.  

indigoheightsblog

@KatieJo1205 i agree with you... i have my monthly appointment with them tomorrow and i'm going to complain about it and ask them why they insist on putting me through this when i have zero family history and zero history of loss. unbelievable. if it weren't for the fact that the NJ PeriNatal ultrasound machines are AMAZING i would have been out of there quicker.... but the pictures i get of the baby are so good! LOL 

chocolatelemons

@indigoheightsblog I think it’s absolutely crazy that she MADE you do the testing in the first place. My OB for ds pushed the testing but I said no each time and she was fine with my decision. This time, my doctor left it completely up to me and even told me that she didn’t have it done. So, all of that said, I feel like you have every right to question why they insist on putting you through all of this.

indigoheightsblog

@chocolatelemons i mean no one held me at gunpoint, but they were so matter of fact and slick about it that i didn't even think twice! after my first appointment they just casually said "so we refer all our first time pregnancies to NJ PeriNatal for genetic counseling - once that's done you never do it again for 2nd 3rd 4th kids and so-on... so they'll be giving you a call to schedule your first appointment with them" so i was just kind of like "oh ok cool" - didnt really think anything of it at the time. i don't even really have a problem with it! i think it's great! i just don't think the high-risk center should be pushing me to listen to more information than i'm comfortable with. no matter how many times i say it, they don't want to hear that i'd rather not talk about hypotheticals. i'd rather talk about actual problems. ugh. 

navete

Has anyone had an amniocentesis that is willing to share their experience? I'm scheduled for one and am getting increasingly nervous about it; wondering if I should consider canceling. Thanks for any input   

Kenneylynn3

My question has to do with sizing and dating us. I was tracking ovulation and we did home insemination, so I know when I conceived. Based on that my edd was 1 day off. At dating us was supposed to be 8w2d, but measured at 7w5d. At my next us was supposed to be 13w2d, but measured at 12w2d. Could the baby just be small? Is the first us more accurate? Dr didn't change my edd, but just wanted to get anyone's opinion who might have been through this. I'm not really worried, just more curious than anything.

BuckeyeNut05

@Kenneylynn3 I am not sure about anything related to measuring small, but my OB told me at my 8 week ultrasound that this is what they'd use for dating from there on out because it would be the most accurate. I didn't dig into why, but hope that helps?

lelkcot

@Kenneylynn3 no personal experience, but all three of my sister-in-laws (who’s quite petite) boys measured small throughout the pregnancy. And all 3 are happy healthy kids!

meggyme

@Kenneylynn3 it could also be the accuracy of the dating machine itself. It’s just a slight click away from being different. I was tracking ovulation and the scan was 5 day off. They didn’t change my due date.

Kenneylynn3

@meggyme @BuckeyeNut05 @lelkcot Thank you so much for the responses.

lindseyb918

@Kenneylynn3 the dating ultrasound around 8 weeks is the most accurate. After that (for example at the 20 week anatomy scan), it is considered less accurate for dating purposes. However, the most accurate is your conception date, but I don't think doctors like to use that because they are worried we've made some sort of error lol

I kind of think the dating scan is BS. For DS, I knew when I ovulated and conceived. When I went to my dating scan they moved it back a week. He was born on my calculated due date, supposedly a week early. 8.5lb, could hold his head up, suck his thumb, totally ready to roll! 

This pregnancy, I again know my O and conception date, but again baby was measuring behind at the dating scan, so they moved my EDD back 9 days. 

Overall, I think it is a blessing in disguise to get dated back. Less chance of you going past your "due date" and undergoing an unnecessary induction. 

Mama Natural has a really good due date calculator with some advanced features if you want to play around with that

Kenneylynn3

@lindseyb918 thanks for the response. The advance calculator is interesting. Says my edd is march 5. Guess we'll see when the time comes. Haha

BuckeyeNut05

Anyone have any recommendations for anything Spanx-like that will help me suck it in during a baby shower on the 22nd?  This is my cousin's first pregnancy, I haven't told any of my extended family yet (nor am I ready to) and this is not the appropriate venue for them to find out. I had a tight slip on yesterday under the dress I plan to wear to her shower and felt it was still noticeable. 

mamaoftwomonkeys

@BuckeyeNut05 Could you wear a loose open sweater and scarf to help camouflage? That’s been my method of hiding things. Similarly, at work I wear a lab coat and that seems to minimize the baby bump

BuckeyeNut05

@mamaoftwomonkeys that is a great idea!  Thanks!

mamakate1616

@BuckeyeNut05, also, as much as I love stripes they are not good at hiding things. Do you have any other prints? 

BuckeyeNut05

@mamakate1616 nope.   The other dresses I have are very summery and too short. Everything else is very clearly work-y.  So, this is what I have to work with!

mamakate1616

Well it’s a cute dress and I’m sure the cardigan will help. You can always claim burrito!