I truly don't have a preference for when we move, although it seems there's a strong preference for once babies have been born. I'm fine with late Oct/mid Nov.
I also think we should try and keep some of the same structure. I like the idea of people still being in charge of posting certain threads. So someone could post a "randoms" thread and we can have random conversation below it. The benefit being, we can reply directly to someone's comment and it keeps it organized. Although, it makes it easier to follow one-off posts too. Which on FB we will see more of I'm sure, and I have no problem with that.
I don't want people to worry about "strict rules" with FB, but keeping some organization would be nice. I think the hardest part will be going from our usernames here to real names on FB! It will be nice to put faces with names though, I get excited when people feel comfortable enough to share their face in HDBD!
@knottieamusements I enjoy your freak flag. So hopefully you'll still fly it a bit (or we can chat on the side). After baby comes Im looking forward to getting back into some fun.
Pro FB! I hate TB so much. I’m happy to move whenever (how I voted) but I think it would be a good idea to wait until our babies are here. If some of our main peeps aren’t going to join the FB group I don’t want to leave them behind before our babies are born. It would also give us time to get to know some of our newer peeps better before making the move. (Welcome ladies! ) @SawyerRichardson and whoever else doesn’t have FB.. I’d be totally fine with people creating profiles just to join as long as we can for sure tell that they’re legit. (There is a way to do this) We could do either a closed group: anyone can see that the group exists and who belongs to it but can’t see posts unless they’re members. Anyone can request to join but has to be accepted by an admin. I’m part of a few groups like this and when you join usually there are a few questions that you have to answer when sending a join request. This could help weed out random FB weirdos that don’t belong if we all knew the “secret passcode” or whatever. You don’t have to be friends with anyone to be able to send a join request. Or a private group: only members can see that the group exists. This would mean you have to be friends with an admin so they can invite you to join. Also, making a private group on TB right now wouldn’t be my first choice but I can go with the flow. If one does end up being made though I’d like to be a part of it to be able to pop in and keep in touch with those that don’t go to FB.
@sammierose464 - I’m blaming Blast for causing me to turn down a last minute invite to Chicago for some fun this weekend. I have to get my 3hr Glucose done tomorrow...
Can I say if/when we do move to FB, I would prefer it be a private group as opposed to an open, or even closed group if possible. I like to keep my life on FB fairly private and only shared to some people, if that is also in the voting...
Speaking of admins, I am willing to help facilitate the move to FB and administration of the group. Although, I'd prefer if it was a team/small group effort.
Can I say if/when we do move to FB, I would prefer it be a private group as opposed to an open, or even closed group if possible. I like to keep my life on FB fairly private and only shared to some people, if that is also in the voting...
+1 to @kiwi2628 ... I would also prefer a private FB group to a closed but visible group, but that’s just me.
Also maybe it’s just because I don’t use Facebook as much, but question to those who have had other BMBs move over there... I feel like it’s harder on Facebook to keep up with new replies on a post you’ve already looked at, since there aren’t the little yellow numbers that show new posts since you last viewed like there is on TB. Obviously on Facebook you can get notifications pushed for new posts if you want, but that seems like overkill on allll the posts, so how easy is it to keep up with a thread/keep track of just the new posts since you last looked?
@pumpkinpancake I think it just depends on how it’s organized. Like, my J17 has a daily randoms thread, which is where most of the conversation happens. Then we have a fitness check in, a mental health check in, a pregnancy check in, and a meal planning section. It’s just how we’ve chosen to organize it. I get on every morning and since I’m west coast, usually someone has already put up a daily randoms image and messages. Some things are weekly (fitness, pregnancy and meal planning) while others come up as needed. I get notifications when new things are posted to the group (the threads themselves) or when someone comments on a thread I’m already following.
I’m in support of moving after he babies are born. I’ve never been on a Facebook group to understand if there will be organized discussions like we have here, but for now I like what we have established in several discussions so I would prefer to keep those going so I have one place was to look back to when I’m freaking out and need to look back for the advice that was already shared.
