My mom today. I don’t respond right away to the first text so she has to text again. Ughhhhh
TTC History:
Me: 36 H: 40 Married 2015. Together since 2010. TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017 BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018. TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020 Due date was Nov 2020 DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma. TTC: March 2021 IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022 IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
@SmashJam Yikes! So much drama! Seriously, every update is like something out of a soap opera. I'm sorry you have to deal with this in your family, especially bringing a new LO into it. Hopefully one day your bro gets it together, but your Dad shouldn't be defending him. If I were your Dad I would make life as hard as possible if he's going to stay in his house.
@rachelsogo you should respond with, "I think its the day! Feeling labor-y!" and if she responds with, "OMG really!?" or something you can be like, "NO STOP ASKING." ALso I want cupcakes rull bad now. Thanks.
@SmashJam hahah that is good. I just responded. “No baby. No symptoms. Feeling pregnant”
TTC History:
Me: 36 H: 40 Married 2015. Together since 2010. TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017 BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018. TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020 Due date was Nov 2020 DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma. TTC: March 2021 IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022 IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
also sorry about all the drama in your family. Do you feel like the middle man? It would be overwhelming to me to have to referee all the time. But I’d also want SIL to be safe too. I hope he gets his act together.
Sorry to you too @kbernal2021 my dad is similar. I haven’t lived with him full time since my parents got divorced when I was a teenager, but I’m definitely closer with my stepdad than I am with him. He didn’t meet mt DD until she was 2. I feel the same way about relationships with him. I can’t let my kids be attacked and disappointed like I was. Right now our relationship is low key. I’m not putting much effort into the relationship because I don’t need another relationship to take care of and my kids don’t either but since he’s family, the door is open. I hope it all works out for you!
Jeez, I went two weeks overdue with my first and literally did not have anyone ask how I was doing or how I was feeling. To be fair, I did quit my job before the due date so I guess no one had an invested interest lol. No one has asked me this time around either. I guess no one really cares
@cseley321 people don't really ask me either, lol. I think they know better, that I'll likely go WAY late this time around too so whats the point in asking?
@cseley321@SmashJam People haven't been asking me either, although I'm only 37w2d so there's still time. But also everyone I work with is dreading me being out on leave so I think they are trying to pretend it's not happening later this month.
Today I got the official approval from my manager to start working from home on Monday. I feel like a huge weight has been lifted from my shoulders, although I'm not sure why. It's still going to be annoying to be glued to my laptop all day but I just feel that much closer to being done.
Thanks all for the support. We are moving out of our city towards the end of the year so I've been trying to give the benefit of the doubt that maybe that has something to do with it too. I just have such a hard time convincing myself its anything other than the gender because why all of a sudden the interest.. even pregnant with DD she didn't seem to try any harder to be an active person in DS life. My DS has no idea that's going on.. and I definitely don't talk badly about her in front of him or push my own feelings about anything when he is around. I know the day will come when he is old enough to form his own opinion and I don't want to do anything that may sway that. The lady I call my mom is who he knows as his grandma and she is a super active part in his life.. so the way I see it is my children aren't missing out by her being absent anyway. I just don't want my son to ever feel favored fir any reason but especially because he didn't have a brother.
@smashhjam I've heard of CBD beer and also CBD coffee. Personally I do NOT understand the point of it in coffee, I mean coffee is supposed to wake you up and CBD is supposed to chill you out, no? But as far as I know, the oil is legal. Re your brother, that's ridiculous I hope your SIL is able to get a court order removing him from the house. Not sure what state they're in, but in some states you can ask for that when you file. Sorry you have to deal with that, you have enough on your plate as it is !
Guys. I was just lurking what to expect July board out of boredom and someone posted about her friend who decided to BREAK HER OWN WATER. But she’s a nurse and used a sterile tool so it’s totes cool.
Add me to the daily texts asking if baby is here yet...my siblings think it's quite funny to mention having sex as much as possible to help get things going. I'm in the "gross" boat when it comes to sex right now. Im also getting, "walk, walk, walk, walk". Its 100 today. I'm not walking! I'm about to put a dnd on my auto responses. Lol
@SmashJam I'm sorry you're in the middle of that mess. Not something you should have to be dealing with, especially while pregnant.
