Statistics 101 - Post Bump Facebooking

knottieamusements

We have a fantastic group going here, but sooner than we think, babies are going to be filling our homes and hearts.  While I know some of us aren’t Facebook people, it is kind of a given that a huge chunk of our Oct BMB is going to be headed that way soon.  

Please let us know what your thoughts are, both through the poll and in comments below.  (Higher weight will be given to comments as the people who will be invited to Facebook will be the ones who have been an active part of this community.)

sliztee

For the record, whatever happens...I'm with y'all. TO THE DEATH!

chopchop25

I picked follow whenever...but I'd also stay if we're going to lose most of our regs. I'm down for whatever option allows us to have a user-friendly format and all keep in touch.

knottieamusements

I think we should stay here until after the babies are born; I am planning to go to Facebook, but I know several of our most active members aren’t, and I don’t want to leave them at their most critical time.  

cjx95

As mentioned above its inevitable that we move to FB which when the times comes I'm totally happy to do but I'd definitely like to stay here a while longer.  I love this board and what we've got going on and cant wait to see where it goes!! 
That being said I fully understand there are plenty of mommas who dont use fb so I'm going to do my best to keep up with here and a fb group because I love you all and would miss any of you who dont plan to make the move.

chopchop25

Also, question. I know some groups moved to a private group. Is this a good interim option? Is there any benefit to a private group? I'm not too familiar.

pajamstagrams

Definitely would want to wait until some babies are born, preferably later than sooner. I will probably move to FB, but no guarantees!

tlmill

With my M14 group I believe we waited until after the babies were here (correct me if I’m wrong @jennybean80 - it’s been 4 years so I’m not completely sure). It worked well. 

bntfroggie

Voted to follow over after babies.

Lisa3379

D16 also moved to FB right after most of the babies were born - I think maybe two were still yet to come. I’m way more likely to participate regularly and be more personal when we move to a private group. Plus, with all the craziness with a toddler and a newborn, having D16 and O18 in one spot on the internet will be way more convenient. 

britvahok

I voted following the group to facebook whenever. The last option made me giggle. 

pajamstagrams

@chopchop25 would the group not be private anyway??

chopchop25

@jemmerjams there's a private group option on here I've seen some boards move to - for those that don't want to go to FB

pajamstagrams

@chopchop25 OHH it's on the bump?

jandmnumber1

I’ll move whenever the group decides to move. I can only use the bump app on my phone and hate it most days, Facebook would definitely be much easier for me. 

chopchop25

jemmerjams said:

@chopchop25 OHH it's on the bump?

Yup! Not sure if it's worth it (moving twice seems unnecessary), but maybe is a happy medium if people want to make things more private earlier but not move to FB yet. I feel like we don't have a lot of trolls so don't totally see a reason to move, but I'm indifferent/not against it if people want to go more private earlier.

jennybean80

@tlmill yep, I think we waited to move until all the babies had arrived (early/mid April). 
Thats my vote again, that way if people don’t feel comfortable moving to FB they still get to share their birth story with everyone. 

norahkate

For non-fans of facebook (or just those who do not use it regularly) i am not an active facebook user, although i do have a profile. honestly, i like it for keeping up with close friends and family who are farther away, but the whole thing just started to feel like work. i do use it for two groups that i am a part of (knitting related) though and have found it easy to just use that part of it without the rest, so if we do move i am on board, although admittedly i hope that it is toward the end of our pregnancies or after most babies are born.

spartan4life

I plan to move to Facebook with the group, but would prefer to wait until after the babies are born! 

kiwi2628

I prefer prior to babies being born as I dont like the idea of putting my kids face on TB...too many creeping creepers, but I wanna share pics with the people I have gotten closer to

pumpkinpancake

Just voted here. I agree with a bunch of you so far and would move to Facebook, but would prefer to wait until after most of the babies are born. I wouldn’t want to move too early and leave anyone out who doesn’t want to make the move! 

KFrob

I don't have FB    I'll still hang around here if anyone else wants to stick around

SawyerRichardson

Ok, so question before I vote. I don't have a FB so I would prefer to stay here. BUT. As much as people say they will still post here, with my last BMB that only lasted 2 or 3 months until it's deserted. I'd really hate to lose touch with all of you and it was mentioned in the last FB thread to make a FB account just to join the group. Would you guys be comfortable with that? In lurking other BMBs some people had an issue with people doing that. I'm not a catfish, I swear!

So long story short, if you guys are cool with that I'd be glad to join on FB after the babies are born. If not, I'll just hope there are enough people still here to keep it going.

sliztee

That’s a fair point, @kiwi2628

kiwi2628

@SawyerRichardson I have seen ways to prove people arent catfish so I would feel comfortable with that

chyvie

voted for after babies are here! Still unsure what the FB group really offers. But I will follow you all where we go.

knottieamusements

@SawyerRichardson - given than 90+% of my FB friends don’t actually post anything on FB (part of why I am no longer active), I don’t see it as an issue.  