I’d rather move to a private bump group instead of Facebook, after October/November. That was my vote it doesn’t preclude any of us from being Facebook friends but doesn’t require it if you are closer to some ladies and not others, which can be awkward.
I'm not sure how to vote yet. I'm pretty private on FB. A lot of my FB friends don't even know I'm pregnant so having a visible but closed group relating to TB would spread news I'm not yet ready to share. Though it's sometimes a pain to have to log on here, I like the anonymity which has allowed me to feel more free complaining about my psycho family. I guess I'll decide when the time comes.
@ummibtihaj I think that’s why the private Facebook group appeals to a lot of people... you can be a part of it, but it’s not searchable or visible to anyone who’s not in the group. At least that’s my understanding of it, and I could be totally wrong since I’ve never been a part of a group like that...
I’m also pretty sure that even with a private FB group, you aren’t required to be FB friends. (I could be wrong, but I know that is how the closed groups worked a few years ago. You sent a request to join, but didn’t have to be friends with the Admin to do so.)
Oh if we move to FB it has to be a secret group. That's a no brainer. I was referring to the private groups here. I can't remember how I figured out how to get to them with D14 had one, but I remember it being a pain.
I am good moving whenever and volunteer to also help admin.
Private Facebook groups are called secret groups and you can’t see it unless you are invited. You can be invited either by email (must be the email you used to sign up with Facebook) or by being friends with an admin or somebody else in the group depending on the group settings.
A closed group is visible but searchable. We could start out with a closed group and secret password that gets pm’d to members that request it on here until we’re sure everybody is in and then change it to a secret group to avoid random requests and/or friends/family seeing it. The closed group could be named something random and not anything relating to TB or babies or anything like that. As long as we know what to search for, the name doesn’t really matter (although I prefer something benign as I do use Facebook for business).
I just checked my J17 group and it’s a secret group. I think it was a closed group at first then it became a secret one after everyone joined. We gave the admins our real name and description of our profile picture and cover picture so they knew who to accept requests from. You don’t have to be friends with anyone. In fact, I think it was almost a year in before a bunch of us became friends on Facebook.
You do not have to be friends with anyone in the group. However, if it's a secret group you have to be added or invited, so you need to be friends with 1 person.
We could do a closed group for a few days/week while people join and ask that we have limited/no posts while people join if people are concerned. If it's a closed group, non members can only see the name/description not any of the posts.
We can also set up entrance questions where you have to put in a password or something.
Also, question. I know some groups moved to a private group. Is this a good interim option? Is there any benefit to a private group? I'm not too familiar.
So I haven’t read all the responses but this would be my first choice. I want to be able to share more than I’m comfortable with having on a public forum, and with a private group we don’t lose anyone who doesn’t want to make the move to fb.
And +1 to it needing to be a secret, closed group on fb when we move. Also, before we move we need a system for who is moving with us. With N16 what we did was have people vote (basically say “yes, I know her, she’s been around) and you needed a certain number of votes before an admin would add that person to the group. I would say once we pick admins for that group only the admins should join, and then start with a voting-y system. We also had a thread in the fb group where each member posted a selfie with a piece of paper that said their bump username, and also a couple random specified objects (I think it was a fork and a stapler or something?) so all the members could feel comfortable that we were sans-catfish.
I don't have a preference for when the move occurs but I don't want to lose touch with anyone so I'll join the FB group but as long as other people are still here, so am I
Ladybug - April 2013 Dandelion - October 2018 Angel "Aurora" - July 2020 Angel "Sawyer" - May 2021 Angel "Maxine" - January 2022 Angel "Violet" - March 2022 Baby Dove due March 2023
I don’t love the “voting people in or out” thing but maybe that’s just me. With my last group we did it months after the births, which at that point, it was pretty clear who was sticking around and were regulars. I feel like if we did it in October that’s too soon.