I've also heard of CBD beer, wine, and coffee. The wine of try, however not the beer or coffee. I take cbd for the calming benefits. I'm curious to see what people's thoughts are that have tried it.
@zande2016 Seriously?! WTF? Breaking her own water sounds like a terrible terrible idea!
@lindsayleigh1989 Good for you for getting a start on the control for your mental health, hope you start to feel more like yourself soon!!
@SmashJam Ugh, I'm so sorry about your family situation. I can't imagine being caught being what seems like the only voice in reason in the middle of a messy situation. Your family is really lucky to have someone like you in their lives even if they don't see it that way.
I’m sitting here listening to my husband take a catering order for quesadillas and now I’m dyinggggg for a quesadilla. Little does he know, once our son is in bed tonight, he’s being sent out for quesadillas....
@zande2016 WTAF - there's so much shade on those boards for self cervical checks I can't imagine the backlash to breaking your own water.... also so many questions on how the F you would even attempt it bending/reaching wise... also totally just ordered burritos on grubhub for dinner.
Totally just blew the F up at DH. Told him "bethany is straight out of f's to give" in the middle of a rant about how i'm done laying here and i'm heading downstairs to clean something and if this kid falls out so be it - so over just laying in bed when there's so much to do around the house.
I'm still shuddering at the idea of someone breaking their own water. Ick. Right up there with the woman that checked into a hotel for delivery. Um, no.
@zande2016 you planted a seed, now I have a real need for Mexican food, and just sent H out to pick up tacos from my favorite place. I'd go with him, but I refuse to put on pants.
my in laws and bil are here and dh has decided it means he doesn't have to do jack sh*t and I should because and I quote "didn't do anything all day". Bitch I had to wrangle a toddler and a newborn get them dressed and fed and changed and then get them to the dr, and manage the worst meltdown dd1 has ever has once we got home, pick up and do some dishes and the dishwasher, countless diapers. Tell me again how I didn't do anything?! end rant
@zande2016 I question the education of that "nurse" who broke her own water. wtf.
@lindsayleigh1989 I would slap your husband for you right now if I could. Why would he tell you something like that?! You are doing everything that you need to be doing and don't let him get in your head that you're not doing enough. I kind of went through that with DH after DS was born and DH felt that I wasn't managing the house well enough. It's part of how I got PPD/PPA and it wasn't until I finally broke down that he was able to understand the pressure he was putting on me and he backed off. Nip that shit in the bud, girl!
@zande2016 Ummm, what? Did I read that right? But seriously, WHAT?!? If she's a nurse then she should know what a freaking bad idea that is, not feel like it makes it okay to do. Like, WHAT? Please let her never work near me!
did anyone else besides me take a picture of their mucus plug? I'm not sharing it...but I still took the picture.
I thought about it because I wanted to show H and he wasn’t nearby. He tells me about poops all the time- the least he could do is look at a picture of my mucous plug lol. I didn’t though. I don’t remember why. Maybe I didn’t have my phone.
I’m having a conundrum! It’s after 10pm here in PA. DH isn’t home from work yet (this is nothing new, he’s often not home yet). BUT, I bought myself ice cream that I can’t wait to eat. Normally we have a rule that you don’t eat ice cream alone, so normally I’d wait until he gets home and eats dinner before I dive in. Last night though he got tired and fell asleep so I didn’t get any ice cream. I think I might have to break tradition and just eat some tonight. I’ve been thinking about it all day.
I’m having a conundrum! It’s after 10pm here in PA. DH isn’t home from work yet (this is nothing new, he’s often not home yet). BUT, I bought myself ice cream that I can’t wait to eat. Normally we have a rule that you don’t eat ice cream alone, so normally I’d wait until he gets home and eats dinner before I dive in. Last night though he got tired and fell asleep so I didn’t get any ice cream. I think I might have to break tradition and just eat some tonight. I’ve been thinking about it all day.
I mean...you’re pregnant so are you really alone? #teameatalltheicecream
@hillbillywife I support @comealongponds ' logic. But then again I live for eating ice cream alone. Setting up a guilty pleasure show, getting lavishly comfortable, and eating a rare ice cream without having to share or be mindful of serving sizes... my happy place.