It will be a closed group, so whoever owns/administers the group can confirm that you are the same person...

ninji15

I voted to move whenever. Nothing against TB but I can be a TON more active on FB than here due to user friendliness. I can hardly get this site to load on my cell and its making me feel like I am missing so much. I probably seem like a stranger to you all haha. I lurk where I can though and I am trying to stay up to date on important info. I know I am set to probably deliver earlier than October and I don't mind for us to move until then. My last BMB it was helpful to have someone reply in a quicker fashion on FB when the nights got long after the babies were born and we were all starting to be awake at all hours. I plan to try to check in here as often as I can though considering what happened to my last BMB FB. It will be hard between work, new twins, and a 2 year old so I hope you all forgive my spottiness. 

sammierose464

I was going to suggest that @SawyerRichardson. I would hope you, @KFrob and whoever else would consider making an account just for our group purpose. It's similar (although more personal) to making an account just for this. And you can download the Groups app for fb and only use that. 

We can also have someone be the "admin" of the group and you have to tell that person on here your fb name to approve you to join. That can help eliminate a few concerns.

We also have people joining us recently. I don't want anyone to feel like they aren't welcome just because they've only been around for a few weeks, but are truly making an effort to be involved.

knottieamusements

Wait?  There is a groups app for Facebook?  Wow, that makes a world of difference...

pumpkinpancake

What’s this groups app for Facebook? Admittedly, I have a Facebook acct, but I mostly just use it to look at other peoples posts/keep up with my family that’s far away, and I don’t really post much at all there. My posts on Facebook typically consist of wishing people happy birthdays, and occasionally posting a photo or two if there’s something important going on that I’d like my family to know about. Hopefully if we’re in a group there, I’d start using it more for posting! 

chyvie

@ninji15 So is the main benefit to FB the notifications getting pushed directly to your phone. I can see that as a perk for those long nights. 

sammierose464

Maybe I lied. There used to be one... I don't see it now

cagncoo12

I'm for waiting a bit. I've lurked on some other BMB as they reach their due date month and a few of them made me really sad because people would interact and one of the original members would have to respond that there isn't much action on the board anymore. I think it's my overactive hormones but in my head I compared it to being along on a desert island. haha @sammierose464 there is a Facebook page manager app, is that what you are thinking? I used to use it when I was an Admin on a few different work pages as it was easier to get to messages and stuff like that.

mommy2ane

So my Jan 17 bmb moved to Facebook a couple of
months before the babies were born (it started October ‘16). The board here went really quiet though because TB app is so wonky and the Facebook app is much more user friendly, that the ladies who moved over stopped posting on TB. The group has been pretty strong for the last couple of years, but it’s hit some growing pains the last few months because there is a bit of a divide on what the expectations were for the group. The biggest benefit to Facebook is how user friendly it is. 

hellopartyof5

I'm up for FB whenever. The bump app is a PITA. Also please don't go to a private secret group... that's even more of a PITA to get to. 

ninji15

@chyvie Yes, that and they are easier to see and reply to. They don't get lost so much like they do here, like our randoms thread is hard for me to follow sometimes because I go a day or two without checking in then when I have something to add to whatever we were talking about everyone had moved past it and we are on "page" 4. Instead replies to certain people or topics will be shown under the original comment. I see that as a benefit since life will start to be hectic soon for all of us although I also understand others concerns on the downsides.
When DD was born earlier than I expected and I was up every hour it was such a huge help to have the facebook group to use at night. There were ladies from different time zones who were on at all hours, and slowly people started to be up more once all our babies had arrived or during pregnancy pee breaks. It was nice. I am not saying we can't do the same here but since nothing gets "pushed" to our phones I am not sure how often we will be checking TB at 2am. I see the benefit to those with PPD or PPA or just FTM looking for advice from some of our more experienced members about recovery, feeding, going back to work, and other things. Again, things that can be done here but facebook is just more user friendly sometimes.

quiltandknit

In favor of waiting til after the babies are born. That way end of the month due dates won’t feel left behind! 

+1 for FB apps being way easier to use than the Bump.

nikimelon

Not on FB, but will stick around here as long as the group does

sammierose464

cagncoo12 said:

I'm for waiting a bit. I've lurked on some other BMB as they reach their due date month and a few of them made me really sad because people would interact and one of the original members would have to respond that there isn't much action on the board anymore. I think it's my overactive hormones but in my head I compared it to being along on a desert island. haha @sammierose464 there is a Facebook page manager app, is that what you are thinking? I used to use it when I was an Admin on a few different work pages as it was easier to get to messages and stuff like that.

No, it was called "Groups" and it was like a news feed for just your groups. I used it for a bit, but didn't like it. Maybe it wasn't used as much so they got rid of it.

nasalot188

My vote is for after the babies are born!! I want everyone to be able to share their announcement and birth stories, regardless if they decide to join us on FB