Fun fact, my group had a big falling out after the 2016 election! But I will say we have a core group of 15 still going strong from June 2015. It can be done!
@HoosOnFirst I don’t feel like it would need to be a big deal, I just think we need a system so that a bunch of randoms aren’t joining. I think there was a thread where an admin would post someone’s name after they’d messaged and asked to join, and then it was just having people “like” their name/post. That way everyone knew when new people were added, and no random people were over there. Any other suggestions on how to vet people work for me, but I do want there to be a system.
I agree with @kiwi2628 - I’m voting move before since I don’t plan on putting pictures of the little guy on an open group here. I’d also be okay with a private group here, but feel like a lot of people will disappear as they get busier, where many of us are already on Facebook anyway
Re: Statistics 101 - Post Bump Facebooking
I also think we should try and keep some of the same structure. I like the idea of people still being in charge of posting certain threads. So someone could post a "randoms" thread and we can have random conversation below it. The benefit being, we can reply directly to someone's comment and it keeps it organized. Although, it makes it easier to follow one-off posts too. Which on FB we will see more of I'm sure, and I have no problem with that.
I don't want people to worry about "strict rules" with FB, but keeping some organization would be nice. I think the hardest part will be going from our usernames here to real names on FB! It will be nice to put faces with names though, I get excited when people feel comfortable enough to share their face in HDBD!
My freak flag will probably be at half mast when we move over though. I try to not cross the streams.
@SawyerRichardson and whoever else doesn’t have FB.. I’d be totally fine with people creating profiles just to join as long as we can for sure tell that they’re legit. (There is a way to do this)
We could do either a closed group: anyone can see that the group exists and who belongs to it but can’t see posts unless they’re members. Anyone can request to join but has to be accepted by an admin. I’m part of a few groups like this and when you join usually there are a few questions that you have to answer when sending a join request. This could help weed out random FB weirdos that don’t belong if we all knew the “secret passcode” or whatever. You don’t have to be friends with anyone to be able to send a join request.
Or a private group: only members can see that the group exists. This would mean you have to be friends with an admin so they can invite you to join.
Also, making a private group on TB right now wouldn’t be my first choice but I can go with the flow. If one does end up being made though I’d like to be a part of it to be able to pop in and keep in touch with those that don’t go to FB.
Also maybe it’s just because I don’t use Facebook as much, but question to those who have had other BMBs move over there... I feel like it’s harder on Facebook to keep up with new replies on a post you’ve already looked at, since there aren’t the little yellow numbers that show new posts since you last viewed like there is on TB. Obviously on Facebook you can get notifications pushed for new posts if you want, but that seems like overkill on allll the posts, so how easy is it to keep up with a thread/keep track of just the new posts since you last looked?
For me, I’m only topping right now because relationships are hard and pregnancy and associate hormones have added additional complications.
Private Facebook groups are called secret groups and you can’t see it unless you are invited. You can be invited either by email (must be the email you used to sign up with Facebook) or by being friends with an admin or somebody else in the group depending on the group settings.
A closed group is visible but searchable. We could start out with a closed group and secret password that gets pm’d to members that request it on here until we’re sure everybody is in and then change it to a secret group to avoid random requests and/or friends/family seeing it. The closed group could be named something random and not anything relating to TB or babies or anything like that. As long as we know what to search for, the name doesn’t really matter (although I prefer something benign as I do use Facebook for business).
We could do a closed group for a few days/week while people join and ask that we have limited/no posts while people join if people are concerned. If it's a closed group, non members can only see the name/description not any of the posts.
We can also set up entrance questions where you have to put in a password or something.
Dandelion - October 2018
Angel "Aurora" - July 2020
Angel "Sawyer" - May 2021
Angel "Maxine" - January 2022
Angel "Violet" - March 2022
Baby Dove due March 2023
Fun fact, my group had a big falling out after the 2016 election! But I will say we have a core group of 15 still going strong from June 2015. It can be done!