@lindsayleigh1989 Exactly what @flockofmoosen3 said! Nip that shit in the bud and wish I could slap your DH for you. I may have to do some DH slapping of my own here soon. He's been dropping the ball on a ton of stuff plus making stupid, thoughtless comments to me and my mom today. That on top of more damn MIL drama and this hormonal preggo is having divorce dreams/nightmares depending on my current mood. Ugh, stupid hormones, anxiety, stress combo!
@lindsayleigh1989 WTAF?! I hope he came to his senses and immediately apologized for a thoughtless comment like that. Didn't do anything. The fact that you found time to clean before your in laws is in itself a darn miracle. Are they there visiting for a few days or a few hours? I have often tried asking DH to do things he would usually say no to in front of family because he won't say no to avoid looking like a massive a-hole. You could always try that? Unless his family is a bag of dicks too, then, hugs to you, and I hope he gets it together!
I had a super weird dream I can't remember and after going to bed at 7:45-wtf it was still light-I woke up at 9:30 convinced it was day time and I'd overslept and wtf was wrong with me and where was DS and how could I do this to the dogs....then I realized it was 9:30 PM and it was STILL DARK. Then bro drama started up, got a few more threatening texts that sounded like he was threatening to kill my dad. He wasn't at my SIL apt he was at my dad's so sleep took over and I went back to sleep because no one was in danger (he isn't going to kill my dad. It was a weirdly worded text).
I got up at 5 because the dogs started barking at thunder and then I had an painful pee urge....so I get up to get them out before hte rain. I hit the toilet and BAM the rain is so loud when I get in the living room to let them out and I open the door they all scatter and go running, lol. Scaredy corgis. They are all clustered around my feet worried about the lightning and thunder.
Just popping in to tell you all I miss you!!! Turns out it really is a lot to have mom+in laws here especially since mom speaks no English, but it's of course been a great help. Downside is it's been hectic and I've been wanting to pop here and say hi! Thinking of all of you waiting for their babies to come and hoping you all get the birth you are wanting!
Milo is a great baby though he is working on his latch and he just started the hungry all the time phase so my boobs are super sore and they are starting to feel engorged and HUGE - milk coming in? I have produced a lot of colostrum so far and have pumped a few times because he was not staying at the breast but I swear with day 4 kicking in he's been just aggressively BF and pissed off if he doesn't get it! ALSO, we are bracing for a 100f day here tomorrow- WTF.
I'm recovering ok and still dreading the PP poop, fingers crossed for tomorrow - I'm eating so much I definitely have to let go of some stuff.
@lindsayleigh1989 girl I’d go dick punch him for you right now! Not acceptable! I mean come on you just had major surgery too! He should not be letting you do so much. Sorry your going through this with you H. Definitely something to bring up now to avoid other issues and resentment. Your doing great mama and don’t force yourself to over do it because of him.
@lindsayleigh1989 I support and agree with all the dick punch suggestions. You just had major surgery and birthed a human after making said human from scratch over the course of 9 months and you have a major internal organ that is healing on the inside and oh on top of all that you’re keeping this new human alive and feeding, and by the way I’m not positive but I think you said you’re breastfeeding and men should understand that at the newborn stage breastfeeding is literally a full time job. Sorry that was a huge run on sentence but I’m aangry for you.
It is before 8:30 am and I have been rejected for infant care starting in October by no less than 3 daycare centers. 4 if you count the one that emailed me. Two are calling me back but aren't hopeful. I had a talk with DH and if they can't offer me more than they already have for a salary at the science job I'll just take the library job because a)so far I have no options for daycare within at 25 mile radius and b) my best options if they open up are crazy expensive and will actually give me lower take home than just taking the library job. Disappointing, but I realized I was stressing myself out to basically give all my money to a daycare.
H doesn’t share the same sense of urgency on somethings and it drives me nuts. Because im recovering and things take me longer to do, i have to depend on him doing more. There have been a few times that I’ve asked him to get up to get me something or even change a diaper and his response is either “crickets” or “give me like “xx” mins”. In the meantime baby is fussing or I’m just waiting debating if i should do it myself. Get your butt up!! He sleeps more than me obviously and it’s not fair to leave a dirty diaper longer than discovered. Huh he’s driving me nuts! Sorry just needed to vent.
