October 2018 Moms

Statistics 101 - Post Bump Facebooking

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Re: Statistics 101 - Post Bump Facebooking

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  • Pro FB! I hate TB so much. I’m happy to move whenever (how I voted) but I think it would be a good idea to wait until our babies are here. If some of our main peeps aren’t going to join the FB group I don’t want to leave them behind before our babies are born. It would also give us time to get to know some of our newer peeps better before making the move. (Welcome ladies!  :) )
     @SawyerRichardson and whoever else doesn’t have FB.. I’d be totally fine with people creating profiles just to join as long as we can for sure tell that they’re legit. (There is a way to do this) 
      We could do either a closed group: anyone can see that the group exists and who belongs to it but can’t see posts unless they’re members. Anyone can request to join but has to be accepted by an admin. I’m part of a few groups like this and when you join usually there are a few questions that you have to answer when sending a join request. This could help weed out random FB weirdos that don’t belong if we all knew the “secret passcode” or whatever. You don’t have to be friends with anyone to be able to send a join request. 
      Or a private group: only members can see that the group exists. This would mean you have to be friends with an admin so they can invite you to join. 
     Also, making a private group on TB right now wouldn’t be my first choice but I can go with the flow. If one does end up being made though I’d like to be a part of it to be able to pop in and keep in touch with those that don’t go to FB.
  • @sammierose464 - I’m blaming Blast for causing me to turn down a last minute invite to Chicago for some fun this weekend.  I have to get my 3hr Glucose done tomorrow...
  • oh that stinks @knottieamusements . I think protective mama instincts kicked in, I do not enjoy restraint as much as I used to currently.
  • cjx95cjx95 member
    In laughing at the thought of randoms trying to be added to the group and being asked "what's the password" like a secret fort lol
  • +1 to @kiwi2628
    DS1: 8/2012 <3 DS2  8/2017 <3 DS3 10/2018 


  • @mamabearcj yasss! Password should be something to do with dinosaurs or BJs imo. Since both seem to be a pretty popular topic around here. 
  • cjx95cjx95 member
    @jynjer91 we have some pretty creative ladies here I'm sure whoever decides to admin can think of something hilarious and amazing 
  • Speaking of admins, I am willing to help facilitate the move to FB and administration of the group. Although, I'd prefer if it was a team/small group effort. 
  • I would also play an admin role!
  • Maybe I should have read the randoms thread before spewing my FB group knowledge. Looks like it was already covered :D
  • kiwi2628 said:
    Can I say if/when we do move to FB, I would prefer it be a private group as opposed to an open, or even closed group if possible. I like to keep my life on FB fairly private and only shared to some people, if that is also in the voting...
    I agree.  
  • +1 to @kiwi2628 ... I would also prefer a private FB group to a closed but visible group, but that’s just me. 

    Also maybe it’s just because I don’t use Facebook as much, but question to those who have had other BMBs move over there... I feel like it’s harder on Facebook to keep up with new replies on a post you’ve already looked at, since there aren’t the little yellow numbers that show new posts since you last viewed like there is on TB. Obviously on Facebook you can get notifications pushed for new posts if you want, but that seems like overkill on allll the posts, so how easy is it to keep up with a thread/keep track of just the new posts since you last looked? 
  • @sammierose464 - Non-restraining rope?  

    For me, I’m only topping right now because relationships are hard and pregnancy and associate hormones have added additional complications.   :#
  • @pumpkinpancake I think it just depends on how it’s organized. Like, my J17 has a daily randoms thread, which is where most of the conversation happens. Then we have a fitness check in, a mental health check in, a pregnancy check in, and a meal planning section. It’s just how we’ve chosen to organize it. I get on every morning and since I’m west coast, usually someone has already put up a daily randoms image and messages. Some things are weekly (fitness, pregnancy and meal planning) while others come up as needed. I get notifications when new things are posted to the group (the threads themselves) or when someone comments on a thread I’m already following. 
  • I’m in support of moving after he babies are born. I’ve never been on a Facebook group to understand if there will be organized discussions like we have here, but for now I like what we have established in several discussions so I would prefer to keep those going so I have one place was to look back to when I’m freaking out and need to look back for the advice that was already shared.
  • @sammierose464 - Non-restraining rope?  