@smashjam have you looked into any nanny options? I know they can be more expensive than daycare but a lot of families around me seem to do nanny shares to cut down on costs. Sorry you’re having such a hard time that’s super stressful and frustrating!
Re: Weekday Randoms 7/2
TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017
BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018.
TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020
Due date was Nov 2020
DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma.
TTC: March 2021
IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN
IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022
IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN
IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN
AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017
BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018.
TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020
Due date was Nov 2020
DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma.
TTC: March 2021
IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN
IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022
IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN
IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN
AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
also sorry about all the drama in your family. Do you feel like the middle man? It would be overwhelming to me to have to referee all the time. But I’d also want SIL to be safe too. I hope he gets his act together.
Sorry to you too @kbernal2021 my dad is similar. I haven’t lived with him full time since my parents got divorced when I was a teenager, but I’m definitely closer with my stepdad than I am with him. He didn’t meet mt DD until she was 2. I feel the same way about relationships with him. I can’t let my kids be attacked and disappointed like I was. Right now our relationship is low key. I’m not putting much effort into the relationship because I don’t need another relationship to take care of and my kids don’t either but since he’s family, the door is open. I hope it all works out for you!
Today I got the official approval from my manager to start working from home on Monday. I feel like a huge weight has been lifted from my shoulders, although I'm not sure why. It's still going to be annoying to be glued to my laptop all day but I just feel that much closer to being done.
I'm about to put a dnd on my auto responses. Lol
@SmashJam I'm sorry you're in the middle of that mess. Not something you should have to be dealing with, especially while pregnant.
I've also heard of CBD beer, wine, and coffee. The wine of try, however not the beer or coffee. I take cbd for the calming benefits. I'm curious to see what people's thoughts are that have tried it.
Totally just blew the F up at DH. Told him "bethany is straight out of f's to give" in the middle of a rant about how i'm done laying here and i'm heading downstairs to clean something and if this kid falls out so be it - so over just laying in bed when there's so much to do around the house.
@zande2016 you planted a seed, now I have a real need for Mexican food, and just sent H out to pick up tacos from my favorite place. I'd go with him, but I refuse to put on pants.
@lindsayleigh1989 I would slap your husband for you right now if I could. Why would he tell you something like that?! You are doing everything that you need to be doing and don't let him get in your head that you're not doing enough. I kind of went through that with DH after DS was born and DH felt that I wasn't managing the house well enough. It's part of how I got PPD/PPA and it wasn't until I finally broke down that he was able to understand the pressure he was putting on me and he backed off. Nip that shit in the bud, girl!
Guys... Nutter Butters and almond milk...
I had a super weird dream I can't remember and after going to bed at 7:45-wtf it was still light-I woke up at 9:30 convinced it was day time and I'd overslept and wtf was wrong with me and where was DS and how could I do this to the dogs....then I realized it was 9:30 PM and it was STILL DARK. Then bro drama started up, got a few more threatening texts that sounded like he was threatening to kill my dad. He wasn't at my SIL apt he was at my dad's so sleep took over and I went back to sleep because no one was in danger (he isn't going to kill my dad. It was a weirdly worded text).
I got up at 5 because the dogs started barking at thunder and then I had an painful pee urge....so I get up to get them out before hte rain. I hit the toilet and BAM the rain is so loud when I get in the living room to let them out and I open the door they all scatter and go running, lol. Scaredy corgis. They are all clustered around my feet worried about the lightning and thunder.
Thinking of all of you waiting for their babies to come and hoping you all get the birth you are wanting!
Milo is a great baby though he is working on his latch and he just started the hungry all the time phase so my boobs are super sore and they are starting to feel engorged and HUGE - milk coming in? I have produced a lot of colostrum so far and have pumped a few times because he was not staying at the breast but I swear with day 4 kicking in he's been just aggressively BF and pissed off if he doesn't get it! ALSO, we are bracing for a 100f day here tomorrow- WTF.
I'm recovering ok and still dreading the PP poop, fingers crossed for tomorrow - I'm eating so much I definitely have to let go of some stuff.
I'll be back contributing and commenting soon!