    For me, I’m only topping right now because relationships are hard and pregnancy and associate hormones have added additional complications.   :#
    Possibly. I've allowed blindfolds, but don't even like handcuffs right now. (I thought/think I do, but then in the moment I'm totally turned off).
  • @sammierose464 - Sending you a PM so we don’t further derail.  :)
  • HoosOnFirstHoosOnFirst member
    edited July 2018
    I’d rather move to a private bump group instead of Facebook, after October/November. That was my vote :) it doesn’t preclude any of us from being Facebook friends but doesn’t require it if you are closer to some ladies and not others, which can be awkward.
  • @ummibtihaj I think that’s why the private Facebook group appeals to a lot of people... you can be a part of it, but it’s not searchable or visible to anyone who’s not in the group. At least that’s my understanding of it, and I could be totally wrong since I’ve never been a part of a group like that...
  • I’m also pretty sure that even with a private FB group, you aren’t required to be FB friends.  (I could be wrong, but I know that is how the closed groups worked a few years ago.  You sent a request to join, but didn’t have to be friends with the Admin to do so.)
  • Oh if we move to FB it has to be a secret group. That's a no brainer. I was referring to the private groups here. I can't remember how I figured out how to get to them with D14 had one, but I remember it being a pain. 
    DS  12-1-2014
    DD 10-29-2016
    #3 due 10-13-2018
  • Yeah, I have no experience with FB secret groups, just the closed ones. 
  • I am good moving whenever and volunteer to also help admin. 

    Private Facebook groups are called secret groups and you can’t see it unless you are invited. You can be invited either by email (must be the email you used to sign up with Facebook) or by being friends with an admin or somebody else in the group depending on the group settings.

    A closed group is visible but searchable.  We could start out with a closed group and secret password that gets pm’d to members that request it on here until we’re sure everybody is in and then change it to a secret group to avoid random requests and/or friends/family seeing it.  The closed group could be named something random and not anything relating to TB or babies or anything like that.  As long as we know what to search for, the name doesn’t really matter (although I prefer something benign as I do use Facebook for business).


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  • I just checked my J17 group and it’s a secret group. I think it was a closed group at first then it became a secret one after everyone joined. We gave the admins our real name and description of our profile picture and cover picture so they knew who to accept requests from. You don’t have to be friends with anyone. In fact, I think it was almost a year in before a bunch of us became friends on Facebook. 
  • @sammierose464 - Sending you a PM so we don’t further derail.  :)
    Lol I was thinking about that. I'm sure not all want to hear about our freak flags.
  • You do not have to be friends with anyone in the group. However, if it's a secret group you have to be added or invited, so you need to be friends with 1 person. 

    We could do a closed group for a few days/week while people join and ask that we have limited/no posts while people join if people are concerned. If it's a closed group, non members can only see the name/description not any of the posts. 

    We can also set up entrance questions where you have to put in a password or something.
  • Also, question. I know some groups moved to a private group. Is this a good interim option? Is there any benefit to a private group? I'm not too familiar.
    So I haven’t read all the responses but this would be my first choice. I want to be able to share more than I’m comfortable with having on a public forum, and with a private group we don’t lose anyone who doesn’t want to make the move to fb.
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  • I will follow the group whenever we transition to Facebook.
  • @HoosOnFirst I don’t feel like it would need to be a big deal, I just think we need a system so that a bunch of randoms aren’t joining. I think there was a thread where an admin would post someone’s name after they’d messaged and asked to join, and then it was just having people “like” their name/post. That way everyone knew when new people were added, and no random people were over there. Any other suggestions on how to vet people work for me, but I do want there to be a system.
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